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writes:i was in an abusive relationship for about 5 months.. i love him very much he was everything to me. i gave up my family and friends for him, we were living together at my apartment which he didnt help at all.... he was verbally abuse with me, he never hited me but he was controlling, he used to get mad for everything, he cheated me at my own place many times, he changed my phone number with out telling me cuz he didnt want any of my guy friends have my number he used to tell me that a decent girl with a biyfriend shouldnt have guy friends or go out anywhere without him or having calls after 9pm, he used to say that he could do whatever he wanted cuz he was a men and people doesnt talk about mens. so the point we were breking up and coming back together a million times he used to verbally hurted me or yield at me for any reason and calling me names, tellign me that i was disguting, fat, ugly that i make him sick thru his stomach and then he apologies and cryied and told me that he couldnt live with out me, and that he loves me so much that he was ready to changed for me FYI he had a divorced and a restraining order cuz he beated and cheated on his exwife wich he told me he didnt do it and i believe him :s ... so i was on birth control cuz he wanted to have babys with me he told me many times and that he wanted to marry me i never fully believed in him so i was taking care but somehow i ended up pregnant wich right now im 3 months, he left me right away when i told him that i was pregnant, when i told him he just told me that it wasnt his kid and that he didnt want anything to do with me or the baby he said more awful things but anyways he moved on hes already dating. my question is why i keep wanting him? its hurts me so much that hes with other girl. i cant stop thinking about him. sometimes i want him back so much. any advises?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all im doing my best im gonna start going to a psychologist.. it hard but i know hes bad for me and my baby :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2012): Just leave him and take care of your baby.. :D find someone good enough for you and be happy..!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (11 March 2012):
 "any advises?"
You just enumerated every reason in the book to walk away from this sorry excuse for a man.... and NOW you come on here and hope that someone will validate that you could/should do anything but walk away from this piece of human excrement???????
Don't wait in the rain for the answer that you'd LIKE.... 'cuz we ain't stupid enough to give it to you....
Good luck...
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reader, Uncle PJ  +, writes (11 March 2012):
 Do not, under any circumstances, get back with him. He is an awful person and has treated so badly. It's not unusual for abused women to want to remain in their relationships.
This is because you feel that you have nowhere better to go and that no-one better will develop feelings for you. This us due to the constant put downs by him that has caused your self-confidence to take a battering.
Why you believed him when he told you he didn't do anything to get his restraining order is slightly perplexing. But love can do many things to people and unfortunately it made you believe every word he said.
What you need to do is tell yourself that you are much better than him and deserve someone who will treat you right and as you should be treated. No-one deserves to be abused and neither do you. You need to believe that you are a great woman who can live without him and you need to get support from your friends and family.
He never cared for you and that has been shown by how quickly he has moved onto his next 'victim'. I do feel sorry for you and if ever gets too much, don't be afraid to seek professional help. There are many people and charities that do their best to protect abused women and they will help you if it becomes too much.
But you now need to try and move on, enjoy being a parent if you keep the child and you will find someone who will treat you properly at some point. But you mustn't go back to him even if he comes knocking. Good luck, I wish you all the best in getting back on track with your life and hope you begin to enjoy it again.
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