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writes:Would this bother anyone else? It feels like my boyfriend didn't want pictures of me to use when i wasn't there because he prefers the porn models. I know he wouldn't ask me for pictures because he's too nice, but i'm concerned why he wouldn't ask when i started moaning about the porn if i'm better. He now claims he looked at girls that looked like me. What are your views? He said he was worried about someone stealing them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2012): He did see a picture which I took on my ipod he seemed to like it. It hurts he wanted his collection photos instead of mine. I was trying to get him to delete it surely if he was desperate enough he would of asked for pictures of me if he couldn't have his porn.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): Karlos5021 you have a good point there, but he claims he looks at women that look like me to remind him of me. This I can forgive. I don't know if anyone would make up such a thing and carry it on. I know for definite he did this before we dated, he knows the name of the woman he looked up.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (2 June 2012):
 It's similar to the reason why most guys don't want to date women who are prostitutes or porn stars, yet seek their "services" when the need arises.
He doesn't want to see you as a sleazy porn star with sleazy images. He doesn't want anyone else to see you either.
You don't have to compete with porn. It's not competition to you. Random plastic bombshell images with their fake moaning and screaming stimulates a guy's sense of vision, but they class the girl they love differently.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (2 June 2012):
 I think you're "overthinking" a matter that doesn't matter.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2012): Its strange because I have this thing whereby I wouldn't masturbate to pics of a girlfriend but I would to pics of women from porn sites. With me its kind of a respect thing ... I think (when I'm with someone) my girlfriend is worth more than to be looked at and used in that way. I dunno if its that with your boyfriend but that's how I feel when I'm in a relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2012): He's quite right to be worried about pictures of you getting in to the wrong hands, and I think that you should be too. He might be a nice guy, but you don't know what might happen if/when you split up and there are hurt feelings flying around. You also don't know what his mates might do if they see the pictures on his phone. Imagine what might happen...What he chooses to look at or imagine when he is pleasing himself is his own business and I don't think you should be feel insulted by his choice or intimidated by porn actresses; after all, not many of us are really as hot as porn actresses. It's certainly to reasonable to feel jealous.I don't think there's a big issue here for you to be upset about. The only thing that strikes me as being of concern is that you are willing to share photos of yourself with someone - look, if you really feel you must do that at least make sure that you can't be identified i.e. nothing with your face in it.
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reader, downonmyluck +, writes (2 June 2012):
hi, sorry to say,but I think your b/f is putting you on just a bit! Sometimes guys will defintely look at pics from porn magazines such as Hustler, Playboy,etc. I do agree though, ya it would bother any female to have her b/f prefer the porn models over themselves.That is especially if the g/f doesn't look nearly as good as the porn model. He knows & realizes I;m sure that most girls do not look nearly as good as the porn models... but at the same time if he wants to be with you, that shouldn't make any difference.I'm sure he's telling you that you;re better looking than the porn models in order not to hurt your feelings. Atleast then you can give him that much credit for not wanting to hurt your feelings.Sometimes I could feel sorry too for really good-looking girls. Why you may ask? I read an article several yrs. ago about it & truly believe what the article was saying. To make a long story short, the article mentions that sometimes really good-looking girls don't get asked out as much by the guys for a date, because for a guy, rejection is very hard to take. And for that reason sometimes the good-looking ones simply do not get asked out as much for fear of rejection by the guys. But keep in mind,which I'm sure you already know, all the good-looking ones do not have a personality that looks as good as they do! I'd rather date a woman with a good personality that one with lots of looks & no brains!
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