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writes:I'm a 60 yr.old male, married for nearly 33 yrs.My wife went thru"the change" a bit early I think(she's about 5 yrs.younger).We haven't had sex for over 5 yrs.now. Both of us were involved in an unusual accident 2 yrs.ago where she ended up having hip replacement surgery which certainly doesn't help matters at all as far as having any sex or not. I have guilty feelings from time to time about this unusual accident because I may have caused this accident to happen which may have been avoided. Not sure if having sex would make matters worse or not. I certainly don't want to have her go thru another surgery that any sex might cause. Not really sure though if this accident would have made any difference in our sex life anyway as she has seemed to have lost any interest in having sex before this accident. I'm not sure what to do. From time to time I do think about cheating on her... what are your thoughts?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2012): Please don't cheat on her. You know it's wrong, and it's only a temperary fix anyway. It's not going to solve the real problem.I would first have a conversatin with her and tell her how you feel...you miss sex, you miss the intimacy between the two of you. Then I would make an appt. to see the doctor, to make sure that she is in good physical health to have sex. If she has lost interest in sex, she can also see her doctor and talk to them about it...there are a lot of procedures and medication to change this.The two of you need to reconnect and communicate with each other...she may very well in her mind want to have that contact with you, yet, her body shows no interest, and she doesn't know what to do with it all...it doesn't have to be that way, but you both have to be willing to do the work and get back to that place that brought you together in the first place.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 June 2012):
 P.S. I wasn't married... we were just "best friends..."
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (1 June 2012):
IF you change "accident" to "medical condition" your's is EXACTLY my story......
I gave up, about a year ago, on hoping against hope that there was ever going to be a "sex-life" between us, again...
Since, I've found a lovely lady who is attractive, smart, inquisitive, energetic.... and my life has become a dream.
Don't give up..... change your circumstances!!!
Good luck...
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 June 2012):
 I don't think you should cheat on her, you have been together a long time and I know you love her. Off course you still feel like you have sexual needs that is completely normal. Talk to her about it though. Maybe you could both try and put that spark back in to your marriage, I am aware that once a woman goes through the change there libido drops. But talk to her about it and see how she feels. Remember communication is a big part of a marriage so ask her can you both try.
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