A
male
age
41-50,
anonymous
writes:I'm 31, my wife's 30, and we're from Seminole, Florida.However, she's recently been doing a disappearing act, going off to Duluth, Minnesota, and I cannot for the life of me work out why... and even worse, she's used my favourite car for this (my prized 1996 Dodge Intrepid sedan, she drives a 2006 Chevrolet Malibu sedan).I was worried sick about her, and so decided to email her asking why she'd drove all that way... and she replied back several hours later, saying "I'm at a great pizza restaurant".She hasn't replied back since, when I sent another email asking when she'll return.If it's so great, why can't I come - she won't even answer her cellphone when I ring her.It's been nearly a week now. I'd appreciate your help on how to react to this situation, for me, it's stressful. Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (11 June 2012):
 I'm with you. The '96 Intrepid is a FAR SUPERIOR car to the '06 Malibu. In fact, you may want to start court action to assure that she cannot take your Dodge in the future....
Good luck.... I drive an '05 Stratus..... and have a '67 Avanti in my garage....
A
female
reader, MyDaysOnceRevolvedAroundYou  +, writes (10 June 2012):
 I think maybe your wife needs some time out to think, I'm sure she'll return.. Has she dropped any hints that she is unhappy in your marriage? Or that maybe she is seeing someone else? If she has been missing for a week, I suggest that you get in touch with the local authorities and report her missing, for her safety and your mental well being, I have no idea how out of your mind you must be going. Definitely seek further help in your search for your wife.
...............................
A
female
reader, Eyespy17 +, writes (10 June 2012):
Very bizzare behavior. Are you two in a massive fight? Has she dropped hints that she wants the marriage to be over? Is she using drugs?
As I'm sure you know, it is completely unacceptable and inconsiderate to disappear from any loved ones without explanation. Of course a wife can take time on her own or a trip away - but she most certainly should tell you where she's going and for how long and be answering her phone - or at least letting you know she's safe. It's common courtesy.
I'd call her right now and say "you need to stop being selfish and let me know what is going on and if you are coming home."
...............................
A
female
reader, oldbag +, writes (10 June 2012):
 Hi
I think you should leave a message saying your in that area and have come to collect your car.
OR report it as stolen and give the police the name of the last place you knew where it was.I hope she is safe and not come to harm,the police can find that out too.
Its totally unacceptable behaviour by your wife if she is safe and clearly shes up to no good. You need to assert yourself and show her you mean business. Personally I would divorce her, she's deserted you after all and totally lacks respect for you or your property
...............................
A
female
reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (10 June 2012):
 This does not sound good, contact your local police and find out what the legalities are with regards to your favourite car to see if you can have it impounded before she sells it or trashes it.
Have her charged with stealing if you can while you are at it. Then change the locks on the house, pack her stuff up into a few boxes and text or email she has a week to collect it or it goes into storage (at her expense) or gets given away. Make sure she is aware she needs to make an appointment to do this, outside your normal working hours. Get the police to be there as well if you think she could cause problems.
Good luck with that!
...............................
A
female
reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (10 June 2012):
 I agree this is unacceptable. If she did not want to be married, she should not have gotten married. You don't take off and leave your husband and marriage without explanation. Even with an explanation, that is strange. It does sound like she is hiding something...what that is...we won't know until she decides to come clean. If she won't talk to you, like kc100 said...the marriage is over.
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2012): Most of the time when your partner pulls disappearing acts like this and reply to email later and do not answer your phone calls, they may be doing all that they have no business doing. And she is not being honest with you. She probably will not ever be. You have every right to know what she is doing. If you continue to wonder you are going to begin obsessing over this matter. First thing you want to do is tell her how you feel calmly and ask questions calmly. If you think she is just telling you what you want to hear. You get a tracking device for her phone and you place one on the vehicle and you will know her location and she may not even be in another state. Also you can just hire a private investigator. You do not deserve to be treated this way even if she may not be cheating. She is still leaving you for days at a time no one needs this in their lives'. You have to put your foot down also. Sometimes people only do to you what you allow them to do to you...I wish you the best
...............................
A
female
reader, k_c100 +, writes (10 June 2012):
 Well this situation is 100% unacceptable, and in my opinion, it appears she is having an affair with someone who lives over there. That might not be the case - but to travel all that way for a pizza? And then not be contactable at all during her stay there? Something is definitely going on.
I would call her and leave a voicemail, or email her again and say that if she does not come home immediately and explain herself then she will find the locks have been changed and divorce papers waiting for her.
I know that is a bit extreme, but she is walking all over you right now and making you look like a fool. She will know how much you love that car, yet has taken it on a long journey clearly to impress someone, otherwise why would she have bothered taking your car?
You need to be strong now and put your foot down - either she comes home and explains herself, and then you take it from there, or the marriage is over. I would be amazed if she isnt cheating, this has 'affair' written all over it. You need to stand up to her now and dont let her get away with this, she thinks she can lie and mess you around yet still get away with it. No-one drives all that way for a great pizza, that is such a ridiculous lie and it amazes me that she thinks she can get away with it.
I hope this helps and good luck!
...............................
|
