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writes:Hey guys I really need some help.So - over the years I've never easily got on with my family. We always end up arguing about everything and what starts as a very small thing soon gets blown into a huge issue. EG: being told off for Attitude then becomes a "you're so hard to live with, you make everything an argument." thing.After a year at Uni, our relationship got much better as we saw less of each other and this was when we chose to see each other. However, two day into moving back home at the end of the year and already I've had a huge blow out with my family and I just don't want to be here but can't move away for another two months.What do I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (11 June 2012):
 I had a Brother like you, once.... and I've spent the rest of my life ignoring him.....
P.S. He ignores me.... so it's "a wash"......
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reader, jiuboi +, writes (11 June 2012):
It's sad, but true, how the further i read, i thought... thats gonna be me in a few years if i dont move out. my family is always arguing too and im the quite type. im a male so i dont know if this will help you too but whenever its your parents just agree with what they say and when they leave, you're fine, but if its a sibling, i just blast my music and ignore them. if they get me really aggrivated, i just calmly walk away, go to my room and repeatedly punch my pillow. it helps also if you take deep breaths and that usually calms me down. you could also try to get a summer job and an appartment near the house so you can visit them, but you will still have a place to go in case you get furious and need to calm down.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 June 2012):
 I guess if you don't see moving out as an option there is not a lot you can do about it but put up with the situation. Most families have issues, it is quite normal. If you feel an argument coming on then just simply walk away and go up to your room to calm down. It is best if you try and bite your tongue as much as you can so it doesn't turn in to an argument.
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (10 June 2012):
 Do you have a job or activity you enjoy where you would not have to spend much time at home? Sometimes when people live in close proximity to one another, it is easy to get into arguments. Maybe when you can feel an argument about to happen, you could go take a walk? The alternative is suppressing your opinion on things...if that is possible. Look forward and work towards the day you will be on your own and try not to start anything unless it's very important to you. Some fights are over meaningless things.
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reader, Anastasia  +, writes (10 June 2012):
 Hi,
I can understand your predicament. Unfortunately, you just have to ride the 2 months out till you are able to move out. What you can do though is spend less time in the house or around them. If you have chores to do and such, then go ahead and do them but as you are finished, find somewhere to go and come back when you know they have settled in for the evening or night. Yes you are avoiding your family and it might sound a little cruel but sometimes you need to be a little scarce to maintain your sanity.
Find a hobby or go out with your friends or hang out with your friends at their house. Are there any other family members that you can stay with for the 2 months without having that cause any trouble? I am just looking at options for you.
Obviously this is causing you great stress, I honestly suggest that you make yourself scarce to avoid arguments and just to keep the peace before you are able to move out.
Hope it goes well
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