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writes:I've been raised in a catholic family and have always believed in god, but lately I have become more agnostic. I'm gay and feel like a bit of an outcast in the church. I'm not out, and don't think my family will accept it. As far I know, being gay in the church is ok, but I can;t have sex, like ever! ..so my question is, can a gaylife style really ever fit in with being a catholic? will be ever be ok to have promiscous sex? what about being in a monogamous relationship with a man? or am i just condemned to hell in my afterlife for having sexing with men? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2010): Why would you want to join a religion whose very creed disallows your nature?
There are plenty of other less fidgety sects that worship the same god that you can join that couldn't give a rat's fart if you are into men or not.
Seriously... with all the crap the Catholic faith gets these days, I'm surprised anyone bothers.
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reader, elvira505  +, writes (17 September 2010):
sinning doesn't mean disbelieving ..you still can believe in god and not follow his commands but you still believe in him and believe what you doing is wrong .. eventually you'll end up giving all the habits that god hates .. its matter of guidance in my opinion
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reader, elvira505 +, writes (17 September 2010):
sinning doesn't mean you believe a disbeliever ..you still can believe in god and not follow his commands but you still believe in him and believe what you doing is wrong .. eventually you'll end up giving all the habits that god hates .. its matter of guidance in my opinion
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): I don't want to sound horrible but it's there in the bible, God hates same sex relationships. You are stopping what is natural.. like reproduction. In my opinion it is just not possible to combine the catholic religon with being gay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): How about forgetting hell for a start off, i had a friend who was gay and very religious, the kindest honest man that would give his life to help anyone, give his only penny. He and others condemmed him to hell because he was gay. They who judged him went home put their bondage masks on and whiped the ass off their spouse, some went to their cheating porn sites, while other's paid for sex????? Don't let the church judge you, or other people, judge yourself fairly simply do what you feel is right and if it involves LOVE and TRUTH it can't be wrong in my opinion.
Hell is NOT where you belong and those who pray with a gun on their back need to take it off before they sprout any religous gospel that speaks of LOVE & TRUTH.
I wish you a happy life :) Spunky Monkey.
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 It's entirely possible; catholicism teaches us to accept everyone, though not all Catholics adhere to that. Those with closed minds use religion to justify their bias towards homosexuality, but ultimately, it comes down to you and your own beliefs.
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (15 September 2010):
 at the end of the day i would think the most important thing is how close are you to your family and how flexible are their beliefs. some people are very rigid and some people are flexible. religeous or not this will be the determining factor in wether they accept you...
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (15 September 2010):
 Oh dear, I know gay southern baptists who don't give their sexual relationship a second thought. They hit the gay bars on the weekend and are in church Sunday morning praying to God to forgive them for their sins. If you don't want to sound like a hypocrite then just claim yourself as non-denominational. The gay life style will seemingly never fit with any church, Catholics are the only religion that support the homosexuals but to a certain extent. You know God wrote the Bible based off his time, what if he could come back today in our present time and rewrite the Bible? I think he would change what he wrote about homosexuality seeing as it's slowly starting to be widely accepted and gay marriage being legalized. Truthfully you're not going to burn in the firery pit of Hell, if that was the case then the Devil needs to widen that hole to accommodate those of us who had sex before marriage. So sex with another male is definitely ok, monogamous or not it's your choice.
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reader, der_zyniker +, writes (15 September 2010):
I just wanted to start by telling you that I am also catholic and gay. It is true that the catholic church thinks that gays are going to hell. However, do you honestly think that a god that is so good and compasionate would be so petty. God doesn't hate you. You can still be catholic if you want to be. You don't have to believe everything that one faith says to be a part of it. They will think that since you have committed a mortal sin you can't receive the eurarist since you aren't in a state of grace in their book. The fact is God loves you just as much as anyone else. It is not a sin to be gay. There is nothing wrong with being with someone that you love. My advise for you is don't listen to what your religion says or what the bible says on this topic. What do you think is the truth. My opinion is that you'll be ok. To me a sin is something that is done that can harm or wrong someone. Who have you harmed or wronged by being gay. I also believe that the bible saying that people who are gay are going to hell isn't there as a warning to gays. I believe that it is there to test the faith and reasoning ability of everyone. People who believe that gays are going to hell might be strong in their faith, but in believing that they have missed the point.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): It depends on how liberal a catholic church you can find, but technically, THE CHURCH will never say it's OK. But there are plenty of gay priests, as they seem to seek out the church in a misguided effort to achieve some sort of redemption or safety.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): Dude. You can be gay, but as a Catholic you cannot act on those impulses without committing a grave sin. Whether you choose to say you're Catholic or not doesn't change the circumstances you are going to be in. I'd recommend speaking with your parish priest in confession since that will bind them to absolute secrecy about it (they can tell no one what is said during confession) and see what they might suggest. It's obviously important enough to you to be concerned so please check in with your priest. Trust me, they've likely talked to someone before you with a similar situation. Good luck and keep the faith. God loves you regardless of your sexual orientation, but he still expects us to be obedient.
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reader, thatkid +, writes (15 September 2010):
Whether or not it is right really depends on what you believe. If you think that God will love you either way, then that is what you believe, if you think opposite, then it's the same thing.
I am Catholic as well, and I do not think that being gay will condemn you or is really even a sin, because the God I believe in is loving and understanding. I personally believe in monogamous relationships, but again, it depends on what you believe. I have gay friends who are religious. It can happen, it's just a matter of how you let it.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 September 2010):
 Well first off, casual sex and being catholic will not go together, regardless of whether it's gay, straight, or with a cantaloupe. Unfortunately some closed minded people will never be able to accept gay people and I'm so sorry if that's the situation you're in. Do you know how your family feels about gay people in general? Have you ever asked? As for the sex, you need to do what feels good for you, regardless of what your church says. I know the bible may say it's wrong, but nature says it's right (there are gay seagulls too, and most other animals). Besides, oral sex is a huge part of many gay relationships, which should be OK. I'm so sorry you're in this situation, but you're not doing anything wrong. Nothing is wrong with being in a gay relationship or having sex. If you try to force yourself to be something you're not, you will be miserable. Try to surround yourself with more open-minded people and try to embrace your sexuality a bit more.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (15 September 2010):
 I personally think that if you believe in God that should be your main concern. Is your relationship with Him. I think people put too much focus on their religion and not enough on God.
Now from my understanding is that sex is only ok with your spouse. So if you marry a men and have sex with him then I'm pretty sure that is all God is asking for.
Now what gets me is that people think they will go to hell if they do something wrong. Personally I think the only ones that will are the murders, rapers...etc.
IF you had sex with a man I don't believe you will go to hell. But that is my belief...you have to decide for yourself what is acceptable and what isn't.
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