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writes:I'm actually 14, I don't know how to change the age.Basically, I've been with this boy for only like 4months so not very long but I'm pretty small and he's always making jokes about my height. He's 16 and always talks about me to his friends and telling them he loves me and everything.I was just wondering if anyone think my height bothers him or not?He's not the shallow type to think that and he is a very 'jokey' person so he probably doesn't mean it, but i was just wanting some other opinions.thanks (: Reply to this Question
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (9 September 2010):
 Ditto to what the others have said. Really it's just a sign of his immaturity. The big thing I see here is that he tells his friends he loves you. When a guy makes the step from telling you to telling other people, it is a really good sign he means it and isn't just telling you what you want to hear.
If it bothers you, ask him to stop. If it's not that big a deal, then joke about it with him. Maybe find something about him that you can joke about too. Just be careful that you don't pick something that will hurt his feelings.
The biggest thing to learn is to talk about things with your BF. Most guys won't know there is a problem unless you tell them. We just don't pick up on the signals that well.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (9 September 2010):
 For boys that age, joking is very often a sign of affection. They are usually still immature and don't quite know how to handle feelings so they use joking and playing around to get attention. I seriously doubt if he's doing this to hurt you. He probably has no idea that you may not enjoy the joking around.
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (9 September 2010):
That's his way of flirting with you. Girls being short is no big deal to guys. It really doesn't have a lot to do with whether a guy finds a girl attractive. If you were fat or had pimples all over your face, he wouldn't tease you about that because those things actually matter. This he feels is safe territory for teasing you because it doesn't matter.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (9 September 2010):
 It might bug him a little/be something he notices, but it doesn't mean he really cares much. I'm sure he still loves you and finds you attractive and I doubt your height really factors into that. Guys aren't that complicated. If he tells you and his friends he loves you and thinks you're pretty/beautiful/cool or whatever, he means it. If it bugs you when he jokes about it, just let him know it hurts you and he should stop.
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