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writes:So my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year. I am 20 and he is 21. I took his virginity right before his 21st birthday. But I had only had sex with one other guy before him and I had only given a bj before sex so I had never had the experience of cum in my mouth. On valentines day I decided to try it. It was horrible! I started going down on him and he took like 20 minutes to cum and when he finally did it was way too much to even swallow or fit in my mouth. He has a ton of precum too but I was ok with that. I was gagging and totally disgusted when he came. After that I dont let him cum in my mouth and I've only done it about 6 times on a year. Then a couple days ago he told me he wishes that I would give him more bjs like a present every once in a while. And I really dont like how long it takes because my mouth hurts and how much cum he has... so I'm asking if anyone has any techniques to swallowing or not gagging? Or how do I start to like it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2010): My gf usually switches from giving me a blowjob to using her hands and back every time she gets tired. what really gets a man going is teasing him, lick his shaft with your tonuge, my gf does this thing where she runs her lips up the side of my shaft, its almost too much to handle. when im close she puts a hand on my shaft will shes sucking and uses her tongue alot. as for taste, she has me drink lots of pineapple juice, fruits and water. if its too much, do it in the shower, cause then you can have him wash you (gets him really turned on) and then take some in the mouth and the rest on your face or breasts and its easy to wash off. she does this exactly every time and it gets me every time.
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reader, dirtball +, writes (15 September 2010):
 The ladies here have given some great advice. I'd like to add one thing, I like a BJ that goes to the end, but they are also great for foreplay. Start with the BJ and when you start getting tired, move on to sex. Your endurance with it will come with practice, and if you want to learn to take his load, then the others have given great advice for that.
Also, from a guy's perspective, I've never been upset if a girl tells me she doesn't like cum in her mouth. I'll let her know when I'm ready and she'll usually finish me off with her hand. It doesn't change how I feel about her. Still, taking it in your mouth does show a level of acceptance that is its own special feeling.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2010): I'm just going to add my two cents...but you don't have to do everything with him fully in your mouth! That hurts your jaw and makes it become a chore when it should be enjoyment for pleasing him.
Maybe you can take turns and only do it for short amounts of times...
Or use your hands and take breaks with your mouth, just touch him with your hands or something. Experiment
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (15 September 2010):
 Well if you don't like cum, that's not something that's likely to change any time soon. However it's not that difficult to keep it out - guys normally know when they're going to cum (with enough experience you will know too) and when the moment is near, stop deep-throating, concentrate on the head and when he starts to cum, use only your lips, using your tongue to block the cum for reaching your throat.
An easier (and according to me, better) alternative is simply to finish him with your hands keeping your mouth closed. If he's a heavy cummer that will lead to him painting your face and possibly other parts of your body most beautifully. You can then try to build up a taste for it by taking a little on your finger and tasting it. It's not as bad in small doses :)
Even if you never build up a taste for it, there' a lot of scope for fun with a guy whose load is substantial - there's so many parts of your body he can cum on. It's fun to play with cum, so try - your mouth is NOT the only place it needs to go.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 September 2010):
 A blowjob does not HAVE to involve him cumming in your mouth. You shouldn't force yourself to eat something you can't stand, it will only make you resent him and hate giving him blowjobs. Right before he's about to cum, ask him to tell you, and just take your mouth off and finish him with your hands. To deal with that stickiness, you should use lube (or hand lotion). I repeat, there is NOTHING wrong with not letting him cum in your mouth.
As for the tiredness, you definitely don't need to be just going up and down sucking for your life. Here's what you should do, spend a lot of time playing with things with your tongue. Flicking the bottom side of the penis where the head meets the shaft (called the frenulum) will fill him with tingles. Also, focus on the head. Put just the head in your mouth varying lip pressure and tongue pressure (again, plenty of saliva). Then when you've rested use a lot of saliva and give him a few deep "thrusts" with your mouth until you're tired (that saliva will really help). If your mouth gets super super tired, you can take a break and just rub your breasts on him, that will drive him absolutely crazy. You should also get him super excited beforehand, doing things that get him REALLY excited but don't require you to give yourself lock jaw. The rubbing your breasts on him is a great one, massaging, tickling, kissing his inner thighs, you can masturbate in front of him, etc...
But here is the single most important thing to do when you give a blowjob. Absolutely the holy grail of blowjobs, it will speed things along and make it more intense for him. Use your hands! One hand on the shaft, usually doing a squeezing motion (most guys like a firmer grip than you think, but don't hurt him), a gentle twisting motion, or a little up and down. Anything that really stimulates the shaft. Then with your other hand, gently GENTLY cup and massage his balls a bit. You can also kneed the area between his testicles and anus. And if he's game, some guys like when you play with their back door a little. A lot don't want to talk about it, but you can play around the area a little to see how he reacts.
Good luck!
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reader, natasia  +, writes (14 September 2010):
 poor bloke, poor you. ok, yes - it is an acquired taste, and an acquired skill. loving someone helps a lot with it. yes, often your jaws will ache, yes, it is a kind of full-on experience, but if you love him, you will start to try to do it feeling as he feels, and taking pleasure from the pleasure you are giving. it is quite a present to give him, really, but it is totally possible to learn to like, even love, it.
to start off with, try using a combination of mouth and hand, and don't push yourself too much. and when he orgasms, let it spill out of your mouth - just get used to it gradually. and remember - HE is on the end of that dick! and he is loving it. do it for him.
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reader, sarahrose20  +, writes (14 September 2010):
have you ever tried to drink too much at once and ended having to use your tongue to stop the flow? do the same thing with him. ask him to tell you when hes about to cum and switch from deep throating to just sucking on his head and use your hand to create the illusion that your still deep throating him. then from there you can decide wether you want to spit or swallow. to make him cum faster play with his balls or rub the ridge in between his balls and his ass both these should drive him crazy.
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