Excessive drinking is affecting my boyfriend's sexual performance
Q. Hi, I have posted several questions about love, sex and relationship on this website and have always received good advice. I have been with my boyfriend for roughly 2 years and everything has been great. There are a few things that I quite dis...
A. 19 April 2012: HI
Men drink to get away from problems, he isnt happy about something , somethings bothering him or hes just bored. Its probably not you , but instead of voicing your thoughts on his sexual performance try to find out why he feels the need to ... (read in full...)
Husband of three months is pressuring me to live somewhere I don't care to be
Q. i have been with my husband for 10 months and married for 3. just recently we have both lost our jobs and we are in a right mess. before i met him i was very independent, had a good job, good car and savings. now i have nothing and he has dragged me ...
A. 18 April 2012: Hi
you married your husband after knowing him 7 months ? So you in that time have lost everyhting you knew , security job and somehow your savings have gone too . If you want that independance back along with the lifestyle then you will have to ... (read in full...)
How do I liven things up between us? Despite him rejecting my advances regularly?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly two years. We were always very passionate and affectionate. A couple months ago, he began to act less and less, however. I realize that this can happen as a relationship progresses, but physical affection and ...
A. 18 April 2012: Hi
Try holding back on the pressure to get him to perform , you have tried all the tricks , youve talked to him theres not much more you can do . Leave it for a month or so and see how he is. Two years isnt a long way into things so somethin... (read in full...)
Is he acting normal for a sex buddy?
Q. I have had this sex buddy for several months and he seems to be more affectionate these days. The other day we had sex and he had to rush off and apologized a couple of times and said he would try to come back by to spend time with me. He asks me if ...
A. 18 April 2012: Perfectly normal . As your starting to get emotionally attached you are now looking for signs he's into you for more than sex . Hes just being polite .
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I can't stop being jealous of his exes
Q. Why do i feel so jealous of his exes? I have been with my bf for 2 years. I know i shouldnt but i cant help myself. One ex is mother of his children and the other is one that stayed good friends with him (he did seem to be infatuated with this girl) ...
A. 18 April 2012: this relationship will be over before you know it if you carry on like this, get a grip. Ask yourself if you would go back to your Exs or are you happy with your man?... (read in full...)
Should I go to Vegas and have fun with this guy who is a bit of a player?
Q. I was hoping for some advice on a trip I may or may not go on. So here it goes. Like 3 years ago me and my then bestie was on holiday in las Vegas, I am from the uk and this was like the trip of all trips. I was crazy. I meet 3 guys and one do them ...
A. 17 April 2012: If you take him as is, and just want a holiday then fine . BUT he is a virtual stranger so you dont really know him that well , so long as your safety is not a concern then see what he says . You may be better off going someplace else with a ... (read in full...)
Why are married women bitter towards single beautiful women around their men?
Q. I don't like going to my friend's parties anymore. Seems like everyone is married and here comes me the single girl who is being hated on. I am pretty and I do look my best anytime I go out. I don't like the grin and the mean mugging I get from ...
A. 17 April 2012: Hi
You must do something to their men or the men comment about you to their wives.
I would stop going to these parties and form new friendships with single people , get out and network , there are alot of others without partners .Saves all t... (read in full...)
My husband is getting more and more controlling of my appearance
Q. First, it was the clothing: dresses, skirts, tights, blouses. I'm not allowed jeans, trainers, flipflops, T-shirts, track suits. I'm barely allowed tasteful trousers. Then, it was telling me how much jewellery I can wear. Then, it was th...
A. 17 April 2012: Hi Makes me ask why he married you when he doesnt like ANYTHING about you To attack you like this after having a baby is very thoughtless . Have you not met his 'posh' friends before ? You dont need to have tatoos removed for him . he marr... (read in full...)
Where are all the good guys? Am I the only one feeling this way?
Q. Where are all the good guys? Sick of getting hurt:(? Omg I dont understand why nice guys keep going after moody and bitchy girls when good girls are just here dying for a guy to treat them right cause they keep getting hurt by @ssholes. Is lik...
A. 17 April 2012: Hi
Not everyone no , because they know there is more to life than hunting down the ideal man . You have to be able to get out there and live a little , meet people you can be friends with first rather than looking constantly for the one or looki... (read in full...)
Seem to be getting mixed messages from her?
Q. I'm currently dating a lovely girl, we are getting along great, and have now kissed three times, quite long make out sessions, twice indoors, then this weekend in the forest where we went for a walk. Last week we discussed that she wasn't comfo...
A. 16 April 2012: Hi
Maybe you should hold back on these sessions till she makes it known she is ready to go the distance . Its just frustrating for you as she is giving out mixed messages . I think she wants to be sure about you before she goes any further ... (read in full...)
How do I help my friend? He has lots of problems and is homeless....
Q. hi people. i have a friend who graduated from uni in 2011 and recenetly i've got to know him better (i graduate this year 2012). it turns out he has problems, financially especially. he's homeless (lives at uni during the day and sleeps in the 24...
A. 16 April 2012: Hi
He needs specialist help, he sounds like he has severe depression, all you can do is relate his problems to somebody at the University as soon as you can . Thats the best help you can give him . You are a brilliant friend but you cant do anymo... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't acknowledge my mom while in her home and now things are weird!
Q. My boyfriend and Mum don't quite get on since he seems offhand and disrespectful when he comes over. We are both on part time wages so are living at home whilst saving up for a mortgage. The first time we invited him round, he didn't acknowled...
A. 16 April 2012: Hi
I think its totally disrespectful , even if your b/f cant stand your Mum for whatever reason he should acknowledge her as he is in HER home . I dont know what your Mums b/f means by his statements as it doesnt sound related to the situatio... (read in full...)
I don't think my husband is cheating but we don't have sex very often - he says he is too tired from work What should I do?
Q. I don’t think that my husband is cheating (though he has before - and so have I) but we don’t have sex very often. My husband and I are both in our middle 40's and sex began to slow down somewhat a few years ago. We usually have sex two or three...
A. 16 April 2012: Hi
Can you afford a holiday or a weekend break, do something to get you both away from the daily grind and stress? Now the kids are gone you need to discover a new and different life together . Spoil him a bit and make him feel like more than a p... (read in full...)
I've spent too much of my life on a guy who will never love me the way I love him
Q. {Moderator note: two questions from the same OP combined} What should I say to him? I want to break up with him.? I was with my ex for 6 months. He was my 1st love. I loved him a lot and he told me he loved me too all his actions told me he l...
A. 14 April 2012: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-cant-find-a-guy-to-love-me.html
read the answers to your last question
DO NOT text him you need to get this man out of your system for good... (read in full...)
Hopelessly in love with my friend but she doesn't want a relationship
Q. Hi, I need some advice if possible, 4 years ago a girl blew me away that I chased after her to let her know she just made my heart skip a beat, she smiled but politely told me she was in a relationship, but we have since became friends. Over...
A. 14 April 2012: Gut feeling is to say step back and let her miss you . You have a good relationship as friends but what if she meets another guy and starts dating again ? Its really gonna hurt you badly . if she has never seen you as b/f material its hard to say if ... (read in full...)
I told I'm pregnant, he said "I'll talk to you tomorrow, I don't want to say the wrong thing right now" what does that mean?
Q. Hello, Men! I need your advice, ladies your welcome to opinions as well. I've been dating a man long distance, known him for a year, dating for 5 months, we are not in a committed relationship but we do go and visit each other every 2 months, we ...
A. 14 April 2012: He was shocked and angry , its very immature to reveal pregnancy to others on a network site Its HIS child and a massive life changing experience . it says alot about you and he has alot to think about . I feel immensely sorry for him and hope you ... (read in full...)
Is my dad right in telling me I let my social life get in the way of more important things?
Q. This is probably going to sound really petty, but I need some advice. My dad is kinda dictating what my life should be like. I have arranged spend the day and watch a movie tomorrow with my best friend, whom lives in a different city than I. We ...
A. 14 April 2012: your Dads wrong , you do as you please , you helped him financially which proves your responsible. Hope you get your life on track and can leave home and all the rest behind you and reap the rewards of your hard studying and work ... (read in full...)
Dating a divorcee?
Q. I am a single mom of 3 and 27. I have been in a relationship with my neighbor for about 4 months. Hes 40, divorced with 1 child he gets every other weekend. We have been friends since I moved into the house 2 years ago. We had long conversations ...
A. 14 April 2012: I know alot of men late 30s early 40s who divorced and love the single life, dont want commitment just see their kids and have some fun. They usually have 100s of hobbies too and lots of like-minded friends. This man sees you every night so he can't ... (read in full...)
Are women losing their skills in "traditional" roles?
Q. Are women losing skills in roles they traditionally did like cooking and housekeeping? If so, what skills are they gaining instead? Let me first say that I love my wife, but I was shocked at how little she is able to do. She is an excellent ...
A. 12 April 2012: I agree the women are not replacing 'traditional' roles/skills but then for generations women did not have to go out to work, they looked after the kids and the home.Now they go out to work and raise kids too
If both partners work then all chor... (read in full...)
I can't find a guy to love me the way that I love him
Q. Why do I feel this way? Is there something wrong with me? I'm a good girl with a big heart. All my friends say I'm gorgeous, friendly and really sweet. But I can't seem to find a guy to love me the way I love them. I get dumped each time I ...
A. 12 April 2012: maybe your too nice , too good to be true . too gorgeous
dont give up just do your thing and be patient... (read in full...)
What would you do if a partner pushed you into something and then backed out?
Q. After dating my current boyfriend for a month, he started the marriage/ live together talk. I said it was too soon, obviously. We both have a child, his lives with the mother. He pressed the idea a lot, even going as far as talking to my religious ...
A. 12 April 2012: It all sounds very odd , he was overcome with lust/love and wanting to secure you in the relationship , now that initial head rush has worn off hes being sensable
I think you should have stood your ground and told him no way for a long time , not ... (read in full...)
Fiance owes too much money to ex and expects me to pay. How much is too much?
Q. Problems..... My fiancee (50) has just been served with a bill of $30,000 that he owed his ex on their divorce some 9 years ago. Due to ill health and circumstances he has not paid her and now she is peruing it.Their son of 15, visits in holidays ...
A. 12 April 2012: DO NOT refinance your home or put it at risk for anyone
His ex wife is not your problem thats HIS debt HIS ex HIS son.
He needs to get a job to pay his way and pay his ex $30000 he says he owes and has owed for 9 years.
He still has no... (read in full...)
Is there a way to get this guy more comitted to dating?
Q. I started talking to a guy back in december from the an online dating site. He is actually a pretty nice guy and the type i would want to date. We went out once in january and it was a pretty good date..we met for a drink and grabbed a bite t...
A. 12 April 2012: Forget this one , he is not looking to date you or he would have .It doesnt matter that you look on him as partner potential .Youve only met him once , 3 months ago ,that says it all . keep looking ... (read in full...)
Everyone knows we will never get married except for my boyfriend!
Q. Can anyone help? To cut a long story short, I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. 10 months ago he asked me to marry him but it turns out he just wanted a wife to live with and look after his parents. I told him I didn't want to get married...
A. 12 April 2012: Are you sure thats why he wanted to marry you? This IS 2012 , there are homehelp agencies galore for his parents situation. He doesn't NEED to marry somebody to replace his sister ,thats very drastic .
He may possibly be in love and want to shar... (read in full...)
How do I tell my parents I am pregnant? They don't even know about my boyfriend of 6 years!
Q. Hi everyone. Thank you for reading my post. I am in a huge dilemma right now. I am 15 weeks pregnant and don't know how to tell my family. During the last year, I have had 2 abortions due to the fact that my boyfriend forced me to have those. The ...
A. 11 April 2012: Hi
this is a bad situation and its going to be a difficult few months. if your keeping this baby then you have to tell your parents everything . Can you arrange a meeting with both sets of parents so you and your boyfriend can face everyone... (read in full...)
Why does my ex refuse to accept he is abusive?
Q. Why does my ex still deny his abuse towards me? My.ex and I have been split up for 5 months we had been together 8 yrs but to me was a bad relationship, he hadn't know really what he wanted, although 43, he never made a commitment to me or our ...
A. 11 April 2012: Hi
why do you want to move away , you are split up now and the only contact you should have with him is re the kids. if he is harrassing you then get an injunction put in place to keep him away from you
you definately did right to end it with ... (read in full...)
Why do older men date younger women and Visa Versa?
Q. It's just i noticed a lot lately that women in their 20's seem to be going for men in there 40's even 50's . Some with even a 25 to 30 year age difference my friend is actually 24 and dating a 49 year old. It puzzles me because sometimes the men are ...
A. 11 April 2012: for the girls financial security , maturity , probably been messed about by young lads
for the men , a trophy , the chance to have a 2nd go at fatherhood , to feel young again ,in midlife crisis
have only ever dated younger men (never 20+ yrs b... (read in full...)
Everyone knows we will never get married except for my boyfriend!
Q. Can anyone help? To cut a long story short, I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. 10 months ago he asked me to marry him but it turns out he just wanted a wife to live with and look after his parents. I told him I didn't want to get married...
A. 11 April 2012: Hi
Your sending mixed messages your saying you will never marry him but still carry on the relationship. Relationships do tend to go somewhere.
Until his parents are no longer here his situation will remain the same ,as time goes on they will be... (read in full...)
This girl I work with is cheating on her fiance! Should I tell him or stay out of it?
Q. Should I say something? Or say out of it? There is a girl Ive worked with at work that I got to know very well. Ive even met her fiance about four or five times when he stops over at are work to pick her up which they will be getting married ...
A. 11 April 2012: Hi
in hindsight you should have invited her and her fiancee over for the barbeque. ;/
If this workmate is showing photos of her around then he has no respect and just sees her as easy sex. She will come unstuck as he is not being discreet whi... (read in full...)
I don't know what he meant!
Q. I have been seeing this man for about a year now. The other night he made a comment/question that I'm a little confused about. This is what he said " if you have so many options then what are you doing here with me?". I was not sure how to answer ...
A. 11 April 2012: Just ask him... (read in full...)
I don't know what he meant!
Q. I have been seeing this man for about a year now. The other night he made a comment/question that I'm a little confused about. This is what he said " if you have so many options then what are you doing here with me?". I was not sure how to answer ...
A. 9 April 2012: You must have told him you were in demand before he made the comment Its the only reason a guy would say this.... (read in full...)
I ended it, and then I said I didn't want to lose him and he said you already have!
Q. On friday night i ended things with the guy i was seeing for 2months. He said he was sure he was ready for a relationship and i wasn't prepared to wait around. At the time i told him i couldn't be friends as i would be upset when he started seeing ...
A. 9 April 2012: Let him go or you will end up being hurt even more , you cant be friends.Its hard at first but you will get used to it. He may come back if you give him a chance to miss you he may not . But you have to get over him and you cant if you are in ... (read in full...)
He comes to my place, eats, uses utilities but says I am ungrateful for not paying when we go out!
Q. My boyfriend stays over at my house over the weekend. I recently found out that he thinks i am being ungrateful because he pays for dinner and i dont offer any money to put to it. This is because he tells me it is on him or he'll buy dinner. Money ...
A. 9 April 2012: Who told you he said this and do you know for certain he did say it? If he did then its him you need to speak to and tell him how you feel in no uncertain terms. If he is bad mouthing you like this behind your back then is he really a man you want a ... (read in full...)
Is commitment for everyone?
Q. Does there come a point in someone's life where they want commitment rather then sleeping with different people, or can some people go their whole lives living like that?...
A. 7 April 2012: Hi if you mean marriage . its not for everyone. long term relationships are different AND may appeal to some as theres always a get out clause. some have been married AND make the choice not to go there again I think alot THINK they want to b... (read in full...)
Should I tell him all my 'issues'? I don't want to freak him out
Q. I'm a recovering alcoholic and bullimic ( doing well now by the way) but it's hard work all the time. I've been seeing a man that I've known many years that isn't privy to my issues. We've been dating a little over a month and just started sleeping...
A. 7 April 2012: Hi You have to do whats best for you AND your recovery is paramount . you need to be able to continue improving . if you've known him for years he must have some idea before he dated you that you had problems . Far from putting him off i think ... (read in full...)
Ex won't let go, won't move out!
Q. I have wrote on here about advice concerning my ex well now I still need advice he pushed me last weekend and now knows I am in the process of hoping meeting someone else got mad now he has a few things here still and I told him he could have the ...
A. 7 April 2012: Hi the last thing you need is to be trying to meet someone else . I dont know how the ex found out but it will make him want to catch you out with a new man AND antagonise the situation I think getting a letter sent with official dates for collec... (read in full...)
I haven't done this before, what is it you do?
Q. Hey everyone. Quick question, please do not judge me. A week ago I hooked up with a guy at a party.I am currently single and going through a dry phase so it was really cool. He also said afterwards he wants to go for drinks with me some time. Now I ...
A. 6 April 2012: in this scenario , nothing ventured nothing gained, go for it... (read in full...)
Ladies: shaved or natural 'downstairs' on a guy?
Q. Ladies thoughts opinions needed: When you are about to have sex/or oral with a guy for the first time and see his thing, is hair down there a turn off? is shaved more a turn on? or trimmed? also what about hairy thighs? shaved? leave alone? I am...
A. 5 April 2012: Either, but trimmed is best , but if you've got that far then passion has overtaken opinion... (read in full...)
I'm miserable in this relationship, but afraid to be without him. How do I find the courage to go it alone?
Q. Hi, ive never written to one of these before but right now i could do with some advice. I have been on and off with my boyfriend for a couple of years, main reason being he is too attached to his wife/ex wife. Long story short i just cant cope w...
A. 4 April 2012: Hi there
anyone stuck in a dead end relationship will relate to this situation Thing is you do not have to put up with him in your home You will feel alot more confident after you have given him his marchin orders.
You got along before he wa... (read in full...)
I'm worried if this will work. What are the downsides to the fact that I am about the same age as my partner's son?
Q. I'm dating a man who is 21 years older than me. I am 28, and he is 49. He has a son who is 26 ( he'll be 27 in December ). Does anyone think it's bad that he is dating me, when i am just a bit older than his son?. He doesn't see his son, as he got ...
A. 4 April 2012: hi
dont worry too much about having his babies just yet .
but theres no reason to think the relationship wouldnt work long term . its got as much chance as any other... (read in full...)
Do I talk about our drunken one night stand? Or let him bring it up?
Q. Ok, so I got really drunk and slept with my best male friend. This has brought out feelings for him and got me thinking about being with him. I have known him for years and although we have our differences and we both have other close friends,...
A. 4 April 2012: hi slow down your makin ME dizzy . you had sex, once, with him. just say 'Hey I really enjoyed the sex its proved I am over my Ex' Leave it at that Then he knows your emotionally available and your interested. Just do not sleep with him aga... (read in full...)
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