To cut or not to cut? (Hair)
Q. This may be a stupid question to ask but should i cut my hair or no? I have been going through some changes as far as my confidence level and decided that I need to start doing more for myself as far as what makes me feel good. I dyed my hair thi...
A. 20 July 2012: Hi
Been asking same question in my mirror for last month, now shoulder lenghth, grown well took ages,so to save time 'doing' it I thought go for big 'perm' curls. Then thought, its summer go short n neat.Still undecided but made appointm... (read in full...)
He dumped me after I got pregnant, what do I do?
Q. I been dating this guy for 3 months and things were great between us now that I'm pregnant with his baby he asked me to abort he no longer text me like he used to no calls no nothing and I still love him what should I do please HELP ...
A. 20 July 2012: Hi
The obvious question, what birth control did you both use?
He probably didn't sign up for being a dad,especially after only 3 months dating. Fair enough, most men would run especially if he's in your age group. However you BOTH made this b... (read in full...)
Is it truly possible for two people to stay faithful to one another for many years?
Q. Is it truly possible for two people to stay faithful to one another for many years? I'm starting to lose hope! It seems like loads of people are finding their partners cheating on them on line, sexting, etc :( Can anyone be satisfied just by ...
A. 19 July 2012: Hi
Yes ofcourse it is,I fr one know way more happy faithful couples than I do cheaters.... (read in full...)
At the end of my Rope and Running out of Hope
Q. Not real good at this but I will try . I am 46 and just got a divorce after 30 yrs of Marriage . my ex left me in 2008 and I have been seeing this man who is 50 and retired . I work 5 days a week and then I come home and that is it. he stays with me ...
A. 19 July 2012: Hi
AuntyBimBim is right, he's just a millstone round your neck. Imagine the relief you will feel as he leaves for the last time.
Get your life back, get out there and live a little,this man brings you no pleasure he adds nothing to your ... (read in full...)
He claims to love me and yet talks so badly to me. Is it just manipulation?
Q. I've told a controlling and manipulative husband of over 12 years that I want to leave him and he's looking for jobs in another city after trying for 3 months to convince me. As I show him a strong front but he still tries to use every opportunity ...
A. 19 July 2012: Hi He's just trying to convince you you are making a mistake. From his view your telling him he isn't wanted,he's losing everything, having to relocate. Of course he will try to persuade you. His ego's bruised. He now faces years of paying su... (read in full...)
Is it possible to go to a clinic to terminate this pregnancy?
Q. Scared to go to the doctors to ask for a abortion. I have just discovered I am a few wks pregnant. This is a massive mistake, I already have 3 kids and split with my partner 7 mths ago. We have 2 kids already and split up because he couldn't commit ...
A. 19 July 2012: Hi
Ime not 100% certain but if your not going private then you have to go via your GP. Make an appointment with one your most comfortable with. I am sure they will be sympathetic to your situation,probably do a test to be 100% sure first. .... (read in full...)
How do I control this constant urge to shop online when I'm upset?
Q. Hey everyone I am 23 years old,my problem may not seem that big but its annoying me a lot lately..its not a relationship problem but you guys have been soo good with your answers that I thought I cld use some help! So here it is..I have a constant...
A. 18 July 2012: hi
Yea we all shop, retail therapy. Your lucky your parents pay, maybe you should ask them to give you a monthly allowance instead of Cards so it limits your spending power. Its a good place to start.Then try pure willpower alongside.
Online ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong because I don't like my b/f texting and planning on meeting his ex?
Q. My boyfriend and I had our first big fight last night. He mentioned that he was asked to hang out with his ex. This is an ex who, a couple of months ago, has confessed she wants to give their relationship another chance, they apparently still talk ...
A. 18 July 2012: Hi
Nope your not being paranoid or psycho, this woman has not let go of your boyfriend. He either understands your feelings and stops the contact or gets back with her.
You may have been together a year but it doesnt mean he isn't still wond... (read in full...)
I didn't sign on for benefits but I'm not sure if that's the right thing to do or not!
Q. I got married in April to the most wonderful man in the world, I was 41 and he was 47. It's both our first marriage and we couldn't be happier. My contract for my job is temporary and I will not until Sept if it will be renewed. Therefore, I...
A. 18 July 2012: Hi
Cant say I blame you not signing on, even the buildings are depressing and the way they treat you is dismal. If you dont have to then dont.I pray I never have to again.You might be due a tax rebate though?
If your good at online stuff,mar... (read in full...)
His friendship with a work mate is beginning to upset me!
Q. Hi, My boyfriend is friends with a work mate and talks about her loads and its beginning to upset me. She always go to him for relationship advice about how she can't meet a nice man and she only likes muscley men and he replies maybe you sho...
A. 18 July 2012: Hi
Not surprised its upsetting you, they are both rubbing your nose in this, he is showing no thought for your feelings at all. From what you have said they are too friendly.
However he's not hiding her if they are openly messaging on Fac... (read in full...)
I'm in a rut and don't see my life going anywhere! This isn't what I want!
Q. Hi. Would really love some advice. I'm approaching 32 and feeling my life isn't going anyway and should give up. I also am do jealous of my best friend who is 3 years younger then me and suddenly has the perfect life. I'm female, average looking ...
A. 18 July 2012: Hi
Look at what opportunities you have,
1) You have no commitments so don't have to stay in London. Its a rat race and perhaps your a square peg in a round hole,outgrown it.Its gotta be the most expensive place in the UK to rent too.
2) ... (read in full...)
Why does my 50 year old boyfriend sleep with his mother?
Q. Is it normal fort a 50 some year old guy to choose to sleep in the same bed with his Mom when there are other beds/sleeping arrangements available? My boyfriend makes a habit of doing this and I find it creepy....
A. 18 July 2012: Hi
How did you find out, did he just drop it into the conversation? Awkward however you found out really.
Run, fast as you can
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Do any of you write to your exes after the dust settles?
Q. I could use some guidance on something that has been bothering me for weeks. I divorced about a year and a half ago and recently remarried (to someone new). I am so in love and truly on a better path in life. My former marriage was long however...
A. 18 July 2012: Hi
You said yourself you had a 'kinda rough divorce' and 'things are a bit raw' - that should give you your answer.You only divorced 18 months ago and have met,dated and married somebody else in that time, your son and ex need time to adjust.Y... (read in full...)
I left my husband and now my boyfriend is not interested in me anymore.
Q. I left my husband because I fell in love with another man. I no longer loved my husband. The other man led me to believe he loved me, too and would be there for me when I left my husband. It turns out that he is not. Now I am all alone without ei...
A. 18 July 2012: Hi
The only person who can and should look after you is you. You need to start being pro active.Yes this man let you down, but thats life.You weren't in love with your husband anymore so you sought a knight in shining armour, thats all.Your... (read in full...)
Do any of you write to your exes after the dust settles?
Q. I could use some guidance on something that has been bothering me for weeks. I divorced about a year and a half ago and recently remarried (to someone new). I am so in love and truly on a better path in life. My former marriage was long however...
A. 16 July 2012: Hi
Honestly? Let it be. You might be very happy and re-married, your new wife may be very understanding and those 2 reasons are enough to NOT get in contact in a friendly way.
YOur Ex doesn't need to know how happy you are now or that your thi... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 16 July 2012: Hey
If you don't want the break-up make up pattern to continue,if you want him back, then an adult conversation on neutral ground is neccessary. You need to solve the issues that lead to the break-up.
Anyone can bring flowers,food and... (read in full...)
Should I confess to my online friend that I love him?
Q. Hi everyone! i wrote in before this but i just want to share everything that has been happening in details. So about 2.5yrs back i got into online chats and all, in 2009. I did have some frends back then while i was doing my diploma but well friends ...
A. 15 July 2012: Hi
Phew, where to start, you need to get off the PC, Skype, and get your 'condition' treated, asap. This isolation is not healthy, if you can communicate online you can face to face with your friends and colleagues. See a doctor and a therapis... (read in full...)
I'm caught in the middle between my parents and don't know what to do
Q. Hi I am 26 years old my parents split up 3 year ago they both live in the same area I feel totally stuck in the middle all the time if I go see my mum my dad goes in a mood with me and vice versa I am completely exhausted I am a single parent I have ...
A. 15 July 2012: Hi
If they split up 3 years ago its time they grew up and stopped using you to bounce their silly petty feelings off.
Tell them both you are an adult,a parent and they are BOTH your parent. Say that if they 'start' about you visiting the oth... (read in full...)
Do I still love my husband and want attention?
Q. I am Planning to split with my husband of 12 years since he's been cheating, controlling and rude and I said I wanted out coz I just felt completely devoid of love for him and even felt I was getting attracted to other men which is very unlike me... ...
A. 15 July 2012: Hi
Been there got the Tshirt, I was told I was stupid that I would come to my senses,I was totally selfish,nobody else would want me etc He tried everything but his 'crimes' were unforgivable,the love gone, trust too. Left me drained, weight l... (read in full...)
Why did he say we'd meet and then he blocks me?
Q. Me and my bf had an argument 3 weeks ago we talked again and things were getting better. We started meeting again everything was normal. I met him day before yesterday and I was supossed to meet him and he told me he will let me know the time and ...
A. 14 July 2012: Hi
Sounds like he's had enough this time,sorry,stop worrying and checking the site. Now he has shown his true colours I would start to let go and move on,I dont think you will get any straight answers from him... (read in full...)
Do I still love my husband and want attention?
Q. I am Planning to split with my husband of 12 years since he's been cheating, controlling and rude and I said I wanted out coz I just felt completely devoid of love for him and even felt I was getting attracted to other men which is very unlike me... ...
A. 14 July 2012: Hi
Hes been cheating controlling and rude and even though your splitting up, he still lives with you.
No wonder your confused.
Hes familiar,you have children and a history. If your serious about this divorce then get him to move out so i... (read in full...)
Is he running scared? First It's FWB then he says 'be careful' when I go out, now it's 'I love u"?
Q. Is he falling for me? My friend introduced me to this guy, we started talking through facebook for a while then decided to meet for a date. The date went really well, until we slept with each other at the end of the night, big mistake i though...
A. 14 July 2012: Hi
I would just ask him outright, he sees you go out with friends and carry on with your life so thinks you just see him as sex/FWB. If you want more be bold,because I reckon he does want a relationship........ (read in full...)
My boyfriend is mad at me for something that isn't really my fault. I don't know what to do.
Q. Hi, I have a boyfriend working outside the country, he flies back every few months and I have been to see him twicein the pasy year. I bought him a plane ticket to come home for my birthday in April and his first words at the time were'when it's my ...
A. 14 July 2012: ** I meant when you paid for a ticket for him to come to you on your birthday - sorry... (read in full...)
How do I get rid of my younger lover without a scene? He's helped me in the past but now I'm sick of him.
Q. I am an older lady who has always had men who worked and helped with most bills. I have been widowed 4 times; what a drag!!! I met a younger guy online and he eventually moved in with me. All was well at first; he quit his job where he prev...
A. 14 July 2012: Hi
Your going to have to be firm here and take the consequences too. He isnt your responsibility,hes an adult, but as you've kept him and he doesn't work, he's going to lose you,his home,all his perks, so isnt going to go quietly is he?
You sou... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to so many guys. I'm afraid I'll cheat if in a relationship
Q. hi i have been in relationships like many other teenager girls.in past 7yrs i had been in relationships with 4 guys. i had been physical with all of them but never had sex with anybody.my problem is that i am afraid of commitments because even whi...
A. 14 July 2012: Hi Its way better to be like this than 'settle' for the sake of it.You get to know what you want from a relationship,and what you don't. Its like shopping for shoes, you need one pair but see 6 other pairs you want too, so you try them all on to s... (read in full...)
My abusive ex owes me stuff worth up to $3000 which he refused to return and now he wants me to give him another chance
Q. Hey, I'm 20 years old , from France and i go to school in US i met a guy from Ohio , we had been together for 2 years. After he proposed to me last Christmas( We've in distance relationship for 2 years)i moved and transferred co...
A. 14 July 2012: Hi
You can replace furniture so write it off,its only stuff. Your well being is far more important, your peace of mind. At your age you have so many opportunities ahead of you to take. Put this relationship down to experience,cut all contact,... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is mad at me for something that isn't really my fault. I don't know what to do.
Q. Hi, I have a boyfriend working outside the country, he flies back every few months and I have been to see him twicein the pasy year. I bought him a plane ticket to come home for my birthday in April and his first words at the time were'when it's my ...
A. 14 July 2012: Hi I think he didn't want you out there for whatever reason. He KNEW you wanted to go but he didn't arrange a ticket for you so that speaks volumes.Theres a small chance he couldn't afford it but as he flies home to see you other times,he can aff... (read in full...)
What can I do about Mum's comments about my relationship and why do I respond this way?
Q. I have been away for two days and my boyfriend didn't meet me at the train station on my return. The train station I was getting off at was a 10 - minute drive from his house. As I was close to home, he claimed he had a headache and therefore wa...
A. 12 July 2012: Hi If you didnt arrange for him to pick you up then whats the big deal, even if you did, he didnt feel well. You were only gone 2 days,not 2 years,you live close to the station.Not letting you know he wasn't going to meet you,if he planned to, i... (read in full...)
Why does my live in partner of 10 yrs. not make any attempts to have sex?
Q. Why does my live in partner of 10 yrs. not make any attempts to have sex? I always have to initiate and then it's to pleasure him as he just lays there, maybe he touches my nipples, but that's it. He does not get ontop of me and have intercourse. ...
A. 12 July 2012: Hi
Possibly because its over,he has probably got another woman. You will have to find out and bring this situation to a head. Its not a reflection on you at all, he has just lost his lust for you. It happens. His leaving the room and asking w... (read in full...)
Is this marriage over or is this a phase?
Q. Hi, I am a bit confused as to where this is going and need some advise please. Your advise in the past has been really very helpful. I have been married abt 13 years and in the time my husband was always antisocial and controlling though in a very ...
A. 12 July 2012: Hi
Good for you getting rid, as he has organised a job in a different city he has taken you seriously too.He will bluff and say things till he is gone but don't listen. You have totally made the right choice FOR YOU.
I dont know why he is a... (read in full...)
I understand he wont leave his girlfriend but I can't not have him around!
Q. Confused by his behaviour My story is concerning someone I knew years ago who I had a short fling with. We then went our separate ways for about 15 years and then found each other on facebook again 3 years ago. To start with it was great to ...
A. 11 July 2012: Hi
You are just kidding yourself. You are accepting sloppy seconds. Yuk. He goes silent because he is easing the guilt of seeing you by being extra nice to his partner. He will not leave her, they are committed even without a marriage certific... (read in full...)
Why would ex send me a message and then not reply?
Q. My ex sent me a text message tonight asking how i was. I responded saying i was ok and asked how he was, but he hasn't replied. Should i try texting him again sometime or see if he gets intouch with me again ?. Why would he send me a message and ...
A. 11 July 2012: Hi
'Hi how are you' after breaking up and silence usually means 'are you free for sex',testing the water, but then he got lucky so didn't follow up.
Just forget it he's an Ex,dont get drawn in (unless he asks you OUT properly for a date.) Be ... (read in full...)
Was I wrong to honey trap my now ex, especially as he went for it hook line and sinker?
Q. Was I wrong to honey trap my now ex, especially as he went for it hook line and sinker?? We had been dating for a few months when he went suddenly distant, and reactivated his dating profile (he's on my favourites list so I get notifications of...
A. 11 July 2012: Hya
Soon as he went distant and reactivated his dating profile you should have ended the relationship.It was a huge clue you two had run the course and it was over. You did what you felt you had to do and it must have made you smile knowing ... (read in full...)
Why do my husband's "friends" always ignore me?
Q. Can someone please explain to me if I'm over reacting here. I have been cool with my husbands female friends and just recently I've had enough. When he talks about them he said they were cool, two of them she said they were "one of the guys cool". ...
A. 10 July 2012: Hi
If your the mother of his children and have been together years, they should respect that and you.
They behave like silly children. Talk to your husband and let him know exactly how fed up you are. No idle threats though or you will be a do... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 10 July 2012: Hi
Well there was no point ignoring his calls for a week only to rush over as soon as you got back. You may as well have just answered.He didnt ask to resume the relationship with you so all the other 'signs' mean zero.
Your not going to giv... (read in full...)
How do I get this new man in my life to open up to me?
Q. My question is how do I get my bf to open his life to me? We have been dating almost 2 months and we have mutually agreed to only date eachother, we are sexually active and he pretty much drives to see me 6 out 7 days of the week. He lives an hour ...
A. 10 July 2012: Hi
Ask him if he wants to go on holiday or a long weekend away.
Does he spend weekends with you now, stop overnight or just 'pop in' for an hour or two?
After 2 months and an active sex life with him you should know alot more about him... (read in full...)
Is this a relationship I should stay in?
Q. I was with my ex partner for 3 years, we have a 2 year old son together. I recently ended the relationship due to him being very controlling. However he seems to think he isn't controlling and hasn't done anything wrong I just wanted to tell you his ...
A. 10 July 2012: Hi First, you SHOULD be spending your day looking after your son,he's right,if your not out working. Not in the house ALL the time though,there's lots of stuff you can do with other Mums. You go clubbing with your friends, perhaps he thinks they ... (read in full...)
Do men over 40 really not want to have sex?
Q. I am very concerned about the amount of sex or lack of with my boyfriend of 1.5 appx. he recently moved back home his mom is sick, but I am her caretaker..we dont live together and he didnt really want to move back home he likes his privacy. we ...
A. 9 July 2012: Hi My mans 48 we have sex loads,both have busy work schedules and find that tiring but no way would he or I forgo the intimacy. We don't live together either which just spices things up. If you have a free week when you don't have your daughte... (read in full...)
Is my husband just trying to be nice to get me to stop the alimony payments?
Q. im so confussed my husband of 20 years left me for a much younger girl. old enough to be his daughter. they are now living together and have been for 5 months since i threw him out. im still very much in love with him and would have him back. he ...
A. 7 July 2012: Hello there
You need to take control here,be assertive. Stop the Facebook stalking block them both. Stop focusing on him too.
You need to start healing from the split, looking after yourself. 20 years IS a long time but it's over,he broke yo... (read in full...)
He says he isn't cheating, and I want to believe him, but I don't. What do you think?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for 5 years, we have always been happy until recently... i discovered a text on his phone from a girl saying "hey are you missing me, it was good with drinks the other night, u wanna meet wednesday, wat you doin...
A. 6 July 2012: Hi
An ex of mine went on his leaving do from job, he came back with a huge love-bite, told me his colleagues had held him down and had done it for a joke..Yea right, relationship over... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him, I want us to be exclusive but he has a partner
Q. I'm at my wits end. I've been having an affair for 3 years. I am separated from my husband. It started out as just sex with this man. However, It has developed considerably, especially in the last year. We have talked about being together. He sai...
A. 5 July 2012: Hi
Just do the maths, he moved her into his home one year ago. Hes been seeing you three years. If he was so in love with you he would NOT have moved her in. He would have moved YOU in after breaking it off with her.
Watch his actions and see ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 29 June 2012: Hmmmmm
Perhaps he thought YOU slashed the tyre, made worse as you didn't ring him for a lift to work, soooo he assumed you knew about the tyre
Just don't take his calls and definately not when your away. Sounds like he's losing the plot. Enjoy ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 28 June 2012: Well
He CAN still hurt you further because you have hope.He called and you jumped. Nice dinner,meet the friends, all good.No point declining a lift to work really was there
Who knows he may ask to rekindle the relationship he's clearly up to so... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 24 June 2012: Hi
He asked to 'pop over' later, means 'can we have sex' later. I think hes having problems letting go completely. Spare yourself torment and leave him to decide what he needs to do. Let him really miss you. In the meantime try and distract... (read in full...)
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