When is it too late for true love?
Q. At what age do you think its too late for true love? ...
A. 13 June 2012:
Its never too late, so long as your breathing... (read in full...)
What goes around comes around!
Q. My ex is really suffering now but I don't know whether to feel sorry or avenged for how he has treated me in the past. He left me to marry somebody else. His marriage has now broken down even though he's been trying to get back with her but she...
A. 12 June 2012: Hi
Hes just feeling sorry for himself and as he hasn't done much to win you over of late, I think he knows he has burnt his bridges as far as your concerned.
You don't really need to 'do' anything, just carry on with your life same as before h... (read in full...)
I want to do these things but she's not keen... Is she holding me back and will this work?
Q. We live in a large town up North. My partner is a lecturer but is thinking about moving career over summer. We've been dating for 5 years and living together for almost 3. I'm in my early 30s and she's in her late 20s. I work from home and I'...
A. 12 June 2012: Hi
No your not being unreasonable,the way I see it is you only get one life so if you want to follow your dreams,set up in London,then do it.Its hardly a mid-life crisis.
I know relationships are about compramise, but it has to work both ways. ... (read in full...)
Worried about this girl that's become close to my b/f
Q. I'm really worried about a girl becoming close with my bf. we've been together just over a year but he had to move away for work 4 months ago (he comes home every weekend and I'm moving there also in August). He's obviously made a lot of new ...
A. 11 June 2012: Hi
You are right to be concerned, this girl is clearly after your boyfriend. Whether its reciprocated is another matter. Your boyfriend lied, for whatever reason about being at her place. However. He still comes home weekends to you, he can't be... (read in full...)
Do you have to be physically attracted to someone to have sex with them?
Q. I think I worded a question wrong the other day, but what I really wanted to know is do men sleep with women that they aren't physically attracted to, especially more than once. I think my suggested question title got changed and people basicall...
A. 11 June 2012: Hi
Depends really, some guys have beer goggles and when sober cannot believe who they slept with. If sober, well I would have thought if they weren't attracted their bodily parts wouldn't function. But I am not a man so don't know if this is the c... (read in full...)
I'm truly smitten but he wants to keep it a casual relationship. What do I do?
Q. Hi, I'm 41 and just came out of a 20+ year marriage. Met a guy online, met in real life, 'clicked' physically and (for me at least) emotionally. But he hasn't. THe sex is incredible - first person I have orgasmed with ever - and I am utterly smit...
A. 11 June 2012: Hi there
If he has told you he wants to keep it casual, but exclusive, then he wants his cake and his freedom.
After a 20+ year marriage you may want great sex, but if you go down this road its going to hurt you even more than it is now.You ar... (read in full...)
Do men sleep with women just for the sex?
Q. Will men really sleep with a girl if they don't fancy them? Not talking about beer goggles time when drunk. Stone cold sober, pre meditated chatting someone up in the expectation of having sex?...
A. 10 June 2012: Hi
Both men and women have sex for the sake of it, the need to be intimate,the release of pent up frustrations. If 2 adults are in the same situation and consent, I really cannot see a problem with it.
If some man or woman 'uses' a person ... (read in full...)
Do I put up or shut up?
Q. Hi, guys. i will try keep this short but i really would like some advice. I have been living with my partner for 3 years been together for 4. He has 2 children from a previous marraige that spend a lot of time with us. We take them on holidays. Buy ...
A. 10 June 2012: Hi
Hard as it is, I would leave. Your partner is putting his kids first which up to a point is fine.But he should be backing you some of the time,telling his kids to help with chores etc, your not some maid servant for the 3 of them.
When ... (read in full...)
If it's so great there how come I can't go too?
Q. I'm 31, my wife's 30, and we're from Seminole, Florida. However, she's recently been doing a disappearing act, going off to Duluth, Minnesota, and I cannot for the life of me work out why... and even worse, she's used my favourite car for this (my...
A. 10 June 2012: Hi
I think you should leave a message saying your in that area and have come to collect your car.
OR report it as stolen and give the police the name of the last place you knew where it was.I hope she is safe and not come to harm,the police ... (read in full...)
None of the men I meet stick around!
Q. Hi I would be really grateful for any answers to this I am a single parent to a little girl who is 4 I have no problem meeting men but they do not stick around here's some background info met a man fell pregnant after a year (my daughters father) ...
A. 10 June 2012: Hi
All good advice from posters, especially Cerberus. Your still involved emotionally and seeing your FWB, you can't simply say you are going to give him up, just do it. Let him go. Until you do no man will want an in depth relationship with you... (read in full...)
Baggage from the break-up is getting in the way with new guys
Q. My boyfriend and i split up 8 months ago but he wont stop texting me abusive texts, leaving abusive messages (still after this long)etc. He calls me such horrible names and makes me feel like its my fault that he got depressed because i broke up ...
A. 9 June 2012: Hi,
Go to the police, show them the texts explain whats happened. Change your number too. Its gonna take a while to totally relax, but you'll get there in the end. You already know theres good guys out there.... (read in full...)
BF doesn't want to come to my place on the weekends. What are some solutions?
Q. My BF and I's situation is that he lives at home and i live by myself. He does not like travelling down to my place every weekend. If i go to his, his mum and dad are there. (we are late 20's). For the two years of our relationship before i moved ...
A. 9 June 2012: Hi
Seems to me you do all the legwork, you have always gone to him. Well you have your own place now,plus animals. Your late 20s, you would think he would enjoy being without parents around - at yours
I dont know what the distance is betw... (read in full...)
I'm too shy to ask! Is he just playing it cool?
Q. Hiya everyone I have been on 2 dates with a man I met 6 weeks ago the last date was 2 weeks ago we still text now and again but he has made no arrangements to meet up again even though he has left some of his cds at mine do you think he is not ...
A. 9 June 2012: Ring him, don't text,ask when he's free next. Then he knows your interested. Tell him you have his CDs and will bring them with you on your next date. That way you can make plans and he knows your keen... (read in full...)
Can you make a summer romance work?
Q. I have just got back from a lads holiday in magaluf, im 24 and have been single for 7months, I wasnt looking for anything with anyone but when on holiday we met a group of girls and a guy, we all clicked and spent the majority of our holiday ...
A. 9 June 2012: Hi
The only hurdle I can see is the distance but only you two will know if you can handle it. If shes been cheated on she may be a bit insecure but you proved you respect her when on holiday,and she definately likes you.Distance relation... (read in full...)
Should I just be lending the money as a loving girlfriend and not expecting it back?
Q. Hi guys, can anyone help with this..........I've been with my partner for 2 and half years now and around 3 months ago I asked him to move in with me. It's my house, he was living with his parents. There is quite a pay disparity between us, I earn ...
A. 8 June 2012: I would ride it out till September when his debts are cleared, then see what happens,its not so far away. You knew his financial situation but still asked him to move in,he didn't hide his debts or lie.
If he's generous with his parents then it ... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I get naked for this European guy online?
Q. I have been chatting with this guy in Europe for about six months now. I am VERY attracted to him and I think he feels the same way. We always have great chats and make each other laugh. He constantly tells me how beautiful and perfect I am and that ...
A. 8 June 2012: Hi
Your an adult so it's up to you. You know the dangers ,you know he could be sharing it with his friends, you know that you, naked, could be all over the worldwide web.He will tell you anything to keep you sweet,how do you know he isn't recordin... (read in full...)
I am feeling really neglected by my boyfriend and I'm not sure whether I should cut my losses now, or whether there is anything I can do to change this situation because I do love him.
Q. Basically I am feeling really neglected by my boyfriend and I'm not sure whether I should cut my losses now, or whether there is anything I can do to change this situation because I do love him. I am 26 (he is 24 so maybe it's because he's younger?) ...
A. 8 June 2012: Hi
Yes,cut your losses and break free. This lad is not ready for a relationship,his priority is himself and his life. Fair enough at his age, he just likes the idea of a girlfriend waiting for him, which you have up to now.
If you want more,wh... (read in full...)
Should I send him this text telling him I like him?
Q. Hey guys! So this isn't really a problem, I just need some advice. I started talking to this guy a few weeks ago. It was apparent that he liked me. He kept saying he missed me, called me babe a lot, asked me to send him pics of me, etc. one day he ...
A. 7 June 2012: Hi
This isnt a relationship, hes just some guy you talk to or text. I assume he has never asked to meet up so no, why bother telling him you like him. You dont know enough.How can he miss you when he hasnt spent time with you.Stop sending texts an... (read in full...)
Keep my safe, secure job, or move abroad with hubby?
Q. Hey! Been married a few months, been with my hubbie forever. He's just found out he's gonna have to move abroad for 5 years for work (his firm asked him that and he cannot refuse). He's got a great job and it's gonna be nearly impossible for him to ...
A. 7 June 2012: Hi
No doubts at all in my mind,you go with him. He's your husband and your a partnership. So what if you have a safe job. 5 years is a long time and you may have packed up the job to start a family if you had both stayed home.
Embrace the c... (read in full...)
Is there a future or will things fizze out?
Q. Ok so here's the story so far - Got chatting to a guy online. He initiated the conversation and we got on well online. I offered my number and the following day he text me and conversations continued through text. We met up for a coffee during ...
A. 7 June 2012: Hi
Just tread carefully, treat it lightly, you barely know him. If he takes you out and takes time to get to know you,good. One thing that sticks out is the fact he texts you from a work phone and pops out from work to see you. I hope he isn't ma... (read in full...)
Do you believe a cheater can change their ways?
Q. Do you believe a cheater can change their ways?? Ive been with my boyf for 2yrs, he was with his ex partner for 15yrs and hav 2 children together. I hav no reason to think he's cheating on me, but he confessed when he was drunk that he cheated on ...
A. 6 June 2012: Hi
I don't know why he felt the need to brag/confess to you , feel very sorry for his Ex too.
Could be it was cos he was young and silly but its there between you now and you will always wonder every time he vanishes for 20 minutes.It depen... (read in full...)
FWB relationship of 4 years. Is he insecure? Jealous?
Q. So ive had a sex buddy for 4 years on and off! We both got what we wanted out of it however im now 25 and want more! I told him that i liked him and wanted more therefore think we should stop seeing eachother... we keeped in touch and i told him i ...
A. 6 June 2012: Hi
He just doesn't want to lose his free sex to somebody else. Its so you thought of him he got in touch when he did.
Stop the contact, hes just messing with your head and you really don't need to let him know who or when your dating, thats ju... (read in full...)
Boyfriend of 15 years will not divorce his wife!
Q. Hi, I have been with my live in boyfriend for 15 years. He has given me 2 engagement rings, (not diamonds) but when I told someone we were engaged, he got very angry. I drive him to and from work, as he works in a bar. He lost his license for 3 ye...
A. 6 June 2012: Hi
Sell your house, clear your debt, lose the man.
Get a rented place, find yourself a job, build a new life.
This man must think he's the dogs gonads with women doing everything for him while he plays the rock star One day you will laugh a... (read in full...)
Got involved with a co-worker and now he's acting weird. I'd like to clear the air, any advice?
Q. I am a 34 year old woman, and a situation has occured that has confused me. A guy started working in my office about 6 months ago. He is much younger than me (24), and very quickly i noticed he had taken a shine to me, and was following me around, ...
A. 6 June 2012: Hi
Honestly, I think he was trying to 'pop his cherry' with an experienced older woman whilst working in this country. He totally embarassed himself with his performance and has moved on to somebody new.He clearly isn't mature for his age as his b... (read in full...)
I've fallen for a man, but the age difference bothers me. What should I do?
Q. I'm in the need of some help, I have fallen in love with this man, he is a dream man, the only problem is the age difference, he is 17 years older than me, he doesn't look it he looks about 34-35 max, I didn't realise his age at the time when he ...
A. 5 June 2012: Hi
Forget the age difference and give him a fair chance. Its only things like wanting kids that may cause problems but your a long way from that stage - you barely know him yet,but you DO like him... (read in full...)
Dating/sex between super skinny guy and UK size 20/22 girl
Q. Hi, Please help - I'd really value some objective opinions! I joined an online dating site a few weeks ago and have since then met a lovely guy, who i have started going on a few dates with after exchanging emails and text messages. We've ...
A. 5 June 2012: Hi
I think you sound amazing,honest and upfront
You told him the truth, he met and dated you not once but twice and your heading for the third date.He clearly sees you for what you are, inside and out AND likes it. Or he would be long gone
... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is paying for all of his ex's bills and I don't think its right
Q. Hello everyone! I need some advice on a situation. I’ve been dating this guy for 1 month but I’ve known him for 5 months. I always said I would never date a guy with kids and when I asked him in the beginning if he has kids, he said he’s doing a DNA ...
A. 5 June 2012: Hi
Kindest thing you can do is stay broken up with him. You can't cope with the scenario and it will never change, go find a child-free man. He will never put you and your views first because he is decent and doesn't want to leave his innocent... (read in full...)
Boyfriend will be away for 2 weeks and I don't think I can cope with it
Q. Hi, My boyfriend of over 2 years is away to Europe for the next 2 weeks due to work commitments. We are extremely close, and best friends as well as a couple. This means that we see each other literally all the time and enjoy each other's constant...
A. 5 June 2012: Hi
You really need to get a grip, 2 weeks is nothing,its 14 days thats all. If you can't cope for that brief time you need to take a long hard look at your life and yourself.Some peoples army husbands get sent to war zones, for months,r... (read in full...)
How do you embrace being single for the rest of your life?
Q. Hello guy and girls. My question is how do i stop feeling lonely? I have a great net work of friends and am an independent single female who has never met the right man for me. I would love to have companionship but as i have gotten older the chan...
A. 5 June 2012: Hi You have alot on your plate, working full-time and caring for your Mum. You must get weary of the responsibility and want to share your life with somebody special. Why accept that you will be single forever, your hardly past it and touching... (read in full...)
I told him I was sorry I created a drunken scene at his work, but I still havent heard from him in 2 weeks
Q. I have made some mistakes in my relationship with my last boyfriend. He is not perfect either. We were seeing each other for about 3 months. We rushed into the relationship. He is still legally married but separated. One day he said he wanted to ...
A. 4 June 2012: Hi
As the others have said, 3 months into a relationship (or even 12 months), going to his work drunk and making a scene - is a relationship killer.
Put it behind you, few, if any men would tolerate this kind of drama, it portrays you as ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is ready for sex, but I'm not. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend wants sex with me and I told him that I don't know how, I obviously do know how but I think he will be disappointed and might break up with me. But he said 'it's ok I will teach you how' I don't think I am ready for it though, and I do...
A. 4 June 2012: Hi
Do not be pressured into sex, if your not ready then tell him just that. Do not do it just to keep him because honey, if he cares,he will wait and understand.... (read in full...)
I've got to the stage where I feel scared of my boyfriend
Q. Hiya I have this bf ive been with for a year he speaks to me like poo on his shoe swears at me shouts at I caught him on a dating websites. I love him such a lot and he will be crude to me then turn the opposite and be soo lovely cos he knows he's ...
A. 4 June 2012: Hi
If one of your mates said all you have said about HER boyfriend you would tell her to dump him asap.
He has no hold over you at all,you dont even live together. He scares you, that is NOT how you should feel, you should feel loved and respec... (read in full...)
What can I do about my landlord, the slob, neglecter of animals, general idiot
Q. I'm currently private renting/lodging in a house shared with the landlord and paying £300 all in for rent, on the basis that we have one of the 3 bedrooms and share the living room, bathroom, kitchen and garden. For the first 10-11 months, we didn’t ...
A. 4 June 2012: Hi
Bad situation but you have a bargain, £300 all in and you can have a dog. Thats excellent rates and your landlord knows it. If your not working and he is, then cleaning up isn't really an issue is it. I would ask him to clean the bathroom... (read in full...)
How would you handle a spouse that is self absorbed and not affectionate unless it directly benefits him
Q. My question is #1 When you love a person how do you cope with rejection and inconsideration? #2 How would you handle a spouse that is self absorbed and not affectionate unless it directly benefits him? Here is my situation I am still in love wi...
A. 4 June 2012: Hi
Your marriage is making you miserable, you have tried talking and reasoning with him. He wants to control you, he knows he is losing you. You have done all you can to appease him. Time to call it a day.
Get your life in order, see a Lawy... (read in full...)
I thought he was younger, but what if he is older?
Q. I need some advice on older men. I am 29 years old and a few days ago I met a man who very kindly gave me his number for me to get in touch to go out, I was extrmely flattered I put his age at about 33 - 35 but have know discovered that he could be ...
A. 4 June 2012: Hi
Ask him how old he is if it bothers you that much, I don't know how you can tell from his job to be honest?Thing is you should be able to tell by looking at him theres a big difference in 30s than 40s!
If you meet in the day, for lunch s... (read in full...)
Ex was a swinger and I ended things. was it because of me?
Q. Hi everyone just an update the ex partner of mine is well and truely gone, however , before I ended it he proceeded to tell me that he wanted me to go to his swinging club party and wanted me to catch him in the act !!! he told me he went with a man ...
A. 4 June 2012: Hi
Everyone struggles after a break-up, especially when the person we loved was not who we thought. We feel they let us down where in fact they are only human,good or bad, and humans are all different.
Its nobodys 'fault' his sexual preferanc... (read in full...)
He hurt me so much yet I still love him and want him back
Q. Hi there. I need some advice I have just ended a nine year relashionship and now five months on I feel it was the biggest mistake of my life, all I do is constantly think about him and realise just how much I love him, we finished because he had an ...
A. 2 June 2012: Hi Sometimes being in love means taking all the rubbish just to hold on to a rubbish man. Your not thinking of him with rose-coloured specs, you KNOW why you ended it. Maybe its just lonliness thats making you feel this way. He sure did you n... (read in full...)
Girlfriend keeps asking for money. plz help?
Q. hi im 32 and my girlfriend 42. we dont live together and im at parents but stay with her some nights. when shes paid she gets food and yes does get it for us both but when im paid she keeps asking for things like fags and milk and cakes and also has ...
A. 2 June 2012: Hi Your right to say no, your not her cashpoint your her boyfriend. As you have told her not to buy food for you and have cut back on visits, then its down to her if she buys in enough for you. She is not your responsibility. If she continue... (read in full...)
Is it normal for women to only like one night stands?
Q. Hi Just after some opinions really. I know we hear a lot about blokes liking one night stands then losing interest, but I seem to be the female equivilant. I am so happy in my life right now in all ways, and I love being single. Yet I also love ...
A. 2 June 2012: Hi
'Normal' is what works for you. Provided you use protection every time so theres no health risk. If you can cope with the situation and not get emotionally damaged, then as an adult,single, do what you want.
I wouldn't consider it long... (read in full...)
Boyfriend says he won't cheat but is bored in the bedroom
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together almost 2 1/2 years and we have a one year old little girl. he has no interest in me sexually anymore though, he says hes just bored, says he wont cheat but is bored so nothing ever happens in the bedroom. how ...
A. 2 June 2012: Hi
He doesn't help the situation much, telling your partner your bored isn't the best way to make them want sex with you.
He sounds very immature and tactless. Your gonna have to work hard to get his interest and its surprising you want to.
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Why does he keep saying he'll ring me but he doesn't?
Q. Okay so quick question, at the moment I am really poorly and havnt moved from bed for two days my mums really worried about me and is looking after me. I have slept for two days and wake up every now and then, when I do I message my boyfriend on ...
A. 2 June 2012: Hi
Sorry your not well, your so called boyfriend isn't helping much is he.
Think you should just leave it for now, dont text him,he doesn't sound very sympathetic,focus on getting better.
You dont give much information either.
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How would you handle a spouse that is self absorbed and not affectionate unless it directly benefits him
Q. My question is #1 When you love a person how do you cope with rejection and inconsideration? #2 How would you handle a spouse that is self absorbed and not affectionate unless it directly benefits him? Here is my situation I am still in love wi...
A. 24 May 2012: Hi
Good that the situations improving and your getting some me time and money. I have worked nights when the kids were small and know how hard it is, I can still recall grabbing a couple of hours sleep between nursery and school runs. My partner ... (read in full...)
How would you handle a spouse that is self absorbed and not affectionate unless it directly benefits him
Q. My question is #1 When you love a person how do you cope with rejection and inconsideration? #2 How would you handle a spouse that is self absorbed and not affectionate unless it directly benefits him? Here is my situation I am still in love wi...
A. 19 May 2012: Hi It sounds like a total reorganisation of your lives is required here. Do you really need to work nights,6 nights a week is a ridiculous amount when you have children. I know because I worked 4 nights with only a few hours sleep and it made me... (read in full...)
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