Do you think by my family knowing we had affair it will help with the guilt I have?
Q. I had an affair with the father of the child I was a nanny for. After doing this for 18 month the guilt became to much and even though I love him I told him we had to end things because he was married. He left his wife and filed for divorce so we ...
A. 16 May 2012: Hi I think you should weigh up if this relationship is worth it. Just because you love him doesnt make it alright,its making you miserable and eaten up with guilt. Your folks, his folks, everyone is unhappy about how you met. Both you and he were ... (read in full...)
What is happening here? Is my landlord attracted to me?
Q. Hi everyone. I recently started renting and my landlord seems a nice guy..polite in the way he talks and treats everyone around him. My house is not completed so from time to time we communicate on the plans for the day. He keeps calling me ...
A. 16 May 2012: Hi
Your mis reading the signals. He is your landlord you his tenant, its a business arrangement and he wants the rent! Hes probably extremely grateful you moved in when it wasnt even ready, now your putting up with builders and all the inconven... (read in full...)
Worried about messing things up with my date, how do I get past these feelings?
Q. Hi I have a date coming up next weekend I like the guy he seems like a really nice person and he's good looking but I'm so worried and nervous as I'm a single mum to a 3 year old girl and have been alone with her since she was born. I always attract ...
A. 16 May 2012: Hi
Just be yourself,relax, he asked you out so he must like you already.
Do not rush into anything, no sex till you get to know him well,dont invite him round to yours after the date. Think of stuff you can ask him about, like his job or any s... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm to blame for making him unhappy and drink!
Q. Please help,I have recently been dumped by my boyfriend of over 2 years,I loved him so much and stood by him( has he is a alcoholic(I dint know til a few month after we got serious)but I stood by him when other people didn't! He abused me verbally ...
A. 16 May 2012: Hi
You are not responsible for his drinking. He drank before you met him, he chooses to continue to drink and lets face it he is a nasty drunk.
You and your child deserve better. His drinking is his problem, not yours. Do not let him into you... (read in full...)
She's a beautiful woman but very demanding and I'm confused and disillusioned
Q. I am in a relationship with a "now"divorced woman of 52 yrs.We regularly have discussions,and Im told repeatedly...Im shouting at her/raising my voice,but she has 50%hearing loss in both ears,she wont wear aids....she feels like because she pays ...
A. 16 May 2012: Hi
I really don't see the point in continuing this relationship, you have not stated one positive thing about it.Just that she is a beautiful woman. Well thats not enough reason to stay is it... (read in full...)
Turns out my FWB was married and lying to me! He doesn't know I know. What now?
Q. Hi everyone I have just founf out my fwb is married with children and now I feel so guilty I have ended this with him but still see him every day as we live in the same place I know what fwbs all about but I had fallen in love with him and now I ...
A. 16 May 2012: Hi
He must be very good at covering his tracks if you see him every day,live in the same area,but you've only just found out he is married with kids. You do not DO anything, he is the one who has lied to you, you were innocent and fell in love. Hi... (read in full...)
Questions you have always wanted the answers to?
Q. So my best friend and I asked this question a few months ago for a book we're writing and there was loads of feedback. But we're asking it again in the hope that we'll get more great questions. If you could have any and all of your questions a...
A. 15 May 2012: Why do you line up a woman to move on to by cheating, when you have had enough of your wife- why not just leave?
Why do some men have so many hobbies then expect a woman to fit in round them when dating?
Why do you see some women as wife m... (read in full...)
What should I wear for the first date?
Q. Hi everyone I recently asked a question of how often you saw a fwb and how they treated you and got some great answers now I have ended the fwb as I realised how badly he treated me so now I have another question I have a date a week on saturday and ...
A. 14 May 2012: Hi
Have a great date.Skinny jeans,and a glam top...heels if its out for drink or meal. Its a step in right direction... (read in full...)
A man wearing pink skinny jeans?
Q. First reaction/ thought that comes to mind when you see a male wearing red/pink skinny jeans???...
A. 14 May 2012:
'He's brave '... (read in full...)
Is being the 'instigator' of a breakup just as hard as being broken up with??
Q. Im feeling so utterly terrible after ending a 3 year relationship that im beginning to wonder if being the one ending it is just as hard as being the one who has been broken up with. Not only do i have to wonder how my ex is feeling, coping etc i ...
A. 13 May 2012: Hi
Yes ofcourse its hard,especially when they have done nothing bad, like cheating. If you fall out of love,can see no future, its kinder to end it. We cannot be responsible for others happiness and as hard as it is, ending a relationship is best ... (read in full...)
She still texts and I don't think she is moving on!
Q. So I'm 23 and about 10 months ago things started happening with a friend, we hadn't really talked that much one on one before, but we were part of the same circle of friends. This was towards the end of my degree at university, while she still had ...
A. 13 May 2012: Hi there
I think you have been pretty patient up to now. Very understanding. Does seem to bother you alot she is still in regular contact though. So, just stop it, you have been polite, told her to reduce contact.Now its time to just stop respondi... (read in full...)
How do I move on? It's always him who's in my head!
Q. I feel pathetic. I'm 33 years old and I should be past all this by now. I met a guy almost 4 years ago. It was a night out that I wasn't even going to go on. I met this guy in a bar who turned out to be a friend of a friend of a friend. ...
A. 13 May 2012: Hi there
You have had this feeling for so long because you never actually let him go, regardless of the arrangement you were still living in hope,maybe still are this minute.
Let go of the hope, think of those guys you may have met if you had n... (read in full...)
The distance is ruining our marriage, should I keep trying to work on the marriage or give up?
Q. we live two cities apart and we have been married for 4 years. during all this period i have been the one calling everyday and he only calls when i complain about it.I have been neglecting him since our son was born 3years ago, he says it’s because ...
A. 11 May 2012: Hi
Why do you live two cities apart when you have been husband and wife for 4 years?
Its no shock your marriage is in trouble when you don't even live in the same city let alone the same house. Resigning from your job and moving now may b... (read in full...)
My partner left his wife to be with me so I got what I wanted in the end, but I cant stop feeling horrible about what we did....
Q. I worked as a nanny for a family with a infant son for the past 2 1/2 years. "Lisa" the mom was a workaholic who loved her social life when she wasnt working, "Rick" the father was very good looking and he knew it and would playfully flirt with ...
A. 11 May 2012: Hi there
If you are now living in their marital home, with 'Rick' and his son,then it is no surprise you are feeling guilty.Its a constant reminder of what and where it happened. His family will have worked out you were seeing him while they wer... (read in full...)
Is he just missing what he had, or does he really think we can try again?
Q. Does he just think we can.get back.together forget the past and play happy family's? My.ex and I broke up 6 mths ago. It was I who ended.it as he hadn't treated me very well during our 8 yr relationship. To cut a long story.short, we had 2 kids. He ...
A. 10 May 2012: Hi
He probs sat in his new house with new furniture and thought how empty it all is. Thats not your problem. He did not buy the house for his kids,you and him,was happy to live at yours, he has a bad temper,is controlling and he has never committe... (read in full...)
I want to earn money and get experience but can't find anything
Q. so i feel a little deflated because i am unable to study in the usa in the fall. i still plan on studying in the usa but i just can't afford it at the moment. i have no job and no money i don't feel depressed just down a little. i want to do somet...
A. 10 May 2012: Hi
Its very hard getting into graphic design, without a degree - if your studying for one, then start by voluntary work, or intern. Send out CV and letters to firms that employ graphic designers. You can get a summer job doing anything if its cash... (read in full...)
Could friends with benefits work better than a long-distance relationship?
Q. so for nearly a year i've know this guy. we have similar interests, and we message each other and talk constantly. we try and meet up every week (if not more often) to just chat, and he has become one of my closest friends. to this point our ...
A. 10 May 2012: Hi
I would keep him purely in friend zone, you will have a whole new life at University and could meet numerous guys who you would like to date. He sounds lovely it would be a shame to spoil the friendship. As for FWB, thats risky in that one of y... (read in full...)
My moms health is getting worse and she refuses to see a doctor?
Q. Hi, I could really use some advice. My mom is not well. She has some kind of mood disorder which causes her to cry, lash out in extreme anger, and then be perfectly fine. Sometimes all of these moods happen in the same day. I have asked a doctor, ...
A. 10 May 2012: Hi
How old is your mum? Could be something to do with the menopause - that causes terrible mood swings amongst other things.
You could suggest it, that she talks to her doctor about it,its a natural condition. If its not that then her doctor ... (read in full...)
What makes a man want a FWB and not a relationship?
Q. Hi everyone just a quick question all the guys I meet only want a fwb, what makes a man want a fwb with you but not actually a proper relationship? thank you ...
A. 10 May 2012:
He has used you, he has hurt you badly. Do not let this continue. He tried dating you but decided he would just have sex with you instead of moving forward. He is not a nice person and it must hurt like hell
He is just ONE man. Not ALL men will... (read in full...)
He is draining me of energy with his constant need of attention!
Q. Been dating my boyfriend for 4 months now, we are both in our 40s, I have children but he doesn't. We live in different towns around 30 mins drive away. I would say we see each other around 3-4 times a week depending on his football plans. ...
A. 10 May 2012: Hi
He is just too immature to cope with a grown up, independant woman. To accept you have children and a life of your own besides him. I assume you work and run a home too. He doesnt seem to have the skills to sit and talk about the relation... (read in full...)
What makes a man want a FWB and not a relationship?
Q. Hi everyone just a quick question all the guys I meet only want a fwb, what makes a man want a fwb with you but not actually a proper relationship? thank you ...
A. 9 May 2012:
Sugarbuns says it perfectly............ (read in full...)
This is my second marriage, what's the right way to go about it? Is it inappropriate to make a registry,have the shower, get the big dress, have the ceremony with attendants, and the traditional reception?
Q. My fiance and I are getting married. We are so excited!!! The problem is. This will be my 2nd marriage and his first. I don't know how to approach the planning process. My fiance and his family want to experience all the joys of a first time ...
A. 9 May 2012: Hi
You love him, your both excited about the marriage, shout it from the rooftops, celebrate in style. Its a fresh partnership, it doesn't matter if its your 5th, do as you want.Let the world know how happy you are!... (read in full...)
I'm dating 3 guys and having sex with them all!
Q. well im currently dating 3 guys and have sex with all, im not proud of it , but i was the average good girl who loved a guy with my all, and in return he cheated and caused lots of heart aches,anyhow i started of as friends with all and well, i feel ...
A. 9 May 2012: Hi
Pick one and stick to your guns. Just hope he never finds out you were seeing the other 2. OR end it with all and be single for a while,get your self esteem back. It always gives a huge knock when somebody we love,cheats. That was his choice, ... (read in full...)
Fiance won't leave his ailing mother to move in with me
Q. i have been with my fiance for 4 years. i am 41 and he is 49. he is my true soulmate and we have been very happy together.unfortunately he lost his dad 2 years ago and his mum became unwell so my fiance decided to move back home and look after his ...
A. 9 May 2012: Hi
When I lost my mum my dad was like a fish out of water, didn't know what direction to go, they had been together forever. It took 2 or 3 years,but he built up a life of his own, friends helped him.He was never the same though.
If your man f... (read in full...)
Things were going great with my MM until he separated?
Q. Have been having a relationship with my married boss for the past 4 years. It's a long story how it came about, but short version is it wasn't planned. We just got along well and he persued me first then we slept together and it went on from ...
A. 8 May 2012: Hi there
He is your first love and proper relationship, HIS relationship with his wife has ended.He was not free to see you and now he is, he has to get through the divorce and the fall-out.
Thing is if he could cheat on his wife for half of... (read in full...)
I don't trust my boyfreind. Am I being overly suspicious?
Q. dear all. Please help. I don.t trust my boyfreind,as he is not open,and is secretive. Pls read the following of what.s just happened this weekend,and tell me if i.m being overly suspicious. My boyfreinds freind who lives out of town called him last ...
A. 8 May 2012: Hi
After reading your updates I can see why you got out of the relationship. They show the whole picture more than the initial question.
You have done the right thing for you,ending it, because he is not making you happy. Hope things work out ... (read in full...)
Should I give him an ultimatum or wait for his divorce?
Q. I am in my mid 50's. My partner and I have been dating for over two years. He lives an hour from me and has joint custody of his 17 yr old daughter. We both have our own businesses so are happy not to live together at this stage. His wife is an ...
A. 7 May 2012: Hi
Sounds like its financial reasons holding him back, like getting his daughter through college, then selling the home,his priorities.It shows he is responsible as a father.
If your not in a rush to live with or marry him then his divorce... (read in full...)
I found out boyfriend has a profile and is actively seeking others. How do I approach him with this?
Q. My boyfriend and I been together a year and one night at work I was looking for a chat room to talk to people when I stumbled on a dating site where u could look and see what kind of people are on there and I saw my boyfriend on there with a profile ...
A. 7 May 2012: Hi
Check to see if it is recent,if it is print it off and confront him.
Do you always look for chatrooms when at work because he might just throw that back at you.... (read in full...)
Would it be okay to ask my boyfriend who's texting him so late at night, or is it none of my business?
Q. sometimes really late at night (2-4 am) I can hear my boyfriend's phone go off (text message sound on an iphone). this has only happened a few times, but it makes me feel uncomfortable. would it be okay for me to ask who is texting him so l...
A. 7 May 2012: Hi
You can ask, but with iphones it could be anything. If it wakes you just ask him to switch it off..Mines on charge through the night... (read in full...)
I don't trust my boyfreind. Am I being overly suspicious?
Q. dear all. Please help. I don.t trust my boyfreind,as he is not open,and is secretive. Pls read the following of what.s just happened this weekend,and tell me if i.m being overly suspicious. My boyfreinds freind who lives out of town called him last ...
A. 7 May 2012: Hi
I clean my place when visitors are coming, its just something you do,he didnt hide it from you.His friend was probably staying at his, its only one night so why wouldnt he. You knew he was going out because you overheard the conversa... (read in full...)
Should I take this job offer for the reality show?
Q. Should I take this job offer? Basically, I am currently the youngest assisstant head teacher in Britain and I have been approached by a TV network to make a reality show where I spend a week in different schools around the world to see what teac...
A. 5 May 2012: Hi
Its a difficult choice. Me, I would go do it and love every minute,not so much being filmed 24/7, but the opportunity to travel and learn and see where it could lead job wise.Its out of your comfort zone but thats a good thing.I am single t... (read in full...)
Now that it seems my husband and I are going to succeed his vile sister wants a piece of the action!
Q. Hello everyone, I am in need of advice about my husband's sister. (ugh I feel odd just typing that) My husband moved to my state from one up north to get into a college he wanted. Well of course life throws twist. He met me!(I am a mother as well...
A. 5 May 2012: Hi there
Yes he will love his sister,she was his 'mum'.they were affected badly by their childhood and your husband is lucky to have come through it and met you. Part of that is because of his sister so she is not all bad
I feel she wants h... (read in full...)
Why say you'll do something and then not do it?
Q. I'm just wondering if anyone has an insight into this coz i don't have a clue. I woz talking to this guy online last night, seemed like a nice guy and were having a nice conversation. He messaged me this morning saying he cud chat tonight, if i woz ...
A. 5 May 2012: Hi
He was talking to another girl, or talking to mates or just left his PC on and was not near it. It happens,you pass the time online when bored, then forget about it. Just wait and dont focus on or worry about him
... (read in full...)
I still yearn for this guy and I'm married!
Q. I am in desperate need of an honest opinion about a situation that has been ongoing for 9 years that I can’t tell anyone about! WARNING – This is possibly the longest post ever! Here's the story, for anyone who may care enough to read through ...
A. 5 May 2012: Hi
Now you have confessed via an email there are still unanswered questions and you continue to think about him so it has not ended the dilema at all. He said he was 'certain' you would never have been happy with him and he feels he has been a n... (read in full...)
I have let a 19 year old chat me up, and now I'm wondering, what's the harm?
Q. Been a silly girl I know. But have let a 19 yr old chat me up, he's obviously only after one thing, trouble is, I am 40. We're both single. But... Anyway, I have been single 4 yrs now, and working non stop, I keep thinking so what! Bit of fun? All...
A. 4 May 2012: hi I say go for it, with no expectations. So long as you can rely on his discretion, trust him not to broadcast every move.Then why not... (read in full...)
Are men put off by women who have given birth?
Q. question for the men on here.. Are men put off by women who have given birth? either because they watched their partner give birth which has put them off sex and can't get the image of their head of seeing partner being stretched and watching som...
A. 4 May 2012: Well If they were there would be hundreds of millions of women worldwide with no partner and only one child... (read in full...)
Is my boss attracted to me? If he is, how do I let him know I am attracted to him too?
Q. I am very much confused by a certain individual. He is much older than I am and he is my boss. He is not my immediate supervisor, but he is a higher up in the company and I work with him quite a lot. (I am aware that this is considered by most to be ...
A. 4 May 2012: Hi
He could have asked you out over the 3 years at some point but has not,when he knows your single.
Sooo he either thinks YOU are far too young for HIM and looks on you in a fatherly way.
Or he does not mix work with dating, you are a v... (read in full...)
Married to a distant, abusive man and I'm desperate to be touched and loved and I'm wondering about how it would be with this man!
Q. Confused! I am 33 years old, been with my husband for 12 years- married for 5 years-no children. Our marriage is not good-we have not had sex for almost a year and before that is was twice a years-continually got less and less throughout the y...
A. 4 May 2012: Hi
You do not have to have an affair. Divorce your husband there is no love on either side,its over,dead.
Once you are free you can date whoever you want without having the mess of illicit realationships.
You deserve to be happy so do someth... (read in full...)
Is he playing ping-pong on Facebook with me? Shall I unfriend him again for ignoring me?
Q. long story, I added him on FB, he accpeted, then I unfriended him because I felt I needed to move on and my online "crush" wasn't going any where, so he sent me a text asking me, 'why I unfriended' him and asking me to stay in touch. I didn't for a ...
A. 4 May 2012: Hi
Yes unfriend,block and move on I dont know what his silly game is but it is clearly not going anywhere.Delete his number too and forget him.... (read in full...)
Would you learn a different language to be with someone?
Q. Here's the story. There's this girl that works with me. Before last week I never talked to her before. I would catch her looking at me from time to time. Always staring at me when she thought I wasn't looking. Most of the times I didn't know what to ...
A. 3 May 2012: HI
If you really like her then start with a 3 way conversation, get one of your friends/colleagues who is bi-lingual to translate for you. If it comes to anything then you can BOTH learn/teach each other your own languages... (read in full...)
We don't like C. Should we invite everyone and just let C's bf tag along?
Q. My three best friends (A, B, and C), and I are planning a graduation Europe trip. We are considering inviting our boyfriends as well as we are all very close and it would be very fun! However, none of us including the guys, can stand C's boyfrien...
A. 3 May 2012: Hi
Its a shame you dont see any good in C, even though your friend does. I would go for girls only as any other scenario is going to spoil the trip for everyone and put your friendship in jeapordy with the girl. ... (read in full...)
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