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writes:I'm currently dating a lovely girl, we are getting along great, and have now kissed three times, quite long make out sessions, twice indoors, then this weekend in the forest where we went for a walk.Last week we discussed that she wasn't comfortable with us going so far i.e. me sucking her breasts or fondling them too much. However in the forest, she placed my hands there, so I'm unsure what she wants now.However what I'm concerned about, is in those sessions, we haven't kissed open mouthed yet, she says she is shy, but has kissed many men, but this has been the third time, surely she could loosen up a bit by then?This is something I want, we've already seen each with less clothes on, and are clearly physically attracted to each other, even emotionally. Should I ask her why she doesn't do tongue kisses with me? I've listened to her and tried to respect her wishes for not going too far. Please help people, or give me a possible reason.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2012): Take your time OP there's no hurry. Some girls are just very coy at the start. Just keep going with the flow, don't exert extra pressure but do keep doing what you're doing. She'll probably come around if you're patient but also show enough interest not to give up easily either. Slow and easy OP and make sure your dates are more than just you and she alone.
Also make sure you're breath smells great, if you're a smoker have one before you leave the house, use mouthwash and wait until your date is over before having another, it doesn't matter if she's a smoker too.
The trick with girls like her is to show plenty of interest in her in other ways not just sexually but also show enough of a sexual desire too that she doesn't think you've been put off. Just relax and enjoy yourself and try not to think too deeply or be too eager.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (16 April 2012):
 I don't think there is a reason to be honest, she is just wanting to take things slow and wait until she is more comfortable with you. Just take your time with her, don't rush her in to anything, just take each date as it comes and see how it goes. If she is shy it just means she is not ready to let her guard down with you yet. Just try and get to know her more and worry less about the physical side of it until you know each other much better, am sure it will come in time, and hopefully it will be worth the wait.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (16 April 2012):
 Hi
Maybe you should hold back on these sessions till she makes it known she is ready to go the distance . Its just frustrating for you as she is giving out mixed messages . I think she wants to be sure about you before she goes any further . which is a compliment
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