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writes:Why do I feel this way? Is there something wrong with me?I'm a good girl with a big heart. All my friends say I'm gorgeous, friendly and really sweet. But I can't seem to find a guy to love me the way I love them.I get dumped each time I meet a guy. I loved my ex so much. We were in love. We were so cute together we weren't just bf and gf we were friends as well.Then he dumped me saying he wanted to be single but dated a girl after me. Now he says he's fallen out of love with me and cant love me again. But he wants us to be friends. He texts me a few times in a week.I'd never cheat or lie to a guy. Everywhere I go I see couples and it hurts cos I feel like I will never find love.I've been single for far too long. I feelso lonely. My friends say I should have casual sex with hot guys but that's something I can do. I have to be in love and in a relationship to do anything like that.Don't guys want a a gorgeous girl that will love him, be there for him.I've kinda given up with on love. I'm in my 20's.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2012): Cerberus is right you are still way too hung up on your ex and it shows.
No man would want to be 2nd best to him.
YOu need to get him out of your system before you can date anyone else.
What your really asking is as your so gorgeous, nice,sweet why did your ex leave you and then date another girl
Sh*t happens, he wasnt happy or in love with you so he moved on, let you go.He did right by you.
Now you have to get over that and grow up, rejection sucks but it happens to us all sometime.In a year you will wonder why you wasted time pining over him
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2012): "Don't guys want a a gorgeous girl that will love him, be there for him."
Not one that is still pining so strongly for an ex she's still in regular contact with. I wouldn't go near you OP, you're still in love with your ex by the sounds of things and while you and he text each other a few times a week, no one else stands a chance. You're too big a risk and one I would certainly not take.
You could tell me it's over all you want, you can tell me you don't really love him anymore and I simply would not believe you by the way you talk about him. I literally could not compete with that. I've been a rebound before a few times and would not go there again. Literally the biggest turn off in a woman for most of us guys is a girl who says thing like "I loved my ex so much. We were in love. We were so cute together we weren't just bf and gf we were friends as well." about an ex. That's the language of a girl who's not over him and seeing as they're in regular contact and he's the one who broke it off, that means if he were to change his mind and want you back, you'd dump any guy you're with at that moment and go running back to your "great love".
Get over your ex OP, once you stop pining for him you'll have a lot more success, seriously most of us can tell eventually when a girl is not emotionally available to us and we'll either not take the risk or we'll walk away once we realize your heart belongs to someone else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2012): "Don't guys want a a gorgeous girl that will love him, be there for him."
YES!!! Why are you dating those jerks?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2012): Keep believing that someday you'll find that special person. In the meantime, don't try too hard. It is a funny thing, but sometimes love comes when you are not looking for it.
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reader, mr.goodguy  +, writes (12 April 2012):
 Hey I think women like you are amazing and don't listen to anyone that says your too nice or bla bla bla you sound perfect if I was single I would love to spend time with a girl that gives love affection and just overall a goodgirl! Its hard to find now days in these times ...I am the same way I feel I'm loving guy and give give give but don't get it in return
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reader, oldbag +, writes (12 April 2012):
 maybe your too nice , too good to be true . too gorgeous
dont give up just do your thing and be patient
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reader, Candycane1234 +, writes (12 April 2012):
 I get you, every boyfriend i've had never gave me the same attention as i did them. I had one boyfriend once who dumped me out of nowhere and he made me feel very special at the time, i wasn't expecting it. Perhaps because we're nice people they think they can walk all over us. Don't let it put you off.
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