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writes: I started talking to a guy back in december from the an online dating site. He is actually a pretty nice guy and the type i would want to date. We went out once in january and it was a pretty good date..we met for a drink and grabbed a bite to eat after.we pretty much spoke and texted and we both seem interested, things slowed down a little and i thought it was weird too b/c i thought we would have went out again. I called him out on it through text and he wrote back about a situation that happened recently with his car and he had to get another one etc.February comes around and i think we basically just texted randomly. I started dating this other guy so I didn't pay attention as much. That ended around March and it made me realize I would really like to date the one from Janaury. Looking at the overall picture regarding him--he is someone more on my page in terms of family, distance, personality,work ethic. I really do like him as person and partner potential. But unfortunately, I don't understand what he wants. I even decided to randomly text him one night and say if you don't want to go out again, it's no hard feelings. I thought we would have went out a second time by now. He called and he said he got a second job to help his family a little bit. It's Friday and saturday nights but he still ends around 11pm so he probably still goes out once a week or so.We were supposed to finally go out this friday.(he said he was only going to do the second job saturday nights from now on) I had a feeling something would come up and it did. He does construction work and he told me how the night shift called him to do one and it happens to be this friday and they are short a guy. It's more money so i can't really be demanding or say anything.He asked if we could go out next friday. It just sucks because that's a week away. Also, if he does the night shift, wouldn't the day shift be short a guy? Of course I am naturally going to wonder if he is telling the truth or maybe made other plans and i feel at this point it's better to just be nice about things. But he probably thinks i am this super sweet girl which can be bad as well.I know i can't wait around or anything but I actually would really like to date this guy. I see that he goes on the site here and there. Is there a way to get this guy more committed to dating? Should I believe him he is busy? Basically he gets up pretty early for work, gets out at 3:30pm and goes to the gym and then goes to bed probably early.Any advice? thanks.what should i do?
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (12 April 2012):
 Forget this one , he is not looking to date you or he would have .It doesnt matter that you look on him as partner potential .Youve only met him once , 3 months ago ,that says it all . keep looking
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reader, Ish  +, writes (12 April 2012):
Start dating other guys. That way you won't be pining over this one. There is a high likelihood that he is dating other people or doing other things.
If he is telling the truth then the reality is that he would have no time for you right now anyway.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (12 April 2012):
 With that kind of life schedule it's a wonder he has time to sleep or eat! Seriously though I would ask him straight out "Listen I really like you so are you interested or am I wasting my time with you?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2012): Take a hint! The guy just likes you as a text buddy and isn't interested in dating you again or he would have already.
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reader, jinxx  +, writes (12 April 2012):
 I'll be honest, no matter how busy he is... if he was interested, you wouldn't be here.
Short of dropping off the face of the planet, into an alternate dimension with no reception... there's no reason the guy couldn't take a minute out of his day to text you.
I say move on. Yes, you see qualities in him that you like and feel are compatible with your own, but I also think the allure of a guy who's playing hard to get is what's pulling you to him the most. Cut your losses, and find someone who will be straight-forward with you.
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