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writes:Does there come a point in someone's life where they want commitment rather then sleeping with different people, or can some people go their whole lives living like that? Reply to this Question
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reader, Abella +, writes (7 April 2012):
 Some people may be able to go through life without a commitment to another. Some may not know what they are missing and have no idea how much better life would be with a kind caring partner. Others might have given up trying. Some may have decided that they are not attractive enough to find a partner.
Except there is usually someone for almost every one.
You are correct though. People who have spent half a lifetime bed-hopping really do start to yearn for a partner and do start to scale down their activities. And really do start to actively look for a partner. Sadly, they sometimes do it with real desperation. And very sadly they leave it almost too late. But take heart, I heard of a woman remarrying recently for the third time – in her late eighties – Good on her is all I can say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2012): That's a good question OP but you kind of left out a couple of other types of people. It's not as simple to say that people who don't like commitment like to sleep around. There are also the type that haven't been able to find someone and there are the type who never really care about love, sex and relationships.
Believe it or not there are a hell of a lot of people out there that just don't care for that kind of thing and live long happy lives wondering why people others are so sad when single.
In my experience there are a few types of people who don't commit. The type you describe who like the plenty of fish approach, there are those simply not able to handle/maintain relationships (there really isn't someone for everyone and there are a hell of a lot of people who just can't be in relationships because they're quite simply not relationship material), those that don't care about relationships and those who are still trying to find "the one".
Do people settle down eventually? Not always and even when they do old habits die hard and also it can take years, even decades for a person to change their lifestyle. People have this mad idea that eventually everyone wants to settle down but that's quite simply not true. More and more people just have no need for marriage and kids, or long term relationships they're perfectly happy to live a life without those things.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 April 2012):
 Some people go their whole lives living like that . Some of them "repent " and yearn for committment, but late in life, in their late 40's, or 50's,or even later - but just because they realize that they are less and less placeable on the dating market, from which they are progressively being pushed out, and see their options becoming more and more restricted, and/ or fear getting old alone. But, until they can have plenty of options, they enjoy that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2012): Usually all people come to commitment eventually, all at different points in there lives. Some people dont though, and some people shouldnt be commiting, there called cheaters.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (7 April 2012):
 Hiif you mean marriage . its not for everyone. long term relationships are different AND may appeal to some as theres always a get out clause.some have been married AND make the choice not to go there againI think alot THINK they want to be single AND have their freedom AND fun then they meet somebody who knocks their socks of AND they just know its THE one . Get married AND do the whole family thing leaving behind a trail of shocked Exs
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