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Ladies: shaved or natural 'downstairs' on a guy?

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Question - (5 April 2012) 27 Answers - (Newest, 7 April 2012)
A male United States age 30-35, *andomando writes:

Ladies thoughts opinions needed: When you are about to have sex/or oral with a guy for the first time and see his thing, is hair down there a turn off? is shaved more a turn on? or trimmed? also what about hairy thighs? shaved? leave alone?

I am asking because girls dont see that area until they see us naked. When they see us naked are you expecting the fully shaved porn star look? Is it weird if a guy does shave down there? or is it better too trim it to like a mustache or beard length?

really curious to know what girls opinions are.

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A female reader, Accarysin United Kingdom +, writes (7 April 2012):

Trimmed. Hair isn't a big issue for me, I mean..He is a MAN.

I wouldn't expect it any different. Though the guy I'm with at the minute did ask if he thought he should wax his stomach. :L

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A reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2012):

Haha OP, just because you can see more of it, doesn't make it look bigger. I don't know any women, who know their way around a penis that can't tell how big it is with or without hair.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (7 April 2012):

chigirl agony auntMaybe it looks bigger from your point of view. But really, girls wouldn't see any difference. Unlike the owner of the penis we don't bring out the ruler and get obsessed about the size of it.

Women care about what you're doing with your penis. We care less about how big or small it looks. But yes, a shaved man just looks weird! Like you haven't hit puberty. And the flaccid penis really isn't that attractive to look at, and when shaved you see it all hanging there all too well....

When it grows back, keep the hair. Unless you find a girlfriend who tells you she prefers you shaved.

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A female reader, In.love.with.him United States +, writes (7 April 2012):

In.love.with.him agony auntMen shaving or waxing their pubic hair is not attractive. If you have straight pubic hairs than it's fine to trim them not to short though but when you have a little curl in your pubic hair than it's fine to leave them or trim them.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (7 April 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony aunthoney it doesn't look bigger... it looks less mature...

like a 12 yr old boy before puberty...

naked penis = a good laugh...

and btw don't shave your legs or your belly... yuck...

except for backs that should be waxed MEN should BE HAIRY.

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A male reader, landomando United States +, writes (6 April 2012):

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LOL!! i think its different for guys and girls cause it doesnt itch at all!!! It just looks bigger!! which i guess is more of a guy thing to look bigger, but i guess girls would rather it look like there doing a man than a lil boy lol

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (6 April 2012):

Honeypie agony auntShaved man-bits give me the "willies". It doesn't look bigger it looks... younger? I guess it a good word for it.

Keep it neat and trimmed.

And man, you are gonna itch like a son-of-a-gun in a day or two.... and SO will your partner if you do the horizontal fandango.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (6 April 2012):

person12345 agony auntBigger is not better! Bigger is often more painful! But don't worry, it will grow back very soon. Just don't scratch too much.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (6 April 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntDon't worry OP it will grow back!

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A male reader, landomando United States +, writes (6 April 2012):

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Well this is awkward, I should have read this before I just took a shower lol. Thank you everyone for your responses I honestly thought that girls preferred shaved because it looks bigger, and there for it is better.. I never thought it was weird or that it makes you look like a little kid!! Great knowledge! This is why I love this site!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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A female reader, smiliek Australia +, writes (6 April 2012):

smiliek agony auntugh leave it natural. Unless you're super hairy in which case a trim is ok. Never go bald there it looks gross, like a kid. Same with girls Who get rid of it, looks like a little girl i dont get how its a turn on

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2012):

Trimmed yes!

Shaved/waxed off no!

It looks strange!!

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A female reader, uroboros United Kingdom +, writes (6 April 2012):

trimmed is nice and neat, shaved looks just weird.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2012):

Hairless!

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A female reader, peacelovecandy United States +, writes (5 April 2012):

peacelovecandy agony auntNo shaving! My boyfriend likes to shave that area and I hate it. It looks weird and doesn't feel right. I feel like since I'm the one always concerned over shaving, it makes him seem like a woman.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2012):

Shaved definitely. Clean, fresh and hygienic.

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (5 April 2012):

chigirl agony auntGoing down on him for the first time.. he better be natural. If he is shaved it is a turn off, and weirds me out.

I once had a boyfriend who liked it "trimmed", but his version of trimmed was an ugly square cut where he just cut it off without it looking naturally short at all. It was ugly. The same about a completely shaved area down there on a man: ugly.

Feel free to shave your balls. But leave the rest of the pubic hair alone!! And guys shaving their thighs? That's about as sexy as balls on a woman.

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A male reader, doublejack United States +, writes (5 April 2012):

I'm 35, but the majority of women I date are younger - mid to late 20's. I've found that many women today prefer a guy to be shaved, so that's what I do. I've been shaving for months and not only do I not have any issues with it such as itching, but I've actually grown to like it. As the warmer weather draws closer I can't imagine having hair down there again!

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A female reader, Shadow Rose United States +, writes (5 April 2012):

Shadow Rose agony auntNeat and hygienic. If it looks like a gross, sweaty, jungle, then trim it a bit and make it less like a jungle, but not completely. Hairless (on a man or a woman) is just too.... much like a kid. It'd be creepy. Leave your legs alone, though. Men are supposed to have hairy legs.

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A female reader, person12345 United States +, writes (5 April 2012):

person12345 agony auntTrimmed neatly, not shaved. Shaved leaves nasty awful horrible stubble.

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A female reader, So_Very_Confused United States +, writes (5 April 2012):

So_Very_Confused agony auntShaved on the shaft (those rouge hairs that grow are nasty and long sometimes) trimmed neatly for the rest

NOT shaved... ugh....

FWIW my partner was totally shaved when we started dating and I begged him to stop shaving... I even bought him a body groomer for trimming.... and he hated the growing in stage but now he even let's it get a bit bushier now and then when he gets lazy... (like 1/4 of an inch vs 1/8 of an inch)it's lovely for me

totally shaved men remind me of prepubescent boys... ewww

btw porn stars shave to look bigger....

no

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2012):

"big and bushy makes them more inclined to want to go down there"

*That should be "less inclined"

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2012):

In my experience, shaved looks weird, big and bushy makes them more inclined to want to go down there (no one likes picking pubes out of their teeth).

Personally I trim my pubes to relatively neat level, and I trim my balls very tight, sometimes shave. I like balls play during oral and there is no way I'd expect my girlfriend to put a pair of hairy ones in her mouth.

Leave your legs and ass alone. Only cyclists and people that need their legs shaved for sports can get away with that and even then girls I've known that dated guys like that felt very creeped out by hairless legs.

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A female reader, agonyauntsanonymous United States +, writes (5 April 2012):

I have seen men that have shaved and i admit it does look like theres something missing! I dont have a problem with a bush, but i really think trimmed is the way to go. Thats just a personal opinion though. Dont shave your thighs! But if i were to advise you i would say if you have been with your partner for a month or two and have discussed sex, why not ask their preference. Every person has an opinion so why not ask and see what they would like. Hope that helps.

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A female reader, k_c100 United Kingdom +, writes (5 April 2012):

k_c100 agony auntNever shaved, but always trimmed! Big and bushy is not nice, especially if a girl is giving a guy oral sex. But shaved is equally weird, I've never seen a guy fully shaved down there and I would be very creeped out if I did!

And under no circumstances should you touch the hair on your legs - men have hairy legs, us girls expect that, so dont worry about that!

I think a girl would be more worried if you shaved your thighs and 'downstairs' region, compared to just leaving it natural. If you dont have that much hair anyway then leave it be, there is no point in messing around if it is fine as it is!

I hope this helps and good luck!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2012):

Trimmed is always best shaved is better than a full blown bush though! My advice is just keep it nice and neat

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A female reader, oldbag United Kingdom +, writes (5 April 2012):

oldbag agony auntEither, but trimmed is best , but if you've got that far then passion has overtaken opinion

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