We don't like C. Should we invite everyone and just let C's bf tag along?
Q. My three best friends (A, B, and C), and I are planning a graduation Europe trip. We are considering inviting our boyfriends as well as we are all very close and it would be very fun! However, none of us including the guys, can stand C's boyfrien...
A. 3 May 2012: Hi
Its a shame you dont see any good in C, even though your friend does. I would go for girls only as any other scenario is going to spoil the trip for everyone and put your friendship in jeapordy with the girl. ... (read in full...)
A man I had an affair with will not leave me alone and I'm getting scared!
Q. Hey there, everyone... The situation in nutshell: I am married, but for over a year we were separated: we lived separately and led separate lives. During this time, I met John (a friend of a friend), we went out for a while, but I broke it off ...
A. 3 May 2012: Hi
As you have not been able to shake him off after 3 years its time to tell your husband and the Police.
You need to keep a file on this other guy, write down everything he does to you, when he contacts you,what he says, where he shows u... (read in full...)
Is he asking me if I love him?
Q. Hi everyone I was wondering what this means sometimes when I am in bed with my fwb if I tell him I love him doing whatever he is doing he looks at me and asks me what else I love n then grins at me what do you think he means by this thank you ...
A. 3 May 2012:
Hi
He's just being funny, hes a man whos ego you boost by telling him you love his actions.You make him feel like a stud by saying that so he wants to hear more. It doesnt mean he was fishing for you to say you loved him. Your just sex, a body ... (read in full...)
My B/f lied to me for 3 years telling me that we could be together, when he didn't mean any of it!
Q. So heres my story 4 years ago i started dating this guy who i left my husband for. We have known each other for about 10 years and he was my best friend. He just got out of a relationship and we started dating and i left my husband. I also hav...
A. 3 May 2012: Hi
I dont know how you could WANT contact with him when he has strung you along for 3 years.Thats not what friends or lovers do when they care.He is just a bad habit now that you need to break.
You have finished school and now is the time,for ... (read in full...)
What is her problem? She ended it and I've stopped replying to her texts!
Q. I am 44 and 17 years older than my gf and was with her for 5 years, until this January when she ended it. She said it wasn’t working out and that she wanted to be on her own. It wasn’t working out because for that entire 5 years she wouldn’t tell ...
A. 2 May 2012: Hi
Yes it was her choice and you have every right to move on and stop contact. You do not have to be hidden away.You need a healthy open relationship and she had years to make this happen, but did not involve you with her life.
She is hoping... (read in full...)
Any advice? he's been texting this other girl!
Q. hey, i would like abit of advice, see if people think the same as me. My hubby has a iphone and its not an unlocked phone, to use his iphone he jailbroke it and unlocked it that way so he can use his sim card in the phone. Doing this way causes his ...
A. 30 April 2012: Hi
I hear alarm bells ringing. Listen to your gut feeling and watch him closely. Dont accuse him of anything till your certain but because of the texts to other girls and his fone hardly working when he isnt with you, it sounds suspicio... (read in full...)
I've been waiting for her to leave her husband for me for 15 years! Should I confront her or should I let this go?
Q. I'm still in love with my childhood sweetheart and she said she is still in love with me and we have a child togeather but she is married to another man. I've been waiting for her to leave her husband to be with me for 15 years. What should I do. ...
A. 30 April 2012: Hi
So there she is, married, getting on with her life with her husband - daily routine,holidays together, family do's together, having sex doing the weekly shop, choosing furniture blah blah Thats not her in love with you its her in love with her... (read in full...)
Should I stay with my boyfriend of 6 years even though the spark has gone? Or leave him for the schizophrenic, compulsive liar who I've only ever flirted with over the phone?
Q. I am falling for 2 men, I can't seen to choose who to stay with! one i have been with for 6 years we are both the same age 6 days apart even lol i loved but i have started losing my spark with him. he used to be romantic now he's not hasn't been for ...
A. 30 April 2012:
LOL LOL @ eyeswideopen
agreed... (read in full...)
Are most Friends with Benefits relationships usually kept secret or not?
Q. Hi everyone just a quick question about Friends With Benefits (fwbs) I am currently in one with a guy I really like I was just wondering if all fwbs are usually kept secret or do people tell each other they are in one? I have asked this question...
A. 29 April 2012: Hi I would WANT it kept a secret, wouldnt want all and sundry knowing a man is using me for sex. Thats all he IS doing. So before you get a) a reputation for being up for it b) a broken heart Stop the NSA sex.... (read in full...)
I'm attracted to my step father
Q. Im 18 years old and I am attracted to my step Father. He's been with my Mother for 16 years now and their relationship isnt perfect. As far as I can remember I've been attracted to him. He seems like the perfect guy for me. In my relation...
A. 29 April 2012: Hi
Your step father has been your parent since you were two. I understand he isnt a blood relative but he is your Mums partner and in effect,your Dad. His behaviour is creepy and he is taking serious advantage of this situation. He knows how you ... (read in full...)
Best sex with the ex and will that happen with another
Q. Hello! I recently broke up with a guy who I had dated for a few months. It wasn't for lack of attraction or enjoying each others' time - basically, he didn't see it going further, so whatever. It's done and I'm moving on. Trying to anyway. Thing is ...
A. 29 April 2012: HI
I dont waste time worrying about sex with the possible next relationship. Each partner is different an individual so there is no comparison. It all sounds a bit clinical when you start thinking along the lines of 'will anyone be as good as ... (read in full...)
Man I'm dating won't sign divorce papers and lives in a house attached to his wife. Should I leave him?
Q. I've been dating this guy for 5 months now, he's been married 28 years but they decided over a year ago they were divorcing, they went to the mediator and settled it out of court. They have 4 kids together.. He has signed all assets over to her and ...
A. 29 April 2012:
Give up, this man is just not available, he is to all intents and purposes, still married and emotionally attached to his Ex. She alone has by far the best deal here.
For your own sake, find a man who is free to have a full supportive,e... (read in full...)
My husband was raped by his older brother when he was a kid, I think he needs therapy but I can't suggest it to him when I'm not supposed to know this
Q. I have a big problem which I don't know how to deal with and I would apreciate some advice on what to do. I am married to the most wonderful man in the world (well for me anyways). A couple of months ago I had lunch with one of our oldest frien...
A. 29 April 2012: Hi
I dont know how you will approach this, its out there like an elephant in the room. If the source of this information is to be trusted and others had knowledge of it,then its a wonder it wasnt dealt with years ago. Your husband,who you clearly ... (read in full...)
Why doesn't my ex want me to date his friends?
Q. I want to remain in contact with my ex- we finished 4 weeks ago. We were talking regulary still but not as much but in the last week or so its became even less- which upsets me. I miss him. I miss the conversations we used to have. He just clearly ...
A. 28 April 2012: Hi
He didn't think it was worth an answer, why would you want to date his mates, just to annoy him,make him jealous possibly?
He doesn't want you knowing what he is up to now he is a free man.
As you have feelings for him it is best not t... (read in full...)
I'm filthy rich and very independant and it seems that most guys are intimidated by the fact that they have nothing to offer me
Q. I'm in my early thirties, I've never been in a serious relationship and once I get to know someone it never develops into anything and it's generally over within a month. I'm pretty but I don't dress to show my assets, don't sleep with guys for the ...
A. 28 April 2012: Hi
how about starting by letting them see that your down to earth,that your just as in need of affection as the next woman.Lose the pride a bit.
Men DO have something to offer you, it may not be material,which to some would be a relief, but em... (read in full...)
He's too old for me do I stay or go?
Q. I've divorced my husband after 20 together. I wasnt happy in my marriage for a long time. I've met this man while I was divorcing my husband. He is 16 years my senior. He is helpful during my divorce. Two years on I find him too old for me but ...
A. 28 April 2012: Hi
In what way is he too old?
No point getting out of a marriage to end up with the wrong man and unhappy again, but you do not sound miserable. If he is not for you then finish it or suggest a sex only fling while you look around for a new... (read in full...)
I need help to save my marriage!
Q. Hi, I need help to save my marriage. I've been happily married for just under 4 years and with my partner for a total of 6 years and I have been terrible to her and caused her some god awful pain, pain she does not need as she is heavily pregnant...
A. 28 April 2012: Hi
The fact you managed to email another woman for 4 years tells me you do NOT have a problem expressing yourself. At least in words/Pick up a pen and write down how sorry you are,what you feel, if you cant say the words.
Your wife is preg... (read in full...)
Why are French men attracted to me?
Q. Why is it that french guys always seem to be attracted to me, i'm not meaning to sound shallow. But every french guy I meet always ends up flirting with me, telling me how beautiful I am, asking for my number, to go out and such. Of course I don't ...
A. 26 April 2012: Hi
Experience has told me they just go for it, no reserve or anything. Your dark, which some parts of France they are so could be that.Plus if there are alot of french guys where you live they will on law of averages be alot about to flirt.
... (read in full...)
My ex husband kept coming around my house but now claims he hates my guts! What is going on?
Q. My exhusband has been coming around the house, I do let him with hopes things were maybe going to work out.. but I noticed he never asked me out for coffee or anywhere....I am not ugly..I dont want to sound conceited but I dont have trouble getting ...
A. 26 April 2012: Hi
he was angry cos you invaded his personal space,he knows you know the fact he was apparently using a different name and meeting a woman . He had tried to be discreet by meeting out of town but you still found out. He is allowed to date whoever ... (read in full...)
Viagra won't work without desire...any ideas for increasing my libido?
Q. What could be a cause of that I dont care about sex anymore at all? I used to be very horny, and now, I dont even care for porn or any sexual contact with my wife? What could cause such a big change in me? I know,I'm asking, I should know better. ...
A. 26 April 2012: Hi
Go to the doctor, its been 3 years and you need a professional to look at you.He is the only one who can sort out this problem and get to the root of it... (read in full...)
Do you think he regrets not moving forward when the opportunity arose?
Q. During a works party a co-worker expressed his feelings for me (I'm 45 and he's 49) - (I've had a crush on him for ages but I didn't realize he felt the same as I didn't think I was his type so put the signs from him down to my own imagination). He ...
A. 26 April 2012: HI
He put it out there when in party mode,then in the cold light of day saw the hurt and problems it would cause and has kept his distance.
There is something there but he is not about to start anything.Work relationships are very tricky even... (read in full...)
Threesome gone wrong
Q. Hello everyone, I would really love some advice with my problem. You all have done greatly and I can not help but keep coming back here for more... So in advance thank you. Last week my husband and I came about to having a threesome. We both h...
A. 25 April 2012: Hi
I do not think you can blame your husband for this, you both went into a house to have sex with other people. You were more into the idea than him.You were both responsible for the situation.Yes he stayed and broke the rules you made, thats th... (read in full...)
I want to get married to this man someday, but to stand at the alter with the man who used to abuse me standing by his side, is unthinkable!
Q. I love the man I am with, unfortunately his best friend is an ex of mine, an abusive ex. His argument is that they have been friends longer than I have known him and that everyone makes mistakes. He is a godly man and believes we need to forgive one ...
A. 25 April 2012: Hi
If you marry this man then your Ex will be around your life for good anyway, must be already as he is your boyfriends best friend.
It must be strange for your Ex to see you in love with his best friend too and to have you still around Esp... (read in full...)
I want a job in the arts, office work doesn't agree with me! Any tips?
Q. I left high school with a double a level in art and design but now I'm looking for a job art is laughed at. I've been to connections and the job centre and told them that my first choice of job would be belly dance as I've done it for over 5 years ...
A. 24 April 2012: Hi
Depends where you live or if you would relocate for jobs. You could try Cruise Ships,hotels. The competitions high and the jobs rare. You could try doing your own Act belly dancing or join a theatre group, to get experience on your CV... (read in full...)
I scared him off. Can I interest him again, despite this set-back?
Q. I finished seeing this guy about three weeks ago because he said he didnt know if he wanted a relationship or not and we have been talking to each other for the last two weeks and he said that things between us when we were seeing each other were ...
A. 23 April 2012: Hi
He wanted just sex, you wanted a full on relationship. He would like it if you slept with him but made no demands (F.Buddy) so he was free to keep looking for a girlfriend while still having his physical needs looked after by you.He probably... (read in full...)
What are the top reasons for cheating?
Q. hello, thanks for ansewering me... i appreciate all advices. one question. Why girls/woman cheat? What are top reasons? Thank you....
A. 23 April 2012:
# boredom
# curiosity
# looking for somebody to move on too
# lack of self control
# alcohol
# its all about me syndrom... (read in full...)
I'm stressing out from taking care of my family
Q. Basically, i have to look after my mum because she's got a lung disease and my sister because she has cerebal palsy and at the minute its all getting too much for me and i feel like i cant do it anymore. Everything my mum asks me to do i snap at and ...
A. 23 April 2012: No surprise your cracking under the strain its hard for an adult carer and your still effectively a child. Have you been to the Doctor to explain your health is suffering badly OR to activate some kind of help from Social Services? Are th... (read in full...)
My friend has become the perfect girl and I'm jealous!
Q. Dear aunts and uncles. So, this has to do with my best mate and my feelings of jealously over her. I'm 31 single and live in London. I met my mate (who's 29) 10 years ago at uni and we have been the best friends ever since, but recently it's al...
A. 23 April 2012: I do get what your saying and after all the years youve been mates it must be hard. Have you thought she copied you because for all these years she has been envious of you and its a compliment she has chosen to do your look. So maybe its time to chan... (read in full...)
What does "you looked fine" tonight mean when a guy says it?
Q. What does a guy mean when he says "you were looking quite fine to me last night" ? Like where does it rate know the scale it of cute and pretty and all that. ? and why would a guy say that rather then just say cute or pretty or hot whatever. So ...
A. 22 April 2012:
Totally agree with AuntyBimBim , a fine answer... (read in full...)
I'm afraid my b/f is trying to remain attractive to other girls
Q. Hi, Sorry this is long- but I really want to give you a clear picture of teh situation so you can help me! My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for 8 months now and I have fallen in love with him. He tells me he loves me too and I fe...
A. 22 April 2012: Hi there
Are you worried that he wants to date girls when he is in Spain for 3months or just that he wants to appear single and attractive, period.?
You seem to be concerned about his social network page more than the 3 month seperation. Does... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with his brother!
Q. Me and my ex broke up about 6 months ago when we were in a relationship he had cheated on me 3 times maybe more! We was living together so when it ended I moved out I had no where to go so I stayed at his mothers for a bit,I was happy their until I ...
A. 22 April 2012: Hi
He kissed you once when he was very drunk then ignored you. So it was a mistake , one of those drunken moments which seems to bring out the beast in him.
My suggestion would be to keep away from your ex and his brother because its going nowher... (read in full...)
I feel lost...
Q. My boyfriend of 8 years has just broke up with me, its really hard because he still calls me asking for money and wants to sleep with me, he said we can still be with each other but not be in a relationship. I don't know what to do, as he was my ...
A. 22 April 2012: Hi there
You must be feeling lost after 8 years together. But the best thing for YOU is to rip the plaster off. Stop all contact,stop meeting up do not lend money to him do not take his calls.Then you can start to get over him and eventual... (read in full...)
How difficult is it living with someone who is unemployed?
Q. There is an older guy who really likes me and I really like him. We are waiting until I turn 18 of course. Unfortunately he is now unemployed, If things should work out, I am wondering what I'm really going to be up against if he still has no job. ...
A. 21 April 2012: Hi Its hard for many and there are few jobs around so unemployment does cause problems in a relationship. There are so many people chasing each vacancy.I have seen friends who have been made redundant struggling to cope and prepared to do a... (read in full...)
Why does he always let me contact him first?
Q. I ended a 2 month 'relationship' three weeks ago coz the guy didnt know if he wanted one or not. We didnt talk to start with as i was hurt by it even though i ended it. But in last two weeks we have been talking near enough everyday. The only thing ...
A. 21 April 2012: Hi
He doesn't get the chance to contact you because you ring him almost every day. Why would he make the effort when he doesn't have to. He knows you will ring him even though you ended the relationship, because you have. So basically he has you ... (read in full...)
I want to meet but he's playing hard to get. Should I forget it?
Q. I met a guy online, we have been talking via text for about the last 6 weeks. I usually initiate the conversations. We chatted every day to start with now I tend to leave it to every few days. Our conversations are really good (fun and very slightly ...
A. 21 April 2012: Hi
He doesn't want to meet in person he wants a virtual/textual relationship. Forget him... (read in full...)
My girlfriend will not marry me because I am not a born again Christian
Q. My girlfriend will not marry me because I am not a " Born Again " Christian, I am Jewish and we both are not even remotely considering more children since we have already raised our chidren. Also relevant to this statement is my age at 6...
A. 20 April 2012: Ok, how long have you been together ?
Do you live together ?
Do you support her financially ?
Was she a 'born again' when you first met or is it since ?
Are you happy not to marry just to continue as is?
How is the relationship in gene... (read in full...)
My friend is not making a move on me because I am still married. What do I do?
Q. I am so stuck. I am separated but not yet divorced. Me and this man have become good friends and I know he feels the same but he has not made any moves because I am still married. I have not loved my husband for a long time and am ready to move...
A. 20 April 2012: Hi
If you hadnt met him you were going to split up from your husband anyway ,so you have said. He wants to see proof of it , you cant turn round and say you left your marriage for him one day then either. You will have family and friends support ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my boyfriend because of his nosey aunt?
Q. My question is do I break up with him because I really can't stand his aunt? I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. I have decided to move in with him for 3 months while he does his internship out of state. My boyfriend's aunt...
A. 20 April 2012: Hi
You only see this aunt 8 times a year she is just making polite conversation and doesnt know what else to ask you as she barely knows you.
Next time you meet start the conversation first , ask her about her life , show an interest in ... (read in full...)
He texts his ex every day. Should I be trusting him, despite all this?
Q. My partner and I have been together for 5 years - he's never cheated on me but he texts his ex who is the mother of his daughter everyday. Sometimes up to 36 texts per day. I've asked what do they talk about and he responds with "things about our ...
A. 19 April 2012: Hi
36 times a day after 5 years is very extreme the child must have a multitude of problems , are you sure its his ex he is texting? A phone call would be quicker surely.
Parents do keep in contact but not multi texts daily more like a call once ... (read in full...)
What kind of guys are likely to be interested in me? My husband wants a divorce. Feels tough right now.
Q. Hi everyone need some positive advice. I have just turned 40 and my husband has left me and wants a divorce - we don't have any children. I am feeling numb and empty but we have had a bad marriage for a long time. However I am worried that I a...
A. 19 April 2012: Hi
Daunting after being married isn't it. What kind of guys will be interested well more than a few so your not on the shelf Women are in their prime in their 40s. Probably some younger ones after a cougar , some older after an attractive partner ... (read in full...)
Excessive drinking is affecting my boyfriend's sexual performance
Q. Hi, I have posted several questions about love, sex and relationship on this website and have always received good advice. I have been with my boyfriend for roughly 2 years and everything has been great. There are a few things that I quite dis...
A. 19 April 2012: HI
Men drink to get away from problems, he isnt happy about something , somethings bothering him or hes just bored. Its probably not you , but instead of voicing your thoughts on his sexual performance try to find out why he feels the need to ... (read in full...)
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