How would you handle a spouse that is self absorbed and not affectionate unless it directly benefits him
Q. My question is #1 When you love a person how do you cope with rejection and inconsideration? #2 How would you handle a spouse that is self absorbed and not affectionate unless it directly benefits him? Here is my situation I am still in love wi...
A. 4 June 2012: Hi
Your marriage is making you miserable, you have tried talking and reasoning with him. He wants to control you, he knows he is losing you. You have done all you can to appease him. Time to call it a day.
Get your life in order, see a Lawy... (read in full...)
Why does he keep saying he'll ring me but he doesn't?
Q. Okay so quick question, at the moment I am really poorly and havnt moved from bed for two days my mums really worried about me and is looking after me. I have slept for two days and wake up every now and then, when I do I message my boyfriend on ...
A. 2 June 2012: Hi
Sorry your not well, your so called boyfriend isn't helping much is he.
Think you should just leave it for now, dont text him,he doesn't sound very sympathetic,focus on getting better.
You dont give much information either.
... (read in full...)
After hooking up with my ex, now FWB he doesn't respond back!
Q. I know this is going to sound petty but I'm pretty upset so it means alot to me :) My ex and I ( dated 6 mos) recently ended things but care fir each other and decided to stay friends. Well, then we realized seeing each other would lead to mo...
A. 1 June 2012: Hi
Its over, he has probably met somebody else so his needs are being met.
Thats why a clean break is always best because sticking around prolongs the agony of break-ups and just hurts more.
I would leave the contact and ignore him if he get... (read in full...)
Is it possible to be single and happy?
Q. Hi everyone, just looking for some advice from anyone who's been in a similar situation. I'm single and have been for a while, which does particulalry bother me, except a lot of my friends have recenently got into relationships and im starting to ...
A. 1 June 2012: Hi
Ofcourse its possible, a boyfriend is a nice addition to your life not the be all and end all.
Just fill your time with stuff you enjoy doing, you don't have to consider anyone when making plans, thats the good thing. Somebody really ... (read in full...)
Why is he commenting on how I don't stay over as much as he would like, when my life has always been this way?
Q. Had a good weekend with my boyfriend of 5 months but a couple of things he said has played on my mind. We are both in our 40s, I have a teenage child, he has no children. My home life is a little more chaotic than his and his mum still does his...
A. 28 May 2012: Hi
He is becoming more attached which is either good or bad, depending on how you want things to go. He likes having you around. And wants more quality time.
You need to explain again your situation and have a heart to heart.... (read in full...)
Our landlord is trying to take all of our deposit and then claim for extra money for repairs! How do we dispute this?
Q. Our landlord came to check on the property since we are moving out in 4 days, though plans to come back on moving day to do another one. Its as if she is purposely looking to trip us up to get more money as she herself is in a heap of debt - why not ...
A. 28 May 2012: Hi
Try getting advise from Shelter, its free, its not just for homeless people they can advise private tenants too.
http://england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/renting_and_leasehold
Your deposit should be protected under the scheme t... (read in full...)
Relationship not going well, please help
Q. Hi, I am a 25 year old woman. I have a long relationship with my boyfriend. Our relationship had both good and bad moments. We were very in love in the beginning, but after the first year we started to fight for everything. I am a person who is used ...
A. 28 May 2012: Hi
If you can't forgive him,even if you love him,its time to move on. You have lost yourself trying to please him over the years.Turned into his doormat instead of remaining independant and keeping your life and friends as well as him.
If all ... (read in full...)
It is too soon! How do I tell her I need a break?
Q. I'm a single father raising two kids, and was in a relationship with there mother for 16 yrs. It ended real bad, anyway the kids are my life, I'm very busy with them on top of working. I have tried to move on and have been dating for about 3 months ...
A. 28 May 2012: Hi
I was in your situation and learnt to make it clear from the outset that kids came first. I didnt want more,or somebody elses on top. It wasnt being harsh,it was just how I was,take or leave it. The last thing you need is a clingy girlfrie... (read in full...)
Is it a positive sign if he "likes" or comments on my facebook?
Q. A guy I like quite often 'likes' what I write on Facebook and is really friendly when we see one another. However sometimes he goes days ignoring me on there. Today I posted a photo which was a head and shoulders shot and maybe a little (but not ...
A. 28 May 2012: Hi
I would say 100% into you...encourage him a bit if you like him... (read in full...)
Internet encounter ended after numerous suggestions of a three-way!
Q. I got in to a situation with a guy from an internet dating site. I am there to meet with guys to eventually find a boyfriend, and this guy was quite clear from the start that he was just out of a relationship and was looking for "a lover". I thought ...
A. 28 May 2012: Hi
You have just come across one of the dating site wierdos thats all, there are plenty. He probably never did split up with his girlfriend and they were looking for a woman to have the 3 some or he wanted to branch out.
Either way its easy to ... (read in full...)
How soon do you organize a third date?
Q. Hi everyone I have been on two dates with a guy I met a few weeks ago the last one was last wednesday I went round his and we watched a dvd together how long is it usually in between that you make plans for a third date we have kept in touch since ...
A. 28 May 2012: Hi
It depends how busy he is or what commitments he has already. Your new in his life so both of you will have other stuff going on thats been planned for ages.
I have to say going to his place on a 2nd date was a bit soon, he should be taking... (read in full...)
Do I send him a nasty letter or completely ignore him ?
Q. Hi everyone, well the last couple of days have been traumatic for me to say the least, we had finished the relationship and i was doing fine, i text him to say basically do what you have to do but dont include me. He then said I had his motivati...
A. 27 May 2012: Hi
No nasty letter, just ignore his existance,his calls, his texts. He just likes playing games and knows you will react,respond or sleep with him.So dont do any of them.
If you want to get it off your chest then ring him,or write a letter b... (read in full...)
He says hes depressed and can't be with me. I don't want to lose him!
Q. I was seeing this guy for two weeks, we text everyday regularly like every 5- 15 mins apart from when he was working. We had a laugh and it was great. He made plans for our future and is the most genuine guy Im met before. He told me the last time I ...
A. 27 May 2012: Hi
You have only been seeing him for 2 weeks so you barely know each other.Its all been a bit full-on so maybe he doesn't feel the same now. Perhaps hes decided your not for him and has invented depression. Perhaps he really does have it.If yo... (read in full...)
Why people say stop looking for love and let it find you?
Q. I have been looking love and I could not find it and people have told me to stop looking. And they say If I keep on looking for it I will never find it. So three years ago at the age of 24 I stopped looking and got on with enjoying my life and today ...
A. 25 May 2012: Hi
So do you ask girls out, ever? Do you have a happy go lucky personality? Do you like yourself? Do you spend 24/7 thinking you will never find love?
Its summer at last so girls are looking fresh and good, start as friends, get to know lots... (read in full...)
My son misses his dad but his dad wants nothing to do with him
Q. Hi everyone, id just like some help regarding my son really. I wrote on here a while back about his dad being out of the picture for the last 2-3 years(my son is now 7). His dad lives just around the corner though has made it clear he has no intere...
A. 25 May 2012: Hi Its an awful situation, to see your son suffer, theres not much you can do re his Dad,hes made that clear.He doesn't want to know. Dads are usually proud of their sons so he is particularly cruel being like he is. The fact he lives round the ... (read in full...)
Guys, should I leave my wife for a more attractive, younger woman?
Q. For the last year I've been having an affair with a woman who's ten years younger. We love each other very much. She's got everything I wish I would have found in someone, before I married my wife. She's beautiful and has a great body, my wife ...
A. 24 May 2012: Hi
I wonder why or how your wife changed so much from the woman you loved and married? She may not have a high powered career, but she does work. She may have put on weight and lost interest in sex because she is unhappy, you dont make her feel... (read in full...)
My married man said I cant have no one else but him
Q. I have been with a married man for going on 8 months now and it seems that we go well together, meaning the relationship between us just keeps going, we dont seem to have any problems, yeah sometimes i get mad at him when i cant be with him but he ...
A. 24 May 2012: Hi
Time to wake up and smell the coffee your not some niaive 16 year old your a grown woman. Your choosing to be his knock-off his dirty little secret, so when your with a lying cheating selfish scumbag you WILL have a problem or two.
He has ... (read in full...)
I think my ex hacked into my facebook account
Q. what would you do? hello im 30 and my ex girlfriend is 26 we've got 2 kids. we live together. and for years we've not been close since the birth of our first child. and this year after years of unhappy r/ship we split up. we desided for the ...
A. 24 May 2012: Hi You have things wrong way round. You should move out, get legal aid and sort out Access to see your children.Its difficult when your not married to get it all sorted out but it can be done. Your Ex and you are doing the kids no favours by livin... (read in full...)
How would you handle a spouse that is self absorbed and not affectionate unless it directly benefits him
Q. My question is #1 When you love a person how do you cope with rejection and inconsideration? #2 How would you handle a spouse that is self absorbed and not affectionate unless it directly benefits him? Here is my situation I am still in love wi...
A. 24 May 2012: Hi
Good that the situations improving and your getting some me time and money. I have worked nights when the kids were small and know how hard it is, I can still recall grabbing a couple of hours sleep between nursery and school runs. My partner ... (read in full...)
How do I turn my FWB relationship into a real relationship?
Q. i have a fuck buddy who i have been shagging for a year, we started seeing each other few years ago then he said i dont want a relationship. we have mutual friends that do not know we are fb weve have known each other 9yrs and always ask our mutual ...
A. 22 May 2012: Hi
He will never change his mind about you, you are the girl who always says Yes. Sadly because you are emotionally attached to him you hope he will change overnight, he won't. One day he will date another girl,have a relationship with her. Tha... (read in full...)
Marriage over. How do I restart my social life and start developing a circle of friends?
Q. I have just said good bye to a pretty rough patch in life and a controlling husband and therefore have practically no social life. I want to begin having a social life - i have two kids AND a full time job so i'll have to make the effort and it wont...
A. 21 May 2012: Hi
why not invite peple round to yours, those youve lost touch with, tell em your having a divorce dinner. Suggest things at work,social meets, and check your local paper for whats on that appeals... (read in full...)
Reunited after 9 years. So why is he so disregarding my feelings?
Q. This is a long one, so leave the page now if you don't like long stories lol. I am in a situation where I should be feeling on top of the world and settled. But I feel tearful and unsettled. I am in the process of getting back with my child's ...
A. 21 May 2012: Hi
and phew, what a situation. Its complicated definately but the person benefiting most is your Ex/current man. My instinct is to say be very careful. He may be genuine in that he wants to take it slow, maybe not. But its yourself you should w... (read in full...)
She met a guy at a club and dumped me! why?
Q. Hey everyone I'm here looking for a little advice. My girlfriend left me three weeks ago and it's been hard, I understand we were arguing a little but that was because its so hard to be with someone who doesn't want to talk about issues or commun...
A. 20 May 2012: Hi Always hard when we get dumped, but you have to come to terms with the fact she wasnt who you thought. I think she just likes having a guy around so she saw your relationship differently to the view you had. I think this guy had been arou... (read in full...)
What do I do about this cheating man?
Q. I am ashamed to say I had a affair several years back and it resulted in my having a son. The man in question is over twice my age at 55 and has three grown up children. After publicly denying everything he then try's to ring and failing that starts ...
A. 20 May 2012: Hi
You dont need to DO anything about him. He has played dirty getting social services and the police involved - not quite sure why, but even so, that tells me he doesnt want anything to do with you personally.
Best thing you can do, for your... (read in full...)
I want a girlfriend maybe but not kids. Does this mean there is something wrong with me?
Q. Is there anything wrong with wanting a girlfriend but NEVER wanting kids? Am I being too unflexible? Should I compromise my belief to some extent? How does this work?...
A. 20 May 2012: Hi
Nothing wrong with it at all, I know women that never want children.....all you have to do is find a one who has the same outlook as you. When a relationship gets to that point of discussing such things, be honest about your views.... (read in full...)
Should I talk to his wife? Or just break with him? He has lied all the way
Q. I am in a relationship with a married man who is 20 years older to me. We met at work. He got transferred to our office from another branch. Initially we never really spoke much to each other, probably just say a good morning when we would pass by...
A. 19 May 2012: Hi
You celebrated your anniversary? Now I have heard it all.
He is nothing but a user, he lies,cheats fills your head with empty promises and sweet words. He probably says lovely things to his wife too.
Stay away from him, his wife and a... (read in full...)
How would you handle a spouse that is self absorbed and not affectionate unless it directly benefits him
Q. My question is #1 When you love a person how do you cope with rejection and inconsideration? #2 How would you handle a spouse that is self absorbed and not affectionate unless it directly benefits him? Here is my situation I am still in love wi...
A. 19 May 2012: Hi It sounds like a total reorganisation of your lives is required here. Do you really need to work nights,6 nights a week is a ridiculous amount when you have children. I know because I worked 4 nights with only a few hours sleep and it made me... (read in full...)
Why would my husband of five month, ask me what would I do if he had a girlfrriend?
Q. why would my husband ask me what would i do, if he had a girlfriend? he was trying to say suppose, and kept saying,i dont have a girlfriend but suppose? i am terribly in love with my husband, and totally stunned by this question. ...
A. 19 May 2012: Hi
Not suprised you were stunned poor thing, its not a normal question to be asking your wife
I would tell him straight if he had a girlfriend he would be out the door in 2 seconds flat and divorced instantly.
Sounds like he was trying to te... (read in full...)
My boyfriend made a girl pregnant then 2 weeks later he made me pregnant, what do I do or how to handle this situation
Q. my boyfriend went out of the country a year ago,school related cheated on me but denied it, rumor has it he got the girl pregnant. now this girl is also known to be a hoe, so should i believe him or the pple that think she is right but they also ...
A. 19 May 2012: Hi
Only one way to confirm if he is the Dad of the other girls baby, a DNA test. If she is already after his money then he needs to get this test done asap.
You need to talk to him tell him what you have heard and get it sorted out, not listen ... (read in full...)
Why is my BF acting so mysteriously? he lied ,but then rushed back to see me. I don;t know where he was. Please help!!
Q. Please adive on my BF.Ok - so here it is.I've been dating this guy for 14 months, well I had a hunch last night.. actually, at 5 this morning, and I went round to see if his car was there. It wasn;t. I then called him at 5.45am. he did not answer. ...
A. 19 May 2012: Hi
If you STILL want to find out where he was and say he is fine about the false alarm/lie re pregnancy - then it sounds like you are still gonna stay in this toxic relationship. He may or may not go to jail one day. That is not the only way out ... (read in full...)
Why is my BF acting so mysteriously? he lied ,but then rushed back to see me. I don;t know where he was. Please help!!
Q. Please adive on my BF.Ok - so here it is.I've been dating this guy for 14 months, well I had a hunch last night.. actually, at 5 this morning, and I went round to see if his car was there. It wasn;t. I then called him at 5.45am. he did not answer. ...
A. 18 May 2012: Hi
If he is a dealer run a mile. You will never have a long term future together.You will never trust him nor should you.
If you cannot walk away then get help, see a counseller or therapist. Your on the road to nowhere if you stick around.
... (read in full...)
Death in my husband's family will make them all drink and I don't want to be around it! What do I do?
Q. My husband has death in his family, and my heart goes out to the family but I really dont want to be around them cause all they do is drink, I mean really, if im in mourning I wouldnt be drinking and getting drunk, and he has the nerve to get mad at ...
A. 18 May 2012: Hi
A funeral is one day, if he cannot control his temper or violence towards you for that time then kiss him goodbye.
As for his family, your not married to them and he has to stand up to them re name calling.This doesnt mean he has to cut hi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend refused to marry me, so I have left him! was it a big mistake?
Q. Hello! I left my boyfriend a few months months ago. He was a good person and I am sure we could have been together for much longer, even forever. Problem was, he refused to marry me (we'd been together for over 5 years) and after I insisted so ...
A. 18 May 2012: Hi
I know people who have lived together for years and not married,nor do they feel the need to. Its all down to personality I guess. If a mans living with you he is committed enough to stay around.
You did the right thing ending it though... (read in full...)
What can I do to finally make my boyfriend see that he needs to take some responsibility!
Q. Help! What can I do to finally make my boyfriend see that he needs to take some responsibility! I have tried everything He works part-time, Between 3 and 4 days a week. I work part-time as well, but over 5 days. I start housework as soon as I get ...
A. 18 May 2012: Hi
If theres only 2 of you there can't be that much housework especially as you are both out at work too.Hes just bone idle.
If he won't do his share, leave it. Sort your laundry, your dishes, cook only for yourself. When he says something t... (read in full...)
Death in my husband's family will make them all drink and I don't want to be around it! What do I do?
Q. My husband has death in his family, and my heart goes out to the family but I really dont want to be around them cause all they do is drink, I mean really, if im in mourning I wouldnt be drinking and getting drunk, and he has the nerve to get mad at ...
A. 18 May 2012: Hi
The death of a relative is not MEANT to be 'cute' or 'sexy' nor is the behaviour of grieving relatives.
I would say your attitude is odd, if they deal with this by getting drunk its not at all unusual. If you dont want to be around them A... (read in full...)
For those of you who are sucessful in love: How did you do it?
Q. I have noticed that so many people (me included) are suffering when it comes to love. Maybe we are just doing all the wrong things. Maybe there is more to love than pure chance. One way to be successfull I've heard is to pay attention to wha...
A. 18 May 2012: Compramise
Trust
Keeping individuality
Talking
Being there
Respect
Taking the rough and the smooth
FUN, LOVE & great sex... (read in full...)
Why is my BF acting so mysteriously? he lied ,but then rushed back to see me. I don;t know where he was. Please help!!
Q. Please adive on my BF.Ok - so here it is.I've been dating this guy for 14 months, well I had a hunch last night.. actually, at 5 this morning, and I went round to see if his car was there. It wasn;t. I then called him at 5.45am. he did not answer. ...
A. 18 May 2012: Hya
yes he is acting mysteriously and you know it, you went and checked for his car at 5am, when most people are tucked up in bed, dreaming
so,you have serious trust issues with him and all your alarm bells must be ringing now. He was up to som... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to want sex most times we see each other?
Q. Hello, wondering whether I can get any good advice. I'm 37 and my girlfriend is 36. We've been together 8-months and we're definitely at the in love stage. I've just one little worry... Due to our work patterns we usually only get to see each othe...
A. 18 May 2012: HI
When you only see each other twice a week there is nothing wrong with expecting, wanting sex,its perfectly normal.
Just make sure thats not ALL you do when you get together, make it the icing on the cake after spending quality time doi... (read in full...)
He asked me out, broke up with an email then said he never felt anything for me
Q. Really hope you can help me! I can't stop feeling down about something that happened quite a while ago. I was seeing this guy, it was my very first relationship so quite a significent moment in my life. I used to let guys pick me up and drop me ...
A. 18 May 2012: Hi there
It was not you, he worded the email badly for whatever reasons. He got back with his ex who,I would think he was not over and was hoping to get back with. You were a distraction, he liked you or he wouldn't have spent time with you. The... (read in full...)
Is this a sign he doesn't want to be seen with me?
Q. ...Still close with my Ex, do everything together...but he didn't invite me to his Birthday Party...? My ex split up with me a year and a half ago, his mum died and he felt like he could not handle a relationship no more. I respected his wi...
A. 17 May 2012: Hi there
Yes it is odd. You say he is not seeing anybody, woman-wise. Well, maybe he wants to, so he would rather be seen to be alone at his party and single.There could even be people you dont know about who will be there.That he has asked co... (read in full...)
My ex lover is married and looking to continue the relationship....
Q. I was sleeping with my best friend for 2 1/2 yrs after he broke up with his ex girl after 7 yrs of an on and off again relationship. We had a great time together. We are compatible and love each others company, sex was awesome but it would have ...
A. 17 May 2012: Hi there He married her because he loves her, nobody forced him to. He has been in her life for years, he didnt have to be.He could have walked away years ago and married somebody else, but chose her. He took you with him when he bought the ... (read in full...)
Do you think by my family knowing we had affair it will help with the guilt I have?
Q. I had an affair with the father of the child I was a nanny for. After doing this for 18 month the guilt became to much and even though I love him I told him we had to end things because he was married. He left his wife and filed for divorce so we ...
A. 16 May 2012: Hi I think you should weigh up if this relationship is worth it. Just because you love him doesnt make it alright,its making you miserable and eaten up with guilt. Your folks, his folks, everyone is unhappy about how you met. Both you and he were ... (read in full...)
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