Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 16 July 2012: Hey
If you don't want the break-up make up pattern to continue,if you want him back, then an adult conversation on neutral ground is neccessary. You need to solve the issues that lead to the break-up.
Anyone can bring flowers,food and... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 10 July 2012: Hi
Well there was no point ignoring his calls for a week only to rush over as soon as you got back. You may as well have just answered.He didnt ask to resume the relationship with you so all the other 'signs' mean zero.
Your not going to giv... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him, I want us to be exclusive but he has a partner
Q. I'm at my wits end. I've been having an affair for 3 years. I am separated from my husband. It started out as just sex with this man. However, It has developed considerably, especially in the last year. We have talked about being together. He sai...
A. 5 July 2012: Hi
Just do the maths, he moved her into his home one year ago. Hes been seeing you three years. If he was so in love with you he would NOT have moved her in. He would have moved YOU in after breaking it off with her.
Watch his actions and see ... (read in full...)
What is going on with my FWB?
Q. Hi sorry if this will be long I am totally in love with my former fwb we met 18 months ago and the first few weeks were amazing he made plans where we going to go for meals and mentioned going on holiday n things like that my daughter met him as he ...
A. 5 July 2012: Well Some men always say things in the first few weeks, they don't mean half of it. He may have wanted more at first, but that clearly changed. I think he probably has a girlfriend or a new FWB now, if he wasn't getting his physical needs m... (read in full...)
My Adult Sons Are Disrespectful And Verbally Abusive. I Could Really Use Some Advise.
Q. I'm 45 with 2 "boys" aged 20 and 22. Both are finished A-Level and College. The oldest works part time 12-16 hours a week mostly in the in the evenings and other than going to football and the gym spends his time either in bed or in front...
A. 5 July 2012: Hi
Thing is your not listening to what people suggest on here, your not doing anything differently. Your just explaining more of what they are doing on another day.
If you want your homelife to change,make new rules. Its time they left home,y... (read in full...)
My Adult Sons Are Disrespectful And Verbally Abusive. I Could Really Use Some Advise.
Q. I'm 45 with 2 "boys" aged 20 and 22. Both are finished A-Level and College. The oldest works part time 12-16 hours a week mostly in the in the evenings and other than going to football and the gym spends his time either in bed or in front...
A. 4 July 2012: Hi
Well theyre taking the proverbial mick out of you and your husband. You've got them through their growing up years and sadly they havent matured. They need a short sharp shock.
Get some cardboard boxes and bin-liners put them in their ro... (read in full...)
My wife never buys me gifts that I like. Am I making a mountain out of a mole hill here?
Q. My wife of 20 years never buys me gifts I like and never has. This may seem like a small matter, but it is a festering issue in our marriage. She says that I am unappreciative and that she can't do any right by me. From my perspective, I feel l...
A. 4 July 2012: Hi
Just go out and buy for yourself what you want, if its not 'terribly expensive', just do it. Your not a child you don't have to wait for your birthday.
If your wife doesn't get you presents you like just suggest she takes you out for a me... (read in full...)
How can you tell when someone you are in a relationship with, is being honest about changing their ways?
Q. How can you tell when someone you are in a relationship is being honest about changing their ways? My boyfriend used to make profiles on sex sites and would talk sexually with women. This is his last chance to shape up or ship out. We have kids ...
A. 4 July 2012: Hi
He sounds like he is making the effort, being open, you don't know if it will last, but for now, I would say he IS being honest with you. He's had his wake up call... (read in full...)
My marriage is crumbling, I have a crush on a guy I went to high school with and I'm contemplating leaving my husband not for the other guy but to make myself happy. Am I doing the right thing?
Q. I'm in a strange place, and I was hoping someone could shed some light.. I am twenty-three years old and have been with my husband now for three and a half years, married for about ten months. Our relationship has been good for the most part. W...
A. 4 July 2012: Hi
Well your 23 years old and dont appear to have been single for any time. You move homes, you fight depression and now you want your freedom
Perhaps freedom is just what you need. You can't stay with somebody because your friends think yo... (read in full...)
He wants to be serious and then disappears!
Q. OK - met a guy on a dating site, and we met and things were great. Met again and he was REALLY positive about me - called me beautiful, attractive, great to be with (should have seen him for what he is then .....?) etc. and we planned to meet again ...
A. 2 July 2012: Hi
We are ALL bluffed more than once, but its easy in the moment to be sucked in,even though we KNOW deep down they are spinning us a line,a player,we are one of many. I Think in these cases we just want to believe them regardless.
Thing i... (read in full...)
Is there a such thing as a monogamous loyal man or is that a rare animal?
Q. A male older friend of mine and I had a conversation about infedility and marriage etc...My question to all you men and or women is do you agree with my male friend that ALL men if given the opportunity for SEX will take it married or not because ...
A. 30 June 2012: Hi
Don't listen to him, I know plenty who don't cheat.Are happy with their wives and girlfriends have been for years.There are predatory single women out there who will try to entice a man, so its up to the men to decide.
Most don't want the d... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a married man and don't know how to handle things
Q. I'm in a tough situation. I'm seeing a married man. I've known him since I was around 14 years old, I've also been in love with him since the day we met. We had a fling back in high school. After high school, I took off and left the state. He ...
A. 29 June 2012: Oh well
If you've seen the papers and he IS getting divorced then its no wonder his wife,who only sees him at the weekend, gets angry. Especially if she knows about your visits. They are newly married and he hasn't given the marriage a chance. ... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 29 June 2012: Hmmmmm
Perhaps he thought YOU slashed the tyre, made worse as you didn't ring him for a lift to work, soooo he assumed you knew about the tyre
Just don't take his calls and definately not when your away. Sounds like he's losing the plot. Enjoy ... (read in full...)
Would it be rude to ask for gift cards instead of gifts?
Q. This is not a relationship question but I am curious. My daughters first birthday is next month and we plan on keeping it simple inviting family and a few close family friends. Now I know usually people buy clothes or toys for gifts and I'm wonderin...
A. 28 June 2012: Hi
Its a good practical idea. However some family would probably rather pick the actual gift to make it personal ,especially for the first birthday. Maybe suggest them getting clothes in bigger sizes,a keepsake or jewellry of some sort. If they'... (read in full...)
Shattered that it could happen to me twice.
Q. I'm new here. I'm 51 and divorced. This is really for the more mature crowd. I would really like to figure out how this could have happened to me, twice now. My background is I married at 36 and my husband left me, for another woman after 16 y...
A. 28 June 2012: Hello So sorry to hear of all this rotten luck, and the fact you have no family to lean on. As for the men, the last two weren't a relationship they were more long distance phone calls. They were lonely and I guess you were. Telling a woman ... (read in full...)
My boss belittled me about something that frightened me. What should I do?
Q. this is going to sound rediculous and i feel a bit silly to be honest but it has become a huge issue for me at work. im a nurse and i work nights shifts alone on my floor in a small home setting unit. There is always someone else there but th...
A. 28 June 2012: Hi
Thing is when working in that environment at night,alone, its a bit spooky anyway and come 3 or 4 in the morning your body is very tired. It probably was imagination.
HOWEVER, it scared you and your boss should have been sympathetic to s... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 28 June 2012: Well
He CAN still hurt you further because you have hope.He called and you jumped. Nice dinner,meet the friends, all good.No point declining a lift to work really was there
Who knows he may ask to rekindle the relationship he's clearly up to so... (read in full...)
She has chosen to marry another guy because he is financially stable and can get her out of this town!
Q. I guese ill start by saying iv never had any thing like this happen to me and i don't have a clue what to do! Well iv been dating this very sweethearted girl for about 4 months, were great togeather, shes my bestfriend, feels like the one but im not ...
A. 28 June 2012: Hi
Sorry your in this situation. To be honest I think you've had a very lucky escape.Sweet girls in a loving relationship don't go off to Vegas for a break,with a male friend and come back to tell you its over.Something fishy here.
Would y... (read in full...)
I feel really upset that he keeps demanding things from me that I cannot afford!
Q. Dear all, A few months ago I found out my boyfriend had been naked webcamming for hours with other girls and sending pictures of himself to them. There were also very explicit photos of naked girls on his computer from these conversations in a sec...
A. 28 June 2012: Hi
Explain to me why you are with him?
He did wrong,very wrong, you reacted. Thats perfectly normal. Hes trying to shift the focus to you and off him being a seedy no good boyfriend
Dump him, find somebody who DOESN'T webcam. THAT is ... (read in full...)
The way he asked for money made me feel like an outsider, like an cash machine
Q. Hi everyone. I hope you can help me get some perspective. My boyfriend of 2 years asked me to lend him some money,just to get him through the week til payday. I helped him out, and he told me afterwards it was because he had to pay an unexpected ...
A. 28 June 2012: Hi
Maybe he just felt awkward,embarassed to have to ask, thought you wouldn't lend him anything. Nowadays with the econamy the way it is alot of people struggle with UNEXPECTED costs.Being poor near the end of the month is something everyone... (read in full...)
I stick to my values and principles, am I wrong?
Q. I would be very grateful to get ladies view on this issue. I am a woman in my forties and very attractive, I started internet dating, I put on my profile that I take time to get to know someone and till I have feelings for them I do not have se...
A. 28 June 2012: Hi
I think its more down to the dating site your using, the other women on there are clearly saying they want a relationship, then having sex on the first or second date.The majority must be, or the men your meeting wouldn't be expecting the same... (read in full...)
I'm nervous he will meet someone else! How do I deal with my anxiety?
Q. Online dating can be very difficult and if you actually find and meet someone you like makes it even harder. I went out with this guy two times and we both seem to like each other. We had texted and spoke on the phone two weeks prior. I knew he...
A. 27 June 2012: Hi
He might be going on the site to check if your still active on there, and you have been on there, to check up on him.
It is early days so keep your options open, dont focus purely on him. Dating is getting to know somebody to see if you wa... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a married man and don't know how to handle things
Q. I'm in a tough situation. I'm seeing a married man. I've known him since I was around 14 years old, I've also been in love with him since the day we met. We had a fling back in high school. After high school, I took off and left the state. He ...
A. 27 June 2012: Hi
He's been married 2 years, how would you feel if YOUR new husband was cheating and bad-mouthing you to his bit on the side ?
How do you handle it? You stop it, you forget him. He is not free.He is not unhappy.His wife is probably a great... (read in full...)
Why would he go away so far, with a woman 24 years younger? And leave his devoted loving wife?
Q. so i know this is out there a lot but my husband left me for a younger girl 24 years younger. they are living together oh and she has a 2 year old. Anyway just wanted to know if anyone could shed light on why he would leave a good wife that woul...
A. 27 June 2012: Hi
You need to start your plan of action, make sure when the divorce is through you are looked after very well financially, have a home and money coming in,focus on work.
As to why he left, well he's a man, he thinks the grass is greener,he fe... (read in full...)
How do I get him back, I know he likes me!
Q. I want to get back together with this guy. We've been seeing each other for four months - last Wednesday I asked him what our relationship was. He was all okay with it and as soon as we left the restaurant he talked about splitting up with me. We ...
A. 25 June 2012: Hya
What makes you think he likes you? The fact he dumped you and dropped your stuff off?
He has finished the relationship because, for him, its run its course,its over and by the sounds of it hes moved on.
Please DO NOT feed his eg... (read in full...)
Why is he texting me?
Q. Hi all. Your opinions would be welcome. I recently split with my bf of over a year due to many problems,and trust issues. He told me i deserve more,and that he isn.t good enough for me. We had an argument,and he said he was going through the ...
A. 24 June 2012: Hi
He asked to 'pop over' later, means 'can we have sex' later. I think hes having problems letting go completely. Spare yourself torment and leave him to decide what he needs to do. Let him really miss you. In the meantime try and distract... (read in full...)
I'm worried about my friend's drinking and sleeping around
Q. I'm really to starting to worry about my friend as I think she is losing control. She has started to be in an open relationship with her boyfriend where she can go to bed with anyone but he's not allowed which he is ok with as he gets off from ...
A. 24 June 2012: Hi
Shes lucky she has friends who care,pity her boyfriend doesn't appear to,he should be dumped.
All you can do is talk to her when she's sober, try and get across how everyones concerned about her safety and talking about her.Tell her she... (read in full...)
I trust him. But should he have gone to this holiday destination hot spot? I'm anxious.
Q. My boyfriend of 3 years has just gone to a holiday destination for a week with the lads. I trust him completely and I know he loves me. I'm very anxious and nervous though what he may get up to but not paranoid as obviously there are a lot of half...
A. 23 June 2012: Hi
If you trust him then stop worrying and enjoy yourself,keep busy. You should have booked a girls holiday for the same week!
So many people worry when their partner goes away alone, its a week, 7 days, thats all.Hes not going to throw away 3y... (read in full...)
Should I ditch her completely?
Q. I've been seeing a girl who has split from a guy who had been beating her, this has happened 4 times now, with increasing severity. We meet every now and again, but she blows hot and cold and never wants to meet when i suggest it, we only meet when ...
A. 23 June 2012: Hi
Difficult, no excuse to beat up a woman, he needs sorting out,I dont know if the victim has to report it but somebody should. Dont get too deeply involved in her problems but dont turn your back totally,be a friend but thats all.Her head and... (read in full...)
Why would my ex care anything about what I think of her now?
Q. Me and my ex were together for 5 years. First 2 years were great, we talked about the future, made plans, saw each other as often as we could. Only one problem, none of her friends and family knew we where seeing each other because she didnt want to ...
A. 21 June 2012: Hello there
Dont communicate with her, she has treated you badly for a long time,strung you along, now she has her own home, your history. Very selfish young lady. So what if she wants to feel better about it all by remaining friends.You don't ne... (read in full...)
Should I give up on dating?
Q. I feel as though I'm burnt out and tired of dating. In the past year, I've met four guys, the first was an uncaring narcissist already involved with someone (he did not tell me about it for a long time, then I thought I could wait for him until he ...
A. 19 June 2012: Hi
Don't give up, just take a break from dating, few months or a year or so.Focus on the rest of your life,enjoy being single,go on holiday,go to a festival, whatever, just have some single time. Get to know yourself and as you already know... (read in full...)
Uncertain of ex's intentions!
Q. Uncertain of ex s intentions? I broke up with the father of my 2 kids in jan, we'd had a strained relationship for many yrs, due to the fact that he is immature and a bad boy. Although at 42 he would binge drink with mates at wk ends take drugs ...
A. 19 June 2012: Hi
If it sounds rediculous to you, getting married to him,then it doesn't matter what HE is thinking or why does it.
Its not flattering that he wants you to pop round when the kids are with him. Bet he either wants you to babysit or help ... (read in full...)
Tired of waiting for love to return
Q. husband left me for a 24 year old with a 3 year old. they are now living together and are engaged. our divorce is not final, and i found out he has not payed my attourney yet. they seem to be getting along pretty good. but everyone tells me it wont ...
A. 18 June 2012: Hi
He is not coming back, he's engaged and has a new life. Cut contact and move forward. Build a new life for yourself. Think we all have one that got away and He is yours.
You will survive without him, promise.... (read in full...)
I don't get it! He acts as though he is interested but says he just wants to be friends. Am I missing something?
Q. So I met this guy I work with. He's 21, I'm 29. We have hung out a couple times (like 4 times either by ourselves and with other people). And I kind of like him a bit. And I have gotten the feeling he likes me too. So I texted him the other day and ...
A. 18 June 2012: Hi
He may be interested but theres the age difference. Hes 21 and is used to having girl mates from school,also your work colleagues which is also risky if it doesn't work out. He may want to get to know you alot better to see if their is a future... (read in full...)
What can I do to discourage this woman who's been having meaninless sex with my husband for two years?
Q. Hello, I'm dealing with my husband's infidelity right now.He's the best hubby in the world and I love him to bits.. Only one tiny little problem.He's been having a meaningless sex fling with this floosy for 2yrs.It's a lady I have to see on a regu...
A. 18 June 2012: Hi
Its your choice to stay with him and put up with the ongoing disrespect
You know he had make-up from her on him, he doesn't care because you tolerate it. If this 'other' woman wanted him in her life permanant he would go like shot. My gu... (read in full...)
I'm Chronically Unemployed My father delights putting me to shame in front of others.
Q. I feel so humilliated. I've been unemployed for years and live with parents. I have only one older sister who's been married for years and her kids are here almost everyday. With time I've developed multiple symptoms that have lead me to feel I ...
A. 17 June 2012: Hi
Look you need to get out of the rut your in. You need to look at maybe further education, or just applying for jobs too,any job,try temping with an agency. You need to focus on the future,get your brain cells working again. Start with voluntar... (read in full...)
Why did he disappear? I haven't heard from him in a week
Q. Dear friends, I hope you can help me out with my problem, I met a man 2 months ago at some friends house dinner and we started a beautiful friendship, he doesn't live in the same country but visits it quite often almost every month. He's 23 years ...
A. 17 June 2012: hi
I think youve had a lucky escape,this relationship was a none starter. Too much drama too much distance too little trust.
Just be thankful you saw the whole scanario for what it is, hes not a good catch at all.... (read in full...)
I disinvited him to my party ...
Q. I was seeing a guy 6 years younger to me. for one year. On the pretext that he said he doesnt want a commitment, I broke it off with him, because i was very involved. I got him a job. when he asked me to held him with one. designed his tattoo, ...
A. 17 June 2012: Hi
He didn't use you, he told you what the deal was and by continuing to see him you agreed with it. You helped him in small ways because you wanted to. More as a friend would really.
Yes you did right to un-invite him you shouldn't have i... (read in full...)
I don't know if I could trust that his ex is REALLY his ex!
Q. I have been talking to this guy since last June (2011) . And since then, we've been through so much. I really really like him. But for some reason, I don't feel like I should be talking to him. His supposedly "ex girlfriend" has called my phone ...
A. 17 June 2012: Hi
How did she get your number? Sounds like she is just trying to get him back and knows he likes you.
however I dont know if you are just talking to him or dating,its not clear what the relationship you have is ?
Think he likes you an... (read in full...)
Is there a way for me to repair any damage that I may have done by sleeping with him too soon?
Q. I met a man on an Internet site. We talked that way for about a week before speaking on the phone. We got along great and after speaking several times a day on the phone decided to meet. A few days after our first date, I made the mistake of ...
A. 17 June 2012: Hi
When are you seeing him next? Ask to go out at the weekend, DO stuff together, you dont want a talk relationship or a FWB you want a proper one. Theres only so much polite conversation you can have.
Hes told you hes crazy about you, so st... (read in full...)
My bf cheated on me, please help, I feel sick, nauseous and ill!
Q. Dear all, I guess I just want to share this with you and get your views. I checked my BF's of over a year and a halfs emails a couple of nights ago and he had emailed a girl saying hi babes, and then went on to say that she must remember him as he ...
A. 15 June 2012: Hi
He's a lowlife who took the proverbial p**s out of you. He strayed,he was willing to do so again. You have done the right thing dumping him but I would have done it face to face or by phone. He won't apologise, he will just email her and push... (read in full...)
What can I do to discourage this woman who's been having meaninless sex with my husband for two years?
Q. Hello, I'm dealing with my husband's infidelity right now.He's the best hubby in the world and I love him to bits.. Only one tiny little problem.He's been having a meaningless sex fling with this floosy for 2yrs.It's a lady I have to see on a regu...
A. 13 June 2012: Hi
Hes NOT the best hubby in the World, he's got a bit on the side and is bragging about it to his mates. He really loves and respects you doesn't he? NOT
Your friends don't think your the perfect couple,they will wonder why you put up with ... (read in full...)
When is it too late for true love?
Q. At what age do you think its too late for true love? ...
A. 13 June 2012:
Its never too late, so long as your breathing... (read in full...)
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