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*allisa67
writes:It's just i noticed a lot lately that women in their 20's seem to be going for men in there 40's even 50's . Some with even a 25 to 30 year age difference my friend is actually 24 and dating a 49 year old. It puzzles me because sometimes the men are going grey the just aren't as spring chicken as a younger guy etc and the women are just so young looking compared to them some women who are really pretty . I also wonder why because wouldn't they have nohting in common too ? Because they have both grown up in two completely different decades or is that a good thing so they'd have more to talk about? Do you think men just date women who are younger because she makes HIM look good (virile, successful ) etc younger women ? music tastes partying moods everything is so different ?? Even fatherhood and motherhood ages? is it just all for sex and lust or is there actually love there? Does anyone know because i'd love to know?
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reader, n_evans4  +, writes (21 April 2012):
I think it depends on the situation . Im 26 and he is 40. Hes a divorcee and Im a single mom with a career and 3 children. I meet alot of guys my age who are still stuck at 16 or they want to get married and have more kids. I need to be with someone that understands I already have my children and my career and dont have any desire to have 2 or 3 more children. Most guys I relate with are mid 30s to mid 40s because of where I am at in my life
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reader, doublejack  +, writes (11 April 2012):
I'm 35 and I only date women that are younger than myself. I limit the gap to about 10 years, though, and my ideal mate is in her late 20's. Just a couple weeks ago I broke up with my 25 year old girlfriend. The relationship lasted about four months, and her relative immaturity was a big factor in my decision to move on, although there were others.
The main reason I prefer a younger woman is that I'd like to have children, and the unfortunate biological facts are that I'm most likely to have healthy children in a few years with a woman a little bit younger than myself. Beyond that, I'm very tech savvy and work in IT, so I actually find more in common with a woman that's a little younger.
To address the allure of dating an older man to a younger woman, what I've found is the answers are the obvious ones. Younger women like that I'm more experienced and mature, that I'm more laid back when it comes to letting little things go without an argument or getting upset about it, that I'm established and financially stable, etc. They also know I'm hoping to find a lifelong partner in crime and am ready for that type of committed relationship, whereas a lot of guys their own age are still playing the field. A lot of the women I date actually prefer an older guy.
I also have experience going in the other direction. My ex-wife is 5 years older than I am, and we got together when I was just 21, so the gap was pretty considerable back then. One of the things I took away from the experience is that an older woman is just not for me.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (11 April 2012):
 for the girls financial security , maturity , probably been messed about by young lads
for the men , a trophy , the chance to have a 2nd go at fatherhood , to feel young again ,in midlife crisis
have only ever dated younger men (never 20+ yrs but 5-10) and see older men as stuck in their ways and wanting a housekeeper.I want adventure and livliness because thats my character and am free to persue that now
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reader, Shadow Rose +, writes (11 April 2012):
 Some women tend to enjoy the maturity of another man, I guess.
Older men like the youth of a younger woman?
I'm not 100% sure what the reason is, though, since all guys I've dated have been younger than me (I think that's because I don't look much at age, and I'm attracted to slightly less mature guys for some reason. I'm a wild person and I like to go on adventures with my mate. Lol)
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