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female
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anonymous
writes:So ive had a sex buddy for 4 years on and off! We both got what we wanted out of it however im now 25 and want more! I told him that i liked him and wanted more therefore think we should stop seeing eachother... we keeped in touch and i told him i was going on a date! ... He text me one night saying "are you on the date?x" i replied " no its tom x" we had a breif chat! The next night he text me about 12pm asking if the date went well! I ignored it to start with, then he replied saying i bet your shagging him! - " i replied saying the date went well" he got a little shitty asking if i slept with him...! I said "no i cant win with you, you dont want me but you get nasty when someone else does" ... he said " you can win with me you do everything right thats why i stay in touch and one day i will tell you a secret" xx - The next day he went back to his old self i snapped and said " if you want to push me away, your going the right way about it" we havent spoke since!My question : 4 years is a long time and i did fall for him, however when i told him he never said it back! Is he jealous bcos he likes me or do you think his just insecure? - what do i do?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 June 2012):
 Honestly? I think he does not give a flying f...; he is just protective of his habits and convenience. He thinks that if you start getting regular sex somewhere else, you won't need him any more, and he will have lost an easy , readily available, undemanding source of physical release : bummer.
As you say, 4 years is a long time, and if in 4 years he had developed anything even slighty more sentimental for you, you'd definitely know.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (6 June 2012):
 Hi
He just doesn't want to lose his free sex to somebody else. Its so you thought of him he got in touch when he did.
Stop the contact, hes just messing with your head and you really don't need to let him know who or when your dating, thats just pointless and leads to more games.
He has had 4 years to give you girlfriend status and hasn't,he never will.Sack the idiot
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): The guy wants you to himself but he doesn't want to pay the price of commitment.
I want a sports car but I don't want to pay for it. Same principle.
Jealousy and insecurity has nothing to do with it. I'm not too insecure or jealous to pay for the sports car that I want. I just like having the car all to myself for free.
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