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writes:My boyfriend wants sex with me and I told him that I don't know how, I obviously do know how but I think he will be disappointed and might break up with me. But he said 'it's ok I will teach you how' I don't think I am ready for it though, and I don't see myself as good looking. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 June 2012): If he dumps you because you won't put out, then he wasn'f worh your time.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (5 June 2012):
 If you are NOT ready, you are not ready. If sex is all he wants maybe he isn't worth keeping around?
Don't ever let anyone pressure you to have sex.
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reader, Sweet-thing +, writes (5 June 2012):
 You're too young. Don't rush it.
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reader, N91 +, writes (5 June 2012):
 You will know when you're ready, just wait it out until then.
And please, stop being so insecure, I'm sure your boyfriend finds you very attractive so you have nothing to worry about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2012): I asked my girlfriend to have sex with me and she wasn't ready so I told her that I would wait because I really love her... And she told me a few days back that she is ready I am 18 and she is 17 we are still very young, if you decide to have sex with him make sure you use protection... You don't want to get an infection or pregnant you are too young. And don't be pressured if he loves you he will wait for you
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2012): Listen, if u think ur not ready don't do it but if it's because you think ur not attractive enough then he wouldn't of asked you if he thought u weren't pretty enough cause honestly guys don't lie about sex wel I don't anyway the only thing you shouldn't do is feel pressured into having sex because if he forces you then u deserve better but if he has patience and can wait you know he is the right guy for you.
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reader, courtneysue4 +, writes (4 June 2012):
Samething happening to me, but I'm 14 and he's 16.. just say your not ready. I thought my boyfriend would dump me if I said no, but he turned out to be ohkay with it. And if he isn't understanding, he's not worth it! :p
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (4 June 2012):
 If you are not ready then you are not ready and you say NO
if you think this is about being good looking, honey men don't care if you are good looking or not if you are willing to sleep with them.
but I doubt you are not good looking, most of us don't see ourselves as attractive, especially at your age...
You just say NO to him. if he pressures you, he is NOT a good boyfriend.
he should accept at your age that you are not ready (and good for you for knowing you are not ready)
btw is he older than you?
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reader, AuntyAlexxmo +, writes (4 June 2012):
 If you ar enot ready DO NOT do it, you will feel awful and only end up regretting it.
You need to tell him your are not ready, if he is a nice guy and cares about you he will understand, if he doesnt or puts pressure on you then you dont want to be with a guy like that.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (4 June 2012):
 Hi
Do not be pressured into sex, if your not ready then tell him just that. Do not do it just to keep him because honey, if he cares,he will wait and understand.
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