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writes:My BF and I's situation is that he lives at home and i live by myself. He does not like travelling down to my place every weekend. If i go to his, his mum and dad are there. (we are late 20's). For the two years of our relationship before i moved out of home, i went to his every weekend. It did get tiring, so i do understand where he is coming from. However, im not sure what the solution is. I dont like the idea of leaving my house unattended for the entire weekend. I have animals too. What are some ways around this? It also doesn't help that we only see each other on the weekends as we both work during the week and he often wants to do his own thing too, which doesn't leave much time for us....
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (9 June 2012):
I've been going out with my girlfriend for three years, and I always travelled to hers because it was just her at the house. I find it very odd that your boyfriend doesn't travel to see you. I appreciate that it is a lot of legwork, but after all the legwork you put in the beginning, and the prospect of having you to himself with no parents around, he should be doing it really.
Perhaps he should come ever alternate weekend? Or maybe one in three with the fourth to himself?
And as the poster below suggests, maybe you need to have a chat about where this is heading. I recently moved to be nearer my girlfriend, so I know where we're at. Maybe your boyfriend should start to look to do the same?
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reader, oldbag +, writes (9 June 2012):
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Seems to me you do all the legwork, you have always gone to him. Well you have your own place now,plus animals. Your late 20s, you would think he would enjoy being without parents around - at yours
I dont know what the distance is between you, sounds like its a few miles,so it is a bit much every weekend. You could suggest 2 at yours 2 at his parents,a month. I would also have a chat about where your heading, sounds like the relationship may have run its course, if he isnt going to move in and won't travel to you.
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