How can I tell if this is a real date - Is he interested in dating me? Or just a friendship?
Q. Hello Everyone, I have a little dilemma here, and hope you can help me figure it out. I was at a street party with a friend in August 2011 and we bumped into a guy she knew, they got talking and she introduced us. The guy and I got along quit...
A. 19 August 2012: Hi
First thing you need to do is find out if he's still seeing the other girl.
He does sound interested, he keeps coming back. But, he has told you he was seeing a girl,he was honest, so he may think you accept the situation..of hi... (read in full...)
Why did he say it will be better next time?
Q. Hi everyone just a quick question my friend with benefits were having sex the other night and I told him he could come inside me sorry to be graphic but he said no it will make it better next time what does he mean by this thank you x ...
A. 19 August 2012: Hi
Was he not he wearing a condom? Maybe he didn't want to get you pregnant and just said 'next time' to keep you sweet.If he was wearing one, then he probably just means exactly what he said.
A FWB is a FWB, just sex and no more remember.... (read in full...)
I love being a step mom, but we're having trouble with my partner's ex. Advice needed!
Q. My partner and I are engaged to be married next year, I have a daughter from a previous relationship and he has a daughter from a previous relationship. The children have really bonded and we are happy as a family, the problem is his ex. When the ...
A. 19 August 2012: Hi If the child is at her Grans for days at a time she should at least be getting cared for properly there,without having to care for the baby. Which is good. You and your Ex deal with the access of your daughter differently,which is fi... (read in full...)
Five dates and no chemistry? Are my dating expectations unrealistic? Any thoughts on what to do?
Q. I need help.I am a 50year old divorced women. I went through a horrible time with my divorce that took years of my life away from me. I have tried to put one foot in front of the other in the dating world. I did not have success with online dati...
A. 19 August 2012: Hi As you have a lot of options and still get hit on then why just 'settle'? He sounds like he would make a great friend for you but not partner from what you say. I don't know if chemistry still happens, or love just grows from respect and... (read in full...)
My partner won't stop smoking cannabis.
Q. i love my partner very much he works hard a good dad to our 2 year old and a loving partner but at the weekend he smokes canabis and i hate it i cant see any way round this problem i cant talk to him when he smokes it to me hes on another planet to ...
A. 18 August 2012:
Ciar has the right answer and questions. What EXACTLY is your problem with it. Would you rather he drank at the weekend or just did nothing?... (read in full...)
Girlfriend is always asking me to striptease on webcam, then gets mad when I give her what she wants.
Q. Hello. I'm very concerned about my girlfriend. She frequently asks for me to do a striptease for her on webcam on MSN. Yet, when I do, or I'm in the middle of the process, there's a change of heart, she panics, and gets angry. She then yells at me...
A. 18 August 2012: Hi
She just sounds plain weird to me. Is she just an online friend or do you actually date,meet etc?... (read in full...)
Help I'm afraid my man is too kinky for me!
Q. So let me begin by saying, that I am a very open minded and sexually liberated person, and I'm usually the one causing others to blush. The guy I am seeing now however... So I have begun dating this guy I met online, no where in his profile does...
A. 18 August 2012: Hi
Mishmash is right.....
However if he's turned on by you restraining him, while your hammering his Credit Card online, I could see how he would be quite a catch, though it MAY be seen as prostitution by some... (read in full...)
How to find the courage to break up after nine years together?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for nine years. We have a nice house together, lots of shared friends, we get on well and life is generally ok. He's sweet, generous and affectionate. Everyone likes him. So do I. We got together after lots of short-lived ...
A. 18 August 2012: Hi
I dont think you should JUST finish it, I think its worth fighting for. You sound bored in general to be honest and have already left but then gone back.
If its a better sex life you want then talk to him. If there is no spark then why h... (read in full...)
Relationship advice on a girl who won't talk to me.
Q. I was seeing a girl for 2 and a half years. I have just returned from three months away, she was fine before I left and we agreed to split but remain friends. While I was away I was having a very hard time the first few weeks and so wished to tal...
A. 17 August 2012: Hi
Just forget her, and dont move,why should you just because she doesnt want to know you,its your home. Chances are you won't see alot of her anyway.
If ALL you did was make a few calls then I think she grossly over-reacted to be honest.
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We've been together 2 and 1/2 years. Yet still he kept explicit pictures of his ex's bodies. Am I justified to feel insanely jealous over this?.
Q. A few months ago I found some explicit photos and videos of my fiance and a couple of his exes. I wasn't happy with him having them and told him so, eventually he threw them out. Then I found he had some on his laptop, he said he had forgotte...
A. 17 August 2012: Hi
Yea I guess it would be annoying but I dont think you have anything to worry about. I assume you two have a good sex life as you haven't said otherwise, so why get stressed about a few old photos.... (read in full...)
I'm fed up with men!!
Q. I am seriously getting fed up now with men. I am 30, slim attractive and I do get a lot if male attention. Every guy I seem to meet it only seems to last a few months and then I think it's going well and they disappear. I don't chase after them but ...
A. 17 August 2012: Hi
If it keeps happening, maybe they are attracted to your appearance but then over time realise they are not attracted to your personality?
You can appear too distant and independant too, making it look like you dont care, or that they aren't... (read in full...)
Like her personality but not fully attracted to her physically. Do I stay or move on?
Q. I've been dating this woman I met online now for about two months now and I'll be honest when it comes to the physical attraction I just don't find her as attractive as I want to find a girl I date to be. I find myself looking at other women when...
A. 15 August 2012: Hi
If you stay with her the odds are high you will eventually stray, you will meet somebody who WILL light your fire and the temptation will be hard to resist.
Finish it, its only fair on her. ... (read in full...)
I've been offered a much better job with more money but I'm scared of leaving what I have now because I have been here for a long time. Is it normal to feel this way?
Q. Thanks for reading :) I have been working for a small but successful firm for 4 years - i was hired as a new business manager and was promised that i would spend a lot of my time out and about visiting clients. I am now 30 years old. I start...
A. 14 August 2012: Hi
Yes I would leave like shot, not just because of the money and car, but to feel valued as an employee. A company that sees and utilises my potential.
Ofcourse its going to be different, new people and such like, but if its out meeting clie... (read in full...)
There's this guy. And he's cheating on his girlfriend.. with me!
Q. There's this guy. And he's cheating on his girlfriend.. with me. I'm the other girl. I honestly love him and think he's the one. However, he told me he's thinking of breaking up with his girlfriend to be with me, but he hasn't yet. and...
A. 14 August 2012: Hi
He has no respect for either of you, her as he lies and cheats on her and you cos all you are is illicit sex to him
Your friends are right... (read in full...)
I'm going through a messy custody battle ....
Q. I'm going through a custody battle with my ex. I was experiencing fanancial difficulties so stupidly asked my ex if he could have the children live with him until I had a tax rebate. After 2 weeks my money provlems were sorted so asked for them back ...
A. 12 August 2012: Hi
You do need to do this legally, whatever it costs, as its the only way you can sort it properly. I would definately go back to the solicitor with an update this week. This situation could drag on for years otherwise. Their home is with you, the... (read in full...)
Is he having a mid-life crisis? Is this not love?
Q. Because What would a man his age want with a woman like this? Ok well my Ex and I we are split up for about 5 months . We still tells me about his life , and for the past 3 months he is constantly talking about his friend he met for the first time ...
A. 12 August 2012: Hi It doesn't matter what it is does it, she sounds great company to me, nothing like somebody you can relax and have a laugh with! Most people I know would enjoy her company. He may be having a crisis but thats up to him,its his life his mista... (read in full...)
Is he having a mid-life crisis? Is this not love?
Q. Because What would a man his age want with a woman like this? Ok well my Ex and I we are split up for about 5 months . We still tells me about his life , and for the past 3 months he is constantly talking about his friend he met for the first time ...
A. 12 August 2012: Hi It doesn't matter what it is does it, she sounds great company to me, nothing like somebody you can relax and have a laugh with! Most people I know would enjoy her company. He may be having a crisis but thats up to him,its his life his mista... (read in full...)
Our relationship ended for good, He doesn't want to talk any more, What should I do?
Q. I know this is going to be long but please help me with your inputs, advice , and kind words. Hello Everyone, I just broke up with my scorpio man. We have broken up before but made up right away. This time was really for real though because ...
A. 12 August 2012: Hi Its over, you need to stay away,dont contact him or his family, give him space. He may come round eventually he may not.If you leave him be he's got time to sort his head and so have you. No more of the silly messages or arguments, yo... (read in full...)
I've never been turned down for sex in the middle of the night, I feel hurt! Am I over reacting?
Q. I'm so hurt it's unbelievable. I live with my boyfriend but went away abroad with my mum and sister for a week and got back last night. everyday we called and texted a lot, he told me all the time how he missed me and couldn't wait to see me. I've ...
A. 12 August 2012: Hi Yes, your over reacting! You thought you would spend the first 24hrs having sex after a relaxing week on holiday. He has been at home, doing his thing with work etc, then a 20 mile bike ride before you got back, so wasnt in the same frame of mi... (read in full...)
I'm going through a messy custody battle ....
Q. I'm going through a custody battle with my ex. I was experiencing fanancial difficulties so stupidly asked my ex if he could have the children live with him until I had a tax rebate. After 2 weeks my money provlems were sorted so asked for them back ...
A. 12 August 2012: Hi
You deserve a medal for not cracking up under the strain. I dont know why you handed over the kids for 2 weeks theres always a way to get help with money when you have children, loans from Social Fund etc.
The living conditions they ... (read in full...)
I love being a step mom, but we're having trouble with my partner's ex. Advice needed!
Q. My partner and I are engaged to be married next year, I have a daughter from a previous relationship and he has a daughter from a previous relationship. The children have really bonded and we are happy as a family, the problem is his ex. When the ...
A. 10 August 2012: Hi
I sympathise with your problem and very much so with your partners daughter, who is stuck in the middle of all this.
As your partner wasnt with his Ex after the child was born she will have formed a strong bond with her daughter and no ... (read in full...)
He says that I am all he wants in a partner and he wants to settle down with me. So why no planning to make it happen? Am I over anxious?
Q. Hi I would just like some advice on how to figure out if my boyfriend is really meaning it when he says I am all he wants as a partner and he wants to spend the rest of our lives together. He says this a lot but even more if he's had a few drinks (...
A. 10 August 2012: Hi
No your not being over anxious, you want to plan a future you want to know you two are going somewhere and after 3 years thats fair.
He wants you around but can't or won't commit. If you both thought like that,as some I know do,then fine. Bu... (read in full...)
How should I respond to him contacting me? Is he interested in something more?
Q. I had a one night stand recently with someone i've met a few times before through a mutual friend. We made our intensions clear from the beggining that it is just a one night stand and i never expect to hear from him after but he got my number from ...
A. 7 August 2012: Hi
What do YOU want, more or more of the same, or nothing. Thats the question you should ask yourself.
When you know,then respond. If its more of the same then fine. If its more then dont have sex with him until you have established a re... (read in full...)
Should I be scared about him having kids? Or will it just turn out fine?
Q. Hi! Firstly, my keyboard is playin up and swopping my y and zs!! So I hope you can all read my post. I have a very simple question, I want to know if I should be scared about my new life basically!! I have a wonderful bloke, he treats ...
A. 7 August 2012: hi
You sound like your coping just fine and have accepted the whole package. Yes his kids will always be around and one day you will add your own to them. I would stick with him as I dont see any problems,he supports you all the way too. The end ... (read in full...)
I'm happy with my new guy but why does my ex friend with benefits still have a hold on me?
Q. Ok,had a fwb for a while,pulled out when i got feelings,went no contact,met a new man months after,started dating and now in relationship. Thing is i feel like i am settling for 2nd best.Seen my ex fwb around and when out a few times he always ...
A. 7 August 2012: Hi
Why not ask your FWB outright if he wants a real relationship. You cannot be friends if you still feel for him can you?
If he says no, which he probably will, then give your lovely boyfriend the 100% he deserves... (read in full...)
My friend is planning the same trip with me and someone else too? How do I talk to her about it?
Q. Hi there, thanks in advance for offering me some assistance: ) A friend and i were planning a trip overseas and the other day i asked him if we were still on board with it. They said of course we were. However, they later made a joke that they'd...
A. 6 August 2012: Hi
Just ask outright. Its not causing a fight or looking jealous,its asking a totally reasonable adult question.
If I were you I would plan to go with somebody else though,this person sounds too flaky and unreliable.... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to just have friends with benefits and not actively pursue finding someone new?
Q. Need advice, so I've been single for a few months and the only things I like about it are the freedom. I've always been in a relationship mindset so the solo experience has certainly been new. Currently I hook up with 2 male friends of mine. They ...
A. 6 August 2012: Hi
As long as your using condoms for obvious reasons its up to you,your an adult.
Just beware of emotions creeping in, if you read other posts on here from women in FWB situations you will see the pitfalls.... (read in full...)
Why has he never made the time? And should I unfriend him on Facebook as well?
Q. Hello, Dated someone on two separate occasions. Have kept in touch for around 2 years. He went through a messy divorce (no children). Is now divorced (recently). He's been saying for the last 6 months that we will meet up and that he wants to, but ...
A. 6 August 2012: Hi Who knows, I wouldn't worry just delete him off FB and move on. He has had 2 years to go for it and hasn't. Maybe the divorce has just left him 'off' women for now, and he just wants to sort out his life. Either way he isn't dateable or want... (read in full...)
Ex is going to take all of his money out of the bank so I can't get any support money! Can he do this?
Q. Hi everyone. I have a son with my ex partner of 5 years, we have been split for 5 months, he rarely see's our two year old son, I have applied for csa and they said I get £260 per month from him which they are taking out of his bank on the 9th ...
A. 5 August 2012: Hi
Just to add to the other good advice. You need to do something regarding the theft of the pushchair and other items. He sounds like an extremely immature,spiteful person and needs a lesson in growing up. Do his parents know what he is up to, t... (read in full...)
I "trapped" her, she fell for it, now she wants me to give her another chance. Should I?
Q. Hello to all Aunts and Uncles! Really need your help here! I will try to be as detailed as possible as I want to try and give both sides of the story so apologies for what might be quite a lengthy story. I had been single for about 2 y...
A. 5 August 2012: Hi
One of the downfalls of the internet is the amount of choices and the temptations there are, especially for women.
If she has removed her profile and your sure she has and not just hidden it,then give her one last chance. It can't hurt,an... (read in full...)
My life is a rut and seems pointless
Q. i feel like my life is pointless and im stuck in a rut. im 32 i live at home with parents and been in low paid dead end jobs since school or been out of work. i cant even get a volunteer job i have applied for lots and any courses i find out about ...
A. 5 August 2012: Hi
Universities give grants,you get funding to go,if you dont have GCSEs then ask at the Job Centre about how you can get them. Also get an appointment with the Next Steps advisor.
I don't know where your going for voluntary work,there are p... (read in full...)
I just hate it because I feel like I found my dream girl, but she has a bratty daughter! advice please?
Q. i met an amazing girl a few months ago. hit it off and asked her to be my girlfriend. everything has been great. perfect. no fights, no disagreements, we always have a great time together, sex is phenomenal. only one problem: her five year old ...
A. 5 August 2012: Well
I agree with Sageoldguy ...you can make a million excuses for the childs behaviour but its down to her mum, she allows it to continue,finds it acceptable.
They come as a package, and half of that is her child as you well know from past e... (read in full...)
Should I listen to the little voice inside telling me something is not quite right?
Q. Something happened last night and I'm not quite sure what to think of it. I'm hoping you guys can give me your opinion. My boyfriend was supposed to come here last night at 7-8pm and not having heard from him at 7, I text him to get his ETA. He ...
A. 5 August 2012: Hi
Well maybe he doesn't WANT to do every Friday night with you,maybe he's cooling off. You say you don't have a problem with him hanging with mates,yet you also state he goes to Bars with them and 'talks' to women, which has caused problems... (read in full...)
How can I get him to give me a chance?
Q. How do I get guys to go from just wanting sex to wanting more with me? I like this guy and he likes me but he won't date me because he says he isn't after getting involved with anyone at the moment and says that he doesn't want to hurt me. Its not ...
A. 5 August 2012: Hi
This guy doesn't want to give you a chance,he has been totally honest.Chemistry can be one sided.
The only way you can stop other men just seeing you as sex, is to not sleep with them until your in a relationship,till you have formed a bo... (read in full...)
My first relationship: Am I dating him? Or was it just about sex? Nine years older than me and I don't know where I stand.
Q. Hey! I've got my self into this 'relationship' with a guy but I do not know where I stand anymore! So basically a guy, 9 years my elder, who I've known for 2 years or so started talking to me more often since early June. After that I've been '...
A. 5 August 2012: Hi there
Have to admit it doesn't sound promising, its the historical suddenly busy man. He sort of groomed you for sex and now he's got what he wanted,interest has diminished. He won't want to ignore you totally in case he wants a 2nd time.
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How do I support my grandson?
Q. I am in my mid 60s an I work 8 hours 4 days a week in a supermarket. I have 6 children, 24 grandchildren and 9 great grandchildren. 6 of my grandchildren have lived with me at some point for one reason or another. I am a widow so it's just me, one ...
A. 4 August 2012: Hi
What a dilema at your age when you should be relaxing and enjoying life a bit more. Hats off to you for caring.
I would just guide him as you have been,you have shown him the good route,that you care,so has his best friend.The fact ... (read in full...)
Excuse after excuse on why we cannot meet. How can I resolve this? excuses seem very genuine.
Q. my girlfriend lives about an hours drive away from me but neither of us drive. every weekend we make plans to meet with one of us taking the bus but every week she has something come up last minute. Like her family needs her help. Or she has the...
A. 4 August 2012: Hi
If she doesnt meet this weekend I would call it a day, it seems strange all these things come up suddenly at the weekend doesn't it? The excuses are just that.
(You dont say if you have ever actually met before or if this would be a first... (read in full...)
How can you have a relationship with a man who blows hot and cold?
Q. Hi everyone I am in a very confusing situation I have know this man nearly 2 years now I know he likes me but he is always blowing hot and cold all the time it has been like this since I met him like for instance I see him sometimes he won't speak ...
A. 3 August 2012: Hi there
Exactly how do you know he likes you? Has he asked you out on a date yet? Has he told you he likes you? Why does he ignore you? Did he apologise for not turning up? Is he single?
Why not just ask HIM out on a date,if he says no, you ... (read in full...)
How do I leave my wife with the least grief possible?
Q. i don't find my wife attractive nor am i in love with her anymore. I don't want to lose my kids and i am not brave enough to confront my wife and tell her i want to leave (be able to do it with the least grief as possible)" Please, this i...
A. 3 August 2012: Hi
There is no way you can walk away without nuclear fall-out. Your leaving your wife and children for goodness sake.
If your 100% certain its what you want,then break the news gently, tell her the financial arrangements and child access and... (read in full...)
How do I tell my girlfriend that I need a break?
Q. Hi I have a question about how to tell my girlfriend I need a break or more space. .I've being feeling very trapped for the past two months. . I've being with her for four years and we just moved into a apartment together and I thought it would be ...
A. 3 August 2012: Hi
You need to talk to her about her behaviour before you make hasty choices. Living together does not mean joined at the hip, thats not healthy. You need to explain to her that she isnt a parent shes your partner.You dont ASK a partner if you c... (read in full...)
I would like to work things out and be a proper couple, what do you suggest?
Q. Hi everyone I have liked this man for 18 months now it has just been sex but I really like him we haven't spoken for three months yesterday we bumped into one another and got talking he said he would come around to see me but he didn't turn up I ...
A. 3 August 2012: Why cant you ignore him does he live in your house? If he doesnt then you CAN ignore him. As you didnt talk for 3 months then he is not interested in you except as a knock-off,sorry but thats how he sees you,he didnt even turn up as planned. You ... (read in full...)
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