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writes:I have made some mistakes in my relationship with my last boyfriend. He is not perfect either. We were seeing each other for about 3 months. We rushed into the relationship. He is still legally married but separated. One day he said he wanted to talk. He needs space he is feeling smothered he stated. I have done many things for him including letting him use my other car. One night I was drinking and went to his work and made a scene. Long story short he was mad but you know what? I was also hurt and upset. How can you just be friends after becoming so close? I got my car back and told him when he found another I needed mine back because I sold it. He was giving me 100 dollars a month but that just was not enough. His mom helped him get a another car and I went to pick mine up. There were a few problems with it. I asked him if there were any problems with the car when he drove it. He said no. My brother is a mechanic who came with me to get the car come to find out there was something unplugged that had to do with the idling of the car and a motor mount was broke. I text him and told him I would hope he would not do anything to my car to get back at me for that night at his work when I was drunk and acted terribly. I told him I was so sorry and that I was just hurt and felt betrayed. Anyway I have not talked to him in almost two weeks at all. He does not call I don't call ect.....My question is How can he say he loved me and can't live without me to not talking to me at all. Is it the space thing or is it what I did that night? I still care about him a lot but I refuse to call or text him because I feel he did do something to my car in retaliation. Can someone give me some advice on what to do? Maybe I just need to let it go. One thing I can say is that I was the best thing that ever happened to him. So I look at it the ball is in his court. Maybe its meant to be and maybe it not. I don't know someone please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHello Everyone,
Thanks for your input....I appreciate it....But a little FYI...He was no saint either TRUST ME.....but that is besides the point. Although, I did apologize and will never do that again I am also suffering from that night. Anyway that is no excuse I did what I did and that is that. No one is perfect and I certainly am not perfect but since that night I have not drank one drop of alcohol and I do not plan too. I have a big heart and did many things for him but again that is not the point. Its my fault and I need to live with that. Again thanks everyone for your input.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (5 June 2012):
 He's probably embarrassed that not only did you make a bit of an arse of yourself in front of his co-workers but now they all know he was seeing you whilest still married. Double whammy. You should probably forget this guy (he's married anyhow) and move on. Live and learn.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (4 June 2012):
 Hi
As the others have said, 3 months into a relationship (or even 12 months), going to his work drunk and making a scene - is a relationship killer.
Put it behind you, few, if any men would tolerate this kind of drama, it portrays you as high maintenance and volatile.
Learn from it and count to ten in future. We all do stuff we regret but hopefully we don't repeat it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2012): I'm sorry but I agree that a drunken scene at his work is enough to kill off most relationships, let alone one of just 3 months. I certainly wouldn't be with anyone who did that to me. I think you need to accept this relationship is over for good. Also put it in the lesson learned basket and in future do not make any scene's at your partner's work no matter how hurt you are feeling.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 June 2012):
 You made a drunken scene at his WORK ? Oh boy. I think that could have estinguished the fire in the most ardent of lovers- and this one was quite lukewarm to begin with, if he already felt smothered and needed " space " after just 3 months.
That, and the fact that you suspect him of sabotaging his car in retaliation. VERY very improbable, unless he is a total lowlife, and he may also be offended that you judged him capable of that.
All in all- you can colour him gone , - for the average guy this is way too much drama for a 3 months frequentation.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (4 June 2012):
 I think a drunken scene at a workplace would be enough to end most relationships of such a short time ~ 3 months you have been seeing each other and you do that?
I think you need to accept this relationship is deader than a dodo!
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