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writes:Do you believe a cheater can change their ways?? Ive been with my boyf for 2yrs, he was with his ex partner for 15yrs and hav 2 children together. I hav no reason to think he's cheating on me, but he confessed when he was drunk that he cheated on his ex many times.. He said he really regrets it now, but he told me the details of some of his cheats and i was horrified at the circumstances!! He told me he slept with a girl in a club toilet while his girlf was on the dancefloor, just to see if he could get away with it!! Another he sneaked a girl back to his hotel room whilst he left his girlf on the beach!!! He said most of the times it was all about seeing if he cud get away wiv it... All when he was drunk,, and all his cheats seem 2 hav been one night stands!! He's good looking and Iv seen girls flirt with him, and he does get extremely drunk with his mates...he doesnt really get much chance to cheat, but from all his stories, its not like he needs much time... Do I trust him or not??
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell major update.. everyone was right.. snooped through his blackberry messenger, and found a particular chat with a girl that blatantly proves he's cheated.. most of it was innocent chat but then I found bits saying, he loves it when she sits on his c*ck and wants to finger her, and she's like she cant wait to see him, goodnight sexy... confronted him and he had the cheek to deny anything had happened, that it was just innocent dirty txts , even though I'd read it, with my own eyes, in black and white.. OMG
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2012): Red Alert:
Sleep with BOTH eyes open
Get medical checkups ALL the time
HIV/AIDS is a reality. This guy is an ideal candidate!
Oh and BTW, when hes hooked up with another woman he will also tell her how he cheated on you. He will do this with glee and with a twinkle in his eye.
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reader, ulick  +, writes (8 June 2012):
 I can tell from experience and from friends I know that cheat, that once you are a cheater you always are.If you fall in love with someone else just break it up and be with him or her. But no, cheaters they do it for self satisfaction. Guys for been cool and the rush of it (if the relationship works sexually).Girls not sure, but in my case was because my partner has little self esteem and loves attentions and also because has no respect for me and wanted to show it.I forgave her once, once more for just flirting online with the same guy.....but last one was way way beyond redemption.You say to yourself, "we can work things out", you accept the apologieses and good words and belive that it will work out. They tell you "you should learn to forgive" and so on and on.Nope, people that cheat are emotionally unstable for one reason or the other and given the right circumstances they will cheat again.Mark my word as I know a few friends guys that cheat and they are all serials, they can't help it. And I can testify that exactly the same for girls.Once upon a time people did not always get to choose their mate, and could not easily divorce. BUt today you can choose your companion and break up easily so I see cheating as more serious than it used to be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): With this guy I would sleep with one eye open and one eye close, whenever he would be out of my sight my mind would go into over time, always wondering, I could never trust this guy. I do believe some cheaters changed when they get older but I'm afraid to say for this one. Some guys change when they get too old to do anything.
I know this guy that cheated on his wife for over 40 years, after he took sick he fell in love with his wife and became her best friend and she was the one to take care of him doing his sickness before he pass away
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanx, yeh I defo believe young, dumb and full of u know what. I know I have to keep my eyes wide open and really dont have any reason to suspect anything, we really do have a good relationship.. But sometimes I think am I being naive? Surely he's gona be tempted again... Will update if anything changes!
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reader, PerhapsNot  +, writes (6 June 2012):
 "He said most of the times it was all about seeing if he cud get away wiv it."If that is the reason why he cheats, then YES, you should be very concerned. How are you or any other woman different then? The situation is the same: he is a committed relationship and he very well may be curious to see if he can get away with it with you or any other woman.If the deceit and danger of getting caught entices him, your relationship most likely will not stand a chance. He has been honest and open with you. If I were you, I'd run like hell. Why put your faith and trust in someone with a long line of cheating scenarios, accompanied by a terrible motivation and excuse? Seems to risky to me.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (6 June 2012):
 Hi
I don't know why he felt the need to brag/confess to you , feel very sorry for his Ex too.
Could be it was cos he was young and silly but its there between you now and you will always wonder every time he vanishes for 20 minutes.It depends if you can cope with that.Keep a watchful eye on him.
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