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writes:Hello. I'm very concerned about my girlfriend.She frequently asks for me to do a striptease for her on webcam on MSN. Yet, when I do, or I'm in the middle of the process, there's a change of heart, she panics, and gets angry. She then yells at me and calls me bad names.I am confused. She frequently talks about sex, and that I make her horny whenever I talk to her. Why's she doing this? I'm not certain if she's playing with my mind, or what.I appreciate your time.I do hope that it is not something serious that happened in her past, though. Could that be the case? That she may possibly be traumatized by an event in her childhood, and, now, she's playing mind games with me, so to cope with it?Thank you.
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (2 September 2013):
 Hold on,
Are you telling us that in a full year this game has not changed? I would strongly suggest that if she has not initiated something intimate in 380 days that she is not going to now. I would also suggest that if you haven't figured out he game by now, you probably won't. What I want to know is, what are you getting out of this relationship that keeps you coming back?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 September 2013):
 You ask:
Also, when a girl frequently does ask for a stripshow, does it mean she wants to initiate something intimate?
Not necessarily. Can be a matter of control. Or testing boundaries. See how far YOU are willing to go.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAlso, when a girl frequently does ask for a stripshow, does it mean she wants to initiate something intimate?
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (20 August 2012):
you are 22-25 years old by now you should know how to handle a tease. You make her make commitments before you give her what she wants. For example: You meet me, then I will show. You give, then I give. You promise not to yell or I won't. and if she breaks a promise then there is a waiting period.
With some distance in your relationship she has room to hide things from you. Your goal is to form a closer relationship. you want to know more about her. You want to have more interaction with her.
I can't figure out what she wants from you. Here are a few possibilities. She wants images of you that she can use without your knowledge. Serious possibility. She wants to control you. She gets a kick out of making you do things / feel emotions. There are bondage games that are very much like what you describe. Look up shame and humiliation. She wants to see how far you will go, or how far she will go. an experiment that seems very much younger than you.
What do you think she wants? Are you willing to play that game? This is definitely not your average relationship.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2012): this girl of yours has serious problems i hope she hasnt put film of you on youtube or a sex site, somebody will see it some day if she has , could be sooner than you think
if you wanna strip for her, if your both into it then do it when your with her not via a webcam, or dump her for a sane girl. i wouldnt do it for some girl . i would find me a rational sane girlfriend
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk.... how do I make her work for it?
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (19 August 2012):
To be honest, it sounds like she's got problems. Not someone I'd waste my time on.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (19 August 2012):
Resist. Make her work for it. Make up an excuse why you can't do it right now.
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reader, Anonymous 123  +, writes (19 August 2012):
 Seems to me that she initiates the striptease things and then maybe she feels guilty about it when you actually give in to her request, I think it could be a moral issue here. I mean its one thing to talk about sex but for her to actually SEE you naked, maybe she feels that's wrong and then she gets mad at herself for whatever she's asked you to do and just expresses that anger on you. I might be completely wrong of course, but I think this might be it
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSo, what should I do, next time she asks for a show?
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (19 August 2012):
I tend to agree with the immature angle on this. I think to her it is a game. I also think she enjoys teasing you. I think you should play harder to get. Don't let her win so often.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 August 2012):
Ask her? Why do you freak out when I strip for you?
Seems rather odd.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (18 August 2012):
 Hi
She just sounds plain weird to me. Is she just an online friend or do you actually date,meet etc?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2012): I don't think she would act this way if it was to do with trauma from something in the past. In fact I'd think she would act quite the opposite, and wouldn't even contemplate initiating anything sexual.
To be very honest she sounds quite immature, like she gets a kick out of seeing sexual things, but then acts all shy or just basically over reacts like a giddy school girl would while the science teacher is demonstrating how to correctly apply a condom in sex education.
I just think its an immature side of her personality myself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOh. She lives in the same region as me.
Basically, though, seems that no matter how much drama happens between me and her, she eventually comes back to me, and on a stronger note.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (18 August 2012):
Interesting question. I'd like to hold off answering until I have more information.
Is this an online only relationship? Long Distance?
How is the relationship working out for you?
Thanks in advance.
FA
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