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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hello,Dated someone on two separate occasions. Have kept in touch for around 2 years. He went through a messy divorce (no children). Is now divorced (recently). He's been saying for the last 6 months that we will meet up and that he wants to, but always says he's busy and that he will sort something out.Recently he said let me know when you're free, will work around you. Gave him my availabilities last week. Asked if he had chance to look at it, he said NO SORRY, HAVEN'T HAD A CHANCE. WILL TRY AND SORT SOMETHING. This annoyed me and I told him doesn't have to if he doesnt want to and to knock it on the head.He said OK COOL. I then said I take it you never had any intentions to meet in the first place. To which he replied "I DID WANT TO BUT HAVE HAD A LOT ON, IF YOU FEEL YOU WANT TO MOVE ON TO OTHER THINGS THEN GO FOR IT". When I said why don't you just say you don't want to see me... he replied "I DIDN'T SAY THAT".I've now deleted his mobile number and all his messages, I don't remember his number so won't be able to get in touch.1. I don't get why he's been saying for so long, he wants to see me and never made the time?2. Also shall I delete him off facebook as well?Thank you....
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2012): Forget him. If he was really bothered, you'd be seeing him. It is that simple. I think you are quite keen on him, so have over looked his casual behaviour in hope that something may develop. He's done nothing wrong but it is clear that you are not on his mind. So delete him on FB if it helps you move on.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (6 August 2012):
 He has just gotten divorced, believe me he will be playing the field for quite some time and won't be looking for anything serious for quite sometime (unless someone absolutely irrisistable comes along)
His behaviour towards you clearly suggests that he isn't really bothered about meeting you.
Why say it?...because maybe he saw you as a time passing option but not a serious contender. Men like to have multiple options for sex and dating (you most likely are not the only one he is in contact with)
You got het up and annoyed with him (justified) but he, like most men will use that as an excuse to brush you off as a psycho (a man's favourite get out clause).
I would definitely ditch him from facebook and forget about him. If he wants to get in touch he has your number, but if you don't hear from him, assume it was a non starter and you can pretty much forget him.
He's just not that into you.
Don't let the experience put you off dating, someone else will treat you with more interest and respect and accepting and moving on as quickly as possible will help you to get over things.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (6 August 2012):
 HiWho knows, I wouldn't worry just delete him off FB and move on. He has had 2 years to go for it and hasn't. Maybe the divorce has just left him 'off' women for now, and he just wants to sort out his life. Either way he isn't dateable or wanting relationships is he?
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