For the guys: Why does a perfectly nice guy stop talking to you suddenly for no reason?
Q. Hey, this is more one for the guys, as I would love to know why a perfectly (or what seems a perfectly) nice guy can just stop talking to a woman suddenly and that will be it! So the short of the suturation- met a lovely guy, in a bar about 3 we...
A. 17 September 2012: Hi
In the afterglow of the weekend you spent together he was probably all for repeating the experience.Lets face it,from his point of view he hit the jackpot meeting you and it was probably like induldging in a fantasy.
I always think the... (read in full...)
Is this younger man interested in me or am I imagining things?
Q. Well I am in a little dilemma. I work with this really cool, nice man (he is 32) and I am 42. I know age difference ei. well dilemma is that recently I noticed that he gives me this looks and big smiles often and always compliments me. He usually ...
A. 17 September 2012: Hi
Everyone likes to be 'fancied', and you were flattered. Now take yourself out on these late summer evenings and see if there are other men who flirt and then follow through,your clearly open to meeting somebody.
Your not silly,old or lon... (read in full...)
B/f always uses my car because his doesn't have room for the 3 of us!
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been dating a single father for over two years. He has joint custody of his teenage son. We live apart, but we see each other five times a week. His car only seats two so whenever we go anywhere when he has his son, it is my car w...
A. 17 September 2012: Hi
As he only has joint custody of his son then it can't be that frequently he uses your car? So, why not just abstain from going on these journeys so he can use his 2 seater?
I do see where your coming from,the fact he won't buy a bigger c... (read in full...)
Three years together, but it's going downhill. Should I end this relationship? or give it another chance?
Q. hi.i really do need some advice on what to do!!! ive been with my boyfriend for nearly 3 years now and things have gone down hill quite badly... we have had 3 breaks in the relationship and always got back together within weeks as we can't bare to...
A. 16 September 2012: Hi
This is quite sad,you clearly love him and him you.You've tried to make it work as a relationship for 3 years, now it isn't working.
At the 3yr stage your not thinking of a future,getting engaged having children..which you should be at lea... (read in full...)
Should we take a break? I think the trust between us has gone.
Q. modNote:two almost the same posts joined into one. My boyfriend has been talking and seeing his ex behind my back, they were together a very long time and he's still not over her. We have been together a year and he says he loves me and wants to...
A. 16 September 2012: Hi
Hes hung up on his Ex and still seeing her. Says it all. He has to choose,at the moment he has you both on a string.
Personally I would leave him be, let him have his Ex, if he decides or SHE decides its not going anywhere he will want you... (read in full...)
I am left feeling like a nagging girlfriend!
Q. Hi agony aunts and uncles. My sister has told me she got some amazing advice on here, so I'm hoping you can help me too... My boyfriend and I have been together for about 3 years. He has always been a bit selfish (with things like what films to wa...
A. 16 September 2012: Hi
Speaking as another laidback person,its easy to say 'yea ok,we'll stop in".Your bloke needs to learn, actually its not ok.Fine he goes away but when he's pleading poverty to you its not fine.
Your not nagging, just telling him how you feel... (read in full...)
Troubled relationship with my FWB
Q. Hi everyone I know there is a lot of questions asked about this but I really need some advice my friends with benefits if you could call it that have been sleeping together for nearly 3 years now last week I asked him if he had been sleeping with ...
A. 15 September 2012: Hi
Ofcourse he keeps hassling you for sex, you have given it freely for 3 years.He treats you badly,sleeps with other girls,but you dont care, you want him to be your man I think.He wants you to open your legs.
He wants you there,waiting fo... (read in full...)
I'm back and in need of some more tough love. I do everything for her and she constantly curses at me and says I do nothing. I need help getting away.
Q. Well agony aunts... It's me. The one that moved to Tennessee to be with a woman I love, that turned out to be a rough ride with 3 kids... Bring back memories now. I wanted to provide an update and get more brutality thrown my way because it helps me ...
A. 14 September 2012: Hi
Why would anyone choose to live like this when there is an alternative? Its like walking a field of landmines your relationship with her.
She has an Ex,the father of her children,he is the one she should be getting money off,helping with... (read in full...)
He's using his visitation time with my daughter to try to get back together with me.
Q. Modnote: I assume you meant 2 year old girl? I have a 22 year old little girl and her father and I are not together anymore due to him putting other things before our baby. I now recieve child support and he gets supervised visitations every ot...
A. 13 September 2012: Hi
Sorry,misread the question first time, I agree with the others get one of your family to be there instead of you or with you
If you can get them held someplace else it would be alot better too. If you need to go to court then so be it.
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My husband no longer loves me or wants to live with me. I still want to be together even with him feeling this way. Is it worse to live with us both unhappy or to lose the love of my life?
Q. Here's the situation. I'm totally in love with my husband and I'm desperate for us to get back together. He has fallen out of love with me and cannot bring himself to be with me sexually. We're still friends and see each other nearly everyday. We ...
A. 13 September 2012: Hi
Its hard but you need to 'rip the plaster off' let this man go.You had 20 years plus children, now,for him,its over.Your only hurting yourself right now.
If he meets somebody else, which he may have already, he will just resent you more ... (read in full...)
I really like this guy but he said he can't give me what I want in a relationship. Now I am stuck living with him for a year, help!
Q. I am in such an awkward and difficult position and would appreciate help from anyone, whatever advice it may be. I have just recently moved into a house with a guy who I didn't know so well before. (Him and 3 others). We met on a student house-sh...
A. 13 September 2012: Hi
Aah if thats the situation he might do just that, he can move in with his friends~eventually and if none of you like him,he probably will.
One of you two has to go thats for sure! Are the others girls?
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He's using his visitation time with my daughter to try to get back together with me.
Q. Modnote: I assume you meant 2 year old girl? I have a 22 year old little girl and her father and I are not together anymore due to him putting other things before our baby. I now recieve child support and he gets supervised visitations every ot...
A. 13 September 2012: Hi
If your not present during the visitation your Ex has with your daughter how do you know what he does or doesn't do? Who is telling you - the 'strangers'? They are supposed to be private visits. If she's only two it can't be your daughter... (read in full...)
I really like this guy but he said he can't give me what I want in a relationship. Now I am stuck living with him for a year, help!
Q. I am in such an awkward and difficult position and would appreciate help from anyone, whatever advice it may be. I have just recently moved into a house with a guy who I didn't know so well before. (Him and 3 others). We met on a student house-sh...
A. 13 September 2012: Hi
Tricky and awkward, personally I would move out, its not uncommon for housemates to find they dont get on so there could be others prepared to swap in various houses.
If its not possible because of the deposit situation you may have to put ... (read in full...)
She knows I love and miss her so why does she tease me this way?
Q. My ex dumped me about 3 month ago after we had been together for nerly 6 years as we had not been getting on lately and arguing a lot and has refused to speak to me ever since. She Started seeing a new lad not long after we broke up and Will not ...
A. 13 September 2012: Hi
You keep sending her emails and messages, she has probably told her new boyriend and between them they decided to make it clear to you she has moved on.
Cut all contact, its over, change your routine,go to different pubs,meet new pe... (read in full...)
My Co-worker has a Gf but keeps on winking at me. I'm interested, but how should I indicate that? Or could I be mistaking his intentions?
Q. I have a coworker that has been winking at me for sometime. I didnt really pay it any attention at first because I thought that he was just friendly. However,I really noticed it this last time when he winked really slow and pointed his finger at me ...
A. 12 September 2012: Hi
Well your a male aged 30-35? He is with a woman, his girlfriend. He keeps winking at you, again and again..asked you to a party..he's a prat
I also think he's a wynd up, plus he is a work colleague.
My advice, avoid him like the plagu... (read in full...)
I've never initiated a break-up before, but I think it's time ...
Q. I have never been the heart breaker but the heart breakee. I don't know how to iniate a break up. I am sure this is what I want but somewhat feel guilt because I feel all of my reasons are selfish ones. We have been together for so long have a child ...
A. 12 September 2012: Hi
If you feel your sacrifising everything to be with this man then it is time to let him go or you will just resent him more and more.
If you've lost your identity and have no life then you must be feeling pretty miserable,thats ... (read in full...)
What would you think of an otherwise decent woman having a one night stand in the distant past?
Q. If you were dating a woman of good standing, moral fibre and integrity.... what would you think of her if you found out she made one big mistake several years ago in the form of a one night stand found from the internet? Would who she is today be ...
A. 11 September 2012: Hi
I think there are an awful lot of 'decent' women who have had a one night stand,they just accept it happened and keep it to themselves,move on. I do not think having a small amount makes anyone a less moral person lacking integrity. Its nobo... (read in full...)
Now that we are not together anymore he wants my picture!
Q. Hi everyone I had going through a really tough situation my fwb and I decided to try make a go of having a proper relationship but a few weeks later I founf out he had been sleeping with another woman and he always accused me of seeing someone else ...
A. 9 September 2012: Hi
As the others have said, don't send him one, who knows where it'l end up!
He has played you for years, he KNOWS you will accept any behaviour off him, for now he has suggested staying friends. Soon he will ask to pop over to see you and befo... (read in full...)
How do you all feel about "the other woman" when it comes to a relationship or marriage?
Q. How do you all (ladies AND gentlemen) feel about "the other woman" when it comes to a relationship or marriage. SERIOUS REPLIES ONLY. I'm not talking about "the other woman" who has no idea that the guy has a wife/girlfriend. I'm talking about...
A. 9 September 2012: Hi
How do I feel about "the other woman"?
If a woman knowing a man is spoken for,goes into a relationship, then she is trying to take him from the wife,either permanantly or to satisfy her 'needs' for a while.
I think she is as low as y... (read in full...)
Two days after I posted our pictures on Facebook he deleted his account
Q. my boyfriend and i started our relationship july17 of 2011. I was working as a nurse in a hospital in Sudan and he was a student of aeronautic engineer in a university in the same place he was still in his 4th year and now he is on his final year. ...
A. 8 September 2012: Hi
He doesn't want the relationship made public, his family are already against you and him together but he has continued to see you and communicate~in secret.By putting the photos up you made it obvious your seeing him.
He HAS to make a choice... (read in full...)
What can I do about the unwanted gift my mother in law gave me? It disturbed my husband and I. What was I supposed to do?
Q. I'm in a situation that I'm not sure whether was a nice gesture or something very strange/kind of disturbing. I'm not sure how to prevent future uncomfortable incidents without hurting my mother-in-law's feelings. Some background info might be ne...
A. 8 September 2012: Hi
This is hilarious!!! Just give them to charity, I am sure somebody will enjoy. You shouldn't tell your husband if she gifts any more of her undies though, he could be traumatised for life.Next thing you know they'll be suggesting you go for t... (read in full...)
What do I do about my FWB and how do I tell if he has feelings for me? Alternatively do I consider an LDR with the other guy?
Q. Hi hope you can help me with this it would be greatly appreciated I met a man who is in the army on a online dating site who is really keen and wanting a relationship with me but I am not sure how I feel about him. This is because I have h...
A. 8 September 2012: Hi
Personally I wouldn't go for either. The FWB is just that, he is feeling threatened, his fun might move on. But you are just FWBs so you can date whoever you want, I would point this out to him too.
The LDR one I take it you've never met... (read in full...)
My boyfriend and I have different opinions on working, who is in the wrong here? How do I motivate him?
Q. Hi everyone. Please help with this question. My bofriend is 8 years older than me but we have a huge difference of opinion on working. I work for a salary and almost everyonee in muy company as well as friends and family have the approach that we ...
A. 7 September 2012: Hi
Neither of you are wrong really, just different.He has his idea of working and living,which for him, works. Why would he change,he has a roof over his head, a girlfriend etc and only has to do a 3 day week.Perhaps he just isn't material... (read in full...)
I threw my husband out due to our arguing disturbing my very sick mother. Is there a way to make things right again? Or move on?
Q. hi guys im in need of some advice and would love some help with this situation . going back 6 months ago i found out that my mum had breast cancer which was a major shock to the system however my two sisters and I have helped her through her ops ...
A. 7 September 2012: Hi
What alot you've been through. Hopefully your Mums now on the mend.Your getting counselling which is good too.
As for your marriage, I can see both sides, your husband was thrown out by you for whatever reasons. He must have felt the whole o... (read in full...)
His wife only wants him back because she knows he was happy with me
Q. Please help i'm in a muddle! when i started my new job last year i met a lovely bloke in 1 of my calls. we always got on well and chatted. he told me he was married with children and i always asked after them its was strictly professional but i ad...
A. 7 September 2012: Hi
You seem to be piggy in the middle. It sounds like he was lining somebody up,with a home, so he could leave his wife.
Theres is a toxic marriage and he sounds confused.I would leave them and their messy life to them.
People need tim... (read in full...)
Boyfriend makes threesome jokes, is he interested in his co-worker?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year. To me, we seem to be a happy couple, and rarely argue. Recently, my boyfriend has been joking about having a threesome with a co-worker that he's been good friends with for a long time. He wi...
A. 7 September 2012: Hi
I agree with eddie85, everything he's said.Now take control as the girlfriend, don't let your boyfriend disrespect you this way.
It's so wrong the way he is with his co-worker,he is not single.Never mind him being happy, its your happine... (read in full...)
How to get over him - should I get over him? I don't know where to begin...
Q. Agony Aunts, please help me understand this situation. I'm completely devastated, drained and not sure what to do, think, say... :( This is long, but I just don't know how to condense it. I promise it will be worth reading... I met a guy (22 - ...
A. 6 September 2012: Hi
You need to be brutal and cut ALL contact in order to get over him.
He MAY have been abandoned by other women or he might be the one who walked away. He used you the last time he saw you,hes playing with your emotions too.
He is no... (read in full...)
Dating for 2 years with no talk of the future, is this normal?
Q. Dear Cupid, Does anyone think it's normal to be in an exclusive dating relationship with a man for 2 years and still not know where the relationship is headed? We are both middle aged, own homes, spend 5 days a week together going back and ...
A. 6 September 2012: Hi
I know some couples who've lived like this for years as it suits them both.You get to an age where you've been through marriage,divorce,co-habiting,it hasn't worked so doing it again is just a no go.
That arrangement works when both are ha... (read in full...)
How can I study for an exam and attend a wedding that are both in the same month?
Q. Hey everyone, This is not a love related question but you guys are soo sensible I decided to reach out to you.. I have an important exam in december it literally decided my life,and who I will become..but I think my family they don't seem to ca...
A. 6 September 2012: Hi
When you study,go to the library. Its quiet and you can stay focused,set aside x amount of hours to 'learn' then time for the family plans,say at weekends.
Dont get stressed about the wedding,its just as important to your sister as your e... (read in full...)
I feel like my boyfriend is losing interest in me, how should I handle this? Or should I move on?
Q. i love my bf, weve been together for 2 yrs now with no plans to move in together any time soon. he rarely sleeps with me which is something ive grown to accept but lately hes more interested in getting a motorbike than me. this summer ive been ...
A. 6 September 2012: Hi
To be fair I think he does ok, coming over to cook a couple of times, taking you shopping,he's got to work too and you dont have life threatening injuries.If your 17yr old son lives with you,he should be helping with chores,hes on the spot, so... (read in full...)
We cant seem to meet halfway, any suggestions?
Q. Hi I wrote on here last year about my now husband who has the travel bug and had mixed responses. His job means he works all summer and has 4 months over winter off. We got married last jan and in nov he wanted to go travelling again. I let him go ...
A. 6 September 2012: Hi
From what you have said you are totally incompatable and the marriage has shown the cracks and different life-goals.
You don't have children so I guess he feels he can still do as he pleases travel wise. You want a home so are saving for t... (read in full...)
Is this younger man interested in me or am I imagining things?
Q. Well I am in a little dilemma. I work with this really cool, nice man (he is 32) and I am 42. I know age difference ei. well dilemma is that recently I noticed that he gives me this looks and big smiles often and always compliments me. He usually ...
A. 6 September 2012: Hi
I would tread very carefully, not because of the age difference but the fact he is a work colleague. I am not a fan of mixing work with pleasure as it can often end in tears and nowadays jobs are hard to come by.
Perhaps thats whats hold... (read in full...)
Is he flirting or just very friendly?
Q. I work at a position where my university hires their students to work.. Well, this 36 year old undergrad (went back to school) befriended me and he's married for about 4 years with a baby. He's extremely friendly and always asking for hugs (one time ...
A. 5 September 2012: Hi
Yes stop texting him, his behaviour IS innapropriate, I am sure his wife would view it that way too.If he needs help with his course then he can go see a lecturer.Sounds like he's looking for a fling with a young student to me and just waiting ... (read in full...)
My abusive ex boyfriend refuses to pay me back the money he owes me
Q. I am stuck and need serious advice. I just got out of an abusive relationship (emotionally, verbally and recently, physically) and trying to recover. We bought a condo together but he put the mortgage under his name. I, however, paid the lawyer ...
A. 5 September 2012: Hi
You could write to him, a professional letter, laying out exactly how much you want and what you paid out, then send recorded or registered. Its better to do that than put yourself at risk face to face.
If he doesnt pay up, then bar an expe... (read in full...)
How do I cancel the date I have planned now I am exclusive with my partner, but still keep this other man as a friend in case this one doesn't work out?
Q. I have been single for about 14 months, dating casually here and there, I've been seeing a guy that I've known for years the last couple of months casually and also been seeing and texting other people. (as he has as well)This guy and I have ...
A. 4 September 2012: Hi
If you have decided to make a go of it and be exclusive,then thats just what you should be doing.If you keep men on the backburner then your not being fair or giving your relatinship and boyfriend 100%.
So you either keep him or let him g... (read in full...)
Should my boyfriend pay something if he moves into my house?
Q. My bf and i will soon be moving in together - he will be moving into my house. We have already agreed on that we will split the utilities bills and food. However he doesnt think he should pay anything weekly. Obviously i am not looking to make any ...
A. 4 September 2012: Hi
Instead of him paying half the utilities and food (which is fair)why not agree on a monthly payment that reflects the cost of everything averaged out,including just part of the mortgage?
You shouldn't have told him it was rent free, you h... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that the one night stand meant nothing?
Q. I'm after a little bit of advice. I really have messed up and don't know how or if I can fix this. I really like this guy, but I thought he had made it clear that he wasn't interested in me. His best mate started flirting with me and I stupidly...
A. 4 September 2012: Hi
In this day and age its not uncommon for people to have one night stands,there are so many singles about.
IF the reason he has gone off you is because of that one man,his mate, then he really wasn't that into you and was probably just af... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that the one night stand meant nothing?
Q. I'm after a little bit of advice. I really have messed up and don't know how or if I can fix this. I really like this guy, but I thought he had made it clear that he wasn't interested in me. His best mate started flirting with me and I stupidly...
A. 4 September 2012: Hi
In this day and age its not uncommon for people to have one night stands,there are so many singles about.
IF the reason he has gone off you is because of that one man,his mate, then he really wasn't that into you and was probably just af... (read in full...)
Should I make an effort to try to strike up communication between us, or should I just leave things as they are and wait for him to contact me?
Q. Not sure where I stand or how to act. Been seeing a guy and everything seems to be going well, except we don't see each other often. We only really text to discuss when we can meet again. The 2nd to last time we met went great. My friends said it ...
A. 4 September 2012: Hi
Slow down,stop overthinking, your a new couple by the sounds of it so don't scare him away before you get a chance to develop it. He doesn't seem as keen as you yet, he sounds like he's taking it slowly.
Also,having sex so soon was a bit u... (read in full...)
He offered me sex instead of a relationship!
Q. Should I be insulted that a guy Ive liked for a while has asked me to be his FWB or 'fuck buddy'? He says he doesnt want a relationship but wants to be more than friends. Im shocked and dont know what to say! Im 29 and hes 28, Im looking for a ...
A. 3 September 2012: Hi
When some guy asks if he can use your body, yes, it is highly insulting on various levels.
Tell him to go pay for it if he just wants emotionless sex with no strings...... (read in full...)
Which man likes me the most and why?
Q. Guy 1 I've known this guy for over two years. The second time I met him I asked him out for a drink. He then smiled, looked at me and said that he'd love to but shortly after that I started going out with someone else who is now my fiance so I d...
A. 3 September 2012: Hi
I dont think any of them like you enough to cause a break-up with your fiancee. The married one would probably have sex with you though,but thats all.The other two are just being friendly.
I reckon your engagement is a crazy idea, your clear... (read in full...)
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