Does he take me for granted? Am I not a Priority in his life? NO birthday present from him either!!
Q. Hi all, I need a little help trying to decipher my boyfriend's behaviour over the weekend. We have been together for 6 months and are in a long distance relationship. He is sweet and has had a tough year with his dad dying and moving house a...
A. 14 October 2012: Hi
'I haven't heard from him since he left my town last Sunday'
'I tried to call him tonight and he didn't answer'
My thoughts - it's over.It is very hard to let go but I think you need to. x... (read in full...)
Why has this guy cooled off? He said he loved me and still wants to see me.
Q. I'm at a loss. I've been seeing this guy since end of July. He said he loved me after 5 weeks. I was surprised but said it back. For the last month. He hasn't seen me much. Whereas before it was once a week, or once every 4 days. He is busy wit...
A. 14 October 2012: Hi
It doesn't matter that he works nights,has family drama or any other excuse.
The simple fact is he is not making time for YOU.He has time to go on FB, time off work too as nobody does nights without a break, or days come to that.
Forget ... (read in full...)
Does he take me for granted? Am I not a Priority in his life? NO birthday present from him either!!
Q. Hi all, I need a little help trying to decipher my boyfriend's behaviour over the weekend. We have been together for 6 months and are in a long distance relationship. He is sweet and has had a tough year with his dad dying and moving house a...
A. 13 October 2012: Hi
You know you do not have to feel guilty about ending this.
He has been through divorce,a major life changer,he has lost his Dad,another major event.Hes moved house too.
None of these are your events, they are his.Add to that the pres... (read in full...)
Is my ex trying to tell me he is gay but won't come right out and say it?
Q. This morning I received a text from my ex of a man giving another guy a blowjob and for one split second my mind went blank. I am saying to myself I have kids by this man and he turns around and sends me this picture of two men in a sexual act. I ...
A. 12 October 2012: Hi
If you need to know, ask him... (read in full...)
Why has this guy cooled off? He said he loved me and still wants to see me.
Q. I'm at a loss. I've been seeing this guy since end of July. He said he loved me after 5 weeks. I was surprised but said it back. For the last month. He hasn't seen me much. Whereas before it was once a week, or once every 4 days. He is busy wit...
A. 12 October 2012: Hi
Sounds like he's cooling off, nobodys busy 24/7,if they want to see somebody they will make time.As you were only meeting up about once a week anyway he could keep that up surely?
Next time he wants to see you do not be available but sa... (read in full...)
Does he take me for granted? Am I not a Priority in his life? NO birthday present from him either!!
Q. Hi all, I need a little help trying to decipher my boyfriend's behaviour over the weekend. We have been together for 6 months and are in a long distance relationship. He is sweet and has had a tough year with his dad dying and moving house a...
A. 12 October 2012: Hi
As you say he has had alot to deal with,plus the house not fetching nearly as much as they thought.
He flew to see you,took you out,booked into a hotel for the night,spent quality time with you, all because it was your birthday. Sounds... (read in full...)
Found a 'sext' on my wife's phone
Q. My wife and I have a wonderful relationship...but I do work a lot and she wishes she had more attention. Anyway a friend of mine recently friend requested her on facebook and I guess began chatting with her. I came home the other night and wa...
A. 12 October 2012: hi
Next thing you know she will be asking for a 3 some with you and him.
Nip this in the bud,they are BOTH disrespecting you.... (read in full...)
Should I leave him and start over? I don't know what to do or where to start
Q. My boyfriend is Italian and I'm from the UK. We have been together 4 years. I gave up everything and moved to Italy so we could be together. We are practically married and often talk about starting a family. Things were good for the first couple of ...
A. 12 October 2012: Hi
Phone your parents/family, tell them you want to come home. Thats where you start.Theres no shame attached,you have tried and it hasn't worked out.Don't lose yourself anymore.
Or simply buy a one way ticket.Many people start from scratch for... (read in full...)
I'm gay and my boyfriend wants to have sex but I'm scared that he will hurt me
Q. Ok s first of all im gay. My boyfriend of a month really wants to have sex. But im scared to because im the bottom and his penis is very large and hes really rough whenever we have fooled around before. What should i do because i honestly think i ...
A. 12 October 2012: Hi
Personally I think your way too young. And,as you feel as you do it, would be best to wait.The fact he is rough with you doesn't make it sound like it would be a good experience.... (read in full...)
I'm 29 and never had sex but should I do it now with my B/f?
Q. Hi So this is a little embarassing for me. Im 29 and Iv never had sex. Iv been with my boyfriend 3 and a half years and hes waiting for me. I know he really wants to do it (as he has before many times before me) Also he has said to me he really n...
A. 12 October 2012: Hi
I think the fact he has waited three and a half years shows he cares.It surprises me your not engaged or even married by now.Is there a reason?
I can't see what your problem is to be honest, you will both be using protection so your highly u... (read in full...)
Should I leave him and start over? I don't know what to do or where to start
Q. My boyfriend is Italian and I'm from the UK. We have been together 4 years. I gave up everything and moved to Italy so we could be together. We are practically married and often talk about starting a family. Things were good for the first couple of ...
A. 12 October 2012: Hi
Sounds like the honeymoon period is over and reality has kicked in. You sound very unhappy which is why you have written.Your friends haven't abandoned you,they're just getting on with life where they are.Same as your family,they will assume y... (read in full...)
It's our old home where we used to live together. What message is he sending me: he has clearly been visiting the place for sex with a new girl. Why leave evidence?
Q. I split up with my boyfriend and he's been begging me back for months I recently started communicating with him again as I wanted to try and have a friendship and he agrees he wanted the same . We both have keys to our home which we shared and he...
A. 11 October 2012: Hi
He probably doesn't give it much thought, just does the deed and leaves as is. Men are not the most domestic creatures.If he's sending a message intentionally or not,its that he has moved on.
If it bothers you just leave a note asking him ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend moving away - again!
Q. I need advice. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and recently he got a job 2 hrs away from the city. He asked me to move with him and it was lucky enough that I could transfer offices. So I've been living in a new town for 2 months with ...
A. 11 October 2012: Hi
Not very considerate of him was it? Sounds like its all about him.
If you don't want to move, can you afford to stay? I would, it doesn't look good if you ask to transfer back so soon. Also, consider if you want to stay with your man,he has ... (read in full...)
Is this a cultural thing? I'm not sure if it means more or not? He's from England and I'm from Australia
Q. Now this might sound a over reaction but my boyfriend text me goodnight and said see you soon luv?!!! Isn't luv what you would say to some random girl not your girlfriend of a year? He's English and I'm from Australia so is it common to use suc...
A. 10 October 2012: Hi
Its a term I would associate with the older generation, but if he is 'seeing you soon' and alls well,then why worry about it? ... (read in full...)
Should be try to work it out? He is hopeless with money
Q. Hi I need help as I don’t know what to do. I have been with my partner for 10 years we have four kids together but I can’t trust him. When we first got together he used to stay out all night. This stopped and a couple of years later I found text...
A. 10 October 2012: Hi
He isnt exactly Mr Reliable is he,I am surprised you have had 4 children with him.
He clearly always needs something to stimulate him be it other women or gambling,you have to make a choice here.Do you think he will ever change?
You c... (read in full...)
Older guys want me, but with guys my age I strike out! Why am I unlucky in love?
Q. This is not a specific question but just something I have been mulling over lately. I am 42 years old and have always been unlucky in love. I have a good job, I'm a nice person, not bad looking and without blowing my trumpet I think I have alot ...
A. 9 October 2012: Hi
I have always had younger men after me,I have never gone looking,flirted or anything.They usually have their life sorted but have been married and don't want the younger women as they mean wanting a family etc. I havent been chatted up by older... (read in full...)
How do I get over my affair with a married man?
Q. Hello, I really need some help and dont know where else to go. My ex was sent to prison for a while over 5 years ago, we split a few months of him being inside. I found help online to help me understand what he was going through in there, there was ...
A. 9 October 2012: Hi
Accept your not going to get closure here,he isnt exactly the reliable type.
Its hard getting over anyone your attached to,you invested over 4 yrs of your life in him.You knew he was married though,a serial cheat, so one way or another it wa... (read in full...)
Where do the single women in their 30s hang out? I've not dated for 2years. How do I maximise my chances of success with women?
Q. So, been single for 3 years after a 9-yr LTR. Am now 38. And I have not been on a date in 2 years. I tried online dating for 18 months and got 2 dates out of it. Am a member of many clubs and have many hobbies. Meeting people is not an...
A. 9 October 2012: Hi
Its funny but I hear women in their 20-40s who complain about the lack of men. Yes they drink in Bars (NOT bar sluts though!) Its just where they go to unwind after work,or at the weekend to see a band. They go to gyms,swim,follow hobbies,... (read in full...)
Can you date one person and not be boyfriend/girlfriend?
Q. I've been a serial monogamist. 3 years, 2 year, 1 and 1/2 year relationship. I've never really "dated" multiple people at once. Call me Old fashioned - but it seems disloyal. Am I wrong? Within the last 3 months, I started dating for the first...
A. 9 October 2012: Hi
He clearly thought it was too soon and felt pressurised,so has now vanished in a puff as he didn't want to be labelled as the boyfriend.
Everyones different, some people only date when they want to be in a serious relationship,so ... (read in full...)
My ex cheated on her new boyfriend with me, now what?
Q. My problem is a tough one... I recently slept with my ex-girlfriend who has been in a new relationship for almost 3 months. She and I have been on and off for 10 years. The thing is this year i really tried to move on by giving her space and going ...
A. 9 October 2012: Hi
Shes a bit of a minx.You know that. SO to save yourself from her drama and emotional blackmail, move on. Don't respond to her at all,change your number.Make it clear you want nothing more to do with her or you will be in this loop for a very l... (read in full...)
Why has she gone cold all of a sudden?
Q. I have been seeing this girl on and off since August, she is 27, and in 34. We hit it off straight away and get along really well. We started off casual dating, going to the cinema, meals out, walks ect. We both work full time, and both have quite ...
A. 8 October 2012: Hi
Comes a time when you have to prioritise your life to fit a relationship in, to give your partner the time it needs to develop more than friendship.
She has probably decided to let you do the running to guage just how interested you a... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about the attention my very popular boyfriend receives from girls?
Q. Me and my b/f are both 17 we have dated for 4 months now. so here is my problem My b/f is a popular football player at my school and all the girls are all over him (and I mean all over him). I was not popular till we stared going out. So anywa...
A. 8 October 2012: Hi
Out of all those girls he chose to date you, of his own free will.He laughed at your question because he knows this and he can see in you something you obviously can't.Enjoy him,he sounds smitten to me.... (read in full...)
He treats me like a girlfriend despite insisting he didn't want a relationship
Q. Is it possible to be seeing a man who actually does not want to see you happy? I have been dating this man for awhile now who I believe is emotionally confused. We are not an "official" couple and he claims to not want to be one. However, he has a...
A. 8 October 2012: Hi
If he doesn't want a relationship and you do, then its time to part ways. You could be stuck in this scenario for years then him go off with another woman and HAVE a relationship with her.
Its tiring all the game playing,long ter... (read in full...)
Will attending college ruin my new relationship?
Q. Hi everyone, thanks in advance for taking the time to read! Now, down to business... I just started dating this guy. We had been sort of at an in between, kind of dating phase for a few weeks and then we finally decided to officially get together...
A. 8 October 2012: Hi
Nobody can predict the future of a relationship,you may or may not be together when you go off to college.
Enjoy what you have now,he must know what you have ahead of you, in time he will be in your situation.If your strong enough as a coup... (read in full...)
I am not interested in this 50 year old married man at work. So how do I discourage him effectively? And before he gets any more ideas please.
Q. Recently a married man at work has been flirting with me and jokingly we bantered, but nothing serious to start with as I am 22 and he 50, but in the past 3 months he's started heavily flirting to the point people have started commenting on it! F...
A. 7 October 2012: Hi
Nobody should have to put up with this, its especially awkward as you work together at night too.I think you will have to spell it out to him loud and clear, that he's too old and married and you are not interested. Hinting doesn't seem to ... (read in full...)
Am I feeling shock or Jealousy or anger? What should I do if he's now finding excuses to not pay child support?
Q. Im so hurt dont know whether it's shock jealousy or anger? i havent been able to sleep properly i keep getting these dreams about the situation im in. I feel used, worthless. Basically have been seperated from my ex for about 2 months I've put off ...
A. 7 October 2012: Hi
It sounds like the standard pattern when an Ex meets somebody new. Suddenly nothing else is important.You will be shocked,jealous AND angry,you are the mother of his children,you have history.A new woman clarifies its over.
The last thin... (read in full...)
I love my husband AND my lover!
Q. I have a situation here, need your help please. To cut the long story short, am married for 9 years. My husband is a good man, but there’s no passion, no sex, no children in our marriage. I met someone at my work place, we started off as friends, ...
A. 7 October 2012: Hi
You say you dont want to leave your husband or marriage ~ so where did you see your affair going then?
You 'used' your lover and he 'used' you, for sex,nothing more. Now he has ended it and is moving on.Your back to square one.
Do your ... (read in full...)
Can I trust him? I feel disrespected. He take advantage of me and that makes it worse
Q. I have dated my boyfriend for 7 years Before I didn't mind him having every weekend to himself and his friends. My worry is that sometimes he take an advantage of me and that makes it worse. We were suppose to meet this friday as we've Planned bu...
A. 7 October 2012: Hi
I agree with manhater, I would just do your thing,no explanations,leave him hanging.Be a class act.
He has had his own way long enough.Be strong,good luck x... (read in full...)
I want to give my ex a second chance, but his hobby over-shadows our relationship. What can I do to make things work the second time around?
Q. I recently started seeing my ex-boyfriend again. It has been a good few years since we were together AND I want to give him a second chance. The problem is he puts his job AND his hobby before me. I understand about the job, it's highly dema...
A. 7 October 2012: Hi
To be honest I dont see how a relationship where you only see each other once a week,because your BOTH so busy, can ever work or grow.
He has his commitments,you have yours,now I like spontanious I like a call to say 'do you wanna go for... (read in full...)
How should we divide up living costs in our relationship? Is what I am doing so far, for her, fair?
Q. I'm writing to see what you guys think of me and my partner's financial situation. My partner's house is paid for, with no debt. She works 2 days a week, on a lowish wage. I'm self-employed, so my income is varying, but works out about £40k a y...
A. 6 October 2012: Hi
It sounds fair to me as you pay for the holidays and entertainment.If you were living together as a couple it would be different.However if you felt the need you could surprise her now and again with a few bags of groceries.
What does she... (read in full...)
He said he LOVED me. Now he will not reply. Do I just take it for granted that he is ok and move on?
Q. Hi My ex-boyfriend AND me were together for 6 years on AND off. He wasn't a great boyfriend, he made promises he didn't keep but mostly he's a good soul. We live in different countries but the flight was cheap AND only an hour long so it didn...
A. 6 October 2012: Hi
I think when he asked you to come over and you refused,it was his last attempt at sorting out the situation before he moved on.
I dont blame you for not going,but I think you need to accept its over now and put him behind you.Being friend... (read in full...)
I cheated on my husband with his best friend (out of revenge for my husband cheating on me) and had a baby which my husband thinks is his. Should I tell him the truth?
Q. I had an affair 2 years ago with my husbands best friend who is also married and got pregnant. I had the affair out of revenge for him cheating on me. Not that its an excuse I know it was still wrong. I know its his baby cause my husband had a ...
A. 5 October 2012: Hi
Its clearly on your mind and your feeling the guilt.I feel for your husband as he has been duped by both you and his best friend.
If you don't tell him it will come out eventually,in an argument,via blood tests, whatever, then how do you ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend does what he wants without considering my feelings
Q. My boyfriend and I have had a rocky relationship to say the least. The first year of our relationship he had an emotional affair with an old girlfriend. He even kissed her once and even though he told me about it, I have never fully trusted him ...
A. 4 October 2012: Hi
I am not saying nothing will happen but I think its highly unlikely to be honest. There is a huge age difference for a start. He enjoys his theatre nights, probably enjoys the company of a 20 something girl too,but he could be her grandad.... (read in full...)
My serious LDR of two years is sinking. What would be a good classy way to break it off ?
Q. Hello everyone. My serious LDR of two years is sinking. What happened is that he suddenly changed his FB password after adding a girl he used to have a crush on... And lately we just been extremely distant so I went through my Facebook and dele...
A. 4 October 2012: Hi
Just tell him, its onwards and upwards for me, wish him luck, then have no more contact. IF you feel you have to say anything. x... (read in full...)
My LDR has just told me he has met someone new and intends to marry her. Why am I so emotional over this change?
Q. My long distance boy friend has confirmed to me today that he has a new woman in his life and he may marry her. Why am I so sad and crying? Please help me. I am an adult and should know better than getting emotional. he wants me to write to h...
A. 4 October 2012: Hi
How odd that he wants in writing what you are experiencing. He has just dropped a huge bombshell, how in heavens name does he think your feeling.
Do not flatter him with a response, block him,ignore his sorry ass.This man has abused your ... (read in full...)
My husband contributes and so does my Mom. Is my boyfriend contributing enough to live most of the time in my home?
Q. I've been separated from my husband for over 2 years. I have a boyfriend and we have been dating for 2 years. I live in a house with my three sons and my Mother. My ex husband presently pays $3500 per month for the mortgage and taxes He also gi...
A. 3 October 2012: Hi
You have a generous Ex and a very generous boyfriend!
If mums not working, can she childmind for you while you go to work.That would increase your income if you don't feel its adequate?... (read in full...)
What would you do in my place? He was my FWB but then he cheated on me. But then we had words and everything went downhill from then.
Q. There is something that happened some 5 months ago between a guy and me. We were very good and close friends, so close we ended up being FWB. It was very wrong I know and it turned out bad, as such, since I fell in love with him. While we were ...
A. 2 October 2012: Hi
I would do nothing, he has moved on,so must you. You have exchanged insults, the friendship,such as it was, is gone.Put it behind you now.
In future be more selective about who you have sex with, wait until your in a relationship. Th... (read in full...)
Does he want more? Sometimes I feel like this man doesn't have any plan to setle down
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship for almost 5 yrs. now. But sometimes I feel like this man doesn't have any plan to setle down. I really don't know where I stand.I know he loves me but I'm begining to think that this is all he wants; and nothing ...
A. 2 October 2012: Hi
How do you know he loves you?
After 5 years I would expect more than a long distance relationship,in fact I would have wanted more after 2 years.
Is there any reason why one of you has not relocated to be in the same place? How often do... (read in full...)
Do people in work places always take sides like this? The woman who was disciplined (and unjustly) has been sacked and I don't think it's fair.
Q. Hello Aunts,this is a work relationship question. Recently two women where I work had a fall out, not major at all, but one reported the other to our manager. When the other came into work she got disciplined and she walked out as she didnt want t...
A. 2 October 2012: Hi
It is common yes in places where there are cliques, I think the woman who was sacked was let down by management and her colleague(s),you should always listen to both sides,I dont see a disagreement between 2 colleagues as something to be repor... (read in full...)
She hates me, she loves me I don't know
Q. My wife of 11 years told me a couple times past few years that she wanted a divorce. Completely caught me off guard and I know that sounds crazy but I didn’t see it coming. She used to say it every time she got really mad. She said she wanted to ...
A. 30 September 2012: Hi
Why are you still there taking it? How would she have reacted if it was you saying it to her? Forgiveness is one thing being your wifes whipping post is another thing entirely.
Unless she has some sort of recent medical/psycholo... (read in full...)
G/f's ex FWB still contacts her
Q. Me my gf have been going out for more than a year now we are living together. I don't think of my self as being a jealous or a controlling Bf. Her ex fuck buddy would text her every now and then for a chat. I have never like him contacting her b...
A. 30 September 2012: Hi
Personally I dont think your over reacting at all, as you say,she was in love with him and he was just a FWB. He knows she's with you and I think by her responding to him and meeting him,shes giving out the wrong signals to him.He will assume h... (read in full...)
I'm not attracted to my boyfriend's lack of motivation
Q. I just graduated college with my bachelor's degree. I've been dating my boyfriend for 2.5 years. My boyfriend will be done with his bachelor's degree in December. We've had many conversations about the future, from where we wish to live to if we ...
A. 30 September 2012: Hi
Lots of people dont know what they want to do at your age,its not uncommon.You are obviously the stronger of the 2 of you just now and more focused.
If him not knowing what he wants and not 'leading' bothers you then is he the man for you?... (read in full...)
Are we just numb from everything that has happened? Or have we lost our spark?
Q. Hi, I have been with a truly lovely man for 4 years and we were that couple that were so into each other, laughing together and holding hands all the time, absolute best friends. The last 2 years has been a very difficult time for both of ...
A. 30 September 2012: Hi
Thats alot to go through in 2 years.It must be so hard for you now you've finally got the house and jobs,time to be 'normal',for him to drop this bombshell.
He must have given it some serious thought though and it can't have been easy for hi... (read in full...)
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