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writes: I work at a position where my university hires their students to work.. Well, this 36 year old undergrad (went back to school) befriended me and he's married for about 4 years with a baby. He's extremely friendly and always asking for hugs (one time he kissed me on the head while hugging me!?). He also talks to the other under-21 year old girls that work with us. He began calling me attractive and saying I was gorgeous and my bf was lucky and all this... (I stupidly told him about my relationship problems once...I know, very dumb). He gave me his phone number and email because we take the same course, if I needed help...I didn't text him. Then a week later he asked for my phone number so I could help him with studying. We've been very casually and sporadically texting, him usually starting it (he uses a lot of winkies). He doesn't really talk about his wife, which sort of bothers me because he doesn't really act like a married man is supposed to. Other coworkers have said that he is very, very friendly, so friendly that they used to think a girl that worked there was his gf. SO is this inappropriate? Should I stop texting him? I have no intention of ever, EVER doing anything with him because he is married. Is his behavior peculiar? Or could he just see me as a sort of little 20 year old sister?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2012): Yes this is inapropriate behavior. he is married get away from him and stay away. Do not become the home wrecker, because when the wife finds out it will be all your fault and not his. Take it from someone who was left by a husband for a much younger girl. We wives tend to forget its a two way street, yes he is looking for a bed partner, but you are aware he is married do not overstep those boundries. If you like him, let him take care of issues he has at home first.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (5 September 2012):
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Yes stop texting him, his behaviour IS innapropriate, I am sure his wife would view it that way too.If he needs help with his course then he can go see a lecturer.Sounds like he's looking for a fling with a young student to me and just waiting for one,ANY one, to succumb.He's a sleeze bag.
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reader, Captain Teddy Bear  +, writes (5 September 2012):
 From several statements in your posting, I understand that his behavior has raised several red flags with you already. This alone is enough for you to set boundaries and make put some emotional distance between the two of you. His seemingly innocent behavior could be his way of keeping you off guard and worming his way into your bedroom. I don't want to make you paranoid, but many marriages can get stale after several years, and with a newborn in the house, it can be a very trying time from an intimacy perspective and he may be looking for another source. Better to be safe than sorry.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (5 September 2012):
If his behavior is making you uncomfortable, then it is innapropriate. If you want to know about his wife, why not ask how she is doing?
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