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writes:I'm in a situation that I'm not sure whether was a nice gesture or something very strange/kind of disturbing. I'm not sure how to prevent future uncomfortable incidents without hurting my mother-in-law's feelings. Some background info might be necessary. My in-laws are divorced and remarried (surprisingly their new partners used to be married to each other). They all live on this nudist campground just a couple streets from each other. We went to visit recently, for the first time during the summer, so I saw my mother-in-law and her husband naked for several days (including during meals, etc.). I also had to go topless for some of it, at least when I went outside. Thankfully, I only saw the father-in-law in the evening for dinner, so they had clothes on. Anyways, right before we were about to leave, my mother-in-law calls me back in the house and says she has something she wants to give me (she didn't want to do it in front of her son). She gives me a set of her old lingerie - skimpy bikini and see-through thong/skirt. They don't fit her anymore and she thought I should have them. I thanked her of course, not knowing what else I could do. I told my husband after and both of us are quite disturbed and definitely will not be using it. I'm sure she meant well, but I really don't want to use anyone's used lingerie, let alone my mother-in-law's! And my husband was scarred just seeing them. Just wondering what to do....
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 September 2012):
 you did perfectly,
say thank you and when you get home toss them.
personally my bigger concern is their forcing you to participate in their chosen lifestyle and your husband permitting it. my understanding was that it was always optional.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (9 September 2012):
By normal standards, that gift is weird. But they are nudists. Weird for you is normal for them. Burn the gift and never look back.
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (9 September 2012):
 Your in-laws live in a nudist colony and the worst thing about this story was the gift she gave you? Put it in a box and store it in the attic or donate it to Goodwill, or throw it away. Just because she gave it to you doesn't mean you have to keep it, much less wear it. She meant well. What can you expect from a woman who lives in a nudist camp.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 September 2012):
 Ewww!
Either donate them or pack them in a box and stick them in the garage...
LOL you have some fun In-laws.
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (8 September 2012):
 Hi
This is hilarious!!! Just give them to charity, I am sure somebody will enjoy. You shouldn't tell your husband if she gifts any more of her undies though, he could be traumatised for life.Next thing you know they'll be suggesting you go for their way of life.....
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reader, person12345 +, writes (8 September 2012):
 Just toss them and if she brings it up thank her for them.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (8 September 2012):
There's nothing to do, throw them away and if she's asks tell her you love them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2012): Nothing. Donate it to the Salvation Army. They're a bit KooKoo. What can you do - don't over analyze, donate items and don't put yourself in that position again.
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