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writes:Dear Cupid,I've been dating a single father for over two years. He has joint custody of his teenage son. We live apart, but we see each other five times a week. His car only seats two so whenever we go anywhere when he has his son, it is my car we take. He is now looking to buy another car but again wants a sports car with no backseat and he can't understand that I don't think that is fair to me. He has never bought gas for my car, or even offered to wash it. He says he drives when he doesn't have him, so he thinks it is only fair it is my car when we go to all the school functions or trips. Am I being unreasonable?Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (17 September 2012):
 Hi
As he only has joint custody of his son then it can't be that frequently he uses your car? So, why not just abstain from going on these journeys so he can use his 2 seater?
I do see where your coming from,the fact he won't buy a bigger car to accomodate the 3 of you. If he did though, would you expect him to do ALL the driving wherever you go,would you chip in for fuel and odd times wash HIS car?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 September 2012): I don't think you're being unreasonable no - not when he is looking to buy a new car which again has 2 seats. I'm sure you don't mind doing some of the driving now and again, and it sounds like you have done your fair share up until now due to the situation with the cars, but that's different to him expecting it from you so he can continue to have a sports car. It's very selfish of him. Maybe remind him that he is a father, and as most fathers must accept eventually, that often means the need for a more practical car. Such is life.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 September 2012):
 Hmm.. I think it's a slightly petty argument honestly. Do you ever use his car?
And if he only use your car for functions where you go too, why should he pay for all the gas?
If you have a problem with it, don't let him use your car. Which might mean.. you stay home?
How much gas are we talking about, what amounts? If this wrecks your budget, then I would ask him to chip in. What about wear and tear on your car you ask for money for that too? Tires?
If it's not a big amount then I think you are being a little tit for tat in your attitude.
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