My girlfriend is gutted by her 12 year old son's refusal to speak to her
Q. Hi Everyone, I really need help and advice. My girlfriend, she is a wonderful mother to her 2 children, her daughter 14 lives with us, her son is 12 and lives with his dad, we live 5 hours away from her son. Her ex and her have been seperated f...
A. 12 November 2012: Hi
Well good luck and remember, whilst they were seperated, in the kids minds, there may have been a chance of reconciliation. Divorce makes it final for everyone.
It also means that everyone can finally move on so in time things will sort... (read in full...)
We've known each other two months and he's already relying on me financially
Q. Hello friends, It's only about 2 months that I am in a relationship with this guy. Since, we are coming from different countries and I know how hard it is for such kind of relationship to work, I did not take our relationship seriously. However,...
A. 11 November 2012: Hi
What he MEANS is - if he cannot scam you out of a few thousand dollars then he may as well go home as that is all he wants you for.
1) If you want to be left with a huge debt and a broken heart when he vanishes with your money - then len... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is gutted by her 12 year old son's refusal to speak to her
Q. Hi Everyone, I really need help and advice. My girlfriend, she is a wonderful mother to her 2 children, her daughter 14 lives with us, her son is 12 and lives with his dad, we live 5 hours away from her son. Her ex and her have been seperated f...
A. 11 November 2012: Hi
In most splits there is always fall-out,especially when one partner is bitter,which is probably how her ex feels.
All you can do is look at the scenario from her 12yr old sons point of view. He might be her saviour but at this present tim... (read in full...)
Kismet! Could this be it?
Q. Fate, coincidence, luck.... Please read, something happened to me and I would like your thoughts... So I was having a really tough couple of weeks with work, family and things going wrong with my house and the last straw was when I was getti...
A. 10 November 2012: hi
Its like something out of a Rom Com, I think it sounds like fate. So many things could have happened to stop the meeting,instead a series of things that you hadn't planned lead to where you were.
I hope it has a happy ending,enjoy you... (read in full...)
I don't want to be with my long distance B/f anymore, I feel he's a liar and I don't want to relocate for him. What should I do?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship, it's been long distance for 3 months but the whole relationship has been 5 months. My boyfriend never really texts me like he used to, he's changed and acts more like in a friend who's a girl. He won't reply back ...
A. 10 November 2012: Hi
In other words you have let him convince you to stick around...what would happen IF you did move, gave up your life to be with him. What if you were miserable and he just treated you like a doormat,somebody to replace his ex?
He is unemplo... (read in full...)
I'm very disheartened by my boyfriend's thoughtless birthday gift! Would you be upset?
Q. I wonder if I should be upset? My bday was two days ago. I turned 25, everyone was very lovely to me and I am alive, healthy and happy. On the other hand for my birthday my boyfriend wrote me an email congratulating me. His gift? A lingerie set from ...
A. 10 November 2012: Hi
He didn't put much effort in did he.In his defence though if you buy off Ebay you can't tell the quality till it arrives and as you wear nice undies he probably thought you would like and use the gift.
Maybe he was distracted and d... (read in full...)
How do I ask him where his money goes?
Q. Ive been with my boyfriend 7 years now, we both still live at home and everythings going well. Only one thing is a problem money. Im currently at university studying my masters so literally get £5000 a year to live on. He has a great job which is ...
A. 10 November 2012: Hi
Just ask him, if he avoids the question or get's defensive then could be he is gambling online.Don't assume anything though.
As he doesn't have a home to run and all those outgoings, just pays board to his parents,then he should have a fa... (read in full...)
My wife is in her mid 40's, she doesn't want sex and says her body has changed and menopause is kicking in. Should I buy that crap?
Q. I have a little problem, my wife is a hard working woman and does alot for our household but for the past few months she has been dead in the bed if you know what I mean. I have tried many things to bring our sex life back into action but shes ...
A. 10 November 2012: Hi
Yes men do need pampering and appreciating too, I agree totally.
Its just something you two will have to work on TOGETHER.
We all need affection and a cuddle as well as sex,you want it with your wife.Not asking alot,no.So talk,in a rat... (read in full...)
Too embarassed to buy condoms! Help!
Q. I'm 19 and my bf is 22. We've been together for almost a year and we feel like we're ready to have sex. We understand the consequences of having unprotected sex. Hence despite both of us being virgins, we still want to use a condom. Problem is: ...
A. 9 November 2012: Hi
no condoms = no sex
OR
no condoms + sex = pregnancy
Either go buy them where nobody knows you or get a friend to get them.Its not embarassing it's extremely sensible and its not funny or odd to those who sell them to you.When you do go, w... (read in full...)
69 year old with a 23 year old, is this wrong?
Q. I am 69. I love a girl who is just 23. I am madly in love with her and have a full grown sexual and complete relationship with her. Is it wrong or ok?...
A. 9 November 2012: Hi
Its neither right or wrong but thats a huge age gap..your 3 times her age. She may eventually decide to find a man closer to her age, somebody to have children with.Thats the risk you have to take.
If it was a 69yr old woman with a 23y... (read in full...)
My wife is in her mid 40's, she doesn't want sex and says her body has changed and menopause is kicking in. Should I buy that crap?
Q. I have a little problem, my wife is a hard working woman and does alot for our household but for the past few months she has been dead in the bed if you know what I mean. I have tried many things to bring our sex life back into action but shes ...
A. 9 November 2012: Hi
If it is menopause then a chat with her Dr might be a good idea, she may need hormone treatment. Do not pressure her but I would suggest a visit for both your sakes.
Could be she IS just plain tired,just sees it as yet another chore? T... (read in full...)
I don't want to be with my long distance B/f anymore, I feel he's a liar and I don't want to relocate for him. What should I do?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship, it's been long distance for 3 months but the whole relationship has been 5 months. My boyfriend never really texts me like he used to, he's changed and acts more like in a friend who's a girl. He won't reply back ...
A. 9 November 2012: Hi
I don't blame you for not wanting to move or for ending it. He is not exactly making you feel secure and wanted.
He isn't in your town so as you communicate via the Net just tell him its over,your not relocating then immediately bloc... (read in full...)
Is he playing games, advice please?
Q. There is this guy I like. We have had a fling in the past n it stopped due to his mates not liking me. Recently he has started to txt every now and again. We meet back up and he started bringing up the past, and asking me how my love life is? Also ...
A. 9 November 2012: Hi
Probably just wants sex and is fishing to see if your single and open to it.
Let him do the running and he will show his intentions soon enough... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend have a problem with me wearing hair extensions?
Q. The guy i'm seeing seems to have a problem with me wearing extensions, it's just getting insulting and tiring now! I don't know whether to get them taken out? I got them in a few weeks ago and all my friends compliment me on my hair, even thoug...
A. 8 November 2012: Hi
Don't take them out to please him, you paid for them,its your head,and how you want to look.It doesn't matter what your friends think either,it's YOU that has to like them and you do.
Maybe his mates have said you look hot or something and... (read in full...)
Is it possible that he wants more from me than just being friends?
Q. Ok, I've been single for just over a year no problems with that, I'm actually perfectly happy. In this year I've been single, I've became quite good friends with a guy, nothing romantic. He's in the army so we only hang out like once a month whe...
A. 8 November 2012: Hi
He's the only one who can answer this question.But he definately shows signs that he likes you and you are both getting to know each other slowly.Just think of him as a good friend for now.... (read in full...)
Should I date a guy who gets cold sores?
Q. This is only a quick question but something which is seriously troubling me... Some opinions from you lovely people would be appreciated! There is this guy from work I really like, we really click, if anything was to happen between us I know I w...
A. 8 November 2012: Hi
I used to get cold sores years ago, they always appeared when I was tired, run down or stressed out. It was never suggested I had Herpes,even by my GP, thank goodness.
Don't jump the gun, they might not even BE cold sores! If you like him ... (read in full...)
Any advice on where to meet guys? Tried hobbies, gym and bars with no success.
Q. I absolutely don't know where to meet guys. At work most of guys are married or involved or much older, plus it's not a good idea to date anyone from work. In Gym where I go to, there is never any interaction. I just work out there 3 times a week a...
A. 8 November 2012: Hi
I didn't think you weren't pretty, but maybe a change of appearance would be a good idea,just to feel different. If men like you and approach you, then maybe its YOUR taste that limits you. Bars aren't the best place to meet men anyway,u... (read in full...)
My mother went through and cleaned my room without any warning. I feel violated, my dad says "get over it"!
Q. DearCupid Aunts, I need your opinion on something. I came home the other day to find that my mother had gone through my entire room, and cleaned it out. My drawers, all my laundry, several of my purses/backpacks, and private papers, had been...
A. 8 November 2012: Hi
I dont think you should be ignoring your mum,sit down and talk,get your point of view across and listen to hers too.
I agree going through backpacks,drawers and closet IS a bit to much, especially as you weren't there to say whether things n... (read in full...)
Any advice on where to meet guys? Tried hobbies, gym and bars with no success.
Q. I absolutely don't know where to meet guys. At work most of guys are married or involved or much older, plus it's not a good idea to date anyone from work. In Gym where I go to, there is never any interaction. I just work out there 3 times a week a...
A. 8 November 2012: Hi
Ok if you have guy friends or relatives that you trust, ask them the best way to meet men.
Then ask girlfriends about your appearance,hair, clothes,make-up. Look on it as a project re-invent yourself to be the best you can be. I am not say... (read in full...)
I'm sleeping with my best friend's husband and I don't want it to end
Q. Last few months my best friend's husband and I have been sleeping together, last night he tells me he loves her and wants to break it off with me, I got mad and told him I don't want to end our relationship. What do I do? how do I keep him from ...
A. 8 November 2012: Hi
Well for a start he can't leave you because he isn't with you, he might have left your bed for good by the sounds of it though.
His wife must have guessed he's cheating and given him an ultimatum, so he chose her because he loves her. You p... (read in full...)
Ex girlfriend is being weird...
Q. So, my girlfriend of 4 months broke up with me by ignoring me a few weeks ago. Now she is stalking me online every day and making sure I don't move on. She is also trying her best to hurt me by acting like nothing ever happened, pretending to be ...
A. 7 November 2012: Hi
I suggest you get off the PC,stay off it for a long while and get out and meet other people.She is controlling you and playing stupid little games.Leave her too it.She is immature and needs to see she doesn't have a hold over you or your tim... (read in full...)
Was I rude or was I justified in saying what I did?
Q. Told a guy he was too busy to date - was I unreasonable? I met a guy online (He's 35, I'm 30) and we exchanged a few emails but he would always take a couple of days to reply, saying he was really busy. Not a problem really, but it does colour m...
A. 7 November 2012: Hi
He didn't seem overkeen anyways so yes you were definately justified in saying what you did. He was far too vague,mardy and unavailable.... (read in full...)
I want to start dating again, but can't seem to get out there or even know how to begin.
Q. dear aunts and uncles, you all have helped me in the past now i need help again. i am finding it very difficult to move on after my husband of 20 years left me for a girl half our age a year ago. i know it is time to get on with my life, we just ...
A. 7 November 2012: Hi
Your doing well so far, you have accepted the situation and are ready to move forward. Your Ex just sounds spiteful and petty with regard to collecting your money - just console yourself with the fact he will be having sleepless nights and pile... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is always out partying
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for 1 year. Im 22 and he is 30. I feel that he partys way too much were always arguing about it and it just doesnt seem to stop him. I dont want to stop him having fun but we have i trust issues with him ove...
A. 7 November 2012: Hi
If you broke up 3 days ago then he is no longer your problem.
He just isn't the faithful, stopping in for cosy couple nights type of 'man', so you are much better off free, to find a man who is.One who respects you and wants to spend time wi... (read in full...)
I'm married and had an on/off affair with a married man for three years. I ended after his divorce, but now he has someone new, and I think he wants to rekindle our affair.
Q. I've had an on and off relationship with a high school classmate. Everything was good.he got married and so did i. We were seeing each other regular. We would have sex which was good to him. I was good with it because i got the attention i was look...
A. 7 November 2012: Hi
I don't even know why your asking us, you have both cheated throughout your marriages and he is now divorced and wants to cheat on his new woman. You will not resist him because you have both always done as you want to have illicit sex.
... (read in full...)
Will I be hurting my own daughter, If I cut all contact with her dad's family?
Q. I came out of an abusive relationship with a man who originated from Alger. My ex-boyfriend is sitting behind bars after he beat me up and pushed me down the stairs. The problem is I have a beautiful daughter with him who is just 4 years old and I ...
A. 6 November 2012: Hi
I agree with ABB, you should keep up the contact with his family, letters, photos, let them see how she is growing and,after all,his family haven't done anything wrong.
If in years to come your daughter wants to visit them you can go with ... (read in full...)
His friends come before me
Q. I have been in a relationship for 5 years. I have had difficulties with a couple whom my boyfriend knew before me: I had a sexual remark made to me by the couples husband. I made this know to the wife of this man. She severed communications with me. ...
A. 6 November 2012: Hi
Yes you need time out, away from him,if your health is being affected then you definately have to step away for your own good.
I don't see why your boyfriends health is suffering unless he doesn't have the guts to end the friendship or yo... (read in full...)
I was dating a guy who wanted to date other women so I finished it. Did I do the right thing or overreact?
Q. Hello aunties and uncles. I'm a bit confused and bewildered about a recent dating experience and I'd like some opinions or advice. I met a guy via online dating. We had several (4) really enjoyable dates over a few weeks. We chatted freely and...
A. 5 November 2012: Hi
You did the right thing and his timing was off. This is why it's best to get to know somebody and what their intentions are,before you have sex or take them near your place.
He probably did like you or he wouldn't have bothered what yo... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend being lazy or am I just being insensitive?
Q. My boyfriend is 22 years old and still lives at home. He's the founder of a clothing company in which is continuing to grow although it has only been established for a few years. He makes enough money to continuously buy new clothes, sneakers, and ...
A. 5 November 2012: Hi
Are his parents divorced, you don't mention his father? If she is a single parent or divorced it could be the reason he stays at home.... (read in full...)
Should I not let his gender issues bother me and go on assuming we will be together? Or do I need to leave?
Q. I am going to try and make this as brief as i can rather than going into too much detail. As i feel tired with the mental fustration of it all, going over and over with my partner about it, and in my own head. I guess i could really do with an ...
A. 5 November 2012: Hi
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http://www.lightinthecloset.org/WhyDoICrossdress.html
http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/sexandrelationships/transvesticism.htm
http://www.outlinesurrey.org/?gcl... (read in full...)
What to expect from a guy after casual sex/one night stand?
Q. ok so on friday night, there was the birthday of my brother at the beach near his house. some of his friends were invited, we were around 10. The party lasted till early saturday morning. I know nearly all of his friends very well. Around 2 in the ...
A. 5 November 2012: Hi
Basically you met a guy at a party,went to a Hotel, had sex several times then parted company.
What to expect from him is nothing, except maybe another night in a Hotel in the future.
I may be wrong,time will tell. Don't text or call... (read in full...)
My mother is destroying my relationship
Q. How do I stop my mother ruining my relationship? I am currently living at home with my mother and my boyfriend. The situation is probably not the best considering both me and my partner are in our early 30's but due to lack of money neither of...
A. 5 November 2012: Hi
I would go to the University and ask for help to find alternate accomodation,they can help.As your paying rent to your mum and for all the food plus bills,you can afford somewhere together. If it means getting a loan for a deposit or moving i... (read in full...)
His friends come before me
Q. I have been in a relationship for 5 years. I have had difficulties with a couple whom my boyfriend knew before me: I had a sexual remark made to me by the couples husband. I made this know to the wife of this man. She severed communications with me. ...
A. 5 November 2012: Hi
Well personally I wouldn't have told this mans wife that he had said something to me,you could have dealt with it by using a caustic reply or laughed it off.Thats what I have done in the past and its worked.
Since you HAVE said something a... (read in full...)
My mother is destroying my relationship
Q. How do I stop my mother ruining my relationship? I am currently living at home with my mother and my boyfriend. The situation is probably not the best considering both me and my partner are in our early 30's but due to lack of money neither of...
A. 5 November 2012: Hi
You don't say how long you have been stopping with your mum or how long till you can leave.Nor how come your both there in the first place.What contribution do you make and are you both working?
Your mum can have who she wants in HER hom... (read in full...)
Already spent 1000 dollars to help the man I love to come to visit me and now he's asking me to take a big loan for him
Q. Hello to all, When I went to china recently for a training course, I met a guy. I thought that our relationship would be only brief but he told me that he wants me to know that it was not only about getting some fun for him but he has feelings...
A. 4 November 2012: Hi
Don't part with another cent, this man is using you and he's a con man relying on your feelings for him.
I hope he isn't staying with you.If he is then it's time to ask him to leave. I don't think you will get your 1000 dollars back, so... (read in full...)
Our friends keep asking us if we would like to "house swap" with them! They are relentless!
Q. This may seem trivial but I'm really angry about it... Basically my partner and I have bought a lovely 3 bed house. We've worked hard to be able to afford it- sacrificing things, working all hours, not having a decent holiday for the past 4 y...
A. 4 November 2012: Hi
Just tell them to change the record - if they want a bigger home they will have to buy one as your going nowhere - and mean it.
To be honest if they are as you say why are they still your friends? You have nothing in common, you don't even r... (read in full...)
After only 4 months, he has doubts and we are distanced, any thoughts?
Q. I just feel like I need some opinions before I finally make a decision about this! I'll try not to make it too much of a novel... I've been dating this guy for over 4 months. The past month and a half things have just changed. He only spends abou...
A. 4 November 2012: Hi
When the bad days outnumber the good days its time to split up. Its all on his terms and he's told you he would rather see his friends, that they are more important than you.He has said things between you are wrong,not working.
To me that sa... (read in full...)
I feel so ugly I cry.
Q. Recently i have been feeling ugly. Im 22 years old and married. First i would like to start off by saying that im over weight, i have thick facial hair which i shave, black arm pits and elbows, knees and between my thighs, im very insecure of my ...
A. 4 November 2012: Hi
You have a husband, he married you,he loves you.
If you want to start feeling good about yourself then ask yourself why you feel this way and when it started.You must have dated your husband,got engaged and married him, so you can't have f... (read in full...)
She used to be promiscuous so I want access to her online activities!
Q. Is it okay for me to ask my fiancee to look at her emails, texts, and facebook one time? I will gladly let her look at mine. I am engaged to woman w/ a very promiscuous past and want to confirm that she will be faithful by asking to read h...
A. 4 November 2012: Hi
I don't see how checking her emails etc will confirm she will be faithful in the future, you either trust her or you don't, its that simple.Reading her correspondance may make you more insecure about her,even if theres nothing to hide.
... (read in full...)
Am I doing the right thing by not letting this awful man see our child?
Q. Ok, so I'm going to try to keep this as short as possible. When I was 16 I was sleeping with this guy. Lost my virginity to him. He was in a relationship. Bad idea I know. My dad wasn't a good role model for me and I really really enjoyed the atte...
A. 4 November 2012: Hi
I think its a hard decision to make, you made a mistake seeing him but you were young and know where you went wrong. You sound like you have made a great mum,its not easy bringing up a child and I can see why you want to protect him.
He IS t... (read in full...)
Did I break some sort of rule by texting this guy? I'm at a loss and I'm so sick of feeling like I did something wrong!
Q. So, honestly I feel like this is a pretty common "problem" (not exactly a problem, but a serious self-esteem killer) between ALL women and I would like some advice. Long story short, I met a guy who was my totally type at a bar three weekends a...
A. 4 November 2012: Hi
All you did was try to establish where you stood, you enjoyed the date and wanted a 2nd,so you sent a text.No big deal in the scheme of things so stop worrying.
He doesn't appear to be interested though or he would have been in touch for a 2... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend being lazy or am I just being insensitive?
Q. My boyfriend is 22 years old and still lives at home. He's the founder of a clothing company in which is continuing to grow although it has only been established for a few years. He makes enough money to continuously buy new clothes, sneakers, and ...
A. 4 November 2012: Hi
I would say your just ahead of him, whereas he has no concept of being independant, you do.His family allow him to stay at home so he has no need to change his lifestyle,no motivation to leave home.He is also a handy babysitter for them.
... (read in full...)
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