Is my boyfriend being lazy or am I just being insensitive?
Q. My boyfriend is 22 years old and still lives at home. He's the founder of a clothing company in which is continuing to grow although it has only been established for a few years. He makes enough money to continuously buy new clothes, sneakers, and ...
A. 5 November 2012: Hi
Are his parents divorced, you don't mention his father? If she is a single parent or divorced it could be the reason he stays at home.... (read in full...)
Did I break some sort of rule by texting this guy? I'm at a loss and I'm so sick of feeling like I did something wrong!
Q. So, honestly I feel like this is a pretty common "problem" (not exactly a problem, but a serious self-esteem killer) between ALL women and I would like some advice. Long story short, I met a guy who was my totally type at a bar three weekends a...
A. 4 November 2012: Hi
All you did was try to establish where you stood, you enjoyed the date and wanted a 2nd,so you sent a text.No big deal in the scheme of things so stop worrying.
He doesn't appear to be interested though or he would have been in touch for a 2... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriend being lazy or am I just being insensitive?
Q. My boyfriend is 22 years old and still lives at home. He's the founder of a clothing company in which is continuing to grow although it has only been established for a few years. He makes enough money to continuously buy new clothes, sneakers, and ...
A. 4 November 2012: Hi
I would say your just ahead of him, whereas he has no concept of being independant, you do.His family allow him to stay at home so he has no need to change his lifestyle,no motivation to leave home.He is also a handy babysitter for them.
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All I wanted was to be loved the way he loved her. Will he forgive me?
Q. I don’t know what to do. I’m at a point in my life when I am repenting for the choices I made in my impulsiveness and lack of thinking. I was secretly in love with my ex-colleague (he’s much younger than me). I had my heart broken in my early 20...
A. 3 November 2012: Hi
Honestly? No you don't. Your actions show you to be unreliable,free with your body, you have also charged for sex,with his friends and now your pregnant.
I think he was nice to you only because it was his nature, he maybe hoped you would ... (read in full...)
I met him online. His behavior alarms me. Should I just let things go?
Q. I met a man on an online dating site a little less than 2 weeks ago, he is 57, I'm 50. He's a soldier in Afghanistan, his tour is over December 15th. He was married for 18 years, divorced for 7, I was married for 15 years and divorced for 3. He ...
A. 3 November 2012: Hi
let it go........ (read in full...)
My girlfriend accidentally found the engagement ring I bought her
Q. I bought an engagement ring for my live-in girlfriend a few months back. In fact, I had it custom made. I hadn't found the right time to propose yet, so I hid it away in a silver box on the top shelf of the cabinet we keep wine glasses in. We use t...
A. 2 November 2012: Hi
Propose on Bonfire night, amongst the fireworks and stars
Why wait till christmas ? You clearly want to BE engaged.
If she did see the ring she will wonder if its for her if you don't propose soon!... (read in full...)
Financial situation with husband's kids, ex and myself is making me want to leave the marriage!
Q. My stepdaughter has been living with us for 4 months. She does not pay rent, clean house or buy food. She has a full time job but spends her money on wine, clothes and going out. That brings me to my problem. Her mom and dad have the wackiest ...
A. 2 November 2012: Hi
I think its time to leave,I don't know how you have tolerated it for this long to be honest.The odds are stacked against you and while his ex and his kids enjoy life,you go without..they are not even your responsiblity.
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Should I just take some time out to be single?
Q. Since I was 16 the longest I've been single is about a week. I have had an 8 year relationship and I've just come out of a 7 month relationship. Within a couple of days I was on a date with somebody else. My ex wasn't at all nice to me, really ...
A. 2 November 2012: Hi
Its really personal choice and must be hard to resist dating when your clearly a popular woman.Us mere mortals struggle to get one date!
Thing is I think everyone should be single for a bit, just to get to know themselves and what they wa... (read in full...)
Am I being selfish? Three week baby sitting assignment I do not want. Help me rebut their fallacious arguments
Q. I am single and I like babysitting my nephews and nieces from time to time. But now I think my family are asking too much of me. I live alone and I work full time. Just because I am not married and don't have children does not mean I don't want chi...
A. 2 November 2012: Hi
So she even accepted the invitation before she even asked you,she assumed you would do it? You are not being selfish at all,absolutely not.
Why should you use your holidays to look after HER 5 children,so she can have a holiday?! She's ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my husband's brother that I love him too and about the fantasy of a threesome with him and my husband?
Q. My brother in law has called me and texted me and told me in person he loves me and is attracted to me. I haven't replied to his remarks out of respect to my husband. I just ignored it when he said it. I know he was intoxicated/high so I didn't ...
A. 1 November 2012: Hi
" For years my husband and I have talked about a threesome with him but I have always refused"
You and your husband have talked for years about having a threesome with his brother? Really? So he is ok with it, sharing his wife with a fami... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend getting on line and chatting because she is at home and bored?
Q. While I am out at work my girlfriend does nothing all day except chat to guys and flirt on the internet. I have found out about this now for the fourth time in a year. We almost broke up for good, and now I find she is doing it yet again. It is hard ...
A. 1 November 2012: Hi
Well I would be bored if at 27 I was home all day, however she has you, so Dating sites are a definate no.
You can catch her out with a bit of detective work, set up a false profile on the same dating site.Thats if she refuses to own u... (read in full...)
We broke up and I didn't say what I wanted to say. Should I go tell her now?
Q. Me and my gf split up this January after 5 years together. Her reason was; it wasnt working out. Well that was not surprising as she kept me a secret all that time from her family and friends because i am 17 years older than her. Id had enough of ...
A. 1 November 2012: Hi
Just leave it, its over now and done. If it makes you feel better write it all down,in a letter,but do not send it.
She can't have it all her own way and now your free to find a woman who is proud to show you off.... (read in full...)
Dating for 2.5 years turning into a FWB relationship?
Q. Hi Agony Aunts, I've posted a few questions here as of late (some anonymous), My (now ex) girlfriend broke up with me just under 2 weeks ago saying that we are now on different levels in our lives but that she still loves me - but not sure if she'...
A. 31 October 2012: Hi
The thing about NO contact after a break up is so you can recover, so you don't know every detail of the ex's recovery too, nor when she has moved on.
You really need to focus on your studies thats THE most important thing here..your hospi... (read in full...)
Disturbed by his actions in bed
Q. When a guy is giving you oral sex and he holds his breath, does it mean you smell down there? And in the middle of sex, he gives a disgusted look, does it mean he IS disgusted with you? ...
A. 31 October 2012: Hi
Holds his breath? Strange!
I can't imagine a man would be able to physically 'perform' if he found a woman disgusting,he has to be attracted in some way, so think you have got it wrong. ... (read in full...)
What did I do? Did I scare him off?
Q. I meet a guy online.. I like him a lot...we exchanged numbers The conversation was great, he even said... He wants to take me out.. Then something happens to his phone we get disconnected , he calls back and said sorry..my phone is dying, then I s...
A. 30 October 2012: Hi
Its hard to say as we don't know the whole conversation, but I think you can assume he has changed his mind for whatever reason.
Just leave it that and think 'next'.... (read in full...)
Why is he so interested to see the inside of my home? Does this mean he wants to get serious?
Q. Hello y'all , I have been dating a guy for a few months - close to 3, but I have known him for a while. We were friends before anything happend. Things seem to be going well, we don't text every day, more like every other and I see him once, so...
A. 30 October 2012: Hi
After 3 months he probably just wants to see it, to go for a change of scenery. I don't know why he hasnt been already especially as he isn't somebody you just met, you were friends beforehand.
For all he knows you could be hiding something... (read in full...)
Still single and sick of it. How do I put the Zippity Do Dah into my life and Spice things up enough, to learn how to successfully date and become a partner to a nice girl?
Q. I posted here before 4 years ago. I imagine you probably receive hundreds of messages like this regularly. I thought long and hard about whether to actually send it. I actually wrote something sinilar to this at the beginning of the year ju...
A. 30 October 2012: Hi
You've had some good advice so far. The thing that shouts out from your question is it seems to be your life goal to meet a girl and settle down.You do sound great too.Do have any female friends or do you just go for girlfriend status? ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend and I are at a cross-roads and unsure where to do and both of us seem unwilling to budge.
Q. My GF and I have been together for nearly 4 years. She lives in her own place (with a mortgage) and i live at home (due to other reasons but i can now afford to move out etc which i am looking to do so). I've talked with my GF about this and the ...
A. 30 October 2012: Hi
I can see her point about not wanting to sell yet,she will want to make a profit and its her security a major investment. If you moved in it wouldn't be that situation forever eventually you could buy one together when she did sell. As for what... (read in full...)
What can I do? I'm devastated after an unanticipated breakup
Q. Hi I am new here. I was with my ex for two years I thought we were so happy he was the best thing that ever happened to me. Yes we had arguments and it got really tough then he lost his job and I was paying for everything we had a flat in the end we ...
A. 29 October 2012: Hi
Its a bad time financially for so many, at least your home at your mums,you had somewhere to go. I hope your debts are in his name too? Its hard when you lose your job and hard to find a new one,its devastating.I know so many in that situatio... (read in full...)
Why did my boyfriend start acting so strangely?
Q. Dear Cupids, This may be a bit of a long one so I am sorry in advance. My boyfriend of 7 months broke up with me yesterday due to the fact he had "fallen out of love with me" - The funny thing is the week before we were loves young dream... w...
A. 29 October 2012: Hi
I know you respect your Mum but at 22 yrs old you should be 'allowed' to stop over at your boyfriends.Alot of people have left home,some are married and have children by this age.Whatever her reasons I am not surprised it caused problems... (read in full...)
Did I ruin things before they could even begin?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles. Please help me. I have totally muucked things up with a guy who I really like and who I think was perfect for more. I feel sick at what I have done, or more importantly how stupid I have acted. I am 31 and can't beleive...
A. 29 October 2012: Hi
"I met a lovely guy on a dating website"
So 2nd meeting ended at your place,third was at yours too,for sex.Just as well he wasn't some raving weirdo and luckily your here to tell the tale.
Never mind your behaviour, please consid... (read in full...)
Is my Bf involved sexually with an older lover? He says no. His text to her implies yes. What can I do?
Q. Am I over reacting or what? My boyfriend has an older lady friend who stays at our house quite frequently, helps us out a lot. They've been friends longer than I've been around and she's like 20 years older than him so I never thought twice ab...
A. 29 October 2012: Hi
The fact you felt the need to pick up her phone and check her messages shows you MUST have had your doubts about them, regardless of her age.
What more proof do you need, you saw the message with your own eyes? Ofcourse they will deny it.
... (read in full...)
Why has he contacted me after 5 months? Does he want me back?
Q. Hello everyone, I have had no communication with the guy I was in a friends with benefits (FWB) relationship with for the last 1yr 4 months - now 5 months later I receive an email from him out of the blue saying 'Hope you are fine. Tell me what is ...
A. 29 October 2012: Hi
If he is in another country and has been silent for that long I would say he just sent the email randomly. Maybe he was bored or perhaps he is due home for a visit for xmas or something and wants to line up a FWB meet again while back.Pro... (read in full...)
Should I be emotionally drained from a relationship?
Q. I just shut out my boyfriend .....I have gone completely silent ...because I am tired. ..I am tired of giving ....all my energy is well spent ....his a very needy emotional demanding person and before I wouldn't mind listening, giving, helping, ...
A. 29 October 2012: Hi
Its one thing being supportive its another entirely different thing when you are a sponge for all his problems and issues.
Yes you have done right, now you can focus on yourself and what you want without being constantly dragged down.Its... (read in full...)
He can't stand conflict and always leaves...
Q. hi.. I've been really down because me and my boyfriend just recently had a fight but this one was different. He said he was tired of having disagreements and he said he can't keep going through these kind of disagreements anymore. He's never h...
A. 28 October 2012: Hi
I prefer to discuss things, not argue.I wouldn't want to argue twice a year never mind twice a month, lifes too short.Couples who fight alot and think its normal are rare.
You are just simply 2 different personalities by the sounds of it... (read in full...)
Is telling the truth one option? How do I get out of this tangled web of lies that I created? My Imaginary Gay Boyfriend is causing problems with my ex and I
Q. Oh what a tangled web we weave, when first we practice to deceive. Firstly let me just say that I am a really honest guy, who doesn't normally lie (truth) (Hard to believe when you hear my story). But one lie I told recently has snowballed into ...
A. 28 October 2012: Hi
Wow..you should be writing movie scripts. My view is if you don't want your Ex back then stop contacting or meeting up with him.You do not want to hurt his new man so there is no point
OR
Meet next week with an escort but that would le... (read in full...)
Do you think my guitar playing can play a role in attracting a woman who will love me, into my life?
Q. Hello ladies and gentlemen I have a weird question. How much does guitar playing affect in attracting females? I am a guitarist and I can shred, strum, sing and play ANY song. I compose my own music and cover many rock songs. I have been singl...
A. 28 October 2012: Hi
If a woman likes music is the artistic type,even plays an instrument herself or sings it will help you..that way its something you have in common to build on.
Maybe start a band and advertise for people to join, or look for adverts where pe... (read in full...)
My due date is soon. I'm really scared. So how can I get this fear under control?
Q. When my mum had my youngest sister 6 years ago she had really bad complications in pregnancy (eclampsia) She ended up really sick and to be honest it frightend me to bits as being 18 at the time, the memory is very fresh. I'm now expecting my...
A. 28 October 2012: Hi
You and every other woman who has had children,including myself, worried.
Its a major step bringing a life into the world emotions and hormones everywhere. Nobody has exactly the same birth so don't compare or worry about yours being like... (read in full...)
Shall I walk away, or take a very big risk???
Q. I have Just started some part time work after getting my life back together from an abusive relationship. A man in my work place has for several weeks been friendly but until recently didn't realise he was attracted towards me. He has now made it ...
A. 28 October 2012: Hi
Its nice to know a man finds you attractive, so I guess to start you need to look in the mirror and see what he sees,clearly not what you see!
I would be wary of a relationship with him for 2 reasons though, he is a work colleague and yo... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from my boyfriend and I'm worried that something happened!
Q. Yesterday was my boyfriend's birthday, I was so excited to see him so I could give him gifts and stuff. I know his schedule for the day, he had work from 12:00- 6:00. So, I texted him at 10 in the morning, figuring that if he wasn't awake by then, ...
A. 27 October 2012: Hi
Why didn't you ring him instead of texting? He doesn.t sound over keen if he didnt have you join him or see him on his birthday.Now silence.
Maybe his family had made surprise plans for him ?
You dont say how long you've been dating ... (read in full...)
Why no call after weekend if he enjoyed it so?
Q. My guy was interested in me several months before I knew. Finally he was able to tell me. I am 44 but don't look it and he is 26, very mature and level headed. We have officially been together over a month. Spent my birthday weekend together in ...
A. 27 October 2012: Hi
You might not have but approached it like a one night standish situation,but he did/has ~ hence his silence now. x... (read in full...)
What happened to the concept that guys like a natural look? I'm invisible to guys when I go out with her!
Q. Can someone explain what is so amazing about my friend that everyone likes her and all the guys i meet first meet first, set her and then want her!! On nights out she gets so much male attention you would think she was megan fox. She's mixed rac...
A. 27 October 2012: Hi
Your friend sounds like a very grounded girl and a great friend, she can't help the attention she gets.
If it were me before you go out next time I would ask her to do your make-up, hair and pick your clothes, tell her you want to try a ne... (read in full...)
I got too clingy! How can I show him that the old me is back?
Q. please help ive made an awful mess of this. ok i have a good friend and during the summer we became close. hes been with a girl 5 years. she has a lot of issues which hes explained. she needs lots of space, goes out drinking with guys from work and...
A. 27 October 2012: Hi
I wouldn't bother, he has a girlfriend and things between you and him were getting too cosy. I think you will need alot of time apart and also you need to meet a new man, a boyfriend,not friend.
You got too emotionally attached, the te... (read in full...)
Why no call after weekend if he enjoyed it so?
Q. My guy was interested in me several months before I knew. Finally he was able to tell me. I am 44 but don't look it and he is 26, very mature and level headed. We have officially been together over a month. Spent my birthday weekend together in ...
A. 27 October 2012: Hi
Ofcourse he enjoyed the weekend, a mature woman meeting up for sex. Look on him as part of your birthday present, unwrapped, enjoyed and now the birthdays over.
He sweet talked you and now his passion is spent, reality has kicked in.It can... (read in full...)
My ex is pleading for me to come back. How do I tell him I've fallen in love with another?
Q. Ok so I broke up with my boyfriend of 7 and a half years about a month ago. I just didn't feel like I was in love anymore and I want to feel this way and be happy/not miserable for the rest of my life. We had two dogs and lived together in a fairly ...
A. 26 October 2012: Hi
You dont have to go back, it wasn't working for you anymore so you left.He has to come to terms with that on his own.In the long run thats fairer for both of you,no contact.
As for moving on, it was fast so definately take things slowly,yo... (read in full...)
After 5 years he's still putting off us moving in together. Is this relationship going anywhere?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years and we are both 24 years old. We get on well most of the time and love each other a lot. I have my own house but he still lives at home with his mum. I'm getting to a point in my life where i am ...
A. 26 October 2012: Hi
I know a young couple who have been dating for over 5 years,both live at home still, they aren't even engaged.It suits them both so it works
You two want different things,he doesn't want to leave home and live with you - yet or ever and that... (read in full...)
Should I choose a different Doctor? When I met the new Doctor I realised that I've slept with him and his wife. He was professional when I saw him recently.
Q. Okay this is an odd thing that happened to me, I went to the doctors because I have been having some bad neck pains so I just randomly picked a doctor and when I finally meet the doctor I actually know him and have slept with him and his wife when I ...
A. 26 October 2012: Hi
Change doctors, its a compramising situation for both of you and would be wrong on alot of levels.... (read in full...)
Internet Online Dating and serious relationships - isn't it just truly a waste of time?
Q. Hi everyone, I am so disillusioned with internet dating. Over the past few years I have joined a few dating websites hoping that at some point I will meet a man, who I get along with, have similar interests/humour, share the same values in life,...
A. 26 October 2012: Hi
There are always exceptions to the rule but on the whole I think your right. I tried for a while a few years back and gave up,always said I would write a book about some of the dates. The men pretty much had one thing in common,they wanted s... (read in full...)
Is my friend enabling her son? Should she talk to a professional?
Q. I have a friend whose adult son is having a lot of issues. Basically he is living on the streets and has troubles with his family, etc. My friend is sending her son money to help him out. I think it sounds like she's enabling his bad behavior, so...
A. 25 October 2012: Hi
There are few mums who would NOT help their children out like this, given the chance and his situation.So they know he isnt going hungry if nothing else.
You don't say what the issues are or why he cannot/won't actually live with his mum.Pro... (read in full...)
I've decided to finish it but how do I tell him?
Q. Update http://www.dearcupid.org/question/boyfriend-is-renting-out-spare-room-to-another.html his flatmate moved in and they went out together to celebrate as it has solved both their money troubles , i didnt get invited and he never said about ...
A. 25 October 2012: Hi
I would just come straight out and tell him how you feel.I think he was wrong and should have at least told you they were out.Coupled with the lessening contact it appears he is liking his new situation too much.
Have you been introduced ... (read in full...)
Should I Trust My Husband? Am I Wrong For FeelingThis Way?
Q. My husband and I have been married for almost 28 years. I have always trusted him because and have never suspected him cheating on me. Lately he has upset me because of some of the things he has done. One example occurred several years ago when s...
A. 25 October 2012: Hi
Why not just go with him and join in the fun?
Its clear it bothers you so if its a pretty frequent thing for him then you have to say something, not accuse, but just point out why it makes you feel uncomfortable and ask if he would not sha... (read in full...)
How do I heal the relationship? Do I love too deeply?
Q. I have been with my bf for 21 months - nearly two years. We have a beautiful 1 year old son together. I have two kids at home with me so two toddlers. Last night though, out of nowhere he turned around and told me he fell out of love with me ove...
A. 25 October 2012: Hi
You have had to cope with the worst a mother can,losing a child.So sorry.
I don't know that you can heal this relationship,you must have gotten pregnant almost as soon as you met, this keeps some people together out of obligation,he ha... (read in full...)
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