How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 10 April 2008: You're more than welcome. Just get those exams done now - do WELL! - and then who knows, maybe you'll still be a young mother : ) I am going to tell my daughter that it's ok to have a kid when she's 21 or so if she wants - that all the stuff about ... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 9 April 2008: I can't bear to read this. Really, I just can't bear it. I tried so hard to tell you, and it was exactly the same as happened to me. I tried to get it across, and I felt and feel such a failure that I didn't manage to communicate it to you. I'm ... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 7 April 2008: Why the countdown? Incidentally, I've just given birth to a beautiful daughter. She is amazing. Now 5 days old, and already looking into our eyes and wondering at the new world she finds herself in.... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 28 March 2008: Peaches said only you know if you will be able to cope with having a baby - I think that's the whole problem. You don't, because you've never had that experience. You just don't know what it's like, and you have a choice of a foggy, scary future ... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 26 March 2008: I too want to wish you all the very best and hope you will come to terms with what, whichever way you had chosen, is a huge and stressful decision to be making on your own. I really hope you have someone good to talk to, who can support you and be ... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 25 March 2008: Suggest you read some of the other posts on this site, from girls who've just recently had abortions and are now completely in despair at what they've done. They too thought they were making the right decision.
Try the one 'How do you deal wit... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 24 March 2008: If you can have the abortion pill up to 12 weeks, are we saying that the poster here is beyond 12 weeks? If so, you will have to deliver your baby through induced labour. Can you imagine how bad that is? I think in an earlier post I said 'after 12 ... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 24 March 2008: I meant to warn you that doctors often advise abortion - it's almost like they feel they can't advise otherwise, because there's such a taboo about being anti-abortion. Interestingly, I am pregnant now, and it was unplanned and is about as difficult ... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 23 March 2008: I'm surprised that you're surprised people feel so strongly about this! They feel so because it's a matter of life and death, and what you do now will affect the rest of your life.
I thought i felt the same as you, and particularly the same re:... (read in full...)
I want to kiss her but I have never kissed a girl in a romantic way...advice please!
Q. Ok I have been seeing a girl for about four months. Everytime we look at each other I can feel the love between us. When I look at her I feel like I should kiss her. I would like advice on how to know if she wants me to kiss her and the best way ...
A. 22 March 2008: Great news! So glad I helped. Thanks for saying so. And good luck for the rest of it ... ... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 22 March 2008: guys, I don't know if any of you in this heated argument have read my little contributions to it.
I am not especially religious, I am not anything much at all unusual - just a straightforward, thinking, feeling kind of person. I had an abortion... (read in full...)
The Truth about Pubic Hair?
Q. Hi, I am a 15 year old girl and my boyfriend has been wanting to finger me but I am afraid to because I am afraid he will think pubes are gross. I tried shaving them but I had trouble doing a good job and after like a day it was just stubbly and ...
A. 22 March 2008: I'm not a teenage guy but this is what I think:
- Long and au naturel - some guys don't like it, although I don't think a teenage boy would be too choosy
- Trimmed down - best option - shows you are taking care of it, but not to the extreme of s... (read in full...)
What in the world does this guy want from me?
Q. right...when i was 17 and workin in greece i met some one. we started a full relationship straight away with me movin in with him in greece( i am from the uk) It was hard at first because i couldn't speak greek and was away from my family but i ...
A. 22 March 2008: I agree. He's just sentimental about you, and doesn't know what he wants. But for sure he's no good for you. FORGET HIM. Don't answer his calls or emails - that's what guys do when they don't want contact! Try it. I know it sounds harsh, but he is a ... (read in full...)
I'm not as comfortable with the divorces. I'm working at not being hurt or jealous, but sometimes I can't help it.
Q. I'm 24 and my boyfriend is 42. We've only been dating for a few months, but our relationship is amazing. Both of us are completely out of our elements though. We're both surprised that we've fallen for each other, because we've never been ...
A. 22 March 2008: Laura is right - and you are right, too, that you need to calm down and relax and accept his strong reassurance and let his past go. He's had a life - you wouldn't want him any other way. He wouldn't be the guy he is now without all of that having ... (read in full...)
Sex advice sought...
Q. Hello. I am an undergraduate college student. I dated this guy in high school for 3 and a half years and we recently decided to take a break and meet other people. The last time I had sex with him was over Thanksgiving break since we go to different ...
A. 22 March 2008: It sounds to me like maybe a couple of things:
- Could be that you had cystitis or thrush, both of which would make you more sensitive
- Could be that you haven't had much sex, and the friction and force of it (depending on how he did it) just... (read in full...)
Can I find out before my missed period?? What can I do to stop thinking about this possible pregnancy...?
Q. There is a very strong possibility that I may be pregnant and I just can't keep my mind off of it. I have to wait until I miss my period to determine whether I am or not and it's really bothering me. Any ideas on what I could do to find out sooner ...
A. 22 March 2008: You're very welcome. And you've just reminded me of another symptom!! I was roasting hot at night, too - kept saying 'is it only me or is it hot in here?' - and it was only me : ) So that may be a very good sign. I know it's horrible waiting, ... (read in full...)
My teacher likes me, kissed me and is scaring me! I'm feeling awful but no one will believe me if I tell them.
Q. Hi, i have this really bad problem it's about a teacher and it's nothing to do with me liking him its the other way round. We have just broke up from school for the easter holidays. The whole story started when i was walking down the corridor goi...
A. 22 March 2008: This guy is a very very bad man and you need to get away from him, and get some proper help and support. Once people know what has happened, he will be dealt with - don't worry.
Right now you need to go back to the police and ask to talk to a fem... (read in full...)
We were just laying together! My mum thinks we had sex and now doesn't trust me! What can I do?
Q. hey people out there I NEED HELP! Well i'm 14 and i have a boyfriend that I've been with for 1 year and 4 months. And today he came over to my apartment and we were in my bed just laying down! NOTHING HAPPENED! And my mom came home and saw us laying ...
A. 22 March 2008: It's probably hard to talk to your mom right now, as she is feeling cross with you, and probably upset, and you are feeling really upset and also that it isn't fair. Maybe you could write her a letter and get all your feelings out? Explain that ... (read in full...)
He hurts my feelings but I love him so much. Help.
Q. I am 21 years old,I've been married for just over a year now, and I'm six months pregnant with our baby boy. I Love my husband very much, and I know he loves me too, but he hurts my feelings a lot. Yes, I may be a little over sensitive, but ...
A. 22 March 2008: It sounds like he isn't really respecting you the way he should, and part of the reason why might be because he feels he doesn't have to try with you now - he's got you completely - you're his wife, you're carrying his child, and you totally love ... (read in full...)
Can I find out before my missed period?? What can I do to stop thinking about this possible pregnancy...?
Q. There is a very strong possibility that I may be pregnant and I just can't keep my mind off of it. I have to wait until I miss my period to determine whether I am or not and it's really bothering me. Any ideas on what I could do to find out sooner ...
A. 22 March 2008: Why don't you just wait for the day your period is going to start, then if it doesn't come, get a pregnancy test from the pharmacy? You'll know straight away then.
Good luck - I hope you are!!... (read in full...)
I want to kiss her but I have never kissed a girl in a romantic way...advice please!
Q. Ok I have been seeing a girl for about four months. Everytime we look at each other I can feel the love between us. When I look at her I feel like I should kiss her. I would like advice on how to know if she wants me to kiss her and the best way ...
A. 21 March 2008: Glad to be of help - hope it works (it will do - can't fail). Other advice? Give her a glass of wine first. : )... (read in full...)
Is anal that bad?
Q. hey well i have erm quite an embarrassing question, my boyfriend and i have recently decided to become sexually active. we have decided to wait till next month at least when im 16, as he is 19 and we love each other too much to cause any trouble. we ...
A. 21 March 2008: I think your guy's been watching too much porn ; )
You don't say if you've had vaginal sex yet. If not, start with that!! - it's plenty nice enough for the time being, I'd have thought. And if you do get to the point of wanting to indulge his fant... (read in full...)
I want to kiss her but I have never kissed a girl in a romantic way...advice please!
Q. Ok I have been seeing a girl for about four months. Everytime we look at each other I can feel the love between us. When I look at her I feel like I should kiss her. I would like advice on how to know if she wants me to kiss her and the best way ...
A. 21 March 2008: She's waiting for you to kiss her, and yes, you damn well need to get on with it. You're a grown man! Come on!
Right. What you do is - when one of those moments comes up, when you're looking into each others' eyes and your faces are close, y... (read in full...)
Do my symptoms mean I'm pregnant?
Q. Okay so i think im pregnant, i had sex with my bf about a month and a half ago and the past month i have been getting morning sickness four days a week roughly, and i missed my period twice does this mean im pregnant?? please help me i dont want t...
A. 21 March 2008: Let's do some calculations here. How come you've missed 2 periods? If you got pregnant 6 weeks ago, you would have missed one period (due about 2 weeks after you got pregnant). Ah - or do you mean you missed that one, and you're missing one now? And ... (read in full...)
She's says she's not ready, but I found out about a one night stand in her past...what gives?
Q. I've been dating my partner for 3 month weve not yet had sex, I've ask her and she says she's not ready. Anyway I've just found out she had a one night stand with a guy in our local pub about 6 months ago. What gives? I'm confused and pissed off. ...
A. 21 March 2008: There's one of only two options here re: her feelings:
Either:
She really regrets the one night stand - it made her feel bad, and now she's preserving herself in a virginal state because that way she feels good about herself and you - ie, she ge... (read in full...)
Will there be enough room?
Q. mE and my boyfriend want to start having sex-our 1st time but we will only have a single size bed to start on.Will we have enough room to do it properly?...
A. 21 March 2008: If you think about it, you'll probably be stacked vertically, so only like one person anyways ; )... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married man who is getting a divorce and loves me too...
Q. I have secretly been in love with my very close friend of 2 years. He and I work together side by side and have become great friends. He is a wonderful man and I had absolutely NO plans ever to tell him how I felt because I didn't want to ruin ...
A. 21 March 2008: I don't agree - I don't think you should stay away. I think you should wait, and quietly support him. Don't let the relationship with him get physical, but let him do what he is doing - he's trying to sort things out for the best.
I think he's try... (read in full...)
I'm 17 and he's 35. Is a 18 year old difference too much?
Q. I am a 17 year old senior in high school. I have met a 35 year old man whom i am falling for. We have alot of things in common, and i fell really comfortable around him, but my question is...is this 18 year difference a problem..will people accept ...
A. 21 March 2008: Hmm. Sounds like he has swept you off your feet.
There's a lot to be said for an older man, but I'm not sure it's right when you're only 17. He's at a very different point in his life to you. I think this relationship will be a great learning... (read in full...)
Husband is just "actually" sleeping with friend's wife, should I be worried?
Q. My Husband had to move with his job to a different city. Now he may be sleeping with a friend's wife but claims that there is nothing going on because she is a married woman. I was able to find some photographs on a public forum, which is what ...
A. 21 March 2008: Blimey. That's a very difficult situation you're in. I'm really sorry.
Do you want to know the truth? The problem is, he has so much opportunity - he's away from you, and she's there, and you're right - who knows what's going on? And how is your... (read in full...)
I gave unprotected oral sex to a man and now I'm worried I have an STI!
Q. I know that STI's can be transmitted through oral sex. Ok here's the situation, about a month back i gave my male friend head, and at the time of this i had ulsars but it didnt really cross my mind at the time (spur of the moment thing). So now, the...
A. 21 March 2008: I guess you're worried you had open wounds in your mouth and if he had an STD it could have got in there? I don't think so, even if he had. And if he had, you'd probably have seen some sign of it on him.
The burning is something else, I'm sure - c... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 21 March 2008: p.s.
and as to your original post about how is an abortion done - it is really, really grim. Really. You imagine it won't be, but it is. And then they take of the remains of your child and either incinerate it or use for medical research, and that... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 21 March 2008: I think what I was trying to say is that what's best for you may well be what's best for the baby as well.
If you have the abortion, you have no guarantee of how you will feel - you may skip off feeling fine, or you may be absolutely devastat... (read in full...)
Can I find out before my missed period?? What can I do to stop thinking about this possible pregnancy...?
Q. There is a very strong possibility that I may be pregnant and I just can't keep my mind off of it. I have to wait until I miss my period to determine whether I am or not and it's really bothering me. Any ideas on what I could do to find out sooner ...
A. 21 March 2008: I don't know - it could be anything, having mild occasional cramping. Could be to do with pregnancy, though. And spotting doesn't happen at all with everybody - more people don't spot than do. So you still have to wait, but yes, you could use one of ... (read in full...)
I want him to choose me but I feel like an idiot for waiting on a married man, but I'm not ready to let go, what do I do?
Q. I fell in love with a married man, who loves me back. He travels so while i have been able to see him, I will no longer be able to meet him in these different cities, so I won't be seeing him for a while. And while everything is good between us, he ...
A. 20 March 2008: wow, Uncle Phil is so right - I'm afraid you just have to face it. Find someone else. You don't deserve this!... (read in full...)
He can't hold an erection and I take it personally. Now things are weird. What happened?
Q. I have been dating someone new and have slept together about 4 times now. This last time he couldn't hold an erection. I know men feel insecure about this and he hasn't struck me as the insecure type but he kept commenting after that he hopes I ...
A. 20 March 2008: Poor guy - don't take it personally, apart from to realise that it's BECAUSE he likes you and wants to please you that he has performance anxiety!!
You need to take a bit of control here, I think. Wipe from your mind any daft thoughts that he's gone... (read in full...)
Why would a guy say he wasn't wearing a condom when he was?
Q. why would a guy say he wasn't wearing a condom and ask if he could let go when he was in fact wearing one? He said it was just to heighten the heat of the moment but it freaked me out and I didn't understand that....
A. 20 March 2008: I think he wanted to see how you reacted, too. And I think he is probably turned on by the idea of unprotected, natural sex, and maybe would love to do that instead of having to use a condom all the time. (hell, I understand - it's much nicer!! She ... (read in full...)
Help, best friend, married man, major disaster!
Q. Right, please don't jump down my throat here but my best friend's husband and i have realised that we fancy eachother, i don't have many friends and i am very lonely and i think that's why i have developed these feelings. the other day we kis...
A. 20 March 2008: Don't do this - it will get really complicated, you'll feel terrible, you might ruin your best friend's marriage, and you'll almost certainly lose her and regret this one hell of a lot.
Sexual attraction is REALLY hard to resist, I know, but you ... (read in full...)
Can I find out before my missed period?? What can I do to stop thinking about this possible pregnancy...?
Q. There is a very strong possibility that I may be pregnant and I just can't keep my mind off of it. I have to wait until I miss my period to determine whether I am or not and it's really bothering me. Any ideas on what I could do to find out sooner ...
A. 20 March 2008: OK, well you can't have that long to wait - max. 14 days, and you've probably endured a few of those already. I'm afraid you can't do anything to 'find out' sooner, although symptoms do often start by just 7 days after conception - I'm about to give ... (read in full...)
Hugely complicated love pentagon leaves me confused. HELP!
Q. Okay, this is complex situation (for me at least) and I would be hugely appreciative of help from anyone who has experienced something simular or just thinks they can help. First of all, about three weeks ago, my friend was asked out by this girl...
A. 20 March 2008: Seems clear to me what you do:
- Forget about the girl who turned you down - she's out of the picture
- Forget about the new girl (the one hanging round - the one people think you're going out with) having liked your friend with the girlfri... (read in full...)
Why is he brushing me off?
Q. I met this guy 2 weeks ago, we saw each other a few times in one week, we had long makeout sessions, he seemed to be interested in me but for the last week hes been standing me up and not answering or returning my calls i find it weird that hes ...
A. 20 March 2008: There's some reason why he doesn't want to go ahead - he's probably got a girlfriend. I'm afraid sometimes they give out these positive vibes, but just don't want to take it any further. You have to let him call you. I know it's a hard fact to ... (read in full...)
My husband has cheated on me after 19 years of marriage. Should I give him another chance?
Q. My husband has cheated on me after 19 years of marriage. Should I give him another chance?...
A. 20 March 2008: I think after 19 years of fidelity, he certainly deserves another chance - if he wants one, and you want to keep him. You need to talk honestly about where you both are, I think, and decide where you want your relationship to go. Having a joint goal ... (read in full...)
I snooped and found out he cheated. How do I confront him on this?
Q. I am at a loss! I am in agony right now! I did something very bad and I know it. But he did something worse. My boyfriend accidentally left his email up on the computer and I know I should have just logged it out and ignored it. But I didnt. I ...
A. 20 March 2008: Carebear makes a very good point - yes, he has lied about the girl online - but the question is what to do with that fact now. Since then, it sounds like he's turned a corner, as the relationship has been 'wonderful. So for me the issue is, although ... (read in full...)
He bought his ex-wife a pair of shoes, this confuses me!!
Q. Hi, I browsed on my bf's emails today. I found out that when he came back to Australia from his visit here, he bought his ex-wife a pair of shoes, clothes, etc. I read it through his reply to his daughter's email... His wife cheated on him so ...
A. 20 March 2008: You won't feel secure until he is divorced. Ask him when he's getting divorced. Separation is no good. It may be, though, that he's waiting the necessary 2 years to divorce without fault. But if she's been adulterous, he could divorce right now, ... (read in full...)
Pads vs. tampons
Q. Okay well im just curiouse. I just started using tampons, and I actualy like this better than pads. There much easier to deal with, and the pads bunch up and I get uncomfterable. I asked some of my friends and they said none of them liked tampons, ...
A. 20 March 2008: I didn't mention TSS in so many words because I didn't want to make too big a deal about it - but I did say it's very important to change the tampon every 4 hours or when it's soaked, and not to leave bits of fluff inside yourself. That's why - ... (read in full...)
He lies about porn, can I trust him?
Q. I am currently with my bf of 6 months, we're living together already and although 6 months may not seem that long, it's like we've known each other for years. He was my first everything really and have given up allot to be with him properly. I am ...
A. 20 March 2008: You're right to be trying to sort this out, because it sounds like it really is affecting your relationship, because it's hit you right where it hurts re: your image of yourself.
Try to take these thoughts on board:
- His reaction to the ... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 20 March 2008: 'Piss off all you pro-life nutters'???? Aren't we all pro-life? If you saw someone dying in the street would you consider it odd to help them?? I am anti-abortion not because of any religious beliefs, but because I trusted the establishment and my ... (read in full...)
How long does it take to get "loose"?
Q. How long does it take to get "loose"? I have been having sex with the same guy for two years and he is about 5 inches. Will this make me loose? Can I ever buy a vibrator or will this also make me loose? I have been doing kegals, but I just want to ...
A. 18 March 2008: Loose?? Well, I don't think a 5" guy is going to do that to you, or any kind of guy, really - it's not to do with that (unless, I guess, you're a porn star using 20" dildos every day ...). It's to do with the size you are to start with (which varies ... (read in full...)
Relationship Advice Sought.
Q. My partner and I have been together for twenty years. We have a good relationship and he is a wonderful man and treats me well. We take good care of one another and together we share all the relationship duties : mortgage, bills, groceries, ...
A. 18 March 2008: It's quite simple: if you're sure your partner of 20 years feels the same as you - in that he doesn't want to rekindle your old relationship - then you have to talk to him and say you can't live like this, and you don't think he should either. You ... (read in full...)
I had an abortion because I thought we'd get back together but I haven't heard from him since then!
Q. hey pls pls help i had an abortion 4weeks ago and im starting to reget it so much, i had just split up from my ex when i found out and didnt know what to do. part of me wanted the baby but then part of me didnt when i told my ex he said he didnt ...
A. 17 March 2008: First let me say that I am so, so sorry this has happened to you. Basically, you have been very badly lied to and let down by this guy, and that hurts terribly, along with losing your baby. I'm so sorry, but I'm afraid it really is true that if a ... (read in full...)
He lies about porn, can I trust him?
Q. I am currently with my bf of 6 months, we're living together already and although 6 months may not seem that long, it's like we've known each other for years. He was my first everything really and have given up allot to be with him properly. I am ...
A. 17 March 2008: He's embarrassed to tell you the truth about the porn - he feels bad about looking at it, and is worried that if he tells you he has, then he'll be in a whole lot of trouble, plus you'll feel insecure about yourself and if he finds you attractive. ... (read in full...)
He bought his ex-wife a pair of shoes, this confuses me!!
Q. Hi, I browsed on my bf's emails today. I found out that when he came back to Australia from his visit here, he bought his ex-wife a pair of shoes, clothes, etc. I read it through his reply to his daughter's email... His wife cheated on him so ...
A. 13 March 2008: Sorry you feel so bad right now - I know EXACTLY how you feel as a similar thing happened to me, only I found out his so-called 'separated' wife still thought they were happily married! And I'm pregnant with his baby.
It hurts so so bad, especial... (read in full...)
At times he is nice, at time he calls me nasty names. What do you think?
Q. I am seeing guy who is like two people sometimes he is very nice and then later he calls me a s___ and a w____ and says that I am fooling around which I am not. Is there any hope of him calming down and being always nice?...
A. 13 March 2008: Nope, it's not going to get better - it's going to get much, much worse. He's started by trying out calling you names, and it will go on from there. I'm so sorry to tell you this, but it really is a definite pattern. Stand up to him NOW. Tell him he ... (read in full...)
Pads vs. tampons
Q. Okay well im just curiouse. I just started using tampons, and I actualy like this better than pads. There much easier to deal with, and the pads bunch up and I get uncomfterable. I asked some of my friends and they said none of them liked tampons, ...
A. 13 March 2008: You're not weird at all. Why do you think they sell so many tampons?! : ) You're luckier than your friends - if you don't have a problem with tampons, take advantage of that and use them.
They certainly do feel much less cumbersome and horrible... (read in full...)
I snooped and found out he cheated. How do I confront him on this?
Q. I am at a loss! I am in agony right now! I did something very bad and I know it. But he did something worse. My boyfriend accidentally left his email up on the computer and I know I should have just logged it out and ignored it. But I didnt. I ...
A. 13 March 2008: I'm going to give you some different advice. I know where you're at, because I did the same - snooped, actually expecting to find nothing, and was shocked at what I found. Mine was only slightly different in that I snooped on his correspondence with ... (read in full...)
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