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writes:Hi, i have this really bad problem it's about a teacher and it's nothing to do with me liking him its the other way round. We have just broke up from school for the easter holidays.The whole story started when i was walking down the corridor going to my next lesson and this man, he isn't really a teacher he is the business premises manager whatever that is, anyway he kept on giving my really hard long stares so i just looked back thinking it was nothing becuase it felt really uneasy to do anything else but look bad at him, this stared happening for months, then one day he see's me walking down the corridor leaving after my detention and grabs hold of my arm, he pulls me back into his little office, everyone else had gone there was just me and him, he says to me have a seat and so i did and he did, then he starts talking to me saying your really really pretty and i want to be friends, i knew what he was trying to say, so i got up and ran out he chased after me calling my name, then my teacher see's whats happening that im running away from him so he tells me to go back, i tried to say something but he wouldn't listen, so he took me back and locked the door i felt like i was imprisioned. He's married i thought to my self looking at his wedding ring thinking why would he like me when he's married, he told me that he wanted to be more than friends with me even though we wern't even friends, i responded and said we can't becuase it's wrong and he'd get into trouble and stuff like that, but he move his chair close and close to me and put his finger over my lips nodding his head, he started to touch my leg looking at my lips, he bend forward to kiss me which i let him do, i couldn't get out quick enough to unlock the door and run away so i just let him kiss me i didn't kiss back or anything, then he asks me for my phone number i gave him my old one tricking him, so i asked him for his going along with his plan, i was going to give it to my closest teacher and tell him.so he gave it to me and i smiled, looking like there wasn't anything going on, he unlocked the door holding my arm tightly, just as i went through the door he pulled me back and started kissing me trying to french kiss me, i kneed him down below and ran as fast as i could shouting back at him i'm telling, i'm telling, he started running after me again i had no where to go but to look for my fav teacher, he was in the middle of a meeting which was perfect a whole bunch of teachers, i knocked at the door scared that he'd catch up with me, my fav teacher open the door and told me to wiat 5 mins, i couldn't wait, so i pulled him by his arm and took him to his classroom next door all the teacher looking at me, he told me that i'm in big trouble for doing that but he could sence that there was something wrond and that i was scared by the look on my face, so he asked me what was wrong i told him the story he said he'd keep and eye for me, but then he came running in the room punching my fav teacher in the face i ran away anywhere just to get away as fast as i could, but he caught me, he went round the other way of the school being clever that he is catching me and holding me tightly, there was no one there to wittness it, i asked what he had done to my fave teacher and told me not to worry that i shouldn't of told him and that i will have to repay him. He then said i know where you live and i can always come round, your on your own he said after school for a couple of hours becuase your mums at work till 6 o clock, i denied it making up something, then he said you know your a really good lier and i know your lieing becuase me and your mum were on the phone today, she wanted to tell me to tell you that she won't be there when you get back becuase of her new job shift. i looked away from him, and started crying, i was so scared i couldn't help it, he sat me down on his lap wiping away my tears saying i'll be there next friday so you better be ready for me and he let me go. i just walked out of school i was shaking thinking about next friday, crying, worried out of my mind. my fav teacher had got the sack when i went back the next day, that teacher had twisted the story and made out that he was stalking me and touching me up when really it was me. i couldn't do anything no one would believe me even if i told them. This teacher doesn't look like a bad person if you know what i'm saying, he just lookes like a normal type of guy and you wouldn't suspect anything, but i'm really really scared i can't tell my mum seeing as she said to me that she's really god friends with him, i don't know his wife so i can't tell her, i can't tell my friends they'll just make matters worse i feel alone with just me and him in my life, now, it jst feels like no one else is there and i can't stop thinking about friday or my fav teacher getting the sack like that, it was his life he said to me once that he love working ther at my school and hw would never leave it for another. but beucase of me he has got the sack and there's nothing i can do. i don't know what to do about this teacher i have no one to tell the head mistriss will probly think that i'm lieing and i need to do something, i've already tried the police and even they think that i'm lieing, so this teacher keeps laughing saying no one will ever believe you and your stuck with me on friday whether you like it or you don't. does anyone out there have any advice about this if you do that would mean the world to me, because at the moment i feel like killing myself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 March 2011): i know how you feal my science teacher is doing the same but i just tell him NO! make him listen also tell him you will write to the governers try and make him dislike you if he doesnt like you he wont do those things to you
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reader, twinkle1million  +, writes (16 September 2009):
dont be afraid to tell yer faverate teacher th truthh trust me once u tell him u will feel better i know cus ive been in the same situation before if you have to bring a friend along that u can trust and make sure to tell him every detail
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 June 2008): Oh My!! thats horrible! idk what to say but ill have to agree with the others this sorta thing happens alot where i live but i always have a weapon on me for that reason im sorry!i wasnt any help
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2008): Tell your mum, and report it to the cops.
Seriously. Don't let that guy get away with it.
And don't kill yourself cos it's not worth it. You're just letting him get away. Even if by killing yourself they realise the gravitas, they can't charge him, cos the witness a.k.a. you aren't there anymore.
Don't worry that your mum is good friends with it. Why let your mum continue being deceived like that?
Honey, take care of yourself, and start hanging out in groups. Especially on those days your mum is out. Don't be alone.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2008): My god you poor thing!! You have to report this guy to the police as soon as possible, or to your head teacher, mom someone in authority. If you don’t want to talk to them at least talk to some in Childline or the Samartians who deal with this thing every day. You cannot keep it to yourself, you are making yourself ill just thinking about it. Also just make sure that you are NEVER on your own again with this jerk at school. Always make sure you have at least one of your friends with you at all times.
This guy is a bully and knows that he is in a position of power and authority and will used that against you or his next victim, His actions against your fav teacher just goes to show that he is willing to do anything! Have you found out if this guy was lying about your mom’s shifts? If she has changed them, go stay at a friends/relations house and get your mom to pick you up there. DO NOT stay in the house on your own.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (24 March 2008):
 I'm with the annoymous male below. Too much of this story does not ring true. I think perhaps we are dealing with our little school girl poster who is bombarding this site with postings about all kinds of different scenarios. If I'm wrong I think she knows what she should do anyway, but I've read too many of her posting so I feel pretty sure it's just another fantasy here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Sweetheart you really need to go to the police. If they don't believe you, you go again and again until they do. You also need to go to your head teacher at school, because again, whether they believe you or not, it's a serious allegation to make, and they have to take it seriously.
He's not going to get away with this.
I'd also recommend telling your mum definitely - you've got to tell as many people with 'authority' as you can, because he could probably go to jail for this. He deserves it too.
But try not to get too worked up okay honey, just keep calm and remember to tell the police. They can sort this all out for you and make sure this man isn't in your life again. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): You really need to go to the police. This man is scum, he's sick, and we don't need more perverted teachers on the loose.
Talk to your friends, the police, and your mom.
It's weird that the police don't believe you. This stuff happens everyday. Except if you live in a small town.
Your mom will have to believe you, since you're her own daughter. Your friends will have to believe you too, since they know you wouldn't make something up like this.
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reader, nicole5178 +, writes (22 March 2008):
 That's so... bizarre. Police and school officials are required to take bizarre complaints seriously, though, so don't be afriad about telling them. It's strange that the one teacher was fired so quickly and that you know the reason for his dismissal. The school is required to do a lengthy, indepth investigation first, so I doubt they fired him for that....
The 'head mistriss' at your school is required to file a report about anything of this type of matter, so I would say go to a guidance counsler, say you've been assaulted by a teacher (not the teacher who was fired), and that you want to talk directly to the head mistriss about it.
I find it odd that the police didn't do anything about it. Try with the police again. Keep trying. If you're still at home on Friday, then just leave. Go to a relative's house, a friend's house, a neighbor's house, anywhere. Tell your mom it's a sleepover, and go (preferably to a place different than where you told her). You can't be classified as 'missing' or 'run away' until 48 hours have passed, so don't be worried about that.
Take a taxi and go somewhere safe. If need be, go to the police station and say you don't feel safe to go home b/c you recieved threats from someone that they were going to try to sexually assault you again that day after school.
Honestly, if this is all real, you could be kidnapped or sacrificed or raped or some other weird thing that this creep could do to you. You need to do something. Don't kill yourself, though--what would be the point in that? If you're worried about him doing something to you, then don't kill yourself--keep living to make sure you put that psycho in jail. He could do this to other people too.
...Hope that helped you. Good luck, and be safe.
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reader, bubbloo24  +, writes (22 March 2008):
 Right sweet, you need to tell the police.
The only way this man will stop is if you contact the police. They WILL take you seriously.
Tell your mum what's happened, she can support you can take care of you.
But you need to tell someone of a higher authority. If you don't, the problem will only get worse.
You can do it, you know what this man is doing is wrong, what if he tries to do it to one of your friends? You can't let him get away with this kind of behaviour.
For your own sake and your fellow pupils, tell the police.
Take care hun, let us know what happens.
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reader, Tevote  +, writes (22 March 2008):
 Oh my god I feel so sad for you, I mean thats awful. ANd what happened to your favourite teacher I mean it's so unfair. I think that you really should find him and tell him what happened and ask him for help like others have said. Your mother should believe you no matter what, if friday does come you need to get it on recording or something. Im not sure just be careful, he sounds like a scary guy. Go stay at a friends house or something, i dont know really but just be carefull and try and asks someone close to you for help.
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reader, BigSis +, writes (22 March 2008):
 I can't give you advice here. But all I am going to say about this story is, if police are approached by a school girl or boy for that matter with an accusation such as yours, they will not brush it away just like that and think you are telling lies.
There would be an investigation and because you are under age, they would have informed your parents immediately.
Also, your 'fav teacher' who got the sack, would not have given up without a fight. He would have consulted the police, as he was a witness.
Please remember one thing, there are people here with genuine issues and are needing our advice.
Pure fantasy, just like the rest of the threads you have been starting the past few weeks. Enough said.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): Honey,,
Can't U make something up next Fri,, like going to the house of a friend or a relative(of course without telling that sick teacher)? Or go to the Library somewhere..
Regarding Ur mum, try to give her hints about what's going on,, tell her first about the starring and tell her "Should I feel comfortable with that or not, what do U think, mum?" ,, let her gradually know ,, and she might be a good help for U.
Regarding telling anothet teacher, that was right, but maybe U should have done that quitely, without making that sick teacher know about it .. anyway, try talking to ur fav teacher again, apologize for the previous time, and tell him he ssid he's coming next Fri, and ask him for help..
And in general, its good to be quite about this whole thing, and telling as few people as possible about it,, telling only those who can help (Mum, a trustworthy teacher, ..)
If the worse happens, put on a recorder in Ur home at Fri, so U'll have a proof, and U can give it to ur mum to contact authorities to stop that from happening again,,
Something else,, can U change that school, and attend another one?
last thing, Honey, don't hate or kill Ur self.. its NEVER ur fault that some people R sick and disgusting
Lastly , Ask God for help,,
I hope things will go fine with U
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): I don't want to seem heartless here, but I'm not sure if this is even real.For one more than a few sentences seem to make little sense.Particularly: "i just walked out of school i was shaking thinking about next friday, crying, worried out of my mind. my fav teacher had got the sack when i went back the next day, that teacher had twisted the story and made out that he was stalking me and touching me up when really it was me."It isn't that easy to get a teacher fired without proof even if you're another teacher.And what did you mean by saying he made out like it was your favourite teacher stalking and touching you when it was really me?That sentence is devoid of all known rules of the English language. Please re-phrase this to conform to these strictures.If this is even slightly true... you need to go to the Police. You need to get this man on tape or video doing or saying these things. Something that can be used as proof.So file a formal complaint with the cops, they cannot by law ignore that. You can get a restraining order, however these usually aren't worth the paper they're written on.One way or another. Never forget, you are NOT alone. He has successfully planted doubt.So get some proof. Either wire yourself and record everything thats said, give him your actual number and keep all messages recieved or hide a video camera aroudn your house so if he does decide to come to your house anythung he does is captured on video.But talk to SOMEONE. Anyone.Flynn 24
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reader, kb123 +, writes (22 March 2008):
heyy dont worry babe i agree with you the thing is teachers gang up on you and make up so many lies and make you look the bad perso , i know its hard but go to the police and tell them what you have just told us i feel well sorry for yar this man sounds like a perv if you ever have any problems with this man (perv) lool you can always e mail me and i will help stright away!.. first explain to your mum what this man is done no matter how much a mate this man is to your mum she will always listen to you try try to cry and hug her and try to make her beliive what you are saying when you have got your mum on board go to the school council and to the school laws explain what you have the problem stick by what you say and dont back down make sure your mum does not let you go back to the school untill the perv man goes if she says go in to school dont i know what im saying is wrong but you dont want him to go and try again p.s i dont want to worry you, if all failes go to the police!
if you need any more help email me and i will send you my own email
hope i have helped
let me know how it goes
xx kb
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reader, natasia +, writes (22 March 2008):
 This guy is a very very bad man and you need to get away from him, and get some proper help and support. Once people know what has happened, he will be dealt with - don't worry.
Right now you need to go back to the police and ask to talk to a female officer about a very upsetting issue. Then you need to tell her what you've said here, and say you want to make a formal complaint. The police can't ignore that.
You also need some proof of his behaviour. Maybe give him your real cell number and see what kind of texts he sends you. As soon as you have something incriminating from him (which for sure he won't be able to resist sending you), go straight to the police with it.
You need someone on your side, and quickly. You aren't alone - there are lots of people to help you. Who is the school counsellor? There must be someone. Or go to you head teacher, and say how bad you feel, and how you feel so upset you feel like there's no way out. Or go to any sympathetic teacher. This guy has to be exposed, and the sooner the better. DON'T BE SCARED OF HIM - HE'S WEAK AND HORRIBLE - IGNORE HIS THREATS. Just find a good person to talk to and help you.
Don't feel alone - you aren't. You can email me any time. I know it's hard, but you can sort this out. And then he'll be dealt with and gone, the b*****d. He is so going to fall over this one - he can't do this to you. Remember that.
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reader, kb123 +, writes (22 March 2008):
heyy dont worry babe i agree with you the thing is teachers gang up on you and make up so many lies and make you look the bad perso , i know its hard but go to the police and tell them what you have just told us i feel well sorry for yar this man sounds like a perv if you ever have any problems with this man (perv) lool you can always e mail me and i will help stright away!.. first explain to your mum what this man is done no matter how much a mate this man is to your mum she will always listen to you try try to cry and hug her and try to make her beliive what you are saying when you have got your mum on board go to the school council and to the school laws explain what you have the problem stick by what you say and dont back down make sure your mum does not let you go back to the school untill the perv man goes if she says go in to school dont i know what im saying is wrong but you dont want him to go and try again p.s i dont want to worry you, if all failes go to the police!
if you need any more help email me and i will send you my own email
hope i have helped
let me know how it goes
xx kb
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