Should I ask my friend to help me lose my virginity?
Q. I'll be turning 32 in a few days. I am still a virgin in just about every imaginable sense (I've never even french-kissed). This is something I am supremely self-conscious about. I also have an anxiety problem which tends to leave me more fearful ...
A. 12 November 2008: Really sorry ... that was an unfortunate experience. But I can't see how it means you are useless at reading people ... it simply means she was a bit mixed up. She wanted you - that's why her 'relationship' ended so quickly. But then she witheld ... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 6 September 2008: that is fantastic!!!!!!!! you are SO brave, and i am so glad you have got your life back!!! albeit you could actually have that bastard in jail as well, because he raped you - it is terrible, terrible, that happened to you - but you have ... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 6 September 2008: WOW!!!!!!!!!! TONI, YOU ARE AMAZING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 26 August 2008: You absolutely must leave this man. Please go and call your parents right now. Please. You MUST.
There are no ifs or buts or maybes here. There is no doubt at all. You should actually just pack a few things now and go and get a taxi to a friend o... (read in full...)
My partners 16 year old daughter has stripped in front of me on two occasions. Do I tell her mother?
Q. My partners 16 year old daughter has stripped naked in front of me on two occassions and i am confused as to tell her mother or not....
A. 18 July 2008: I understand, and I don't think you are at all to blame. The first time could just have been almost a mistake - you were just walking past. The second time was much more blatant, and confirms it as deliberate provocative action on her part.
She i... (read in full...)
My partners 16 year old daughter has stripped in front of me on two occasions. Do I tell her mother?
Q. My partners 16 year old daughter has stripped naked in front of me on two occassions and i am confused as to tell her mother or not....
A. 18 July 2008: This sounds odd. Why and how did she do that? That's the first question.
And yes, boy you need to sort this out. And quick. Because it could backfire very badly on you.
So give some more details and then we can tell you what to do!... (read in full...)
I had sex with a gay guy. Should I tell his partner?
Q. I had sex with a guy whos gay and in relationship should i tell his partner even if it means ever one else will find out that i am gay I had serveral sexually flings with this guy, he has a boy friend but there never do much in bed, he allows m...
A. 16 July 2008: I don't quite understand ... you had sex with a guy but you don't fancy him?? But did you do this because you are secretly gay, and it's your only sexual outlet with a guy? And now you're scared he'll tell someone, so you want to say first ... (read in full...)
We are teenagers, we have sex, and we want to do it again immediately, is this normal?
Q. hi i am 14 and i have had sex many times with my gf who is 15. how come after sex me and her want to do it again. plz dont say under age stuff. we r real in love. we have been going out 4 3 yrs. ty ...
A. 16 July 2008: You want to do it again because it's great. Your bodies are happy. It's a wonderful feeling, and also, despite your ages, wonderful to feel that with someone else. When you're 16 you can tell everyone about it ; )... (read in full...)
Did he get angry because he didn't have sex with her and felt he had wasted his time?
Q. My daughter has just asked me advice but living in a different age cant help her really - so can you please? She has just returned from a holiday with a friend of hers. She met a young man who wanted sex but she held back which is very admirabl...
A. 16 July 2008: I think she was absolutely right not to sleep with him, and you must tell her so - she behaved beautifully, and looked after herself, and for damn sure is better off having not slept with him than if she had. For me, three main things stand out:
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Confused and worried about my sexuality...
Q. Hello all. I'm 19, I have a boyfriend which I'm not physically attracted to. But I do care about him. The problem is that I am physically and emotionally attracted to girls. Which would mean I'm probably bisexual or a lesbian in the worst case sce...
A. 16 July 2008: Hmm. Well, to be honest, you sound just a bit generally confused to me. If you were a lesbian, I don't think your bf would be in your fantasies. It sounds more to me like you can't quite find your place - you can't quite work out who you are ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with the "dragging time" after a break up?
Q. Hi Dearcupid Members, thanks for clicking this post and for any feedback. I am 20yrs old and finding life really difficult at the moment. I had been with my ex-girlfriend for about 10 months and we both said we were in love. However we brok...
A. 15 July 2008: You did incredibly well not to text back today - well done. Give yourself a hug. (I'm not joking - you really are on the right lines, and doing so well.)
When this happens, it's like grief after someone has died. Because, let's face it, you have... (read in full...)
Could I be happy with two different girls?
Q. is it possible for me to happy with 2 different girls? without them knowing. i dont want to lose the girl im with now. and the girl in my past is someone close to me and i dont want to lose her either....
A. 15 July 2008: It doesn't work. It might seem great for a time, and you're looking at it as if you're doing them a favour, I can see (neither of them is losing you), but honestly, within time the lying will eat away at you and you'll end up hating yourself.
... (read in full...)
5 minutes and I'm gone...it's going to be a disaster with a woman
Q. HELP!, I ejaculate much to fast while masturbating! 5minutes in and I'm gone, I try resisting(like stopping altogether), This works only like two times. But then when iv stopped i can still feel the semen getting ready to come out, At this point...
A. 15 July 2008: ps and I've never met a woman who isn't happy when her man ejaculates. so long as you care about her pleasure as well, there's no problem. if you just ejaculate and then roll off and go to sleep, though - well, that's when she will begin to think ... (read in full...)
5 minutes and I'm gone...it's going to be a disaster with a woman
Q. HELP!, I ejaculate much to fast while masturbating! 5minutes in and I'm gone, I try resisting(like stopping altogether), This works only like two times. But then when iv stopped i can still feel the semen getting ready to come out, At this point...
A. 15 July 2008: Don't be daft. You're young. You haven't had sex with a woman. Of course you will be ridiculously over excited and may not even last as long as her getting it out of your trousers, let alone any part of her body touching it!! This is completely ... (read in full...)
Gut-wrenching attraction to another man - what do I do?
Q. I have been married for a year and have a 3 yr old son to my husband, I cant say that I have loved him since we have had our son, he is dificult, lazy and agressive and totally dependent on me, like a child. I work very hard in a very high pressured ...
A. 15 July 2008: TYPO - i meant you should NOT be unfaithful!!!!!!!!!... (read in full...)
Gut-wrenching attraction to another man - what do I do?
Q. I have been married for a year and have a 3 yr old son to my husband, I cant say that I have loved him since we have had our son, he is dificult, lazy and agressive and totally dependent on me, like a child. I work very hard in a very high pressured ...
A. 15 July 2008: Don't do anything before you know he IS the love of your life before you do anything!!!!!! It can just seem like that - fish is always freshest when you first catch it ; ) (someone said that to me recently and I could see what he meant!)
You d... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 15 July 2008: ps and i don't mean to be gross, but do you realise what they will want to do to you if you agree to have his friend round too? At some point they will probably want to have anal sex with you at the same time as the other one having normal sex. You ... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 15 July 2008: Tisha has said it all - she is right. And I know how hard it can seem to escape - especially as he has this hold over you. i had the same thing with a man 16 years older than me, and i wasted 7 years of my life on him. Like you, i met him when ... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 14 July 2008: and DON'T HAVE A BABY WITH HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
if you can't escape, at least go secretly on the Pill ...... (read in full...)
Should I moan? Or should I try not to moan?
Q. Okay. So, I just gota ask. When my boyfriend fingers me, and I moan just a little quite moan..Does he like it? Or should I try not to? Help!! ...
A. 14 July 2008: you should do what feels good. if you feel like moaning, moan. i imagine he would like it. it shows he's doing a good job, and men like that.
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Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 14 July 2008: ps
and I forgot - a huge FAT grandpa at that!!!! He sounds absolutely disgusting and does not deserve to be having sex with anyone at all, let alone a poor sweet 23 year old who knows no better. But you've worked out it's wrong, haven't you? Of cour... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 14 July 2008: Jeez, get shot of this guy. What the hell is he playing at? It sounds practically like rape!!!!!!!!!!
It is WRONG AND BAD. Get rid of him. Is he your husband? Divorce him. This isn't how it is supposed to be - it is very very very bad of him. Of ... (read in full...)
Fed up with one position, one sided sex with an older man.
Q. Hello, I'm a 23 year old female involved with a 56 year old male. My problem is our sex life is pretty much one side. He only wants to have sex in the missionary position since he believes this is the only way to get me pregnant. He tends to fo...
A. 14 July 2008: Jeez, get shot of this guy. What the hell is he playing at? It sounds practically like rape!!!!!!!!!!
It is WRONG AND BAD. Get rid of him. Is he your husband? Divorce him. This isn't how it is supposed to be - it is very very very bad of him. Of ... (read in full...)
How do I please a man in bed?
Q. How do I please a man? How and where do they like to be touched? I know this varies man by man but suggestions would be helpful. I have asked my man and all he says is "just try something"....
A. 14 July 2008: It sounds like you're new to this, or perhaps new to the feeling of wanting to please a man in bed, rather than just letting him get on with whatever he does.
OK. Where do you think they like to be touched? It's pretty obvious ; ) Yes, you're r... (read in full...)
Might be pregnant, boyfriend stressed - What to do!
Q. My boyfriend has been really stressed lately, mainly because we're thirteen and might become parents. I always feel like I am doing something wrong. I try to get him to talk to me about it, but he says he doesn't want to because he doesn't want me ...
A. 14 July 2008: Have you done a pregnancy test? I know you're worried about his reaction, so you're more scared about finding out, because you think you might lose his support, and even lose him, quite apart from being so young and possibly pregnant. You poor thing ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to have sex five times in two days?
Q. The only time I get to spend with my boyfriend is on the weekend. We live far away and we work on the weekdays. We’re both in our late 20s so we are not little kids. Is it normal to have sex 5 times over 2 days? It feels like we’re making ...
A. 14 July 2008: wow. Healthy? Sex is always healthy.
I am distressed if I don't have sex twice a day. And I mean every day of the week, forever. And I don't consider myself anything other than happy and alive...
But: I didn't used to be like this. I went thr... (read in full...)
Has the way your orgams felt ever changed?
Q. i'd always had short and intense orgams, well the last 3 orgasm I've had changed, like the way an orgasm feels changed, i dont like them as much, now they are longer... it use to go up up up and then all the pleasure gets realised... well now its ...
A. 19 June 2008: legs weird - thats normal
slow build up, slow come down - also normal
it all sounds completely normal - the same for me.
but remember - the female orgasm is very flexible - goes from very quick intense clitoral orgasm to very long slow vaginal... (read in full...)
Not sure I want children, will I regret this?
Q. Evening everyone. I come from a large Italian family and Im due to marry my fiance who is also Italian in October. My problem is that im not sure I want children. I have discussed this with my fiance and he is convinced that in a few years I will...
A. 14 June 2008: you're only young - lots of women aren't very broody at your age. when you hit 30, trust me, you will most likely go very broody overnight! i have so many friends who did that - who said they really didn't want children, etc - and then suddenly - ... (read in full...)
Disillusioned with men!!
Q. I thought men were honest and meant what they say. but why do I always find that along the way, that it was all a lie? Did they mean what they said? or just wanted something from me?...
A. 14 June 2008: I think they mean what they say when they say it ... well, most of them. They genuinely believe themselves. It's just that quite a few of them don't have a problem with later feeling and saying something that seems to be quite different : (
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I have an ectopic pregnancy and don't want to get admitted to the hospital as I am 17 and my boyfriend (35) doesn't know!
Q. hi i need help about a month ago i was told i had pid pelvic inflammatory disease, which i was given to by my boyfriend he says he didnt give it to me but i know that is a lie he did i didnt sleep with anyone eles well in say of this i got...
A. 13 June 2008: How old does your boyfriend think you are? You know, I'm sure he'd rather have you alive and 17 .. or the alternative!! Tell him. You need to.... (read in full...)
I have an ectopic pregnancy and don't want to get admitted to the hospital as I am 17 and my boyfriend (35) doesn't know!
Q. hi i need help about a month ago i was told i had pid pelvic inflammatory disease, which i was given to by my boyfriend he says he didnt give it to me but i know that is a lie he did i didnt sleep with anyone eles well in say of this i got...
A. 13 June 2008: Lovie, don't be scared. The ectopic pregnancy is the scary thing, so go and get it sorted out. Then within a few days you'll be absolutely fine, and all this WILL have gone away. The only time things will get bad is if you don't get it sorted, so ... (read in full...)
I have an ectopic pregnancy and don't want to get admitted to the hospital as I am 17 and my boyfriend (35) doesn't know!
Q. hi i need help about a month ago i was told i had pid pelvic inflammatory disease, which i was given to by my boyfriend he says he didnt give it to me but i know that is a lie he did i didnt sleep with anyone eles well in say of this i got...
A. 10 June 2008: Call a taxi or call 911. Go to the hospital on your own if you don't want to tell him, but I think he should know, and would help you (he won't be mad - the poor baby is lost anyhow, so it's not as if you're saying your pregnant and going to have ... (read in full...)
Could this be his baby?
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for a while now, however i found out that before he got with me he slept with another girl - who is now around 27 weeks pregnant. He doesn't believe it is his baby as he claims he can't have kids because he ...
A. 10 June 2008: It could be his, but it's more likely it isn't. To be honest, all you can do is wait until the baby is born and have a DNA test, if you want to be 100% sure. But surely he and/or the baby's mother would also want to know? It will come out in the ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my best friend's boyfriend and now I'm pregnant.
Q. i need help and quick. im 13 and about three months ago i had sex with my best friend's boyfriend. i regret it, because im pregnant. i dont know how to tell people. let alone my best friend. please help....
A. 7 June 2008: Oh dear. Well, the first thing is to remember that however tricky things seem, they will all even out in the end and it will be fine. Your best friend might take a long while to come round, but she probably will in the end.
I agree that you need... (read in full...)
Men, what would you do if your partner came home with a sex toy?
Q. So I want to take a poll even if I only get a few answers its ok. The question. The senario. Just home from the local porn store. Just bought a new toy. One that is pleasurable for both individuals. This question is basically for men. Women you c...
A. 7 June 2008: ps Ah - having read your added note, now i think: he is just in that stage of a relationship where he's done pretty much everything he wants to, he knows it's all on tap, so he's not trying = he's just watching the Simpsons.
Tough. But it happ... (read in full...)
Men, what would you do if your partner came home with a sex toy?
Q. So I want to take a poll even if I only get a few answers its ok. The question. The senario. Just home from the local porn store. Just bought a new toy. One that is pleasurable for both individuals. This question is basically for men. Women you c...
A. 7 June 2008: I would have hoped for A ... ; )
I too would have been distressed by B, and then would have desperately tried not to seem so as, as rcn says, that would spoil all the fun.
Problem is, he may not like the idea of it. You say it is to pleasur... (read in full...)
He says I should turn a blind eye to his cheating, is he right?
Q. i have been with my bf for 3 years, i knew he has been cheating. we have discussed why do men cheat? and he answered that man can have sex with other women but not having any feeling for them, so i should not get upset. as long as he is nice to me, ...
A. 5 June 2008: Finish with him. He isn't treating you with respect. Or, tell him he stops this or you finish with him. Then follow through.
You don't need this! He's getting away with too much. I also read some emails once that nearly made me faint, and I'm real... (read in full...)
Embarassing question, I seem to have lost a vibrator...
Q. okay, this is embarrassing. About 2 weeks ago, I came home from a night out (yes, alcohol was involved). I fell asleep with my cordless "bullett" (a small vibrator) and have not been able to find it since. Is it possible that it is lost inside of ...
A. 4 June 2008: no need - just say 'vibrator' in a phoney French accent - it's the same word : )... (read in full...)
Every other Saturday he's going out! Help!
Q. Right, what it is im 40 yrs old and with 3 kids, im seperated from my husband as i dont love him anymore.I have been in contact with this man on the internet, i live in kent and he lives in scotland so we are quite far apart...we have been chatting ...
A. 2 June 2008: i still think this is a bizarre conversation about someone you haven't even met yet ... you don't have a real relationship yet, until you've met him ... well, you do - you have a virtual relationship - but it's not the same as meeting someone in the ... (read in full...)
I like the sensation of massaging my anus does this make me gay?
Q. I've been thinking of something for a while and need some help...Whenever I take a shower I carefully wash every part of myself,well I was cleaning the outside of my ass and I accidentally slipped.One of my fingers slid in my ass along with an ...
A. 1 June 2008: Don't be daft - of course it doesn't mean you're gay!!!!!!!!!You're gay if you're interested in other men's dicks, and you don't like women sexually.
Check out some of the sex advice websites - they're full of men whose girlfriends or wives pay atte... (read in full...)
Could this be the cause of his discomfort?
Q. My boyfriend says that sex can hurt his member. He is well endowed while I am rather petite. Could this be the cause of his discomfort?...
A. 1 June 2008: I"m not a man but I know there are things like maybe the little bit that connects his foreskin to his penis can be quite tight and that can make it uncomfortable when it's moved back and forward. I think the only answer is for him to visit a ... (read in full...)
Every other Saturday he's going out! Help!
Q. Right, what it is im 40 yrs old and with 3 kids, im seperated from my husband as i dont love him anymore.I have been in contact with this man on the internet, i live in kent and he lives in scotland so we are quite far apart...we have been chatting ...
A. 1 June 2008: I meant 'he's obviously very keen on YOU' !!!... (read in full...)
Every other Saturday he's going out! Help!
Q. Right, what it is im 40 yrs old and with 3 kids, im seperated from my husband as i dont love him anymore.I have been in contact with this man on the internet, i live in kent and he lives in scotland so we are quite far apart...we have been chatting ...
A. 1 June 2008: Confront him? You haven't even met this guy yet - I don't think you should move so fast as to be considering yourself jealous etc already. I think you could playfully suggest that you know he's out 'up to no good' (jokily) on a Sat night, and that ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my friend to help me lose my virginity?
Q. I'll be turning 32 in a few days. I am still a virgin in just about every imaginable sense (I've never even french-kissed). This is something I am supremely self-conscious about. I also have an anxiety problem which tends to leave me more fearful ...
A. 26 May 2008: ps sorry - just saw your second post. OK: so you only want sex to be part of the human race. Well, approach it with an open mind: you mind find out why people fall so madly in love and end up in monogamous relationships ... whilst being v ... (read in full...)
Should I ask my friend to help me lose my virginity?
Q. I'll be turning 32 in a few days. I am still a virgin in just about every imaginable sense (I've never even french-kissed). This is something I am supremely self-conscious about. I also have an anxiety problem which tends to leave me more fearful ...
A. 26 May 2008: Ask your friend. There is an option C: she says 'Hell no' but still continues to be your friend ; )
I don't agree with those who say it's ok to be 32 and a virgin. You're right. You want to join the rest of the human race. Don't beat yourself... (read in full...)
Embarassing question, I seem to have lost a vibrator...
Q. okay, this is embarrassing. About 2 weeks ago, I came home from a night out (yes, alcohol was involved). I fell asleep with my cordless "bullett" (a small vibrator) and have not been able to find it since. Is it possible that it is lost inside of ...
A. 23 May 2008: WE are crazy????!!!!!... (read in full...)
Embarassing question, I seem to have lost a vibrator...
Q. okay, this is embarrassing. About 2 weeks ago, I came home from a night out (yes, alcohol was involved). I fell asleep with my cordless "bullett" (a small vibrator) and have not been able to find it since. Is it possible that it is lost inside of ...
A. 15 May 2008: blimey, 3 inches long and you think you might have lost it in there??!! no way, I'd say. And you couldn't possibly have done anything like lose it up through the cervix and into the uterus, as that's all closed (and it would have hurt like nothing ... (read in full...)
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