How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 10 April 2008: You're more than welcome. Just get those exams done now - do WELL! - and then who knows, maybe you'll still be a young mother : ) I am going to tell my daughter that it's ok to have a kid when she's 21 or so if she wants - that all the stuff about ... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 9 April 2008: I can't bear to read this. Really, I just can't bear it. I tried so hard to tell you, and it was exactly the same as happened to me. I tried to get it across, and I felt and feel such a failure that I didn't manage to communicate it to you. I'm ... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 7 April 2008: Why the countdown? Incidentally, I've just given birth to a beautiful daughter. She is amazing. Now 5 days old, and already looking into our eyes and wondering at the new world she finds herself in.... (read in full...)
I agreed to an open relationship but I'm not happy and need advice on how to handle it or break off?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 6 months now and we're in an open relationship. I'm his main girl but he is going around dating and sleeping with other girls. Although he hasn't slept with any other girls yet b/c if he did he'd have told me and ...
A. 31 March 2008: Of course you have the strength! The worst bit is over now : )
Just think of how now there is hope and possibility in your life. Now better things can happen. And I"m sure they will - you've made the move. WELL DONE!... (read in full...)
I agreed to an open relationship but I'm not happy and need advice on how to handle it or break off?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 6 months now and we're in an open relationship. I'm his main girl but he is going around dating and sleeping with other girls. Although he hasn't slept with any other girls yet b/c if he did he'd have told me and ...
A. 30 March 2008: You really do sound just too nice for him : ) You're quite right - any sane person with a sense of perspective would, of course, never suggest an open relationship. You're right that he's very lucky to have the rapport he does with you, but for ... (read in full...)
I agreed to an open relationship but I'm not happy and need advice on how to handle it or break off?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 6 months now and we're in an open relationship. I'm his main girl but he is going around dating and sleeping with other girls. Although he hasn't slept with any other girls yet b/c if he did he'd have told me and ...
A. 28 March 2008: You are very brave and, I think, very right. Dating is one thing, but sleeping with someone else - NO WAY. And now I hear about your discussion over how he would take you to events, etc., as you are the 'main' girl - jeez, he is trying to set up the ... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 28 March 2008: Peaches said only you know if you will be able to cope with having a baby - I think that's the whole problem. You don't, because you've never had that experience. You just don't know what it's like, and you have a choice of a foggy, scary future ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my wife to be a "slave" to another man?
Q. I am a married man and have always wanted my wife to have fum with other men. She see's it as cheating and is not sure. I have told her I would love her to tell me the things seh gets up to with other men whilst we have sex. I also like the id...
A. 27 March 2008: Absolutely not. These are your sexual fantasies, and your wife clearly isn't interested at all in fulfilling them - and I'm not surprised! Why should she have to humiliate herself, and have sex with other men (who she doesn't know and doesn't want ... (read in full...)
Which is accurate, the vaginal exam results or the blood and urine tests?
Q. Is a vaginal exam stating I'm pregnant accurate, while blood work and urine are saying negative?...
A. 27 March 2008: well yes, the blood and urine tests you did were easily too early to show up enough HCG. If your period is late, then can't you just use one of those sensitive tests from the pharmacy? I'm not sure I understand where the vaginal exam bit comes in - ... (read in full...)
There's growing sexual tension between us - but he is guy! Help!
Q. Hi. I'm really confused about what's going on between my gay friend and I. I'm a woman, and he's a man and we've always been really close. I've also always thought he was quite attractive but have never made a move simply because he was gay and I ...
A. 27 March 2008: Well, obviously he's wondering whether or not he really is gay, because he finds you sexually attractive. And/or he might be just trying to find you attractive, because he'd rather be straight than gay. You have to call his bluff. Eg:
Go for dinn... (read in full...)
Spent so long building my career I'm lacking in social skills. Looking for tips on speaking to ladies.
Q. Hello all, I am a single guy and spent the last few years devoted to building my career. Sadly because of it my social life suffered. I am at an age now where I would like to go out and meet a nice girl. (I am really not interested in jo...
A. 27 March 2008: OK. I think you need two elements to your strategy:
1) Exposure (and I don't mean flashing!!!!!): in order to meet someone, you need to put yourself in environments where that is likely to happen. I don't think you should rely on bumping into the... (read in full...)
How can I talk to my mum about sex and tell her that I'm having sex?
Q. im 17 and iv been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and we have been having regular sex. my mum already knows that im not a virgin, as the boy i slept with his mum told my mum, my mum was really upset and disapointed in me. now im with someone ...
A. 27 March 2008: I'm sorry to hear you're having a bad time with this. It's really hard for you, and also hard for your mum, I think, because she just wants to protect you. She must know, though, that if you've had sex once, and now you're with a guy you really ... (read in full...)
Which is accurate, the vaginal exam results or the blood and urine tests?
Q. Is a vaginal exam stating I'm pregnant accurate, while blood work and urine are saying negative?...
A. 27 March 2008: I think it would be weird if there was enough of a pregnancy to find in an internal exam, but no positive blood and urine results. Weird, but not impossible. Usually the blood test is the most accurate, which is why doctors do that rather than an ... (read in full...)
Should I go on the pill behind my mums back?
Q. Okay, I'm 15 and me and my boyfriend have been having sex for over 6 months. Before I had sex my periods were slightly out of time but I still had one every month, but since I started having sex, my periods have become worse and sometimes I ...
A. 27 March 2008: Having sex won't make your periods irregular - has nothing to do with it. In fact, having sex is kind of healthy. I think you should go to see your doc (without your Mum) and explain about the slight irregularity (and yes, that morning after pill ... (read in full...)
I value my independance but is it wrong to ask my man for help with minor things?
Q. When i meet the man i am dating i usually present to him that i am independent and i hesitate to ask his help even in minor things. In the rare occassion that i ask him his help for something (something minor) i feel uneasy that i show him that i ...
A. 27 March 2008: Don't be daft. You can accept help with minor things, of course, and with major things - that's the whole point of an inter-dependent relationship - you help each other. And as long as you are there to help him, too, with whatever he needs, that's ... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 26 March 2008: I too want to wish you all the very best and hope you will come to terms with what, whichever way you had chosen, is a huge and stressful decision to be making on your own. I really hope you have someone good to talk to, who can support you and be ... (read in full...)
I don't have a boyfriend because I don't like to "party"! Will I be single until I'm 30yrs old?!!
Q. I feel like im a loser and no guy my age will ever like me. I feel like this because ive had two bf's who have had issues with me about being a non drinker and not into partying all weekend, every weekend. My last bf dumped me because of this, he ...
A. 26 March 2008: Yep, I think you're right - he just wanted someone who would drink with him. You did all you can. In which case that's pretty awful for you, because I think you did all the right things.
Don't give up - what you did was right, and he just didn... (read in full...)
How can I be more hygenic?
Q. Im not very hygenic and want to become more. I dont bath regually. What can I do to become more hygenic and smell nice and be clean?? I was thinking to have a bath every other day. Change my bedding every week. Brush teeth twice a day which i ...
A. 26 March 2008: ps
about the nails - always keep your toenails painted and looking good
and about the bedding - change your sheets at least once a week. It might be a good idea to get some really nice soft high threadcount cotton sheets (eg, for your birthda... (read in full...)
How can I be more hygenic?
Q. Im not very hygenic and want to become more. I dont bath regually. What can I do to become more hygenic and smell nice and be clean?? I was thinking to have a bath every other day. Change my bedding every week. Brush teeth twice a day which i ...
A. 26 March 2008: It's fairly simple, and you seem to know the answer already yourself. You need to take an interest in looking after your body. It's a precious thing, and deserves it. Eg:
Get up. Brush your teeth. Wash your face (or maybe even, if you can, get... (read in full...)
Am I a loser?
Q. i feel like such a loser. i had an amazing party for my 18th and invited lots of my friends, so afterwards we planned to have an afterparty at a house thats about 5 minutes away my mum was fine with it because it was after the party, but then ...
A. 26 March 2008: You're not a loser at all - what makes you think that? She's just manipulative and not very nice. People at school who are very (physically) attractive can be like that. Don't worry - if she goes on treating people like she's treating you, people ... (read in full...)
After sex it hurts when I pee but it's not an infection. What could it be?
Q. hiya :) i have sex with my partner alot usually everytime we see eacother which is 4days a week .. but after we have sex my private parts are always hurting and its hurting wen i do a pee .. i dont know what it is .. its like a burny feeling ...
A. 26 March 2008: Sounds like classic thrush to me. Go to the doc and get something for it. : )... (read in full...)
I dumped him but I love him and he's with my best friend. How do I get him back?
Q. i dumped this boy but hes now going out with my best mate and i still love him i told him but he loves my best mate how do i get him back?...
A. 26 March 2008: erm, you can't. Sorry. You dumped him. And even if you made a mistake, you can't now backtrack - he's happy with your best friend, and she is with him. You can't do that to her, and there's no point trying to change him - he's told you he prefers ... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a man separated from his wife but I just found out they are planning a holiday together! Should I believe him about the divorce?
Q. I am in a relationship with this man for a year. In the beginning of our relationship he told me that he is separated and he said to me that he is divorcing her...She is living abroad and they have a child together. I did not believe him and ...
A. 26 March 2008: I think that if he's introducing you as his girlfriend now, that's a big sign he wants to be with you. If he was carrying on still with his wife, he'd be trying to keep you quiet - you'd be a secret. And you aren't.
You've got only his word aga... (read in full...)
I agreed to an open relationship but I'm not happy and need advice on how to handle it or break off?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 6 months now and we're in an open relationship. I'm his main girl but he is going around dating and sleeping with other girls. Although he hasn't slept with any other girls yet b/c if he did he'd have told me and ...
A. 26 March 2008: ps
1. Remember you agreed to the open relationship, but you can always change your mind - you've tried it, and it doesn't work for you.
2. If you want to split from him entirely (depending on how he responds to your request to stop it being an ... (read in full...)
I agreed to an open relationship but I'm not happy and need advice on how to handle it or break off?
Q. I've been seeing this guy for about 6 months now and we're in an open relationship. I'm his main girl but he is going around dating and sleeping with other girls. Although he hasn't slept with any other girls yet b/c if he did he'd have told me and ...
A. 26 March 2008: It's a difficult one because you're trying to understand him and respond to what he says are his needs - you're trying to give him the space he wants, but really it's not at all what you want - you're happy and ready for a serious, monogamous ... (read in full...)
I don't have a boyfriend because I don't like to "party"! Will I be single until I'm 30yrs old?!!
Q. I feel like im a loser and no guy my age will ever like me. I feel like this because ive had two bf's who have had issues with me about being a non drinker and not into partying all weekend, every weekend. My last bf dumped me because of this, he ...
A. 26 March 2008: Just remember you won't be at university forever. And surely there are some other people there who don't party 24/7? I think the thing is that you don't drink - a good thing, and much better for you, but that's what sets you apart. I understand ... (read in full...)
How can I make "missionary style" more wild?
Q. when i am having sex with my guy and he's on top, i feel like i am just laying there. what could i do to stir things up? i am new to this and im not sure about girl on top either .. do i move up and down on him or does he do it?...
A. 26 March 2008: It's feels like you are worrying a bit about technique, whereas if you were really into it you wouldn't think so much about it - you'd just go with what felt good. But in terms of ideas, maybe try this:
When he is on top, put your legs on his shou... (read in full...)
Ladies, any idea why my girlfriend doesn't orgasm any more from oral sex?
Q. My girlfriend has stopped having orgasms from cunnilingus. This is unusual because the first time I went down on her, she had an orgasm and was going on and on about how good I was at oral sex. In fact, she had several orgasms one right after the ...
A. 26 March 2008: Hard to say but having an orgasm that way is a very mental thing, and if you can't, it's usually because of a mental block. What I mean is, if there's the slightest hangup in your head, you can't. Maybe she's started to think too much about it - had ... (read in full...)
When is it time to quit trying and just end a relationship completely?
Q. How do you know when to just quit trying with something that feels like it should work, but doesn't? I dated a guy for three years, and he was, without question, the love of my life. In all my life, I would never get bored of him, and we had ...
A. 26 March 2008: I can't quite work out what relationship you have/had here. There is a lot about spending time apart, not talking to each other for really long periods of time, etc. - seems like you have been together for shortish, intense periods and then had ... (read in full...)
My breasts have become tender and I'm getting bad stomach pains, is this related to recently coming off depo-provera injections or could I be pregnant?
Q. Hi there, This may be more of a question for the doctor, but maybe some of you have had the same experience. I was on the depo-provera injection for three months only and came off it on the 14 December. In January a had light bleeding which l...
A. 25 March 2008: When my sister came off it she had a similar thing, and said she had the worst period pains ever. Maybe it's that? Agree you should check out some websites re: side effects when coming off it. More likely than pregnancy (you wouldn't usually get bad ... (read in full...)
Pregnant, and experiencing bleeding...I've seen the doctor but want advice too!
Q. Hey everyone, was just wondering if i could have your help and advice once again! I am now experiencing what every pregnant woman must fear.............bleeding. I had a bleed on friday for about half an hour, and a bleed for 8 hours yesterda...
A. 25 March 2008: It could be nothing - many more women than you think have some kind of bleeding in early pregnancy. I know someone who bled constantly up until week 24 - she even had to have blood transfusions - but the pregnancy survived.
How can you possibly... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 25 March 2008: Suggest you read some of the other posts on this site, from girls who've just recently had abortions and are now completely in despair at what they've done. They too thought they were making the right decision.
Try the one 'How do you deal wit... (read in full...)
Why wont she believe me when I tell her she is beautiful?
Q. Hi ive recently met this girl and shes amazing, and the only thing wrong with her is her acceptance, she wont accept shes beautiful no matter how many times i tell her, how can i prove to her shes beautiful, bear in mind that ive only said she is o...
A. 25 March 2008: erm, this is sounding a bit bizarre, i have to say. You haven't met her in person. You've only known her a few weeks. I think you need to calm down. When you meet her in person, it will all fall into place. I think the sooner you do that, the ... (read in full...)
My partner calls me bad names like "Loser" and "Bitch", how do I deal with it?
Q. Hello Aunts and Uncles, I have been with my partner for 6 yrs now - we do not live together - i live with my children (18 and 22) and he lives with his son (age 19). We have talked about living together at some point, once he has recovered...
A. 25 March 2008: Fairly simple what you can do. Tell him to bugger off. Find someone nice. He's not nice. End of story. : )... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 24 March 2008: If you can have the abortion pill up to 12 weeks, are we saying that the poster here is beyond 12 weeks? If so, you will have to deliver your baby through induced labour. Can you imagine how bad that is? I think in an earlier post I said 'after 12 ... (read in full...)
We both cheated but he impregnated another woman and must take fatherly responsibility, where does this leave us, should I marry him??
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for the past four years now. We used to live together in Colorado but had some relationship issues and I moved home to be with my family in Maryland. We have actually managed a decent relationship and fly to see ...
A. 24 March 2008: ps
actually I've just re-read your post and a couple of things strike me as odd: you moved away because of problems with him; you sound almost surprised that you 'actually managed a decent relationship' from a distance;
you both slept with oth... (read in full...)
We both cheated but he impregnated another woman and must take fatherly responsibility, where does this leave us, should I marry him??
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for the past four years now. We used to live together in Colorado but had some relationship issues and I moved home to be with my family in Maryland. We have actually managed a decent relationship and fly to see ...
A. 24 March 2008: I think that if you have a genuinely good relationship, you shouldn't throw that away. It seems you've been spared what would have been really difficult - if your boyfriend had fallen for the other woman, and/or if she should have wanted him to be ... (read in full...)
My pregnant girlfriend has cheated on me, and I am in love with her mate. Who do I choose...?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 3years now but have fallen in love with her best mate. My girlfriend has always had a bad reputation but i gave her a chance. I have been seeing her mate behind her back for about 9 months now and really like her. ...
A. 24 March 2008: Danielepew is completely right. Good advice. Follow it.... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 24 March 2008: I meant to warn you that doctors often advise abortion - it's almost like they feel they can't advise otherwise, because there's such a taboo about being anti-abortion. Interestingly, I am pregnant now, and it was unplanned and is about as difficult ... (read in full...)
My pregnant girlfriend has cheated on me, and I am in love with her mate. Who do I choose...?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 3years now but have fallen in love with her best mate. My girlfriend has always had a bad reputation but i gave her a chance. I have been seeing her mate behind her back for about 9 months now and really like her. ...
A. 24 March 2008: ps
If the best mate is so perfect for you, why the hell did you have an affair for 9 mths and get someone else pregnant?? Why didn't you split up with No.1 before now?
I know that doesn't help, exactly, and I'm sure maybe you've thought about th... (read in full...)
My pregnant girlfriend has cheated on me, and I am in love with her mate. Who do I choose...?
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 3years now but have fallen in love with her best mate. My girlfriend has always had a bad reputation but i gave her a chance. I have been seeing her mate behind her back for about 9 months now and really like her. ...
A. 24 March 2008: Something here is mutually exclusive, and you've got to accept that:
you can't fulfill these two desires at the same time:
- another guy doesn't bring up your child
- you're with the woman you want
either, you stay with the 1st girl and br... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 23 March 2008: I'm surprised that you're surprised people feel so strongly about this! They feel so because it's a matter of life and death, and what you do now will affect the rest of your life.
I thought i felt the same as you, and particularly the same re:... (read in full...)
Why can't he ejaculate from oral sex?
Q. My bf says I'm great at giving oral, and he responds really well, so why can't he ejaculate? We were each others firsts, so its not like his ex's 'trained' him into different techniques. I usually give him oral for about 10minutes, but just can't s...
A. 23 March 2008: Give him time ... he may not realise it, but perhaps somewhere he's got a hang-up about. You say you usually do it for about 10 minutes - are you counting? Do you enjoy it? You know, it's as much about you being into it and just going with it - you ... (read in full...)
I rejected his hints as I'm not physically attracted to him, do I tell him that?
Q. There is a guy friend who is interested in me. He has dropped plenty of hints that he wants more than a friendship with me but I act as though I don't get his hidden messages. I am not physically attracted to him nor does his personality pull me in ...
A. 23 March 2008: ps and if he does ask you if you fancy fat guys, say 'it's not to do with weight - it just has to be the right chemistry, and I'm really sorry but I don't feel that with you. I have to be honest.'
Keep the fat thing out of it.... (read in full...)
I rejected his hints as I'm not physically attracted to him, do I tell him that?
Q. There is a guy friend who is interested in me. He has dropped plenty of hints that he wants more than a friendship with me but I act as though I don't get his hidden messages. I am not physically attracted to him nor does his personality pull me in ...
A. 23 March 2008: I think you should be honest with him, but I don't think you should say it's because he's fat - that's really hurtful. Don't do that. Just tell the truth: you like him as a friend, but that's it for you - you don't have other feelings for him. It ... (read in full...)
I want to kiss her but I have never kissed a girl in a romantic way...advice please!
Q. Ok I have been seeing a girl for about four months. Everytime we look at each other I can feel the love between us. When I look at her I feel like I should kiss her. I would like advice on how to know if she wants me to kiss her and the best way ...
A. 22 March 2008: Great news! So glad I helped. Thanks for saying so. And good luck for the rest of it ... ... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 22 March 2008: guys, I don't know if any of you in this heated argument have read my little contributions to it.
I am not especially religious, I am not anything much at all unusual - just a straightforward, thinking, feeling kind of person. I had an abortion... (read in full...)
The Truth about Pubic Hair?
Q. Hi, I am a 15 year old girl and my boyfriend has been wanting to finger me but I am afraid to because I am afraid he will think pubes are gross. I tried shaving them but I had trouble doing a good job and after like a day it was just stubbly and ...
A. 22 March 2008: I'm not a teenage guy but this is what I think:
- Long and au naturel - some guys don't like it, although I don't think a teenage boy would be too choosy
- Trimmed down - best option - shows you are taking care of it, but not to the extreme of s... (read in full...)
I want to kiss her but I have never kissed a girl in a romantic way...advice please!
Q. Ok I have been seeing a girl for about four months. Everytime we look at each other I can feel the love between us. When I look at her I feel like I should kiss her. I would like advice on how to know if she wants me to kiss her and the best way ...
A. 21 March 2008: Glad to be of help - hope it works (it will do - can't fail). Other advice? Give her a glass of wine first. : )... (read in full...)
I want to kiss her but I have never kissed a girl in a romantic way...advice please!
Q. Ok I have been seeing a girl for about four months. Everytime we look at each other I can feel the love between us. When I look at her I feel like I should kiss her. I would like advice on how to know if she wants me to kiss her and the best way ...
A. 21 March 2008: She's waiting for you to kiss her, and yes, you damn well need to get on with it. You're a grown man! Come on!
Right. What you do is - when one of those moments comes up, when you're looking into each others' eyes and your faces are close, y... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 21 March 2008: p.s.
and as to your original post about how is an abortion done - it is really, really grim. Really. You imagine it won't be, but it is. And then they take of the remains of your child and either incinerate it or use for medical research, and that... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 21 March 2008: I think what I was trying to say is that what's best for you may well be what's best for the baby as well.
If you have the abortion, you have no guarantee of how you will feel - you may skip off feeling fine, or you may be absolutely devastat... (read in full...)
How is an abortion done?
Q. I need an abortion, but words can't explain how worried I am.. Could anyone explain what happens when you first step into the hospital/clinic and onwards? Thank you so much....
A. 20 March 2008: 'Piss off all you pro-life nutters'???? Aren't we all pro-life? If you saw someone dying in the street would you consider it odd to help them?? I am anti-abortion not because of any religious beliefs, but because I trusted the establishment and my ... (read in full...)
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