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writes:My Husband had to move with his job to a different city. Now he may be sleeping with a friend's wife but claims that there is nothing going on because she is a married woman. I was able to find some photographs on a public forum, which is what started me thinking. There is no way to know the truth. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): Don't jump to conclusions until you know the facts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): There are many ways you can find out. You can take on an investigative role yourself - perhaps take a trip at very short, or even no, notice to visit your husband.. maybe keep a watch around his house first before you surprise him - make an excuse or just turn up. Make phone calls at times when you wouldn't normally to see who answers. If you need to know one way or another you could hire a private detective - they can do different levels or intenstity of work depending on your needs. If you don't want to go down this route at all just call the 'other woman' for a friendly chat (via the friend or whoever) and see what kind of reaction you get. It may be enough to 'rattle her cage' and things could change. Trouble is... without being with your husband you are going to drive yourself mad wondering if its not her then who else could it be. You cannot and should not be in this situation.
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reader, natasia  +, writes (21 March 2008):
 Blimey. That's a very difficult situation you're in. I'm really sorry.
Do you want to know the truth? The problem is, he has so much opportunity - he's away from you, and she's there, and you're right - who knows what's going on? And how is your relationship with your husband? With him working away like that, are you growing apart? Can you move and go and live there with him?
I'm afraid I think that it's a dangerous situation, him working away. Whether he's started something with the friend's wife, or not, it's still not a good situation. You don't say if you have any children, or what contact with him is like. I think you probably need to find out if anything is going on, and the only way to do that is to perhaps speak with the friend's wife, or even the friend. Your husband will be mad, though, so speak to him first and say what you're going to do. And move to be with him - that way his footloose/fancy free period will end, abruptly!
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