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writes:hey people out there I NEED HELP! Well i'm 14 and i have a boyfriend that I've been with for 1 year and 4 months. And today he came over to my apartment and we were in my bed just laying down! NOTHING HAPPENED! And my mom came home and saw us laying down. And started yelling at me. And she told me that she doesn't believe me that we didn't have sex! and that she will never trust me again! and she also took my cellphone away and won't let me talk to him for now. How can i make my mom trust me again? I'm so upset! I NEED HELP QUICK! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): Yeah so mums mad, why don't you go and talk to dad and get his views on the subject. He may just think your mum should trust you more.
Hope this helps
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (22 March 2008):
 well right now your mum is just a little shocked and she just needs a bit of time to cool down so just give her a bit of space for now. then sit her down and explain to her that you werent having sex and arent having sex yet, and that she has got to trust you - you can make decisions like that without her watching you like a hawk. point out that you were both wearing clothes (well im assuming you were), and that you were only holding hands - she didnt see you having sex, so wat makes her jump to such conclusions?!! you need to just make her see that you are trustworthy and mature enough - maybe that includes staying out of the bedroom for now. if she cant understand this then maybe you could ask your dad for some back up? you are still young hun and in all fairness, she is just looking out for you and doesnt want you to get hurt. also assure her that wen you do start having sex, you will come to her first and stuff - makes them feel better!! hope this helps, email me if you wanna talk more about this or anything xxx
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reader, natasia  +, writes (22 March 2008):
 It's probably hard to talk to your mom right now, as she is feeling cross with you, and probably upset, and you are feeling really upset and also that it isn't fair. Maybe you could write her a letter and get all your feelings out? Explain that nothing happened, reassure her that you aren't having sex, and say how you feel upset about her not trusting you now. Don't say anything about the cell, though, or she'll think you're just saying what she wants to hear to get it back!
Write the letter, give it to her or leave it for her, then wait . Hopefully she'll come and find you and talk about it - thats the first thing. Good luck.
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reader, Aduro +, writes (21 March 2008):
 You should just try and explain to her, in a calm manner and without getting too flustered or defensive that you were just lying down. Point out that you were wearing clothes (assuming you were) etc.
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