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I'm scared to have sex, but he told me there is nothing to be afraid of. Is that true?
Q. this boy i like i told him i loved him and he said he loves me too. i was like omg he loves me, and he sed that he wants sex with me all the time and i said im scaird to and he said thers nothing to be afraid of. is that true i have nothing to be ...
A. 26 October 2009: i could tell you that i love you right now, does that mean you'll sleep with me?
how ridiculous.
they're the famous 3 words to lure you into bed, are you going to be another that falls for it?... (read in full...)
Was I right to break my girlfriend's ex's leg and jaw because he used to hit her and cheat on her?
Q. look im a 15 year old kick boxer. i been with this girl ever since elementry i really like her. I broke her ex boy friends jaw and leg because he cheated on her and he hit her a couple of times. am I right or wrong....
A. 28 August 2009: You made yourself look younger than you actually are!
Beating someone up does nothing, has it changed the past? No.
You did it as an excuse to look 'hard' infront of a crowd. Grow up.... (read in full...)
I'm scared to have sex, but he told me there is nothing to be afraid of. Is that true?
Q. this boy i like i told him i loved him and he said he loves me too. i was like omg he loves me, and he sed that he wants sex with me all the time and i said im scaird to and he said thers nothing to be afraid of. is that true i have nothing to be ...
A. 28 August 2009: Nothing to worry about apart from your boyfriend getting put in prison due to under age sex, getting pregnant, having an abortion, surely that's enough to put you off for the time being? Wait until your old enough, if he's worth it he'll wait ... (read in full...)
I thought I was over her till I looked at her picture
Q. i thought i was over her but when i spoke to her on msn i looked at her picture and all those feelings came rushing back what should i now? ...
A. 14 August 2009: Either tell her or don't!
Depends on how you broke up in the first place, if these feelings are proper feelings then brilliant, but are you sure they're not just because you haven't seen anything of her in a while?
X... (read in full...)
I'm so tired of fighting...
Q. Ok so there is this boy that I have been with for the past three years, on and off. We have broken up numerous times over little things but we never stay broken up for more than a day or two, if it gets a little more serious then maybe a week. I am ...
A. 25 June 2009: Just think, when he did cheat on you (as hard is it might be) he obviously didn't enjoy it because he's still with you. He still wants you and even though your relationship is 'hanging by a thread' he's still there, trying to make things work. I ... (read in full...)
How do I know if I'm bi???
Q. I'm 13 years old and never ever had a relationship before. I love chasing after guys but think I'm starting to like a friend of mine (she) is cute funny and bi How do I know if I'm bi too2?...
A. 25 June 2009: To be honest your probably just thinking this because she is. You want to be the same as her, it's something new so instantly your thinking you are.
At 13, I don't think she'll be 'bi' or at least not know that she is. she's probably heard it from... (read in full...)
Decisions decisions... go back with the ex or stay with my current boyfriend?
Q. Ok so i have a difficult decision, go back to my ex or stay with my current bf? Ive been with this guy for about 2 weeks and hes really sweet and all but now my ex has told me he wants me back and i want him so bad now. Last time we spilt up because ...
A. 25 June 2009: Stay with the newest, once a player always a player.
If you don't believe in that saying then at least wait until there's proof that he's 'changed'.
If you don't get with him, which you shouldn't, just wait and see if he finds someone else cos you ... (read in full...)
Pregnancy test came back negative but I'm still late, what else could be the reason behind this?
Q. hey im a week late for my period and i took a pregnancy test yesterday and it came back negative my boyfriend and i are always careful and responsible and we havnt had any problems with our contraception im starting to get worried now but sure...
A. 25 June 2009: That's happened to me plenty of times, and I haven't even had sex! Maybe due to stress, worry. I was once 2 weeks late. Stress makes sense because obviously if you're late, you worry, which consequently could have made you even later! On the ot... (read in full...)
Why does she keep calling me her best friend when we hardly see each other?
Q. Ok, early 2005 I used to talk to a girl (lets call her kim) on msn and we would txt each other all the time and she said that I was her best friend. At the time I really liked her but never told her. When ever we were out with friends she would ...
A. 25 June 2009: She could be feeling a bit isolated (spelling?) from other people because of her boyfriend, infact, it could be many things. She might like the feeling of having you as a 'best friend', someone who is always there for her. She obviously cares ab... (read in full...)
Is she just trying to make me jealous and piss me off?
Q. My ex girlfriend is dating a good friend of mine 2 weeks after I broke up with her. Why? She told me she loved me first, and I told her otherwise untill about a week later. I broke up with her because I was afraid She was going to break up with me. ...
A. 25 June 2009: I think she's trying to annoy you, she loves the attention, she loves you running back to her, making her feel like she's worth something. Leave her alone, block her number and any other ways of contact. Good luck x... (read in full...)
How do I know if he is bored of me?
Q. My boyfriend seems so not interested in me any more. He has been acting werid. He used to care who I talked to and he knows hiss ex hates me and I want him to stop talking to her. He did for a while but he is talking again. The funny thing he said ...
A. 25 June 2009: Just ask him straight up; if he's letting his ex control him and the relationship he has with you, then to be honest he's not worth it in the first place! If he doesn't respect and understand why you don't want him taking advice from his ex, on h... (read in full...)
What do I say to her?
Q. There is a girl who I think I am in love with that has a boyfriend. She is the nicest person in the world and she is really caring, so much that myself and others call her mom as a joke. she is so nice to me and everyone else that I cannot tell if ...
A. 17 June 2009: This is so cute :) if she never invites her boyfriend out you could be in there! But there are many many other possibilities too unfortunately.
Try talking to her one to one, find out why she doesn't invite her boyfriend out. 'Where's your boyf... (read in full...)
Too many girls! Too complicated!
Q. hey so i have anotherrrr problem. my gf treats me like shit and we are in the middle of a fight yet again because she lied and somehow its my fault. ok so if she doesnt come to me for once to fix it all (she never has) ill dump her. shes become...
A. 17 June 2009: You must have something special if you have all these girls coming from every angle!
I agree with Gine, there's no point coming out of one relationship and straight into another, too stressful!
Have a break, play the field AFTER you have split up... (read in full...)
I'm 14, What sex positions can I try out?
Q. what other sex positions can i try out any suggestions???...
A. 16 June 2009: Zip up love, 16 is the legal age.... (read in full...)
I feel horrible even thinking about him liking someone else
Q. I am his first girlfriend, his first kiss ect. Im 16 he is 21. We've know each other since I was born but I cant help but be jelous of the girls he used to like. He's only like two other girls, They both have boyfriends and he rarely sees them but ...
A. 16 June 2009: I'm exactly the same, it makes me feel sick! I spose it is immature and silly, but he's with you now, be grateful :)
I'm sure you've liked other people too, it'd surely be weird if he's 21 and has never been interested in another girl, afte... (read in full...)
Why are the majority of men bad in bed?
Q. If all men supposedly view porn (which seems to be the consensus on this site) and it is supposed to give you hints and tips to spice up your sex life (isn't this what all guys say), then why is it the majority of men are crap in bed. This was a ...
A. 16 June 2009: Porn's just an excuse to cover up because to be frank I think they're embarressed.
They watch porn and still they're not good in bed. They're obviously watching it for other reasons in my opinion!
x... (read in full...)
Dumped for someone else by my work fling!!
Q. Ive been sleeping with a guy at work but weve never had a relationship because he said he didnt want to commit. I didnt mind I just thought it was a bit of fun at the time nothing serious. Then last month I went on holiday for a week and when I come ...
A. 4 June 2009: No offence, but he got what he wanted. He told you he didn't want to commit for a reason, because he didn't want to get the state that your in. You've obviously got feelings for him, which he didn't want.
You knew what you were letting yourself in f... (read in full...)
He asked about my past, I told the truth and now he's acting differently
Q. I don't know why, but my boyfriend asked me how many guys I had slept with, I believe in honesty so I told him the truth even though I don't understand what the point is, it's him that I want. After I told him he kind of went all silent then said ...
A. 4 June 2009: At least you told the truth! He should be grateful that you didn't lie to him, like he 'made up' that thing with field girl.
I would have thought it was a good thing that you told the truth about such a serious thing, at least he knows it's less... (read in full...)
I regret losing my virginity, had intimate problems and her past is haunting me
Q. hey im 17,male and lost my virginity about a week ago. ive been having trouble getting over my girlfriends past because i had vivid images of her and her ex in my head and she seems tainted somehow. he USED her for many sexual activities i was...
A. 4 June 2009: It's sounds like you need to have a serious serious serious talk.
You could start doing something you enjoy, sports? music? travelling? art? I think a break would be good for your relationship and might save it.
You need to tell her all the worr... (read in full...)
Why do men change after you give them your heart?
Q. why when you give a man your heart he start to act different and don't want anything to do with you after a year into the relationship. then he refuse to answer any of my calls or even come around like he use to. it has been two months and things ...
A. 4 June 2009: It sometimes seems that way, but you should just ask him about it rather than worrying yourself. It might be nothing, there might be another reason, you never know! Tell him how you feel. Maybe back off a bit with the 'giving him your heart' l... (read in full...)
Worried my insecurities will ruin sex.
Q. I know I am to young to have sex and I should wait till I am ready and in love but lately I have been very self-conscious about my body. All my friends have almost perfect bodies…but I don’t….when I get undressed its obvious I have baggy breast t...
A. 30 May 2009: Well, the first time you have sex - hopefully - you'll be in a stable relationship. The boy you loose your virginity to will love you on the inside, aswell as the outside; but he'll love you, not your hair or your perfect make-up. What kind of ... (read in full...)
How do you spot girls like this and not have to wait so long to have sex?
Q. Hi I've been dating this girl for about 3 months now. She has consistently told me she wants to wait for sex. The first time I attempted was very early on, about the third date, when she told me she wants to wait at least another month or two. I ...
A. 30 May 2009: If the first time she's had sex was when she was in a relationship for 3 years then doesn't that tell you anything at all?
She's not easy! If you want someone to have sex with then find a girl/lady who's willing to have sex with you and don't bug ... (read in full...)
How to deal with chest hair?
Q. i have a pretty hairy chest, but i dont really want one anymore, ive tried to shave it but all that it left me with was multiple ingrown hairs, rough stuble. I want a smooth hairless chest, is there anyway to get that?, maybe waxing?...
A. 29 May 2009: Waxing yourself (veet wax stips are the best i've used), getting waxed by a professional (more expensive than buying wax strips), hair removal cream (quite cheap, but still need to shave if you want extra smoothness), obviously then there's shaving. ... (read in full...)
I found condoms in my husband's pockets and he says they were for a friend!
Q. I Found 6 condoms in my husbands pockets and he said his friend asked him to bring it. I didn't believe him, and he was crying. could he be telling the truth?...
A. 29 May 2009: Ask this 'friend' of his, but don't tell your hubbby your asking his friend, just ask which friend, then go ahead and ask him.
If he's smart he'll have warned his friend, so if that fails you need to either get rid of him or believe him.
x... (read in full...)
I don't want to, but I keep snooping around in his personal things. How do I stop?
Q. He's honest and great, but how should i stop being so clingy with my boyfriend and snooping around his phone as well as e-mails? I know this is a big turn off for guys, what should i just know or keep in mind so that i don't have the urge to do ...
A. 24 May 2009: I'm completely the same. Even though they aren't doing anything wrong, you feel better when you actually SEE that they are doing nothing wrong. It's weird! It's a turn off because they think we don't trust them, it's a turn off for anyone to fe... (read in full...)
14, pregnant and terrified!!!
Q. Well I'm 15 and I have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. I am sooo upset, I have found out that I am pregnant and I don't want my mum knowing because I am afraid she will think I am a slag. Please help what should I do ?...
A. 24 May 2009: I've just read all the responses and your 'problem' which now isn't a problem! Haha. Congratulations :) it's brilliant you have a baby girl, and you are focusing on your GCSE's too, and you still have your boyfriend with you :) Good luck with... (read in full...)
Can someone encourage me to go speak to her?
Q. i'm a 15 years old. This Girl that is new to my school is really pretty. I know she has seemed me alot of time. I dont know her name but i want to talk to her without embarrasing myself. I am goin to be myself if i do talk to her but how can i talk ...
A. 24 May 2009: I agree with dr.john, now is probably the best time, because she is new and unfamiliar with the people.
Always be yourself!
Good luck! X... (read in full...)
Wrong to have sex with my cousin?
Q. hi im a singal gal n i fall for my cousin who happen to be a hunk. he came n stay with my family for about 2 yrs now cus he studin near my place. last week my parent were out so i was along with my cous. i wore a set of black semi-tra...
A. 24 May 2009: If you've fallen for your cousin, you've fallen for him! Haha. Like 'britbrit' says, you will carry on regardless, because of the feelings you have for him. So just live life! And love being with your cousin! X... (read in full...)
Extreme opposites...
Q. I am very confused about how I should feel about my GF. She lies to me about little things that don't matter, but it makes me wonder if I can trust her about real issues. For example, she is under my phone plan, so I get details about her phone ...
A. 24 May 2009: I think you should give her time. If her parents have just split up she may be loosing faith in relationships, like you said. But don't give her a reason to loose faith in the relationship you have with her! It's not a lost cause I don't think, I'd... (read in full...)
Why can't he be happy just having sex with me?
Q. Okay well i guess this is a really common topic but.. ive been dating my boyfriend for 3 years now and ive always been pretty self concious about myself but after being with him for so long i just feel like dirt. hes been cheating on me a...
A. 22 May 2009: Like 'Silvershocker123' said, porn is just a fetish, it means nothing, there's no love, no real emotions.
With you there could be, he just doesn't seem to be making the effort!
You should tell him exactly how you feel, then it's upto him how he r... (read in full...)
My boyfriend sneaks out of bed to watch porn!
Q. Well I know this kind of situation has been bought up on here before, but would feel really appreciative if i could have some answer's personal to me. See the thing is I escaped an abusive relationship with my ex husband, for example controll...
A. 22 May 2009: I can't really relate to yr issue, but just think about these porn stars... would you really want to look like one?
They are in it for the money, it's cheap, nasty and just sickening for people like you & me. You should never let other people get ... (read in full...)
Why is body image so important to men?
Q. Well, what if you don't have them, hmmmmm? What does that make me? Obviously, not a real woman. I know society puts pressure on women to be thin, but I don't understand why they need to listen to this crock of nonsense, since men prefer women ...
A. 15 May 2009: It's your self confidence that is the problem! Different men like different women, it's not all about how people look. Men also like small boobs, big boobs, curvy women, fat women, slim women etc etc! You shouldn't be so hard on yourself, be gra... (read in full...)
I don't know how to move past the past
Q. My bf and I met in college. A few months into our relationship I graduated and moved. Things were going well in spite of the distance and we'd spend a lot of time on the phone and see each other when we could. Then he started to get jealous of my ...
A. 15 May 2009: You have to think positively, that's the key with this one! He's with you, but you can't let him push you around. If I was you I'd tell him how you feel, while he's not angry, hopefully he'll understand. If not, maybe speak to him again? If ... (read in full...)
If he wants anal then go gay!
Q. What is up with guys wanting to try Anal!! I am tired of every single guy i have dated wanting to try it. I am a girl I have a vag... If he wants anal go gay!!... Please explain how a guy sticking his dick in a butt hole with poop coming out of be ...
A. 14 May 2009: Then don't do it...
Nobody is forcing you to do it, not everybody likes it!
Men do like it because it's tighter but don't do something you aren't comfortable with, rememeber it's for your pleasure aswell as his!
x... (read in full...)
He had permission to get oral from somone else because I don't like doing it but now I'm having second thoughts!
Q. Plz help. Ok this is my first time doing this,I really need some advice.So my bf of a lil over a year wants oral sex..I really don't like doing it,so I just tell him no bt we do have sex. Ok so a while back he had asked me to do it prior to u...
A. 14 May 2009: I think that's the worst idea you could have come up with to be honest!
If he loved you that much you seriously think a quick blowjob would mean so much to him? So much to him that he had to go else where to get one?!
I think you are being naive. I... (read in full...)
I wake him up because I'm masturbating?
Q. during the middle if the night in my sleep without been consious my partner has just told me that i wake him up master bating. My boyfriend and I are very sexually active and Im not sure why Im doing this and have no idea how long it has been going ...
A. 14 May 2009: I watched a programme on TV called 'sexomnia' which means your not aware that you are having sex/masturbating.
You should go to the doctors about it if you're being serious about this.
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I jumped to the conclusion that he had female company over at our house....did I over-react?
Q. My boyfriend and i live together,yesterday i had the day off from work,i worked overtime yesterday so i got home around 8pm. I usually leave pajamas in the bathroom so when im ready for them i know exactly where they are. To my surprise when i came ...
A. 14 May 2009: I think you did over-react, but I understand why you did...
I would have done the same thing!
I think you basically put 2 and 2 together without thinking outside the box.
You should talk to him about it and if he did have his friends over, maybe ... (read in full...)
I want to sing but have a confidence issue
Q. Hey guys, I'm sorry that this isn't much of a relationship issue, but i couldn't think of anyone else to ask... Right, my issue is, i want to do something different with my life, i want to sing! And i don't mean in the local forum etc, i mean b...
A. 13 May 2009: Hey!
I had the exact same issue, just keep singing, keep your confidence up, take insults on board and work on them, take compliments on board and be thankful :)
Don't give up just because you may not feel your as good as people are telling ... (read in full...)
I get jealous of anything my boyfriend does with out me...do I come last, in his life?
Q. I get jealous of anything my boyfriend does with out me! If he texts his friends more than me. Or goes out without me. Etc Things like this. I feel that if he does stuff without me he will want to do it all the time. And i come last! Its like ...
A. 11 May 2009: Y'no, that's so weird, because I'm EXACTLY the same. I could have wrote that, that's how bad it is! Haha. I feel the same with the friends thing, like this weekend we've both agreed to go out with our friends, which we don't do very often! But then... (read in full...)
If a guy is into you...wouldn't he text you a lot!?
Q. its been just a week and i have been seein a younger guy (14 years) he is so sweet and attentive when i see him and says he wants to see how things go, but when we r not together he is very quite maybe a couple of texts a day, if a guy is into (like ...
A. 11 May 2009: My boyfriend hates his phone, and so he hates texting! I used to get paranoid about it and think maybe he just doesn't want to text me, but I asked him why and he said it's because he hates his phone, which is understandable after I tried texting ... (read in full...)
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