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writes:Hi, I am a 15 year old girl and my boyfriend has been wanting to finger me but I am afraid to because I am afraid he will think pubes are gross. I tried shaving them but I had trouble doing a good job and after like a day it was just stubbly and gross... I am just not sure what guys expect and I am not sure we are at the point in our relationship where I can ask him what he wants... I am mostly looking for advice from teenage guys (I have heard that older men like pubes but I am not sure what guys my age think)... What percentage of guys would you say actually do prefer it shaved? And if they do prefer shaved, are they turned off my natural or trimmed? Please help me I am really worried about this!
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reader, The Wiseman  +, writes (27 September 2011):
 Do whatever makes you feel comfortable and not what you think someone else might like. If you have to change yourself or be somebody you're not, you are with the wrong person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2009): I'm a bit late in answering, but I think in general you should trim it regularly.
I don't have experience with it, but I'm thinking that while some boys are happy to get any action at all, some aren't. I can see why teenage girls might be somewhat anxious about this issue. When you think about it, teenage boys are the fully-bared, porn-watching crowd (and this is pretty much all they are exposed to). It's one of those things they will grow out of, but I think that if any little teenager nowadays so porn with a girl's full-on bush, they would think it was nasty. Try shaving, or waxing it.
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reader, LUV-BOOTIES-ON-CUTIES  +, writes (18 January 2009):
 Well , Well , Well i'm 20 but I have to say hair must be maintained and taken care of- be it on your head or between your legs . Over grown pubes puts restrictions on a girl/woman choices of undergarments well at least in public , bikini's and hairy pubes don't mix and bring the wrong type of attention{LAUGHTER in some cases} . Pubic hair that has grown too much will make your panties or thong look like you have a penis or tampon stashed under their . All i can say is that your vagina is the irreplaceable part not the hair also it is what is desired and what turns on the opposite sex so whats the point having a blockade called pubic hair their , i'm not saying clean or lightly shaven is the way to go i'm just saying the vagina is whats important and pubes are complementary and since pubes is hair their is a lot of attractive cuts you can do rather than lazy uncared bush all up to your ass . .
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reader, sublime +, writes (2 July 2008):
Most of my guy buddies prefer trimmed over natural. I myself prefer trim over natural because it wont cause interferences during oral sex. No guy wants hair in his mouth. However, I dont like brazilian(completely shaven) simply because I like hair and I find it natural. I just don't want to navigate through a jungle. I'm 16 years old and this is my opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2008): Personally, i love pubic hair, its so sexy. i like the way it feels. definitely a turn on for teenage guys
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): I say any guy who is grossed out with with a gurl's pubic hair, is a p_ssy, no pun intended.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2008): ohh well see i shave occasionaly (so it totally doesnt get out of controll) because i do sports and stuff. and i just feel cleaner you know? and besides when im on my period its just disguisting to me to have to get all that mixed up together you know? besides most boys like the curly q's
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2008): How about considering the consequences of letting anyone stick their finger inside your delicate vagina. At 15 you should not have any of this anxiety.
You are at an age where because of your naivity, you will end up with an STD due to your ignorance. Forget sex, concerntrate on more important things like school.
Your body is too special and fragile and underdeveloped to let someone fiddle and give you germs, alot of diseases you will not even notice symtoms until it is too late.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2008): Surely you can talk to him about it? If you're going to let him touch you down there but still can't talk about it, then he shouldn't really be going that far with you.
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reader, sarahisgreat123 +, writes (4 May 2008):
thanks guys thats really helpful!... those are exactly the kind of answers I am looking for! Please if anyone else sees this, continue to reply because I want to hear as much feedback as i can!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2008): LOL!! Honey if your "man" is not comfortable around your "natural" body he's got no business exploring it.
This is akin to being "afraid" to buy condoms. If he isn't man enough to buy 'em and buy them with pride, he has no business having sex.
It's called maturity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2008): My dear - your boyfriend should be so lucky. I adore nice thick pubes for everything - my finger, my tounge and when my tounge gets well into your lips down there, my nose. Especially when my hard penis is fully inside you to look down and see my curly hair mingled with yours. Then it is really a treat to cum all over your bush and up onto your breasts. Please do not trim any of that beautiful foliage between you legs, up your crotch and around you bum hole. It is all magnificent.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2008): I find it truly a turn on. When I was young I use to sneak a look at my dad's playboy magizines, and I guess they were from the 70's-80's because all the women had a full, triangle. My friends and I like girls who sport a full bush. The cheerleaders at my school all made a bet not to shave theirs, all year. During games sometimes when they do splits you can see their bush through the panties they wear under their skirts when they jump and do splits. It's awesome!
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reader, Jmo +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Use an electric trimmer. It's pretty close to gone, it takes about two minutes and you don't have to contort yourself all over the place for fear of being cut.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2008): Well, hun, if you really want to turn on your guy, ask him to help you shave. :)
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reader, BigSis +, writes (25 March 2008):
 Aww...you shouldn't stress yourself out so much over this. It's not as bad as you think, and pubic hair is natural and sexy.
Good points there from LazyGuy, though. I agree with this last piece of advice he gave you;
Quoted Text: ''Decide for yourselve what you are comfortable doing but ask yourselve, what does it mean if he insists you shave it. Can he choose your hairstyle as well? Is he the one who picks out your clothes? Do you really want a guy who gets his image of what women should be like from porn? If he expect you to look the part, does he expect you to act the part as well?''
Best wishes and stop worrying, and do what you feel you are most comfortable with. BigSis xXx
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (25 March 2008):
 I think perhaps that you feel that pubic hair is "gross" because it is a recent development on your body and you are still adjusting to the fact that it is there. Young women have to contend with a lot of sudden changes and have a lot of attention once we go through puberty, it's a lot for you to wrap your mind around and get used to as normal. Most adult males do associate pubic hair with an adult female and appreciate it, with a bit of trimming. I know that my husband finally stopped looking at Playboy and Penthouse because he started to feel like a pedophile with all of the totally bare women and gave up the magazines because there was "nothing to see". It's hard to imagine that men feel that way - but it's the truth! There are so many examples of shaved and bare women in our western culture, we think that shaved is normal, but the fact is - pubic hair is how we are meant to look as adult women. It is also a cushion, and a retainer of scent, another fact of our sexuality. It may seem gross when you are just starting to explore sex, but it is a big part of sexuality that you will appreciate with time. If you are a bit uncomfortable, perhaps you should wait until you are totally happy with sharing your body. If you are all right with it, I'd just trim a bit and use BikiniZone or another shave rash cream. Make sure that you are happy and comfortable with the decisions that you are making for yourself - Your Body, Your Rules. Take Care!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): pubes arent bad at all. my bf didnt care when we did it. but if you want to shave it, do so. but if they dont like it, they arent ready for sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2008): Well my bf is 16, and he likes it trimmed, but not shaved.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2008): I asked my boyfriend what he liked best and he said the less hair the better . I don't really like it tho.... it's difficult and hard to keep that way ....he's around your age he's 16 so I hope this helped!
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reader, lovinit +, writes (23 March 2008):
as usual i post this to let you know where the info is coming from: this opinion is coming from an 18 yr old with a bachelors degree and is currently in medical school to become a cardiac surgeon..
some like pubes and some don't.
if they truly love you then they don't care. but i guess for sexual sakes, having it trimmed down a bit would make it easier to find entry to the magical place.
but then again, this is coming from a guy who would take it anyway it is handed to him. when i was in the range of 13-15 those were fantasy's to me. i couldn't see myself asking a girl if i could finger her let alone give her choices on the way to shave pubic hair.
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reader, burningbridges +, writes (23 March 2008):
Any person who screams 'Ew! Pubes!' is not ready for sex. Having hair down there goes with being a sexually mature human being, and even if you wax it, it'll still have that lumpy, no longer child like look to it. Ergo if your boyfriend is grossed out by pubes tell him that he can't put his hand there.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (23 March 2008):
 A popular image board exists on 4chan, where images of nude women can be posted. Since 4chan is based on a japanese site and has a heavy anime presence a lot of the women are (well used to be) japanese.
In japan, shaving is rare. So contrary to western models the japanese often have a "normal" hairy bush (asian pubic hair is different from western) and this leads to a lot of western posters commenting with comments like gross and shave it.
On the whole, by their tone it is pretty clear this opinion is voiced by those who are 12yr old, live with their mommy and never ever touched a girl.
But that is the generation you are dating. Raised by western porn they expect nothing else and expect their gf to act just like the pornstars they see.
It is easy for me as an adult male to say I prefer a natural but trimmed bush but that should hardly concern you.
Decide for yourselve what you are comfortable doing but ask yourselve, what does it mean if he insists you shave it. Can he choose your hairstyle as well? Is he the one who picks out your clothes? Do you really want a guy who gets his image of what women should be like from porn? If he expect you to look the part, does he expect you to act the part as well?
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reader, ShouldKnowBetter +, writes (23 March 2008):
To further my own answer.... it is also what you want, it is your body after all.
Some women feel more hygienic hairless, others feel it is unnatural for a guy to like a woman with no pubes due to the whole prepubescent thing.
Of cause, short of a bit of discomfort as the hair regrows it isnt a life long choice like say a tattoo is so if you shave and dont like it well you can just grow it back.
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (22 March 2008):
 ok as a guy.. certainly not a teenager but i'm hip and down wit it yo...
ahh yeah i can feel you all cringing over that.. lol
anyhow.
#1. a Teenage boy is probably unlikely to say " Ewww Grossss.. *vomit*"
the reason for this is because " hey i've passed 3rd base!!" or whatever stupid rating system you guys have.
he's most likely not going to care because he's getting some action.
#2. as a 25 year old. male i prefer women trimmed or shaven..why? because i dislike picking pubes out of my teeth. and i think women can agree about having a face full of fuzz.
personally its a matter of choice some women shave. some trim and some have hairy legs and a better beard than me.
but do youself a favor.
what " natasia" said "
"If he likes it completely shaved, get him to help you do it : )"
yeah if he's around your age he's pribably not too great at shaving so.. Trim... and go from there, shaving can be pretty uncomfertable if not done correctly.
just go a quick search of women shaving and you should fine some good info.
oh also its more hygenic shaven.
have your bf do it too, it'll make his tool look bigger.
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reader, asian tealeaf +, writes (22 March 2008):
 HI! first, try engaging in a conversation about sex, and stuff, and make a comment like, u know, i think its gross when girls dont shave their pubes, eh? see what he says, if he says yea, its gross, then u know whats his preference!nowadays its pretty common for girls, and most guys to shave down there, although some trim and some leave strips, etc. its all in what u like. i think, in my opinion, since ive been shaving since i was 16, not because i was sexually active, i was not! but, its soooo much cleaner and all, and, it leaves it more exposed so a guy can see the area, for health reasons and sexual reasons as well. it looks more appealing, and well, its just i feel cleaner down there. in the heat of the summer sweat and all catches in ur hairy pubic area trapping odours, mind u i wash very well every time i use the toilet, i use a bottle and wash my vaginal area inside and out, no its not like douching, it actually can promote infections, i just wash the area and between the lips as well, and, if u ever engaged in oral sex a guy certaqinly would not want to be flossing his pearlys down there.so all in all, honey, u do what u want. if he is grossed out, well, then tough. u might not like certain things about his genital areas, but communicationsd the key to avoid the embarrassment that is sure to follow. i recommend u shave, i use a very mild baby soap, or baby body wash, and i shave the anal and vaginal areas bald. after, use a baby lotion help soothe the area. i never gety irritation, i used to in the beginning, but niow its all good. so, i hope i helped u out!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): Everyone has their own preferences, some like the "au natural" of long hair others prefer it all gone.
If you go for the middle ground of well trimmed you can firstly easily do it yourself, avoid the soreness that totally bald brings and is unlikely to be a turn off irrespective of preference.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): If you're not comfortable and close enough with him to ask his preference, you shouldn't be letting him touch you there in the first place.
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reader, natasia +, writes (22 March 2008):
 I'm not a teenage guy but this is what I think:
- Long and au naturel - some guys don't like it, although I don't think a teenage boy would be too choosy
- Trimmed down - best option - shows you are taking care of it, but not to the extreme of shaving it all off
- Nothing there at all - they probably like this if it's available, but from your point of view, as you've discovered, it's really not that easy to achieve/maintain - you almost need to go to a professional
My advice:
Keep it smoothly trimmed down
When your relationship is closer/more open and you feel you can talk about it, sound out his views
If he likes it completely shaved, get him to help you do it : )
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