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writes:Okay, this is complex situation (for me at least) and I would be hugely appreciative of help from anyone who has experienced something simular or just thinks they can help. First of all, about three weeks ago, my friend was asked out by this girl a year older than him from the same school who we didn't know very well. Anyway he says yes and they became boyfriend and girlfriend. However, about one month before this happened, he was in a really weird way saying that he loved these random girls who he never asked out and they changed on almost a weekly basis.This new realtionship happens to coincide with a girl the same age as us who never really bothered with us starting to hang around with us and suddenly become all friendly etc. I think nothing of it. Later, i find out from her friend that she became friends with us because she wants to go out with my friend (who now has a girlfriend). When i ask her about this she admits it and is constantly asking me things about him such as do you think i have a chance with him or do think he likes me or does he prefer cinema or bowling etc.I tell my friend (the one who has a girlfriend) about this and he says that she actually likes me rather than him. Also, he finds out from some other random person that his girlfriend and this new girl (the one who is just started hanging around with us) that they have previously been friends but then fell out and now really don't like each other. This was confirmed at a later date.Now, the new girl (the one who started hanging around with us) is noticably paying more attention to me and not my friend (the one who has a girlfriend) and taking an interest in everything I do and trying to sit next to me in class etc. This is supporting my friend's view that she likes me rather than him.As for me, I used to really like some other completely different girl who said no when i asked her out. However, i have liked her less since then and have grown more fond of the new girl (the one who hangs round with us).People in the same year as us say that we (me and new girl) are like a couple and that we both like each fancy each other. we deny this constantly yet I am lying and i think she is too. So now I am completely confused as what to do. This whole situation has developed so quickly I feel like I am trapped in a love tornado. Seriously how can I find out about what i don't know, do i tell the new girl how i feel, do i do nothing? Please help as I need it desperately.
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reader, Yos  +, writes (21 March 2008):
 Wow. What a mess. My suggestion would be to spend some time playing playstation with your mates and not worry about girls for a bit. Once the storm has passed then see where things stand.
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reader, natasia +, writes (20 March 2008):
 Seems clear to me what you do:
- Forget about the girl who turned you down - she's out of the picture
- Forget about the new girl (the one hanging round - the one people think you're going out with) having liked your friend with the girlfriend - she doesn't like him now - she likes you
- Kiss her and see what happens! This isn't complicated - you like her, she likes you, and neither of you are attached to anyone else - seems simple to me. And you do know, in your heart of hearts, that she likes you - just follow your instincts. Maybe go for a walk with her, do something nice, pick a flower and give it to her ... I don't know ... some small, intense thing - make a moment with her, and you probably won't even have to tell her how much you like her - she'll know.
Good luck!
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