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writes:I just went through somewhat of a nasty break up with a girl who I exchanged the "I love you"s with. And now I feel hollow inside and used, because of the way she broke up with me and kept me close until she found a new boyfriend two weeks later. What I ask you is this: she gave me two paintings when we were together and they were cute (I am a professional artist and she was not) I loved them because she made them and now that she could just throw me away so fast I am stumped whether I should throw those away as well? So I am not just reminding myself that I got dumped and move on. Or I could paint over them or donate them to a thrift store as children art?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 March 2013):
 Put them away for 2 months, then take them out (set a reminder on your calendar) and revisit the decision. You don't have to make a decision on them today, do you? I expect your anger will have subsided by then and you'll be able to make a rational decision that bests suits your needs.
Good luck!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 March 2013):
 I'd paint over them for sure, canvas isn't cheap.
Since they were a gift there is no reason to return them to her. Unless you actually like them I would just reuse them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2013): I'd take a few good quality photos of them before you do anything. Just to have as mementos. That way if you regret getting rid of them at least you'll have the pics. OP you're an artist, if you think you get a small bit of cash for them then sell them. Otherwise I'd paint over them.
Make the painting over them a symbolic gesture. Paint over them with something that symbolizes an end, a release, a freedom from the burden of your relationship with her and erasing of her from your life. It could be quite therapeutic and who knows it could be the inspiration that leads you to paint some of the best things you've ever done.
I'd use them as much as possible as a tool for healing. Personally if it was a particularly harsh break up I'd take some pics of them and then slash them up with a knife and burn the pieces.
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reader, llifton +, writes (8 March 2013):
 if you're an artist, why not just paint over them like you said? that seems like a good idea! free canvas! lol.
either way, there's definitely no need to keep them for any reason. all it will do is remind you of her and who needs that? throw them away or paint over them has my vote!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2013): Everybody is different. From my past relationships, I've kept some things and not others. In my case, I've kept jewelry. Letters, valentine's cards, little souvenirs, even pictures, I usually get rid of all that. Well I mean, if you guys took a cool trip together or did something you'll never forget and have pictures of it, I would keep those. Or wrote a cool song together and recorded it...Something that you did with her that you feel is awesome independently of her. Those types are the souvenirs I keep. But in general, I've noticed that holding on to certain things really serves no purpose. It's best to just let it go.
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