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writes:My boyfriend recently went drinking with friends and came home with pictures of him dancing with girls (dirty dancing). And he claimed he brought them for me coz i did something which made him upset, though he couldnt disclose what. Yesterday i was moving with him in town then he was starring at a girl. Again we went to have lunch, next to us was a good looking girl and he kept making eye contact with her. They would look at each other in the eyes. I complained about it and he says am just being paranoid. Reply to this Question
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (6 March 2013):
 Oh brother. Why are you tolerating this attitude and behavior from him? It's like some sort of small child having a tantrum, thumbing his nose at you, saying "nyah nyah nyah nyahhhh nyah."
As YouWish pointed out, the deal breaker is his "punishing" you for an undisclosed slight by bringing home pictures that are designed to make you feel bad. Ridiculous.
Do yourself a massive favor and lose the loser.
Good luck.
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reader, llifton +, writes (6 March 2013):
 so your boyfriend went out dancing and took pics of himself all up against other women and showed you strictly to upset you and make you jealous because it was his way of getting back at you for something you did that he won't disclose? wow. that sounds healthy.
forget the starting at other women. this guy is a total jerk. hopefully you don't think that this is acceptable and normal behavior in a relationship. the staring is just the definite icing on the cake. this relationship doesn't sound too good, babe.
on a last note, have you done equal or similar things to him and he's tried to talk to you about it but you shoot him down or don't listen? the only thing i could maybe see is that he's tried communicating issues to you about jealousy and you've completely blown him off and he's decided the only way he can let you know how it feels is by SHOWING you. is this possible?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (6 March 2013):
 Sure you're being paranoid. And he'll tell you so, again, when you find that he's communicating with her on an Internet site.... and, again, when he makes arrangements to "just meet her"....and, again, when he comes home after he has had s-x with her....
We guys aren't particularly excited when you girls get "paranoid" about the things that you find that we are doing....
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reader, YouWish +, writes (6 March 2013):
 You have a much bigger issue than his staring at other women in front of you. That boils down to very bad manners and disrespect for you, but that's not the big problem here.
The big problem, and a complete RED FLAG is his bringing home pictures of his grinding against other women and telling you that it's because you made him upset. That's a dealbreaker, and you should leave him for it.
I guarantee that he'll use you as a justification for cheating on you if he hasn't already. He has no business grinding on other women, much less blaming you for his doing it. He'll never stop, you know. You can either kick him to the curb and find someone a lot more faithful and mature, or you can flush your life down the toilet by wasting time with a guy who will cheat on you over and over and over.
Which will it be? There is no "working it out" with this guy, and the sooner you come to that realization, the less time you will waste.
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