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writes:A few days ago I asked advice about my brother being too overprotective and bossy about me talking to his friend that he introduced me to because apparently he was flirting with me and I with him, when my only intentions where to be friends. Hes a cool guy im just NOT interested in him in that way at all, not only because he is my brothers best friend but because im just not attracted to him. Now things have got worse and I have no idea how to react to my brother Or his friend.I found out yesterday that his friend actually does like me- to this I was shocked as I was sure that all I was doing was being friendly and giving him no means to even wish that anything could happen between us. For instance whenever he talked to me on Facebook or somewhere He would always start the conversation I would always end it. Now my brother is very angry with me because he said that I have been flirting with him, and that it is partly my fault he said that ''if a girl is pretty and talking to me then that's encouragement enough, I would start thinking there's a possibility because shes interested enough to talk to me!'' Are guys really that naive?! I told my brother I would stop talking to his friend because I really don't want him to have to be upset with him and loose such a good friend over me, but im still really upset about the whole situation, the fact that the guy did actually like me when all I thought of him of as a friend and that my brother even has to go through all of this as its really my fault. I dont know what to say to either of them now- all I want to do is for things to go back to normal when I could just get along with everybody fine and there was no other attachments! As a result of his one friend I am now not allowed to talk to any of his other friends which is again really awkward and slightly sad as we all used to just get along so well and have great times together. What am I supposed to do to reassure my brother that NOTHING is ever going to happen between me and this boy and that Im so sorry that this happened and that I have no idea how this happened, every time I try and talk to him he gets angry and we have now just stopped talking to each other. Am I over thinking things? Thank you
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reader, llifton  +, writes (21 June 2013):
 that sucks that your brother is getting so pissed and snapping at you. i guess no one likes the idea of their closest friends dating their sister or brother. besides, that makes the dynamic in the house awkward if you two break up, ya know?
anyway, just cut contact with this guy. don't respond to him on facebook and go out of your way to avoid him when he comes over. eventually your brother will let it go. he'll see nothing is going to happen between you two.
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reader, xedep +, writes (20 June 2013):
xedep is verified as being by the original poster of the question Oh No I dont think you understand me, I DIDNT flirt with him, I never meant to and I DONT want to send him mixed messages, my brother said I did flirt with him but I really really REALLY wasent.
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