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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hi,I am confused over the actions of my date the other night. It was a first date and we went to a baseball game together, he initially seemed very sweet, smart, good conversationalist. We went to several bars after the game where we contined talking and had at least 4 more drinks (in addition to the 2 we had at the game)I was leaving at the end of the night and was going to catch a cab home when he suddenly grabs me and keeps kissing me, touching me and insisting I come to his place. I had no intentions of that and didn't say or do anything to lead him to believe that.I don't know if he was just drunk or if that was his intention anyway but I'm kind of turned off/not sure if I want to see him again. It took about 15 mins for him to let me leave after his pleading that I come to his place and grabbing me after I said I didn't want to.Not sure.. need some insight. Am I over reacting or is he just a creep?
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reader, llifton +, writes (18 June 2013):
 douche. bag.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (17 June 2013):
 What a creep. He's aggressive, selfish, and won't take no for an answer. What if you had gone back to his place and he wouldn't take no for an answer there?
You dodged a bullet with this guy.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (17 June 2013):
 He's a creep.... who gets his courage from a bottle of alcohol.... Don't bother seeing him again....
Good luck....
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (17 June 2013):
 You are not overreacting and he is a creep.
Maybe he thought all those drinks would do the trick for him, he has no respect for you, and only wanted to get you into bed for a quick roll in the hay.
Luckily it was only the first date and you haven't had time to let emotions get in the way of your dealings with this one date loser.
Move along, there is nothing for you there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2013): You're not overreacting as this guy simply is not for you. 15 minutes to get away from a guy who is all over you on the first date is not the date you imagined nor is it the type of guy you see yourself with I'd say because you now see what he's like with a few drinks in him, he becomes a sex pest.
You told him you didn't want to and he didn't respect that.
Don't bother seeing him again OP, as far as first dates go he acted miserably and showed his true colours and intentions.
OP it's dating, it was onyl the first date too. The most important date, the one where he should be doing everything in his power to impress you and get a second date. Says a lot about what he wanted as to how the night ended up. Plus do you really want to be with a guy that sexual and pushy when drunk?
I had a first date with a woman years ago who turned into a pretty nasty bitch after a few drinks, called me a fucking asshole "like all men", you know the type. I gave her another chance because well people have off days, or so I thought. But she was just a nasty drunk in general. I should have stuck to my guns and seen the warning signs.
It's the first date, it's the time you show the best of you and how you act is how you intend to conduct yourself in the future. I think you're right here OP, it sounds like this was his plan all along, get you oiled up with some alcohol and get you home for some nookie.
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