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41-50,
anonymous
writes:Hi just a quick question.Is it possible to have an emotional relationship with a member of the same sex?I am a straight female but lately I have been rather close to a woman who is older than me. She has become a sort of friend, she confides in me about life and love and whatever. The problem is, while I see her as a friend I am not sure if she is seeing me in a completely different way.For a while now, she has been touching me, not intimately, just a stroke on the back here, a touch on the arm, a caress on the hand and it has reached the point where I start to wonder just what she is after in this friendship.I have always been an empathic person, I am a people watcher and I see sometimes what is going to happen to people, regarding love lives and such like but I keep thinking I have been blind to her, because she is so close to me, rather than in the background.One of my friends, says she has seen this lady light up at the very mention of my name, and said the expression on her face was rather telling. I have been pondering what the look was ever since, though I can guess it must have been one of fondness.I know she sees me as an emotional crutch for things that are going on in her life and I try to be there for her as much as possible.But now, I have started to think she could have a bit of a crush on me and while I think the world of her and would defend her whatever, I think if her feelings for me have grown, while mine are empathetic rather than of love, then I will have to keep my distance.But is this possible. She has two people outside of me, that she can confide in, yet she only ever touches me and sometimes when her eye catches mine, I see the sparkle there. I am not blind to that.I don't know what to do for the best. Is it an emotional relationship and can I stop her relying on me as much as she does without completely putting her out of my life.Thanks
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reader, llifton  +, writes (18 June 2013):
 of course it's possible to have an emotional relationship with a member of the opposite sex. i have one right now with my girlfriend lol.
as for your question, i would say it does sound like she likes you. but i wouldn't put much more thought into it than you ever did with any men who ever have had a crush on you where you didn't return the feelings. i would just distance myself a little bit. the beautiful thing about women is unlike men, they pick up on subtle hints, so it should be easy to give her the impression your not interested without having to be so blunt. just kinda slowly stop spending as much time with her and don't text/talk so frequently. she will get the hint.
good luck.
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